4 Ideas to Raise Healthy Kids – Without Losing The Mind

 

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�� Dr. Bill Sears on How to Raise a Smarter Baby #4

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3 Tips to Raise Self-Confident Children

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Understanding Your Child’s Emotions: A Developmental Approach | UCLAMDCHAT Webinars

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How to raise smart kids Ask A Doc | Cook Children’s

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Tip #4 Provide Incentive. Even adults need that carrot on a stick to keep grinding, sometimes. We probably wouldn’t go to work if we didn’t get paid. You can’t expect your kids to be different.

Try meeting them halfway. If they pick a sport and stick to it for a time period, they earn a new video game or toy or gift card to their favorite store. Raising Healthy Eaters Tip #4: Get Them Involved with the Cooking Once you get back from the store, it’s time to get dinner started. Your kids can be a big help here, too; as long as you aren’t too much of a perfectionist and don’t mind a bit of a mess. 5. Teach kids healthy habits.

The most successful adults practice healthy habits. The earlier kids learn about healthy nutrition and exercise, the more likely they are to stick to these habits as adults. Kids who eat a healthy diet have improved brain function. A healthy diet also improves school attendance, behavior, and test scores.

Little kids are physically closer to potential pollutants and toxins than adults are, since they play in the grass and crawl on carpets. Stay-healthy tips: You may not be able to keep all chemicals out of your house, but when possible, opt for nontoxic cleaners without harsh ingredients, like ammonia and bleach. Open windows for ventilation as.

Some titles that Peter Glassman, owner of New York City’s Books of Wonder, recommends include: Half Magic by Edward Eager.In this 1954 tale, four kids find a slightly worn-out magic coin that delivers only half a wish–asking for a trip to a desert island lands them in a desert. Any parent headed home with their first child is probably a bit nervous about this whole parenthood thing. You really want to raise good kids, but unfortunately, each unique baby doesn’t come with its own manual.Whether you shop local or go to Amazon for parenting help, hundreds of books offer different perspectives on the best way to raise good children.

In spite of the many approaches. Give your child plenty of positive attention to reduce attention-seeking behaviors. 3  So set aside a little one-on-one time each day to motivate your child to keep up the good work. Improving your mental focus is achievable, but that doesn’t mean that it’s always quick and easy.

If it was simple, then we would all have the razor-sharp concentration of an elite athlete.. It will take some real effort on your part and you may have to make some changes to some of your. 25 Scientific Tips For Raising Happy (& Healthy) Kids. So it’s important to keep in mind that, even as kids grow You can unsubscribe at any time and we’ll never share your details without.

The goal is to foster healthy eating behaviors, which in turn will lead to a healthy body weight without over-focusing on dieting. 12 Questions You Should Ask Your Kids.

List of related literature:

Key #5—Be Aware of Your Child’s Desire to Be Like You Infants and young children are eager to be like Mom and Dad.

“What Babies Say Before They Can Talk: The Nine Signals Infants Use to Express Their Feelings” by Paul Holinger, Kalia Doner
from What Babies Say Before They Can Talk: The Nine Signals Infants Use to Express Their Feelings
by Paul Holinger, Kalia Doner
Touchstone, 2009

“Discipline is a must, starting in infancy,” stressed one advice column.”

“Not June Cleaver: Women and Gender in Postwar America, 1945-1960” by Joanne Jay Meyerowitz, June Meyerowitz
from Not June Cleaver: Women and Gender in Postwar America, 1945-1960
by Joanne Jay Meyerowitz, June Meyerowitz
Temple University Press, 1994

These rules are all that you need to become an effective, happy parent and to raise those perfect kids you see in the catalogs.

“Parenting For Dummies” by Sandra Hardin Gookin, Dan Gookin, May Jo Shaw, Tim Cavell
from Parenting For Dummies
by Sandra Hardin Gookin, Dan Gookin, et. al.
Wiley, 2011

Parents should be encouraged to try as many of these approaches as possible, since not all are effective for every infant.

