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Communication Skills How To Improve Communication Skills 7 Unique Tips!

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12 Ways To Improve Social Skills And Make You Sociable Anytime 1. Behave Like a Social Person. You can behave like a more social creature, even if you don’t feel like it. Don’t allow 2. Start Small if Necessary.

If going to a party or spending time in a crowd seems overwhelming, start small. Go. How To Improve Your Social Skills (And Be Less Awkward Around People You Like) 1. Talk to people online.. The easiest way to meet people and get some semblance of discussion is to go online and chat 2. Talk to strangers.. I know this.

These top tips will help you improve your interpersonal skills and become more confident and assertive in the workplace. 1. Show Interest in Others This is such a simple social rule, but one many people forget. If you want to improve your skills in the three key areas of communication including nonverbal communication, conversation skills, and assertiveness, but you aren’t sure what to actually do about it, then Improve Your Social Skills Learn How to Be Yourself and Talk to. In Improve Your Social Skills, author Daniel Wendler breaks down each component of social interaction in a way that is friendly, understandable, and practical. While many guides meticulously go through each and every body signal a person may project, this guide simply breaks down body language into two categories “open” and “closed.”.

If you find it impossible to improve your social skills on your own, consider getting professional help. Painfully shy individuals, those who have been alone for a long time and people with mental health disorders such as those on the autism spectrum might need the help of a trained therapist to help develop appropriate social skills. You Can Improve Your Social Skills.

Social skills are like any other skill. If you study and practice, you’ll get better. You don’t need to be born with natural charisma, and it’s never too late to learn. That’s why I wrote Improve Your Social Skills.

Foundations was written to help you make a thoughtful beginning to your social skills journey. You’ll learn how to think through your goals, overcome roadblocks, and make a. Effective Communication – Improving your Social Skills. Building good relationships with other people can greatly reduce stress and anxiety in your life. In fact, improving your social support is linked to better mental health in general, since having good friends can act as a “buffer” for feelings of anxiety and low mood.

How to improve social skills The first step toward improving your social skills is to engage yourself with others. Find ways to further conversations with friends, family and close co-workers or practice your conversation skills by asking open-ended questions.

List of related literature:

While there are many books about how to improve your social skills, I can’t recommend any because they’re almost invariably focused on low-level tactics such as how to initiate a conversation, what kinds of questions to ask, and how to mirror the other person’s body language.

“Personal Development for Smart People” by Steve Pavlina
from Personal Development for Smart People
by Steve Pavlina
Hay House, 2008

This book provides instructions on how to conduct social skills groups and includes the steps of 60 specific social skills.

“The Complete Family Guide to Schizophrenia: Helping Your Loved One Get the Most Out of Life” by Kim T. Mueser, Susan Gingerich
from The Complete Family Guide to Schizophrenia: Helping Your Loved One Get the Most Out of Life
by Kim T. Mueser, Susan Gingerich
Guilford Publications, 2006

Research and practice in social skills

“Social Phobia: Diagnosis, Assessment, and Treatment” by Richard G. Heimberg
from Social Phobia: Diagnosis, Assessment, and Treatment
by Richard G. Heimberg
Guilford Publications, 1995

Improve social skills

“Therapist's Guide to Clinical Intervention: The 1-2-3's of Treatment Planning” by Sharon L. Johnson
from Therapist’s Guide to Clinical Intervention: The 1-2-3’s of Treatment Planning
by Sharon L. Johnson
Elsevier Science, 2003

Develop social skills and relationship skills, and recognize the difference between them.

“Connection Culture: The Competitive Advantage of Shared Identity, Empathy, and Understanding at Work” by Michael Lee Stallard
from Connection Culture: The Competitive Advantage of Shared Identity, Empathy, and Understanding at Work
by Michael Lee Stallard
American Society for Training & Development, 2015

Learning and developing good social skills helps lots.

“Been There. Done That. Try This!: An Aspie's Guide to Life on Earth” by Debbie Denenburg, Paul Isaacs, Henny Kupferstein, Ruth Elaine Joyner Hane, Karen Krejcha, Temple Grandin, Stephen M. Shore, Richard Stirling Maguire, Larry Moody, Lisa Morgan, Liane Holliday Willey, Qazi Fazli Azeem, Garry Burge, John Makin, Yenn Purkis, Mary Robison, Steve Selpal, Charlene Devnet, Lars Perner, Patrick V. Suglia, Alexis Wineman, Craig Evans, Anita Lesko, Mitchell Christian, Bob Castleman, Tony Attwood, James Buzon
from Been There. Done That. Try This!: An Aspie’s Guide to Life on Earth
by Debbie Denenburg, Paul Isaacs, et. al.
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2014

Help improving your social skills

“Pretending to be Normal: Living with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) Expanded Edition” by Liane Holliday Willey, Tony Attwood
from Pretending to be Normal: Living with Asperger’s Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) Expanded Edition
by Liane Holliday Willey, Tony Attwood
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2014

The third step is to start working on specific behaviors, such as improving your listening, introducing yourself to others, finding areas of common interest, reading nonverbal cues, and ending conversations in a way that encourages more contact in the future.

“Emotional Intelligence in Action: Training and Coaching Activities for Leaders, Managers, and Teams” by Marcia Hughes, James Bradford Terrell
from Emotional Intelligence in Action: Training and Coaching Activities for Leaders, Managers, and Teams
by Marcia Hughes, James Bradford Terrell
Wiley, 2011

Practice social skills such as approaching people and engaging them in conversation while sober so you won’t need alcohol to feel comfortable in social settings.

“Essential Concepts for Healthy Living” by Sandra Alters, Wendy Schiff
from Essential Concepts for Healthy Living
by Sandra Alters, Wendy Schiff
Jones and Bartlett Publishers, 2005

Develop basic conversation skills.

“Adolescent Psychotherapy Homework Planner” by Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr., L. Mark Peterson, William P. McInnis
from Adolescent Psychotherapy Homework Planner
by Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr., L. Mark Peterson, William P. McInnis
Wiley, 2011

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  • you are strong and capable and amazing and if you are feeling ashamed, alone or unworthy know you are better then you could ever imagine and know not to regret things and don’t live your life ashamed but embrace the present and the world around you. You are amazing and you’re not weaker then any battle in life. You are cared for. You are beyond the stars. You are loved,, by me. You’ll make it out. Remember that. You’ll make it. Don’t quit. Come talk to me if you need to. <3 life throws us bullshit but we are stronger then that bullshit. don't let the twisted cruel people win. don't. you're going to win by making it out. yes,u,will..!!! You're worth it!!

  • I’m one of the most abrupt people you will come into contact with. Wish I had the social skills to elaborate. We’ll see how things work out, because I have mental illnesses this disrupts the thought process and makes it hard to have a conversation. Hope to learn to one day overcome this.

  • i just wanna say i’ve been doing this all my life but people are abusive once they see you this way.. ive been seen as weak & unappreciated by most so this kinda contradicts for me

  • went to the mall today. made eye contact with a cute female we crossed paths she smiled. so as i was leaving i did you’re ” hey you got a great smile i wanted to say hello. what’s your name? after she answered i did the ” i got to run but i would like to talk sometime what’s your number. she thought for a second BUT was smiling. and said she’s flattered but she’s not single. i felt more confident this time though and i wasn’t even tripping she said no. but as you say she made it easier somehow i felt more welcomed because of her smile.

  • Being burnt so many times in social situations, I shut off being social at all. This content is exactly what I need since I’m open to re-socializing & doing so without needing others approval. Thanks Corey!

  • This is great and all, but where do you go to do these things and meet new people? For the past several years the church was my main and pretty much only social setting I was ever in. Now that I’m transitioning out of Christianity I don’t know where to actually go in order to form new connections. I can only think of bars, clubs, work, and things like that but the first two always seemed pretty trashy to me and everyone I work with is always busy with other stuff in their own lives. We’ve all tried many times to get a group of people together and it never pans out.

    I just don’t know what to do. I crave and basically need platonic, romantic, emotional, and sexual connection almost constantly. But I haven’t had any (or at least a very small amount) of any of that for the past two years. I feel lost, alone, confused, and like it’s my fault. Like maybe this is what I get for “not staying on God’s path” or something. I don’t know I’m just a mess.