“Maternal Child Nursing Care in Canada E-Book” by Shannon E. Perry, Marilyn J. Hockenberry, Deitra Leonard Lowdermilk, Lisa Keenan-Lindsay, David Wilson, Cheryl A. Sams
from Maternal Child Nursing Care in Canada E-Book
by Shannon E. Perry, Marilyn J. Hockenberry, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2016

And never forget to use these same nine essential empathy habits to help you understand your children so you can parent more effectively.

“UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World” by Michele Borba
from UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World
by Michele Borba
Touchstone, 2017

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  • My parents never really cared about grades when I was a child. As long as I passed the classes, I bearly did. the problem is… they never really make me do chores either lol. I turned out find I guess. I turned out fine I guess, I still got tones of anxiety and are learning to function as an adult

  • In my opinion, I would prefer to tell my kid the best of his desire, which he might don’t know much about that yet. And I hope he can try his best to go for it.

  • One of the reasons for anxiety, depression, suicide, toxic relationships, and failed marriages is that we try to fulfill the UNREALISTIC GOALS that SOCIETY demands from us.

  • In my childhood i was like super confident talented and energetic kid but sadly some of teachers treated me badly in my junior high school (destructive criticism). Now everything is changed i have lost myself I hate myself but actually i know i am not a bad person i didn’t do anything wrong… I don’t know what to do now? how to settle everything? how to love myself again? how to know what i want??

  • My hubby is quite satisfied with his son’s reading skills and he`s spreading his story to all people. Through the help of this reading tutorial, my own partner were carefully guided regarding how to educate our son. We used to read to him prior to going to sleep, however at this point he selects his own textbooks and also reads to all of us. Get this guide by Google. The program’s name is Elena Readoρiz
    nice day

  • Very inspirational! One of the things my wife and I are experimenting with, is doing family activities at home. We found that if we make music with our son he really enjoys it and we can bond in a unique way to make the best out of his childhood and also help to develop the brain in a fun way. Do any of you also experiment with this? If so, what are your experiences? Do you have background music on during playtime? I recently started a channel named Songs For Cool Kids, where I would like to help others experiment with music. I am very keen to hear from other parents. Thanks in advance. Hope you have a great day.

  • So im a teen. When she said ask us questions and be interested…Honestly sometimes i just dont want to talk, but if your kid just doesnt want to talk it doesnt mean they had a bad day. Just because im in my phone all day doesnt mean im addicted to it, i just either miss my friends and theres already so much to deal with online anyway. And when it comes to encouraging your kid dont over exaggerate, it just gets annoying. When your teaching us something new, dont treat us like we’re two, we usually know a lot more than you think. Just somes thoughts from a teen i guess.

  • first of all children are not raise. You can raise cows, pigs, goats, chicken etc. Children need love, affection and so on children are to be cultivated.

  • this ted talk honestly made me cry. my issue is that i don’t think my parents have created that “checklisted” life for me, i think it was my own doing. i’ve been in honors and accelerated classes from the time i was a third grader. early on i learned to make my own checklist, to regulate what i was doing everyday, and my parents partially contributed to that. but i thought that their support of this lifestyle meant it was right, and i’m now a junior in high school that has collapsed under the pressure. the past three months have been the biggest educational downfall of my life, and i think it’s like what you said. i’m burned out, i’m tired, i’m anxious, i’m depressed. i have no sense of purpose anymore and i don’t do the work unless a teacher emails or calls and my parents yell at me to do it. they don’t understand that everything i’ve believed my entire life has come crashing down on me and i’m so burnt out. i always used to believe everything in school had to be perfect for college, and i couldn’t really accept it when i had to drop an ap class in sophomore year. i’ve had struggles with mental health for a few years now, and in freshman year one of my friends reported me and my only concern was that it would show up on my record and colleges wouldn’t want a “messed up” kid. this ted talk has helped me realized that i can’t be perfect, i just need to try my best. build myself back up. that’s what i’m trying to do, anyway. thank you for this. to other struggling kids out there: it will get better. please don’t let a checklist define your life, i promise it’s not worth it. to parents out there who are supporting a checklisted life or have instituted it: please have a conversation with your child. don’t let them disregard their own mental health for good grades. at some point they will be burned out too, and you shouldn’t let them get to that point before you realize how much they are hurting. i’ve been hurting for a long time, and getting good grades does not help the pain go away. it only makes it worse. it makes you believe that the pain is necessary in order to get good grades. it’s not. thank you for this ted talk ❤️