  • OMGGGG I wish you can select me but I now saw the year this video was posted! ughhh lol:( but my weakness in social skills is I don’t know what to talk about at times, I’m very good at talking about stuff but to get ideas and topics is really hard, I does end up staying quite and yeah it isn’t working out. This video really helped me though! Thank you so much:)

  • Even though I’m an introvert, I usually get out of my comfort zone with strangers… the problem is that after a while it is likely that I start to feel alone, even though I’m with people

  • virtually every social media kid needs this. i swear developing social skills is simply nonexistent in primary education. I’m 28 now, but my social skills were pretty poor 5-10 years ago. Spending too much time on the internet and HOW I was using my time on the internet compounded that

    Social skills take practice. You wont get it immediately it, but you have to keep an open mind. Its trial and error.

  • FORD method conversion with me:
    Huh? My father abused all of his kids. My job suck. I watch an empty wall 2 hours a day. In my dream I’m dead. Just like my soul IRL.

  • I have really bad social skills I have no friends most of my friends are online when I talk to people I get really shakey and nervous I just feel extremely uncomfortable when I talk to people
    I’ve been in school since August I still haven’t made a friend which was 8 months ago I have really bad anxiety when I have a presentation or get called on in class sometimes I freeze
    I tapped a girls shoulder once in my class I said hi but she looked really uncomfortable and awkward when she turned around so I tried but I didn’t do anything wrong so that’s one of the reasons why it’s really hard for me

  • What about for those who say something inappropriate and come off as rude but meant to be polite (people like me who have autism).

  • Nice work, for some Introverts with tendencies that would make them interested in becoming more of an Extravert than I am. You show few signs of understanding the spirituality of many of the blends of personality in an introvert.

  • What is the best way to increase my IQ of 22 points? I read loads of superb reviews on the internet about how Rotogenflux Methods can help you improve your IQ in a short period of time. Has anybody tried using this intelligence boost system?

  • I just got off the mall. What I do is approach the single women that are on their way to their cars as soon as they exit the mall door. you’re one on one. I do clubs so a mall is a walk in the park to me at least. 

  • Guys, here is the deal. I’ve packaged plenty of excercises for confidence and communication skills into a mobile app reality-game. I was wondering if you want to take it for a spin. Let me know in the comments below.

  • Welp here’s a little story.
    I was playing roblox (meep city) a week ago and this girl text me and said join me! I joined…. Soon as i came she said she was lonely… My mind was like ” why would u put me in an uncomfortable situation”
    I said ofc your going to be lonely your in a server all by yourself lol.
    She left me! ALSO UNFRIENDED ME��.
    I regret going to that server everyday.
    Stop playing roblox for a week!
    And that event keeps playing in my head all over again.
    Maybe I’m a little dramatic..
    But no i just overthink soooo much.

  • I don’t think I could afford how good his advice is. This man is brilliant! Taught me more about being centered and a mountain then I could even fathom. His advice is priceless.

  • Eye contact is my forte, there’s no better feeling than holding eye contract with a pretty girl who you don’t know and getting a smile.

  • Group chats always destroy me. When it’s only me and someone. I’m super talkative. Ideas flow easily. I’m more natural and less stressed. I feel like the real me is out until another person enter the conversation �� I transform to someone else super shy and quiet.

    This even happen when i talk to two person that i talk to individually easily but together it’s impossible

    I feel like I’m stuck at 99% to become a social person; the 1% seem simple but it’s never coming

    Any tips? ��

  • I am the weirdo that does not know what to do when meeting people for the first time. I tend to laugh too much or do too many facial expressions and ask too many questions, kind of too interested. I also tend to keep the same tone of voice which makes people stop paying attention quite quickly. Sometimes the voice is very high pitched and what I am saying ends nowhere and I just laugh weirdly and there is an awkward moment of silence. I want to talk about ideas and I tend to judge that no one is interested in that level of conversation because they will get bored. I know my confidence is very low so I feel my body language just says I want to leave that place (that’s because it is exactly how I feel) when I meet a person (or even worse a group of people) for the first time.

  • If you don’t explain how you’re aware of who I am, we are not going to be friends. Let’s build some trust. Starting with you. Are you aware of my existence prior to meeting you?

  • I have started talking to the store clerks, especially women. Asking what hobbies they do. Over the gym also getting along with the instructors and telling them, “I like their training etc…” Being smiley in general and I feel far more comfortable just talking to people in general.

    I broke up with my ex like 1 month ago, so it has been hard but very rewarding. I noticed now I used my ex has an excuse to not talk to other women. Also started going to yoga classes, which typically are just women. Just being present around them, you naturally become more comfortable and eventually start talking to them. Just a few ideas, might help some guys out there in a similar situation.

    Now I will start approaching some women in the street.

  • Thanks for your awesome videos improvement pill, I realy appreciate your hard work, you helped lots of people with your videos, wish you the best.

  • Thank you for the video,Personally I find myself focussing too much on myself and my fear most of the time, which in turn makes me pussy out and not approach people I see that I could make friends with. It is something I am currently working on, but still have trouble with, This video helped me realize that I am too much in my head and focussed on myself rather than being focussed on how I could build a great friendship with someone I dont yet know, or at the worst case get experience socializing

  • What exactly is Rotogenflux Methods? How does this thing really work? I see a lot of people keep on speaking about this intelligence boost system.

  • Yes it happens with me all time when I forced to interact even stand in the middle of few people.
    I really don’t want have no idea how I become socialist

  • After 4th grade my friends left me cuz im not like them. My family always say that I will live a bad life if i dont socialize and get friends but they dont even understand how trash i am in social skills.

  • I’ve been reading the book, and going to the mall on my days off. I really really suck at this and I’m a talented and good looking person. Really depressing.

  • Thank you Corey,  going at your own pace is a very good point.  You cant go from 0 to 60 overnight.  I recently started getting use to looking people in the eyes, looking more approachable and saying hi.  It was hard at first but now I am more relaxed doing it.  The response I get differs too but mostly positive.  Women are not that closed off as I thought they were. 

  • I feel like others don’t care therefore I try and end conversations and move on. Also I sometimes don’t care and don’t want to talk. Which is weird because I use to be very socialable. But now it’s like a burden and I feel as if I’m a burden to others when in conversation especially when I’m talking about myself. Therefore I’ll keep things short and to the point and it seems awkward a lot especially with ending the conversation

  • I use to be that popular cool funny kid in highschool that everyone knew after school I got a job but then later on got fired because of how much I was of a fool. Everything was falling apart for me and then suddenly depression hit me for about 8 months but now I can say im feeling better but now my social skills is terrible and ive been very quiet at my new job. It sucks just listening to everyones conversation and not letting out the things i wanna say in my head ��

  • I have a long way to go when it comes to improving my social skills but I find smiling helps a lot. Also when I am nervous I squeeze one of my fingers or hold onto something tightly… helps to distract from the nervous feeling. I will keep trying to be better with social communication. Thank you for your video. It was helpful.

  • My weakness comprises a lot of things. I am an international student, my accent does not give me a lot of confidence. Also, sometimes I’m engaged in a conversation with people and i don’t actually know what to chip in sometimes they’re talking about things I can’t relate to because we didn’t grow up in similar environments or they just aren’t things I like. For example, I was in a conversation and suddenly they started talking about movies and growing up I didn’t get to watch that much movies etc… Also, i noticed some people here laugh at every single thing during a conversation and I’m just like “how’s that a joke” or whatever, it leaves me feeling like I have a trashy sense of humor.

  • Thank you for appreciating the police. I don’t know any of them; although, I like them. They are always awesome to me. I think “if everybody was the way I and the police are, everybody would love their lives a lot more.”

  • Get your free E-book about emotional intelligence, here you can have some good tips about how to be a successful person.

  • Do natural intelligence boost system like Rotogenflux Methods really work and if so, how effective are they? We’ve noticed many amazing things about this iq course.

  • The only thing I am missing is the interrupt the stranger I mean I’m very good in social skills and self esteem I love myself lol however I can’t just go to people lol

  • I speak to fast with too much energy, go straight to the point and talk too much about myself.
    Please help!
    My endearing quality is vulnerability/honesty.

  • Hey everyone! Fight Mediocrity seems to have quit doing these videos, so I’m doing a similar thing with different books to fill the demand. Thanks!