  • Starting at 10:05 for the next 20 seconds or so you are shaking yourself up from your own deep existential fears. And you are a “successful’ person in “life”. Jesus Christ is the king of our souls. And he is more real than you or me. That’s the reality. That’s why we exist. I just wanted to share this with everybody, that it is true that following God is why we were made, and being voluntary it brings the deepest overflowing fulfillment a human being could ever feel. Ever. Not even your husband or wife could fulfill you that deeply. Because Jesus is a GOOD KING. He is. I urge you all to watch Ron Wyatt’s video covering his finding of Jesus’ dry blood analyzed. Also finding the holy ark. This is true. I used to be atheist as well. I love this video too! Thanks it’ll help me so much ������ But i’m serious about what i’m saying. It’s a different reality once you accept this truth. It will set you free. It’s like a veil being lifted from your eyes. The veil is a superficial reality created by the devil. The devil is the king of this world.

    He will rein over the world for a period of time and then Jesus will intervene, ruling for a period of time. The he lets sin enter the world again. It’s going to be a cycle. All to let people voluntarily choose their position on obeying God. I’m on my own journey right now. I still smoke weed, and I know it’s the reason bad things happen to me. We cause our own problems. The “karma” people call it. I hope you take this sincerely. I went to college. The Big Bang theory is a joke. It is not even possible. Not without God. And the Earth is really only less than 10k years old. It’s crazy how close we are to the end times. The truth is seen as a lie. Or a joke. Jesus can come any day now. We need to get ready. It’s not even a joke. Look up “End Times News”. That’s its

    Thanks again for the video. ��

  • Thanks for your comment..I try to use their time in something productive…I try to teach them myself mostly..provide them good books..
    But inspite of doing all good as per me…they kip fighting aged 11 n 8…younger one doesn’t listen to me..
    I m worried as time is flying..
    I want to confess that sometimes I hit them n then feel guilty all d time..due to work stress

  • This is well worded but the point is one of mediocrity this is a black woman speaking on a mentality of weakness. Life has a way of balancing things when you use maximum effort. I denounce this message. If you’re average get there by doing your best. She’s talking like all Americans experience the same childhood.

  • Dear
    Parents,

    You hear
    the word “quarantine” and automatically hear the long list of things
    we’re not allowed to do these days. But perhaps you should think of all the
    opportunities this slower lifestyle offers. As parents, instead of sitting
    around worrying about coronavirus or feeling lonely, use your downtime to learn
    new skills to teach your KIDS to speak and read in an early age, come on!!!

    For more
    information, visit the links below, Good Luck!!!

    https://youtu.be/w9Lj1KQtvPU

    https://youtu.be/RR3reaJHV_8

    https://youtu.be/YN8lUKyBLBQ

  • Ohhh really one of best speeches i heard maybe the idea seems so simple and mationed 10 times about colleges but i think she was honest and that’s a key ingredient for good speech

  • Your video gives us so many new things so we can learn so many new tips and things I am willing to see your video you are as expert teacher…

  • There are not any ‘millions’ of words. Just in thousands. Or under a million..like half a million of English words. Most creative and intellectual people only need a vocabulary of 25000 to 35000 words.
    Yes children need to learn millions of ‘things’, thousands of words, many thousands of phrases, complex emotions. No child has to learn millions of words. If a child has to learn millions of words it will take two lives to complete.

  • This is well worded but the point is one of mediocrity this is a black woman speaking on a mentality of weakness. Life has a way of balancing things when you use maximum effort. I denounce this message. If you’re average get there by doing your best. She’s talking like all Americans experience the same childhood.

  • Try to get them involved with sports, debate classes, learn an instrument which can help them achieve awards and make them stand out from their friends

  • This lady preached about my ENTIRE Childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. My parents generation created a mess of children. However, us as millenials have to willingly make an effort to change the future!