  • For 3 years (so far) I lived ALONE! at first I was shy as well (along with a lot of things i improved on!), but I can guarantee you that with practice you can LITERALLY approach anyone you want, trust me! (Whenever you’re shy, keep in mind it’s all mind games that can be easily replaced with good thoughts!).

  • I sometimes worry so much about what people are thinking about what I’m saying/how they are perceiving me, that I lose concentration of what I’m actually saying

  • I have struggle with social anxiety for a long time and I am tired of just complaining, I need to learn how to get better at this. I feel strongly awkward and self conscious because what I most feel like is I dont have enoguh tools at hand to handle a social situation, especially when I am trying to mingle at a social event, I dont know what to say after I first approach someone and I feel my body language makes others unconfortable so they tend to get away from me.

  • Video is good and has been summarized well so that one can understand easily and it is providing enough information which i think is the best part.

  • I so agree with 1st tip, if you start approaching strangers, it will change your life, I approach girls daily now its easy for me to make friends, to get dates, to be more social, I have a video I shared my thoughts about it too in my channel

  • I believe in giving complements to people that do something that really sticks out in my mind.  I love your videos.  There very catchy.  I think your voice when your narrating them along with your drawings, go along together very well.  Keep up the good work my friend

  • Guys. improve your intelligence doesn’t need to be hard (I used to feel it did). I’m going to give you some advice right now. Get a popular intelligence boost system called Rotogenflux Methods (look on google search engine). Thanks to it I’ve improve your IQ in a short period of time. I should not even be speaking about it cause I do not really want a lot of other guys out there running exactly the same game but whatever. I’m just simply in a great mood today and so I will share the wealth lol.

  • Having good social skills has nothing to do with being an introvert!!

    As an introvert with good social skills, I’d say good social skills has to do with being able to percieve what people want and feel in different situations (this will help you act accordingly), and emotional intelligence (admit when you are wrong, being open to people’s perspectives, etc).

    I used to have social anxiety. I became good at social interactions when I let go of my fear of looking weird. I don’t force myself to talk if I don’t want to. It’s better not to say anything than to be awkward. While you stay silent, it gives you time to think and listen, and you’ll have something to say. Sometimes there are just people we don’t match with.

  • I read the book years ago sadly I’m not sure if any of it has stuck with me (I still struggle with people and have gone back toward isolating myself) maybe I should give it another try?

  • i basically stop living after depression by not acting man. i was confused why i m still not happy. i quit my job i cant wait to buy your book and tip you and personal session. soon my divorce will be over.

  • Noooo my only problem is my mind is blank I have nothing to say most of the time even if I really want to talk just to not confuse or disappoint them… So I can attract them etc…

  • Thank you for this video, i’m very socially anxious and awkward, with really low self esteem. Its hard for me to talk to strangers

  • Have you heard of Cutco? It’s a company that works closely with colleges and universities. It helps students develop social skills and helps them practice initiative. I worked for a short amount of time and the experience has really helped a lot!

  • These are great tips, but my problem is that i cannot be open to speak about myself with everyone i meet. Usually I don’t like to reveal my personality and my life, and in the few occasions i do it, i can regret it later. Beside, sometimes i feel that speaking can be very tiring, and that i m not ready for such an effort. Sometimes i can be talkative, but it depends on the situation, my mood, and the person who i m talking with. It always feel horrible to reach a dead end in a conversation, when it happens i feel even more blocked. Does anyone had the same problem and manage to exceed it?

  • I dont know how to get the self esteem u are talking about and I’ve tried to overcome my fears but u just cant idk how to anymore, im really sensitive and have a fear of being judged so i try my best to do anything to avoid that, i cant seem to love myself do something for my own good not others. Help me:(

  • If someone or many someones are hell bent on trying to kill you based on your opinions or lifestyle, you should take steps to help yourself not get killed. And spend a little bit less time or energy concerned with being liked or how to make friends. You can spend more time focused on fitting in after you’re not dead. Priorities.

  • What is the best way to improve my IQ in a short period of time? I read plenty of good opinions on the net about how exactly Rotogenflux Methods can assist you increase your IQ score over 17 points. Has any one tried this iq course?

  • people keep on complaining about how un-intrested and ‘rude’ i am.
    i often respond with “okay” “mhm” “yeah” “oh” to everything..
    but how does that make me rude? i don’t get it, its not my fault if i’m not intrested or enjoy socializing.
    and i’m not going to pretend i enjoy socializing just to make people happy.
    Because then they would be complaining about how i’m a liar. And keeping it a secret would just be even ruder, and i would make myself feel guilty.
    what am i supposed to do?

  • it is much easier for him.
    cuz he looks like a model in the most expensive agency ; [
    with perfect skin and head full of hair.
    it does 70% of the job for him as social being.
    and boosts his self confidence to heaven.

    for most of us it is much harder to become social.
    cuz when you look bad, people don’t notice you.
    he may get a job just for being handsome.

    but why i’m complaining i’m just like him. same story XD
    i’ve already done all the things he said in this video before watching it,
    it’s like we have the same mindset.

  • Thank you. This was the kind of help I have been seeking for a while now. Although it hasn’t changed me completely as a person, it has helped me progress in my journey.

  • I find people these days akward and weird.They make simple things like a chat or hanging out very hard.I believe social media destroyed this new generation.They think that if you talk with a dude is like giving an interview for a job its like you try to impress the other fella, when in reality you wont have to impress nobody,you dont owe nothing to anybody.This generation of people is extra extra retarded.Everybody these days want to find mr and ms perfect and in the end they end up lonely looking at their instagram liking photos.People judge you from social media these days thats why everybody is lonely or have fake friends.This is the sickest generation ever created i want out of this, i will join a tribe in africa.

  • The more your brain does something the better it gets at it but like a muscle it can’t do more than it can take so just start with greeting people and small talk.

  • What if I don’t have a problem talking to new people i talk to them when they talk to me first but I have trouble talking to them most of the time. I had a friend that I talked to alot but then we started dating and when I was around her I froze up most of the time any advice?

  • I am a person who can’t express my own emotions,like for example I am talking to a girl,when she cracks a good joke I won’t laugh heartfully

  • 1) deserving factor
    -Why do you deserve things or friends?
    -if you do then work on it ( be welcoming but not naive, be kind not weak, have hobbies
    2) Inverse goal
    a) find a goal
    b)inverse that goal ( you have to do opposite of inverse goal to reach your goal )
    3) Ford method
    If you stuck in the conversation then start with these
    Dreams (last resort )

  • Kudos for the video content! Forgive me for butting in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard the talk about Mahorrla Increasing Confidence Method (just google it)? It is an awesome exclusive guide for dealing with} Self Confidence without the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my work buddy finally got excellent results with it.

  • I think i m little bit different i m not introvert but when it comes to girls i m highly introvert but when its boys i m extrovert. Some one please help me with this problem asap i m waiting for the reply

  • Question/ story statement
    Sir the question is through the point and story statement is lengthy description.
    So r there times when we must go for question strategy then to go for story statement?

  • When I was younger I used to be able to talk to people without overthinking every little thing. The majority of the friends I have now I gained when I was younger and more sociable. Now, I’ve retreated more into my shell and I don’t talk as much as I’d like to. This is why I want to get a job when I’m 14-16 so I can develop those social skills that faded away as I grew.

  • Engaging in social groups is difficult when you’re that person who doesn’t know how to carry out a conversation starter. Me being that person, I spend alot of time in my headspace whenever it comes a person wanting to talk to me I freeze, my heart beats fastly, and sometimes when I want to say something I struggle getting the right words out.

  • Hey, just curious as to where you initially learned these Tips and skills thanks. Great video and very informative. I got a lot of value of out it. Would love to learn more.

  • I got into an eye contact stand-off once because the woman wouldn’t look away first. I wasn’t pursuing her romantically, but I was trying to practice because she would always look for a long time to make me look away I noticed. Anyway, it would go on for far too long. I think it would last for a few minutes and I couldn’t even blink enough.