  • My hubby is quite satisfied with his son’s reading skills and he`s spreading his story to all people. Through the help of this reading tutorial, my own partner were carefully guided regarding how to educate our son. We used to read to him prior to going to sleep, however at this point he selects his own textbooks and also reads to all of us. Get this guide by Google. The program’s name is Elena Readoρiz
    nice day

  • Thanks papa if you would let me call you that, please help me I don’t know how to help my kids sometimes I found myself crying not knowing how or in what to engage my children in that will benefit them. The only thing that I know is book and pen.

  • Hi.. thanx for the good video..
    I have the only daughter and i listen from her teacher mostly that she knows an answer of a question but she dont answer because she is shy.. furthermore she is not good in establishing friendship with other kids at school. Might be of the reason that she is my only child and her best friend is me and her mom.. how can i overcome the broblem?
    Thanx

  • We can’t purchase wild salmon in Australia (easily I’ve never seen it) it’s all farmed. Is it better to use that or another fatty wild fish?

  • I am 13 years old and I am watching this because I want to be 1 sept ahead them.
    I also want to study in harvard and my parents are really laid back but I get stressed because of mcat and the right score…

  • Thank you so much Dr Sears for sharing this information with us I have followed your advice and my baby has only gotten a small cold and he is 15 months now.

  • we failed to believe in ourselves and went with the common “secured” way to success and thinking it is for everyone, we dragged these little lights that hold answers to the future into old paths. Not much you can get out of it, at least not for what it’s intended

  • This is very very helpful. And this is going help me in the future. Thank you very much to making this video helpful for me to check this video out. I feel really motivated by watching this video.

  • One of the reasons for anxiety, depression, suicide, toxic relationships, and failed marriages is that we try to fulfill the UNREALISTIC GOALS that SOCIETY demands from us.

  • These kind of parents don’t stop when their kids are grown and married with kids of their own. Not only they don’t respect boundaries they are also very controlling.That is why my husband cut off his mom and she still don’t see anything wrong with her behavior.

  • My daughter just turned 6 months, she’s my first baby so I really don’t have experience. I would like to start feeding her avocados but how? Do i buy organic and mash them?

  • My daughter is 13 month older. But she not eating by herself and if I feed her; she is vomiting all. And still she don’t know how to swallow the food. So still I feed her all Vegas and fruit even the lunch as puree. I just grain all food and giving. I want to know that is this bad for her? How can I train her to eat chunks.and she is only 8kg seeing smaller than other babies.how much food I have to offer her. And how many times per day! Please let me to know. It’ll be more helpful

  • I like your style but unfortunately I think this may only work with white children. I’m Hispanic. And although I’ve modeled confidence to my children, my confidence comes across as rude or aggressive to a racist world. So I stay passive and my children do too because that’s what will get us by..unfortunately.

    And that’s what “closet” racists accept.

  • 7 powerful ways you can strengthen your heart:

    Get moving. Your heart is a muscle and, as with any muscle, exercise is what strengthens it.
    Quit smoking. Quitting smoking is tough.
    Lose weight. Losing weight is more than just diet and exercise.
    Eat heart-healthy foods.
    Don’t forget the chocolate.
    Don’t overeat.
    Don’t stress.

  • I had an extremely hard upbringing and my mother along with me now realizes how important educated parenting is to prevent mental issues and raise a happy well rounded child. I am planning to become a mother myself in the next year or so, (I am 27) so I am researching as much as I can to make sure I know how to handle situations and make my child feel loved, trusted and accepted. These videos are very helpful and I thank you for making them.

  • He is talking about the stuff we traditionally fed babies. Additionally we give coconut milk in food and pumpkin and stuff too. Lot of crushed greens.
    Again its back to basics after going a big posh round.

  • It really is a shame that in the United States that you people cannot Master a simple skill that other species have you cannot dictate your children’s lives especially when they get older you have to go from being the boss to being a guide you tell them what you know and what you feel is best but you do not try to force them to go with it one of the problems in America is they have tooken away the right to punish kids for bad behavior maybe the old ways were too harsh at times but raising kids to believe they can do whatever they want without consequences is also bad maybe getting spanked was not the best but it helped to keep me in line I can’t believe I live in a country where a five-year-old can get their parents arrested for spanking them

  • Ohhh really one of best speeches i heard maybe the idea seems so simple and mationed 10 times about colleges but i think she was honest and that’s a key ingredient for good speech

  • What do you think of increase your IQ of 20 points using Rotogenflux Methods? I see many people keep on speaking about Rotogenflux Methods.

  • My Mother, Jo Ann Mason, used to say that LOVE (which needs to be unconditional) + Expectations (which differ per person, because each person is different) + Limits (which don’t change, people need boundaries) = a healthy start to a good human being

  • TIMESTAMPS
    Bad Lesson #1: Snitching is wrong. 1:02
    Bad Lesson #2: Children shouldn’t express their negative emotions. 2:27
    Bad Lesson #3: You should try to make people like you. 4:38
    Bad Lesson #4: Get good grades or you’ll never get a good job. 6:14
    Bad Lesson #5: “Always the best for my baby!” 8:03
    Bad Lesson #6: Making a mistake means losing something. 10:13
    Bad Lesson #7: Children should never be idle. 12:44
    Bad Lesson #8: Children must always share their toys. 14:09

  • Wise talk! My son is 7 years old, I’m a guilty parent who constantly yells at him for the smallest thing. Also I always tell him how great he is and that I love him no matter what, Reminding him that mistakes happened and that the yelling is about the mistake not the person. He has low self esteem, I praise him all the time but he constantly thinks I can do it, or I know I won’t be able to or I’m this or that. And it makes me feel so bad cuz I feel like I’m the cause due to too much yelling.

  • my child is active when playing but not in studying…what is a better way to access so my child would pay attention to her studying? thanks for the future respond sir.

  • What do you think of increase your IQ of 20 points using Rotogenflux Methods? I see many people keep on speaking about Rotogenflux Methods.

  • My parents never really cared about grades when I was a child. As long as I passed the classes, I bearly did. the problem is… they never really make me do chores either lol. I turned out find I guess. I turned out fine I guess, I still got tones of anxiety and are learning to function as an adult

  • I had an extremely hard upbringing and my mother along with me now realizes how important educated parenting is to prevent mental issues and raise a happy well rounded child. I am planning to become a mother myself in the next year or so, (I am 27) so I am researching as much as I can to make sure I know how to handle situations and make my child feel loved, trusted and accepted. These videos are very helpful and I thank you for making them.

  • I think my parents wouldn’t care at all if I showed them these steps, either bc some of them, they don’t thinks its right, or they think a kid is using a voice changer to manipulate others

  • Please talk about the seemingly obvious and growing problem of bolstering children’s self esteem without any need for the kid to achieve and excel.

    Doesn’t that pose a danger to our society?

    I hope you recognize this.

    Big fan of your audio cassette series in the 1990’s.

  • Shes the one, any body that has a mom, recognizes her intuition, that sort of nudgeing of consideration, where her ideas shed light onto whats the meaning of being a mom, i love my mom

  • Raising kids has some challenges. I created a book about the most interesting stories with our kids.
    Here is a free sample of one of my ebook.
    This story is mostly inspired by my actual experiences in raising my two kids, Cedrick and Cathrin.
    Watch and download (in the description)
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmoVH_Ln60A

  • I am 13 and my parents have never taught me any of these bad lessons since I was born. They only taught me the “What should you teach instead” parts. I am happy to have those kind of parents.