  • Hey mate. My biggest issue with social skills is, having to listen to someone ramble on and on and on while i waste a lot of energy with fake expresions.. eg. Smiling, raising the eyebrows.. its a lot of wasted effort for me to listen to someone that im just not intrested in. How do i respectfuly let the other person know, that im just not intrested and wanting to leave the conversation asap..
    Cheers stefan from new zealand

  • I’ve got better at all those methods thanks to pickup.:D And found out that actually I can be pretty much extraverted, as I was at my school times. It’s just really the way of life (I’m a programmer), that makes us introor extraverts. But even without dramatical change in our life, we can become more sociable and believe me, happier as a result!

  • Giving great first impressions, but forgetting my social cues after that, awkward comments or critics out of the blue, I come off as a bully unintended and I get all confuse with my two languages and cultures.

  • Im anxious talking to people after a botched hair transplant, and as a black man, your hairline is EVERYTHING! But truth be told, I had anxious feelings in social settings since middle school. As much as they are excuses, I was born in a foreign country and grew up here in America after age 7 and so my mother severely sheltered us to “keep us safe.” And in my culture, the children generally do not challenge the parental authority. Thus, I didn’t have a lot of the socializing as a kid, that my peers did and so I developed an INTENSE ability to be by myself. This helped with my creative and visionary drive, but now when I attempt to sell or put my team together, I’m struggling with the people part. I know I need a team, but socializing, networking, small talk, is like that scene in Slumdog Millionaire for me, where he has to wade through the shit, just to keep that golden ticket that might change his life. I don’t like it, it doesn’t smell, or feel good, its mad awkward, but its also NECESSARY for my full self actualization. #iwillteachyoutoberich #ramitsethi

  • I have a lot of friends. I just came across this video to see. And realized unknowingly I had been using third rule everytime, and it works in starting conversation. I start with O and then R, rarely did F in the FORD rule.

  • Many people thinks they are introverts but they are simply shy. Introverts usually dont find it difficult to go talk with someone but they just dont like it

  • I hope a strong man who is a leader does this but for gays �� its always hard for me to flirt in a straight world but anyway hope this gets a lot of dudes dates ��

  • I have a block to this. I”m brilliant in convo with new people… these days… I used to suck though! But, these days I’m confident outgoing and can easily connect with someone and get to know them. the issue I have is making opening convo with women if we’re not in a setting that legitimizes it in my mind / gives me a reason or justification and I absolutely know this is totally psychologically induced crap that is standing in the way of me meeting someone.

    For example, if a new girl appears at work in the hang-out area, I have absolutely no issues talking to her; if a girl is next to me on public transport… I find that very, very hard. I’m not sure why that is… maybe I feel.. hmmm….. no actually I’m not sure why:) Can’t think of logical reason… perhaps, I feel that the common background of being part of the same company somehow legitimizes me, but being a random, I find it harder. Its a strange thing.

    Considering its not often new women appear in the same company, if i could relax with random strangers with no connection to common places somewhere like public transport, then I’d be free to seriously expand my chances! Tones of people pass through there, you’re on them for quite a’while and its only a matter of time before you get chatting to a women that has the high level of attraction, and is single… On the other hand, as i found out recently, work place breakups suck more than anything, because you’ll have to see your ex whilst you’re healing… not good! So meeting women in random places is great concept! Also online dating sucks!

    What I’ve learnt, and as covered by Corey too… you ask questions. For example, I was talking to one girl at work just today… I zeroed in on her rather strange, yet interesting netted top….. turned out she knitted it herself.. so we started talking about knitting, see I plucked a major emotional topic (she invested her own time to make it) and made a good connection. Throw in some humour… pretty soon she’s loving the convocation, she’s laughing…. she’s talking about her family… etc. Am I interested in knitting… No, but I am interested in her interaction with me…. I know she has a bf, so not zeroing in on her… but just practicing my skills and making her and my time a bit more interesting / fun…. Now, what I used to do was talk about myself, and try to sell myself or to try to make them laugh by trying to tell an unrelated funny story… that used to fail, nearly every time. What happens is they’re not really interested, as they have no emotional connection to those things… so they pretend to be interested, and you lose their interest. You’ll never be interesting, rich or funny enough unless you manage to push their buttons by asking questions and gauging their emotional responses. It becomes natural eventually. Or one thing I focused on last time was her tights… a slightly more intimate item…. and this got a good reaction… and eventually she rightly brought up her boyfriend.

  • We as introverts are not well understood. We are neither shy nor have social anxiety. Infact you can say we are more courageous and confident than most extroverts. Back in high school I remember talking in front of the whole school without an issue or thinking much of it. We are not afraid of socializing…..the thing is, we just don’t feel like it. Socializing takes a toll on us,,, just like manual labor, after some time we need to retreat to our cacoon to recharge. IM AN INTROVERT AND PROUD OF IT AND CAN’T WISH FOR ANYTHING MORE.

  • Hi Ramit,
    First of all thank you for this opportunity that I can tell my social skill challenege.
    I am an extrovert and implements all that you tell.
    But I face some challenges. Even after listening to people carefully i tent to ask people that that’s what they really mean??. if I dont understand them even after listening them carefully. Some people are really hard to repeat that and show disinterest from that point I lose my track of confidence. I lose hopes on that person. Negativity fill me and i am now low of confidence. How can I work on this… if I want to engage people even after their disinterest in me?

  • I like the way you speak in these past 3-4 years videos than those in the present. Current videos are seem too fast to me. Old videos should be brighter as you do now but current videos should be a bit slower.

  • Computer programming is all about interacting with other people. That’s why I don’t work in the field, despite learning programming in school

  • I appreciate these videos. Not only are they like a short video version of the book. but its amazingly brilliant. Thank you for taking the time to do what you do. I can use these videos to determine books that i was thinking about reading to actually reading them. I am grateful for your endless contribution to the universe. I use these videos as a part of my therapeutic group for kids at work, it helps them get the treatment they need to fight depression and suicidal thoughts.Thank you again

  • Really love these sharing. Really concise and help me get the points. I hav spent the whole day finished watching the current episodes. Thanks and pls keep sharing more big ideas from great minds. Lol

  • Dude, you have an amazing youtube channel! thank you very much for sharing all of this. I’m really enjoying watching all of your videos!

  • Woah i thinks it will work, I love your voice. It keep getting better and better. Can you give some tips about how you adjust your voice?

  • I just stated watching your vids. Your fucking awesome bro and literally answer all of my questions. Your remind me of Elliot hulse.

  • I read a lot of people keep on talking about Rotogenflux Methods. But I’m not sure if it is good. Have you ever try this iq boost secrets?

  • I’m not lack of the courage to socialize with people,just sometimes I don’t know how to response except for smiling awkwardly in a small talk

  • My family moves a lot and I don’t know if that effected how I am an introvert today cus I have to meet a new set of people every 4 years.

  • Stupendo… Grazie mille.
    Cmq é veramente difficile ricordarsi il nome di qualcuno appena si presenta. Colpa del multitasking, il nostro cervello non é pronto per concentrarsi sul nome quando analizziamo una persona appena conosciuta.

  • They say that as a guy when you talk to women you like that you should focus your attention on THEM and ask questions about THEM and be a good listener and not talk about yourself: I do this but it still doesn’t seem to work and it’s exhausting ��

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  • I am in my Junior year of high school. When I was younger I was open to a lot of criticism and I let it affect me too much. It really hurt my social skills and I struggle to start or continue conversations, and what’s worse is that I’m hard on myself about it.

  • What is the best way to increase my IQ of 22 points? I read lots of superb opinions on the net about how Rotogenflux Methods can help you increase your IQ of 20 points. Has anybody tested out this iq boost secrets?

  • Hi I love your animations & also they way you can condense so much information in your clips. Thank you. What software do you use to make your animations?

  • I’ve never “hit it off” with anyone. I can start a conversation with someone but when it’s going well, I get really self conscious and start overthinking like what if I say something stupid and kill the I just freeze and the conversation ends up dying anyways

  • Anybody know what is Rotogenflux Methods about? I hear many individuals their IQ score increased over 15 points with this intelligence boost system.

  • As a no talker and a person who doesnt like to talk to people, antisocial. For work, you have to meet people and pretending to be happy. Being in your 20+ years of life is purgatory

  • The thing is I used to have pretty good social skills when I was younger and would be able to talk to people without any problem. The thing is, I rejected to much of any opportunity and interaction with people which is what made me have the problems I have with social interaction today. I can talk confidently without any problem with certain people but if it’s with someone outside the comfort zone I usually turn into a studdering mess and my brain get’s consumed by the anxiety.