  • My parents always force me to do things, literally. For example my mom forced me to wear a dress and so much makeup I looked like a brat. When I said to her I wasn’t comfortable wearing it, she starting yelling at me saying I always raise up her pressure, and will say that she’ll disown me or that I don’t make her happy. It’s like she doesn’t care how I even feel.
    Another thing is that she doesn’t even have time for what I have to say, if I even say something she’ll just get mad or just tell me to leave cause she’s busy.
    And last everytime I get judged for everything I do, my interest, music, hobbies, and etc. And they wonder why I don’t like going around them. There’s more too the list

  • Thank you so very much Brian! I have a long story to tell and I don’t know if you are able to read and respond or if you have an email but here goes: I raised three wonderful children, had a firm set of rules and also never criticized them. I only built them up, always told them how much I loved them, how smart they were, how they could be anything they wanted to be, taught them about God’s love etc. I took them to parks, made sure they all learned how to swim, ran a swim team for 10 years so they could be involved in a physically and emotionally healthy activity with wholesome children. I never compared them and taught them to always love and be close to each other. It never mattered to me what others thought, I never cared about being popular. From the time they were 4, I began drilling it into their heads, that they’d attend college, and graduate school on academic scholarships. They all did. There was nothing that I wouldn’t do for them. I was blessed to be a stay at home mother. I truly gave them my all and I truly was maternal and patient. They weren’t hit (except when they ran into the street). I never raised my voice to correct them. Punishments were age appropriate (sitting on the landing of the stairs for 2, 3, 5 minutes depending on age) and writing me a letter or poem about what they had done wrong. They were the joy of my life. A huge problem was their dad, he was a domestic abuser, also insisting his mother live with us our entire married life. She could be kind and helpful but she wasn’t consistent. She was borderline personality disorder among other things. They both got nasty when they drank. My ex is an alcoholic. His mother demanded constant attention and would do anything to obtain it. She also too great pleasure in teasing infants to the point of making them cry hysterically, she wondered why my cat used to attack her (I found her twirling around and shaking a pillowcase with him as kitten in it, her taking such glee in doing so). And she professes to be a great animal lover. My ex and his mother had a downright sick and twisted relationship. She admitted to breaking up his first marriage and she always professed to be a faithful Catholic. I am regretful for marrying this man and subjecting my precious children to him and his mother but then they wouldn’t be here if I didn’t. I honestly didn’t know anything but abuse. Both of my parents abused me, my father sexually. My father was also a domestic abuser. This was normal to me and I had no self-esteem. My ex was also 10 years older than me, not much of a difference when you’re older but a huge difference at 18. I believe in his way, my ex loved them but he criticized them, yelled and screamed at them, put them down, constantly teased them, was incredibly unreasonable in his expectations, tried to force food and activities and decisions on them that they didn’t want. Their grandmother went between loving them and hating them. We never knew who she was going to be. My ex and his mother had knock down drag out fights all the time which the children witnessed with fear. My ex yelled and screamed at me for ridiculous things. I may not have stuck up for myself but with my children, I was the mother bear with her cubs (and he actually used to joke about never getting between the mother and her cubs). I was so involved in my children and was so happy to have someone to love and be loved that I tuned out the rest of the world. I wouldn’t have ever left because I was scared to death that about what would happen to them alone during visitation with my ex, his mother and his family. At least keeping the family intact, I knew everything and could comfort my children. My ex was also the classic abuser isolating me from my dear friends, leaving me with no support. I may have been a little too strict during their teen years due to the abuse I suffered which led to many devastating things that I faced alone as a teen. It was my fervent wish to not have anything bad happen to them so I continued with my rules but obviously had to add to them when my children became teens. I was very verbal, repetitious and to the point about talking about the repurcussions of sex, smoking, drinking and drugs and about following the crowd, encouraging them to have the courage to dare to be different.I do have a fault of overdoing things and my middle daughter told me much later that I scared her so much about becoming pregnant before being married since I always told her that I had already raised 3 children so I wouldn’t raise anymore so that if she or my other daughter found themselves in that position, they’d be shipped off to the Christian home for unwed mothers. She was angry about it but she was never promiscious and never gave birth until she married and I would of, course, never would have sent my children away. You know why Is said that. To save my life, I had to leave my home when my children were 17 1/2 (my son), 19 1/2 and 21 1/2 (my daughters). My ex not only always physically sexually abused me (delighting in inflicting pain and humiliation), the psychological and verbal abuse was unbearable, then he finally began physically abusing me and then he raped me. During our entire marriage, with no shame and in front of others, he also delighted on a regular basis, demonstrating putting me in a headlock and saying how easy it would be to snap it and kill me (a technique he learned in the Marines). I believed he was going to kill me so I left. I was very suicidal at the time but then became very angry. My children weren’t blind or stupid. They all agreed with me before I left that he was abusive. Stupidly, I believed him that he would never let me leave unless I had an affair. I understand how very naive that sounds but I’m being truthful. Unless people are truly aware of what goes on in the mind of a woman who has been abused her entire life, they couldn’t possibly understand. Always a moral and faithful woman, but being accused and checked up several times a day every single day during our entire marriage, I began a phone affair that did lead to becoming physical.. If anyone doesn’t understand about how horrendous it is to be the victim of domestic abuse, let me tell you it’s as if an otherwise intelligent woman is totally brainwashed and so terrified and ashamed to tell anyone. When my ex found out, he called both our daughters at college, my father (they’ve always been best buddies) and our Pastor. Our Pastor had already told me that he knew my ex was abusing me. Our Pastor chastised my ex, not me.the next day after a meeting that my ex demanded. Our Pastor touched on about 10 key points and when we had returned to the car, my ex denied everything our Pastor had just said. I’m not justifying that my affair was right, but I needed a desperate action to get out and I needed someone to show me some love and to show me what a healthy sexual act between a man and woman was. I had no idea. This man mostly held me and talked to me and that validation gave me the courage to leave. My two youngest children have never forgiven me and have always sided with their abusive father. Only my oldest daughter has been loyal to me. By the way, when I divorced their father, my oldest daughter, finally ended the second abusive relationship she had been involved with and nobody has to tell me that divorcing her father completely changed her life. She married a loving man who values her.I don’t understand why my other children won’t forgive me. I’ve apologized so many times. I know I’m a sinner and I know I’ll always be one, I’ve made a lot of mistakes and always will because I’m human. They profess to be Christians but isn’t forgiveness the entire reason Jesus Christ came down and took the form of a human man to die on the Cross to redeem us for our sins? They still afford their father respect and also his live-in girlfriend who is quite crass, has a filthy loud mouth and who bosses their father around. I am not putting her down.I am just saying we are very different people.. I’m remarried to a wonderful man who is a Christian and who truly loves me. Why do my children give my ex and his girlfriend (and my father who sexually abused me) so much respect and refuse to speak with me or give my husband any respect? I also gave up my alimony and a lot of other money so that they could all go to graduate school and like I said, they all did. My youngest, my son is an attorney. My middle daughter in an RN with an undergrad in biology and chemistry and my oldest daughter is an attorney. This is heartbreaking to me. If anyone reads this, please, I welcome feedback. I didn’t mean to marry such an awful man. That was my normal. That’s how my parents treated me. I didn’t know anything else. I do now. Thank you.Oh, and my ex made his mother leave when I left, he no longer had me as the buffer. I’m glad, at least my son was happy and could have his friends over in peace without her ruining his life.