  • Some people just naturally have that social charm. Some dont like me. Growing up was rough and I was socially awkward and I would do stupid things to get attention and made an ass of myself which made people target me even worse. It left some trauma and made me deem myself as low value which lead into my adult life. I became a people pleaser and had a hard time appearing to be the cool guy who people respected and looked up to. I’d say for people who suffer from this is to work on yourself and engage time in activities and skills that build character and is respectable so even though people see you as socially impaired they will see that you can do cool and exceptional things that most people cant and that alone will garner you respect and admiration. Don’t brag, just let the skills do the talking

  • Great video, lots of great information. However, I cannot say I completely agree with using statements a whole lot more then questions. The book How to Win Friends and Influence People promotes asking questions to other people and so does the book How to Talk to Anyone. Asking a question lets you know more about the other person and you can use it to tell them more about yourself by answering your own question.

  • Great advice! I totally agree with the self-esteem part. Sometimes people may not even know that deep down they may dislike themselves and feel less worthy than others while the truth is that we are equally deserving of love, fulfillment, and success in life as everyone else no matter what qualities they may have.

  • interestingly a lot of my friends are girls because most boys at my school just talk about memes, crushes, and most of them do not like one on one talking and laughing alot. girls are easier to talk to tell interesting stories, talk and recieve information and it feels like you are actually friends. All of my “girl” friends are very good friend and I only have one “boy” friend

  • Too bad I’m watching this video 6 years after coming out.
    I am 44 years old, recently seperated and rushing into a midlife crisis.
    I am the friend zone kind of guy. Everybody thinks I’m a nice guy, which of course I believe I am, but I can’t be funny or banter with anyone, because my mind is just blank. I find it hard to talk about any subject, unless it’s a serious conversation. All around me I see people having fun with their friends, laughing… I want that desperately. I mostly only have conversations about what has been going on with my life.
    I think the storytelling is a good point, but what I need as well in that, is to find or see the fun in it.
    Some people at work are very quick, no matter what topic, they will find something funny to say about it. My opinion is that they are really good at associations.
    Anyway, could go on typing for hours, but my goal at this point in my life to find a way I can improve my social skills, before I will die alone.

  • Dude, you should just draw a whole book, I wouldn’t even mind a 3 hour long video of a whole book. I love reading, but your videos helps me personalize the ideas in books more.

    Knowledge is pointless without the wisdom of applying it to your day to day life.

  • Well for me. I can’t talk to anyone. I mean sure I can over online and Tex I express my self more like that. But in face to face. I don’t like to talk I just like to get things done and go away and just read or book or watch TV a bit. Maybe even go back to studying. But even with my family. I don’t speak with them I just lock my self in my room I just avoid everyone even my own dad. I just don’t talk at all. I mean I use to talk to others as a very small kid. But growing up I stopped and just don’t go to play affter lunch and just hit the books and read till it was time to go to class again. I never open with anyone sure I had some “friends” but even with them I don’t talk or text much at all. I may be open with my mom but that’s kinda it with others I just shut down and just get bored fast or get angry. Mostly I’m angry because I just don’t want to talk or others force me to talk

  • I find really hard to keep up the conversation going! People often mistake me as an Egoistic person! i cant maintain my facial expression, I feel akward talking to strangers! I cant talk and have an eye contact at the same time! I pre think my conversation, interaction! i was not always like this! but lately i find very uncomfortable with doing certain social things people would find common and comfortable! Pls help me!

  • When I’m with a girl I really want to talk with and she is alone I sometimes say….”You know, I really suck at small talk…!” She laughs and some say…”I do too.Then she continues to speak with me cause I’m disarming, humble and funny..Its a great opener and the lady tends to feel at ease because Im not threatening..AND she knows You want to talk successfully and now she is helping you by giving you space with a smile…..

  • People always tell me i need to get out of my shell but if i do then i will physically die from dehydration for my name is squirtle.

  • I just dont know what to say or do its like a panic attack or something i just cant make friends coz im shy and feel lonely in life

  • Does Rotogenflux Methods (search on google) help me improve my intelligence? I see many people keep on speaking about this intelligence boost program.

  • I have always done the mistake of attempting to be too assertive which usually scares people like you said and makes things awkward

  • Would it be okay if you used a statement that lead to a question such as. I love dogs bulldogs are my favorite what about you. A other variations as long as you share something along with it.

  • Do natural iq boost secrets like Rotogenflux Methods really work and if so, how effective are they? I have heard many awesome things about this iq boost secrets.

  • I don’t have problems making conversations but no one is interested in talking to me again and they don’t ask questions about me. So I have problems making friends. Im not sure what is the issue. I am kind and friendly but I can’t banter. So maybe I come across as too nice and boring?

  • I feel that if you never get in trouble you’ll always fear doing things that’s just me. I just recently got in trouble at school and I got this feeling that I hadn’t felt in a long time excitement.

  • I feel really uncomfortable when someone is talking to me, it doesn’t matter if I know that person or not…Things would start being awkward whenever I talk to someone! I always spend my whole day on my phone and I’ve always wanted to interact with people but I don’t think I can keep a conversation with them going without me leaving the room! I hope this video will be useful in the future!

  • Man, I choked after sitting next to a beautiful lady on the train one night after work.. she thought I was so weird, that not only did she move seats, but she low key hit me with her handbag! Epic fail of a life time. But that was early this year. Now, I believe I’ve improved ����

  • Alcohol = liquid courage!! If you have the right targets or the right social group you are interested in, alcohol can give you the wings you need to interact with ppl!!

  • Im not kidding when I say this, but I actually used your video’s information when I got pulled over last week and the officer let me go because he said he,”appreciated how genuine I was”. Thank you FightMediocrity, you’ve got yourself a subscriber.

  • A tip for those who find it hard to socialize with people.

    what if someone told you, you’re only nervous because it’s regarding a topic thats no interest to you? Why put yourself in a situation where you don’t know what you’re talking about? Find a different group, with the right topic. There, you’ll find your confidence soar.

    Quite frankly introverts are regarded as different and anti-social, only because there’s more dumbasses in this world then there is smart people. LOL

  • If I could’ve suggested the next video, I would really want to learn how to include humor in a conversation. I feel like that would lead to the other forms of conversations.

  • I must be abnormal, because even if a guy was super hot and came up and asked where I got my ice cream cone at, and then asked me to buy him one, it would be a huge turn off and I would say no.

  • I am a very shy person by nature, have a quiet voice, and often feel embarrassed or just awkward. Like when i know i am supposed to say something, but i just can’t and stay quiet all the time, which looks wierd. I tried to pretend i am not shy and build social skills. It felt hard to a point i was, so to say, physically unwell when reaching out to people, like i was trembling or had a neck pain. At one point in life i think I managed to act more confidently and more at ease, at other times i regressed. I found that i felt more confident when i looked good, had good physical form, did sport. And also when there was a person, a friend or a partner, who appreciates or likes your being shy or just tells you smth like: it’s natural, or ot’s cute etc, in other words makes you feel ok about yourself just as you are, and not needing to be more confident, open, etc.. i think, interestingly, accepting that you are shy and not pretending to be not shy makes you less shy. Maybe for men it is more difficult.

  • I just didn’t know I was afraid of rejection or judges is the reason of my antisocial and sensitive just learned it by watching this video.
    I’ve been traumatized and I don’t know how to overcome it.
    Thank you

  • a lot of people seems dont want to admit their shy. Its hard to see the truth when it hurt so much. I have accepted that im shy as much as I hate it. Well ofc the same cant be said to those that are really antisocial and chose to be that way.

  • if i will ever try orvercomng fear in front of the people i will most likely want to cry but most of the time i restrain my self but if i will cry i feel horible cause people will look at me but i remember im a ghost and even if they will look at me they will not care besides maybe 2 3 people
    and i will lie to contact you but im freaking scared,i will be akward and dont know what to do and at some point my family will find out that im talking to a strager or something and i dont know what to do in such a situation also my main language is not english and i will sound weird
    and now im talking rubish so i will stop

  • I have a question, for anyone to answer. What 1 thing can I do at home that can help me become more confident with my voice and what 1 thing can I do that will help me speak full sentences properly? Thanks in advance��

  • i moved to a new country and iam having trouble in making conversations with people around me and fitting in the groups..nobody seems to be interrested in talking to me…how can i overcome this situation…i feel like crying all the time..

  • Appriciate this video, it really gave me insight on what fear is and how to overcome and face it head on. Pratical steps on how to be’ more social, and how to exercise social skills. I will be’ outing some of your advice ti the test today in dealing with strangers and aqquaintences in my everyday life. Thanks agiain. Look foward to your next video

  • So this is what is going on with me:

    Who I can talk to without getting in my head:

    Closest friends

    Who I don’t feel comfortable talking to and will get in my head if I go to talk to them:

    Kids my age that I may not know so well or that are strangers.

    I’ve also had these friends come over my house and when they would come over they acted toxic and it was hard for me to recognize that. (I was so caught up in my head and over analyzing everything all of the time)

    I would see these friends daily over the summer all of the time but no matter how many times, I’d still stutter in front of one of them is because I truly felt vulnerable to that one specific person that was over. The others though it was a little bit of stuttering that i would show with them however the stuttering with them though has gotten less.

  • I don’t even try to avoid people but I haven’t talked to any of my friends in months cause I’m just not motivated or prepared to talk to people

  • Dude, I feel like something inside me really wants to be around people and interact with them but then when I have the chance I’m just scared and that stops me from making strong connections. Sad af

  • I’m sorry is this guy for real?
    For someone who is teaching social skills who has a problem with swearing and vulgar language is the one who needs social skill coaching.

  • In the past, social skills were given from generation to generation, now something has happened, because lots of people, including me, now must Google everything how about to develop a social life and other higly important life skills ������������������

  • Ask them if they want to hang out sometime first, then their phone number. Worked for me! If I ask for the phone number first then likely she flakes

  • Shy people feel anxious when interactting with people. Introverted people don’t feel like interacting with people too often, but not necessarily for feeling anxious that would hold for someone who’s both shy and introverted. I’m much less shy than I was when I was younger, but I’m still a bit shy (talking in public is still a great challenge). But many introverts are confident giving speeches, even though they interact with people less often then I do that is, they are less shy, but more introverted than me.




  • There was a cute short woman working at the coffee shop. I introduced myself, and she looked directly at me and said, “Tell me something interesting about yourself.” I looked her in the eye and said, “I like short girls.” Her face lit up. She became my side girlfriend for a while.

  • To get better at socializing is to simply get out there and get more practice to interact with more people to make your brain get used to the patterns of interacting with others. Even when your interactions come off sounding awkward you are continually exercising the brain to get used to talking with more people.

  • True man it gets easier talking to chicks, just start! To me I just have to think of the first few pieces of the conversation and it goes from therealong with a smile and being dominant, clear confident voice, eye contact, etc.

  • Yo! I am starting a YouTube channel about social interactions:) and I am looking to have guests who go around with me in the street to talk to random people, are you down? I’ll come to you if I need to!

  • Part of me wishes that the narrator would just summarize the BOOK and leave his personal interpretation of it aside. He talks with an air of self-importance around him. Like hes someone we all look up to so if he views the book and applies it in these ways, so should we. I’ve felt this about every video on fight-mediocrity so far. I just want to know what the book says. I dont care about the intricate details of the strangers life whos narrating it. Furthermore, ive read this book and I can tell you it offers ALOT more than JUST HOW TO GET OUT OF A TRAFFIC TICKET. It was a good intro but I was dumbfounded when the video just ended after he got out of the ticket. NO. Thats not what Carnegie wrote this book for, and not what he wrote it about. You hit the first 2 bulletpoints and left the next 6 completely unsaid. Why?

  • What people don’t tell you about conversation skills.

    The foundation for conversation is rooted in mental health. To build conversation skills you must be self-aware or your message will not be congruent. You must first understand yourself, before you can understand others. The advice would be work on your recognition of self. This is not an easy task because it is different for each person. It is a journey each must undertake.

    The mental health foundation needed to effectively learn conversation skills is as follows:

    Recognition of self (Self-Aware, Self-Regulation, Motivation) and Recognition of others (Empathy, Social Skills). Once you have this foundation you can then effectively build new conversation techniques, and when used will be congruent per verbal, nonverbal and gestures when communicating.

  • I gonna be honest 5:07 knowing this and doing it can be two different things entirely. Strangest thing, two different girls, both attractive… one I can look at right in the eye… no problems and have a laugh… another makes me feel really on edge and I find it hard to interact with her… now why would that be? I’m not hung up on either one of them… why does one make me feel really awkward and make me act like a weak guy, whilst the other I feel I can be myself and relax.

  • This was always my biggest problem my social skills:(.. I love to going out and dance and be around big groups but too get to know new people and make new friends it’s like not impossible.. They don’t feel a connection or its meaningless. Also I can’t be funny or something. I am extremely logic. That’s also trough my autism. But it sucks because some people just bullshit and its like nothing. But I can’t even small talk good enough or have good conversations that attract new people into my life and so I am not alone anymore

  • Get a part time job that forces you to interact with people especially women. It’s a great way to learn how to chit-chat with girls.

  • What do you do if you don’t want to talk to the people that approach you? How can you get them to go away without hurting feelings? Or even to make the conversation shorter without making it awkward/ cutting the conversation short.

  • girls subconsciously like ‘dicks’ and ‘assholes’ though. im genuinely a nice guy but i tried being a jerk and my pussy game increased 10 fold. nice guys finish last everytime.

  • All in all you just gotta be positive, emphasise, ask questions not too many, get to know her, share your interests, info about you etc and get along with her stop thinking negative thoughts just have a clear mind and don’t worry, if they reject you, you gotta learn from that and build up from that to make you better at socialising etc

  • My question is what to talk about in a conversation, I’m always awkward with a girl I find attractive and I don’t know what to say to her(stranger). I may not be interested in having her as a girlfriend but how do I talk to her just casually to befriend her?

  • I walk around all day trying to make eye contact with a smile. it happens very rarely. very rarely. like maybe once in several hundred women

  • hello. if you’re nice person give me a thumbs up �� if you mean dnt care mean give me thumbs��thx for your honesty and have a wonderful day.

  • I truly feel that people instinctively dislike me immediately upon seeing me. Others can somehow sense the broken, twisted thing that I am inside. I also worry about whether or not any of this social stuff will ever be enjoyable to me and not absolute crushing misery.

  • Hey Corey, I earnestly would like you to do a detailed/comprehensive video on this ‘initial” eye contact concept with different locations like waiting for train in a platform full of people or whilst traveling in a train..or a mall or any public places, the pchychology of the woman in that context, etc.
    See, I am quite an attractive guy yet single..I do get stares and eye contact from women yet I fumble maintaining it and I am the one usually looking away..funny, even though I do get a second glance still I do the same. Simply because I don’t wan’t to be perceived as creepy. And I am really scared of smiling first what if she questions back aggressively?
    Hence the request.
    Oh, I must add that I am very situationally-reflective guy if things shape up positively then I can very well be the alfa male..but if the situation is negative, I crumble and become a complete beta.

  • What are some ways to increase your IQ score over 15 points? I read a lot of superb reviews on the internet about how Rotogenflux Methods can assist you increase your IQ score over 17 points. Has anybody tried this intelligence boost program?

  • If I start to ask old people whether they have sex on the second or third date and what their opinion is it could actually end up in a funny conversation:)

  • Story statement…I feel like that’s awkward too. If no one asked ‘ehat are you afraid of,’ then why would you just blurt out ‘ I was scared of the dark as a kid and hid under covers’ ��

  • My biggest weakness is not understanding when a woman is just having a friendly manner with me and when she might be interested in going out with me which has led to some painful gaffes

  • i can’t change it i feel like. For 2 years i had no social interaction, no friends, no conversations besides the 10min conversations with my parents at dinner. I would like to share my interests and thoughts with others just than my parents. These 2 years i was in school and now after my summer holidays i do 2 more years of school after that i need to force myself to get friends. Bc at 20, it’s going to be impossible to get friends.

    Im going to be alone and die a virgin. I don’t know what changed me nor what happened

  • I had no social skills and even I couldn’t say for people about what I was thinking. But then after watching this video I PROMISE you that I will certainly change my attitude although it is tough but I know l am given only one life to improve and change it

  • Can you explain how at one point you are talking about developing social skills and then at another you are talking about alpha and beta males? Because when you talk about developing skills you’re talking about something that can be nurtured, but when you use terms like alpha and beta male it implicates that these are unchangeable natural differences between men…

  • Maybe this would work for a minor traffic violation but if you’re speeding say, 30 above the speed limit and admission of guilt probably isn’t a good idea. What should someone do in that situation?

  • I think most women understand this stuff naturally but a lot of men and especially aspies like me really don’t: maybe we don’t understand that it is important or we don’t understand why it is important and maybe we wish it wasn’t important as it makes life so complicated

  • You have a wonderful voice and manner of speech. Many excellent features of your production I must say. Nice work. However, the background music is absolutely god awful. I feel like I’m trapped in a douchey night club, I can almost smell the AXE spray and hear the jingle of gold chain necklaces. I get a lot out of your vids please change that background music, its killing my watching/ listening experience. Thanks!

  • my older brother introduced me to corey and i believe he knows exactly what hes talking about this dude is the shit! (in a good way) invaluable information

  • Personaly Never been shy, but I don’t really give a f about the people around, but I do force my self to social,this is why sometimes i look very nice witch am far away from nice,but I can’t show this to others, plus I want people to reply nice so I don’t have to waste energy on giving reply to staff really don’t matter,yet people are nosie,this why I chose to be very unsocial.

  • Since you started to deceive by putting TITLE and then traping to send you money for the title video. PEOPLE BETTER UNSUBSCRIBE.

  • I started trying just saying “Hello” to people. I starting saying “Hello.” to everyone. It’s amazing how many people give me a crazy and weird look or ignore me just when I say “Hello.” Not everyone does though, so screw the people who do, I guess.

    I am shy but not shy. I have rarely approached a girl that I like though. But I started doing this and I can see that it’s just a numbers game. Some women ignore you, some women give you the time of day, but then blow you off when they can sense you are being a wussy for her.

    I am dating one girl right now, and I will start dating others. I photoshoot girls for a hobby, so that has some aspects of dating to it I guess. Anyways I read in yr book that if you meet a girl at a party and then you call her and she doesn’t remember you then you should leave her alone? But this happened with the girl I am dating. Her response was” Who is this?”(via text) I told her and then she responded, oh my sis is out of town.” I said oh ok, well let me know when she gets back and I left it alone. About a week later she responded asking me if I had text her. That was some sort of test I guess. I am having a slight problem with this girl though. I don’t text her much and her interest level appears to be high, but we basically don’t kisss and have sex and I think it’s totally my fault based off what I am reading in your book and learning from your videos. I have a life problem as well, so I’ll save up and book a session soon. I just found a job after being incomeless for a month.

  • One really simple social skill ontop of the ones mentioned here is to use the persons name. the sweetest sound in the world to most people is the sound of our own names

  • I remember being the alpha that always had something to say, no social anxiety no depression. Now I’m 18 and I sweat if somebody stops and asks me questions, what happened to the old me ��

  • Kudos for the Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you considered Mahorrla Increasing Confidence Method (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a great one of a kind guide for mastering} Self Confidence minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my friend Sam got cool success with it.

  • Solid advice! I am working on my social skills. It takes a lot of work but I’m taking small baby steps. I have a lot of work to do. Awesome content!

  • Hey, just wanted you to know that I really appreciate what you are doing here sir! Not just this video (lecture) but as a whole, this is one of the best if not the best video collection that I’ve found on Youtube. I hope that you know you really generate massive positive influence on people watching these videos and that you feel great about it as much as we do! Have a wonderful day sir!

  • Hey Corey, Quick question here if you don’t mind helping me out. I asked a lady out today for lunch that I had just met, after some what felt like good back and forth conversation, She brought up restaurants and I used that as an opportunity to make a lunch date on that day she said she was available. After I had asked she replied with a wandering “I dunno”, kinda reply. I did not press her to appear needy so, what does this mean when she blows me off in this manner, and can it be addressed?

  • What exactly is Rotogenflux Methods? How does this thing really work? I notice a lot of people keep on talking about this intelligence boost program.

  • It doesn’t SOUND like a big demographic, but I wonder if you could help people know what to do with the whole “How are you? What do you do?” dance.. when they’re chronically ill and/or disabled/unemployed. THAT is an awkward conversation. Oh, I’m well! Except that I’m not. And I do.. uh.. bloodwork?

    (I used to say I was “between jobs” for YEARS before people said HEY WAIT)

  • If I’m supposed to talk to 100 women whom I find attractive AND who look and smile at me, that’s going to take more time than I have left to live. Because that’s a very, very rare thing to happen to me.

  • Has anyone tried Rotogenflux Methods? (search on google) We have noticed several awesome things about this intelligence boost program.

  • I thought I had seen every video on your channel but apparently I had missed this one, until now. Enjoying and being motivated by your videos thanks a lot!

  • I’m 13 and don’t have any friends and I get bullied a lot because I’m a “skinny white kid” and I feel like a disappointment to my parents because I never leave my room because nobody wants to play with me. I’m thinking of starting to cut because it can relieve mental pain, I haven’t felt happiness in a long time as I’m always stressed and anxious. Also I’m struggling with my sexuality I feel gay bi straight and asex all at the same time

  • If I enroll, am I able to take the program at my leisure? I work as an EMT doing 24 hour shifts so some days I won’t have time to participate.

  • I would say learning a new skill helps. I taught myself how to publish my own books and ended up getting a job where I travelled around the country visiting old people in care homes to interview them so I could write their life stories and publish them on Amazon for their friends and family from around the world to read. Naturally, as an introvert, it was stressful travelling to new places and meeting loads of new people each week, not to mention the emotional impact of listening to old people tell you heartbreaking details of their lives too but was certainly helpful and deeply meaningful. And I would say any job where an introvert is able to use their super skill, listening, is a good way of overcoming fear and improving your social skills, too.

  • GREAT Videos. Just run into your channel and saw 4 or 5 now in a row.
    And all of them mention the girlfriend. haha. What’s up with that? Is it just a coincidence that I chose those 5 out of the many or do you mention her basically in anything you say? Trying to let us know you’ve got that covered ha?
    anyway, good content. important topic.

  • If she likes you she’ll help you arrange a date. If she doesnt, then she wont. its that simple. If you have exchanged numbers, then just say “cool, call me or shoot me a text when you know for sure what your schedule is like and we’ll get together, i’d love to see you again.” And walk away. If she likes you then she’ll help you, she will make it easy for you. You are probably better off because you deserve a girl who is really into you, who helps you, who wants to be with you.

  • Last night I was invited to my first ever after party. I’ve been socially improving but last night it was like I forgot how to interact. My friend who invited me moved from group to group, and I couldn’t expect him to spend all his time on me. I was on my phone for nearly an hour until I sat on the edge of the deck, where I ended up crying softly to myself while petting a dog. I’m quite sure nobody noticed, or if they did, didn’t want to engage me, and I’m glad they didn’t. One guy did come and talk to me briefly, but i still felt awful. Once I sobered up, I left. I will use this stuff in the future. If I had known some of these tactics, it would have been different.

  • Wow! I love your work Coach. I have been reading your book for a while now, been beating around the bush talking to people. I walk around the mall once a week, and practice social skills like you mention.

    I’ve been setting goals, and meeting them. Generally, I am more friendly, and considerate of people. I make eye contact, and smile at people more.

    I’ve been pussying out on going up to girls because of my fear of rejection. I’ve faked it until I made it. If you act like you know how to be confident, people believe you, and you will start to believe it too!

    I’ve been able to start talking to random women without expecting a phone number or anything, taking those baby steps. And they laugh and smile! I hope you read this Corey! Thanks so much.

  • I am 66% introverted, according to a quick questionnaire. I am not shy now, although I used to be the shiest kid of the world until 19.
    At 19 I had a female friend with whom I played a game of looking into each others eyes as long as possible. That made my overcome my shyness, because people are just people like anybody else.
    My social skills are poorly developed however and I don’t know how to overcome that.
    I have no fear talking to people, but I run out of things to say/ask very fast. And that happens over and over again.
    Talking to strangers wouldnt improve that.

  • Video is good and has been summarized well so that one can understand easily and it is providing enough information which i think is the best part.

  • I find it hard to be specific and tend to be more explanatory. It lacks interest in the audience.
    Can you teach me how to be very specific and yet interesting.

  • Hey, as part of my uni assignment I have to make a youtube video but I do not want to show my face. Can you please tell me what app or software you used for this video?

  • hmmm First of all, I actually connect better with people whom I’ve given personal nicknames; there’s a sense of intimacy and bond whenever you give someone a personalized nickname, or personalized anything for that matter. Secondly, the last time I had a confrontation with a police and told the truth, he threw me in county slammer =/

  • can anyone tell me which book is better…??

    “How To Win Friends And Influence People”

    or “How To Win Friends And Influence People In the Digital Age”


  • Bullshit!!! this stuff is pathetic man, get a new hobbie!! who am i kidding hahaha! Dude you got powerful stuff man!! you’re like the wisdom guru of intense epicness to all humanity!! (48LOP:law 17)

  • I don’t know what’s wrong with me. When I’m around people, it could be a complete stranger or someone I’ve known for quite a long time already (even though we are not really close), when we are alone or something, I kinda wanna say something and try to be friendly, but I just really don’t know what to say or ask! I guess I’m just really not interested in that person’s life or whatever to be able to come up with a good topic, make a question and start a conversation…I don’t know. And when that person asks me something, I just give a short answer automatically. I wanna elaborate and say something nice but I just can’t and it ends up with that short answer and an awkward silence right after it…:-(

  • Sometimes I’ve got a great introduction and then I blank and don’t know what exactly to say next to the questions I’ve asked them or I ask questions and it doesn’t lead anywhere. So I just ended up saying nice to have met you, and can’t wait for them to walk away so I can reflect on how awkward I was or how I didn’t execute my plan as well as I wanted

  • I’m glad to know I’ve arrived at the same conclusions by introspection at the same time others have learned by reading. There seems to be an objective truth to where you arrive when we humans engage in introspection.

  • My only problem is not knowing what to talk about. Most people I talk to have different interests and my conversations end quickly

  • This is an awesome video. I love the Taco Bell/U-Turn example. Even if you got the ticket, it’s so empowering to take full responsibility for your actions vs. expending energy making up lies and trying to weasel out of consequences and then feel lousy about yourself afterwards.

  • I had this in college…but itwas the opposite for me…During break time, i used to just sit alone in a bench away from everyone…Then when girls that were in my saw me,they smiled and sit beside me and told me hang out with us….then the second day…in the morning other women that were in my class told me ey, i why are you so alone all the time ” see you in break time…

  • Me as an extrovert getting hyped up to be an exrovert the next day:
    Me the next day not talking to anyone or making any eye contact

  • Anyone know what is Rotogenflux Methods about? I hear lots of people improve their intelligence with this intelligence boost system.

  • Hey I read this book and I was wondering. Are the concepts from this book only good for a professional environment or will they work to win friends in a more casual setting?

  • I recently came across your YouTube channel and I just wanted to say it really feels like a blessing that I did. In just one day of listening to your book reviews I really feel like something within me has been awoken. I’m more motivated and feel I have a lot better understanding of things I didn’t even know I was confused about. Thank you for putting these videos for everyone.

  • It’s true. People in the US should be grateful that their policemen are doing their job properly… search “Philippine Police” in youtube and police brutality or other wrongdoings will pop up…

  • A lot of times guys will be talking too much on a date because the girl isnt talking much herself lol. I hate talking about myself or for more than like a minute straight but I’ve had to to carry the conversation. And I dont talk to uninterested girls, so I’m talking about chicks who are smiling and laughing and interested and are into me, cause we’re already dating or she’s being physical, but sometimes they just dont talk much or know how to keep the convo going or have feedback or segue into other stuff

  • Coach I love you bro and I try to follow your advice to the t, but I’m looking at that dude you’re talking about, he looks like my drunk cousin who forgot where he parked his car. ����

  • Hi there!

    Firsy well informative video!

    What book or a person to follow that you would recommend for this specific topic.

    Thanks a lot!!!!

  • 6:04 This is absolutely NOT something you should respond with in your first time meeting someone. What were they thinking? That’s something a miserable arse like me would say to a long-time acquaintance that knows I’m being sarcastic.

  • I’m good with Coach’s material now so ill help you. 1st, its great that you had a date with her on the spot. 2nd, dont arrange lunch dates, thats what friends do. Make a definite date in the evening that can lead to hooking up/sex. 3rd, she gave you a luke warm reply. If you dont have her # yet, basically, say “hey cool, maybe some other time.” retract the offer, and be prepared to walk away. “the strongest negotiating position belongs to the one who is willing to walk away and mean it.”

  • I’m a freshman in high school and my parent’s toxically violent divorce 12 years ago scarred me I guess to where I can’t talk to people at all without overthinking every word. I don’t connect with people and I can’t read what they’re saying and I feel like I’m always bothering people since I can’t read social cues. I’m not in any friend group and nobody actively wants to talk to me.

  • I have an issue with interrupting others when I want to get a word in. I have an issue with sharing my thoughts and opinions confidently, and I have an issue initiating contact with others. Also exiting a phone convo sometimes is hard too.

  • through this video I got inspired by dale Carnegie so I bought this book.In that Carnegie prefers to read chapter by chapter in slow way,it takes so much any tips for me to read fast? and effectively understand

  • My problems is that my mind goes completely blank when i try to talk to people not just girls and that is killing me.I’m now waiting for a girl to come who i like and for about an hour i can’t come up witj nothing better than HEY,WHAT’S UP!!! I’m not shy at all but my MIND goes blank even when i talk to my parents ��

  • So im never gunna be a social master… Im not risking my brain cells for embarasing myself. Maybe im good at socializing i just dont realize it.

  • Coach, I have found new ways to improve social skills from an absolute beginner for shy guys:
    1. If it’s raining and you forget to take your umbrella, ask random people to escort you to the place you wanna go (It works)
    2. Ask restaurant clerks or fashion store clerks about foods or fashion opinions
    3. Get into new places that you’ve never been and approach people asking for directions, and fun places to hang around
    4. If it’s hard to find reasons to approach people in the mall. Join your religious belief activities and prayer ceremonies, go to Church, or Mosque, or Temple depending on your religion and sit at random places, switch places every week and try to get to know at least one new friend every week(Old, young, men,women)
    5. Approach a girl that you like anywhere and ask her number. Ask her out later by text or phone(No cheesy pickup lines, just questions)
    6. Approach girls you like, state what you like about her, and make a date on the spot
    These are step by step processes that I did. I hope it helps

  • #thankyou  for making me #learn in the most #effectiveway  withbestwishesfrom the #group  of #wheatgrass

  • I suggest showing how to deal with someone in a tough situation that your brain is not prepared for in such. I have a hard time getting out of a conversation that does not revolve around me. I’m so self-centered that I believe that if it’s not something to do with me then my natural response is to be stubborn. -I do not know if you made a video about plagiarism, but if you haven’t I suggest doing so.

  • Here is how to SHATTER insecurities, fears, anxiety, and shyness around girls (or anyone): Look them in the eye with confidence and hold it for at least FOUR seconds. Or until they look away.

    It is a game you can play with hot girls. If they look away you won no matter the face they made or how creepy you felt about it. Secretly, they like being dominated like that, and any guy can be their Alpha. Rinse and repeat for a year and that Alpha is you. Not recommended for family, or work people. Just go to the mall, outside to the park or anywhere public and strengthen your eye contact with as many women as possible. It’s ok, you wont get beat down by angry people for staring them down. Having a friend around may boost your confidence because you can relate with them about it. Having powerful eye contact will give you the confidence to approach and speak to anyone.

  • I’m 16 and was homeschooled my entire life and where I live we have only bad neighbors so I never had friends and now that I’m getting older and want to get a job and my license and just make friends but I realize I don’t know how I run out of things to talk about because I never go out I don’t have much life experience I like painting but that’s my only hobby and I hate asking people questions because I feel like I’m being nosy to try and start a conversation

  • I am so happy and blessed to have found your channel am in love with all you teaching and knowledge.. Thank you so much for putting the time and passion on helping others like myself!