  • There are not any ‘millions’ of words. Just in thousands. Or under a million..like half a million of English words. Most creative and intellectual people only need a vocabulary of 25000 to 35000 words.
    Yes children need to learn millions of ‘things’, thousands of words, many thousands of phrases, complex emotions. No child has to learn millions of words. If a child has to learn millions of words it will take two lives to complete.

  • You desensitized them to punishment by punishing’s them over and over again and by knocking them around and then when older you turn them into boxers to help to reduce the nice guy in them and this includes blaming them when innocent.

  • It really is a shame that in the United States that you people cannot Master a simple skill that other species have you cannot dictate your children’s lives especially when they get older you have to go from being the boss to being a guide you tell them what you know and what you feel is best but you do not try to force them to go with it one of the problems in America is they have tooken away the right to punish kids for bad behavior maybe the old ways were too harsh at times but raising kids to believe they can do whatever they want without consequences is also bad maybe getting spanked was not the best but it helped to keep me in line I can’t believe I live in a country where a five-year-old can get their parents arrested for spanking them

  • The key is in balancing between the good intentions of parents and letting the children do what they want. I saw some great parenting advice on https://www.parentingsuccess.org that teaches parents just how to do that.

  • Thank you Sir. I was in much need of this talk. But what if each parent is on a different note while parenting. My spouse does not put sweetness in his talk and is very stern and I end up soothing them and talking to them politely. Kids now know how to play a game between both the parents!!! What do i do??

  • These kind of parents don’t stop when their kids are grown and married with kids of their own. Not only they don’t respect boundaries they are also very controlling.That is why my husband cut off his mom and she still don’t see anything wrong with her behavior.

  • I love how you make absolutely relevant videos. Thank you. You have inspired me to start my own channel too. I am a teacher and a mother to a three year old. I would love some support and love from people like you and other mothers here. Thank you for making videos and helping us out! We love you.

  • Hello dr my son 18 month old.he have infentilspams he was 4 month old. Now he stop medicine.he was very happy boy he start walking but he not stand on. Dr can you tell this age how can understand me my son brain working properly.

  • what of they are not well behaved at all? then dont criticise? i like your view but i see some parents who never discpline or even tell their kids to stop the bad behaviour. I do not let my kids mingle with those kids.

  • Salmon at seven months… for your “fat head” this guy did not look at science.
    Fish:
    Is fish a health food? The question is, compared to what? Compared to some of the healthiest foods—for example, fruits, vegetables, beans, and whole grains—fish are low in antioxidants and phytonutrients, lacking fiber, and do contain some cholesterol and saturated animal fat. While the consumption of whole plant foods has been associated with longer protective telomeres, the tips on each of our chromosomes that keep our DNA from unraveling and fraying, in contrast, consuming refined grains, soda, dairy, and meat, including fish, has been linked to shortened telomeres, a sign of cellular aging.

    Unless one can access a time machine and teleport back to the days before the Industrial Revolution, fish will remain the leading source of many toxic pollutants. In 2012, researchers published an analysis of the diets of kids aged two to seven. (Children are thought to be especially vulnerable to chemicals in the diet because they are still growing and thus have a comparatively greater intake of food and fluids relative to their weight.) Chemicals and heavy metals in kids’ bodies from the foods they ate were indeed found to exceed safety levels by a larger margin than in adults. Cancer risk ratios, for instance, were exceeded by a factor of up to 100 or more. For every child studied, benchmark levels were surpassed for arsenic, the banned pesticide dieldrin, and potentially highly toxic industrial by-products called dioxins. They were also too high for DDE, a by-product of DDT.

    Which foods contributed the most heavy metals? The number-one food source of arsenic was poultry among preschoolers and, for their parents, tuna. The top source for lead? Dairy. For mercury? Seafood. Eating just a single serving of fish each week during pregnancy, for example, can lead to more mercury in their infant’s body than injecting them directly with about a dozen mercury-containing vaccines.

    Where in the food supply are these pollutants found? Today, most DDT comes from meat, particularly fish. The oceans seem to have become, essentially, humanity’s sewer: Everything eventually flows into the sea. The same is true when it comes to dietary exposure to PCBs—another set of banned chemicals. A study of more than 12,000 food and feed samples across 18 countries found that the highest PCB contamination was found in fish and fish oil, followed by eggs, dairy, and then other meats. The lowest contamination was found at the bottom of the food chain, in plants.

    Hexachlorobenzene, another pesticide banned nearly a half century ago, today may be found mainly in dairy and meat, including fish. Perfluorochemicals, or PFCs? Overwhelmingly found in fish and other meats. The contaminants in fish may help explain studies showing an association between fish consumption and diabetes. To lower our pollutant exposure, we should try to eat as low on the food chain as possible.

    Check out this Video for the biggest study ever done on child’s IQ:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kLfmjU_Lt7g

  • What to do if a child doesnt follow instructions? Like she is very very slow at bathing. Eating… Etc. How can i scold her but not criticize her? Sometimes she doesnt follow if I am not mad. I must be very mad first for her to follow alot of times.

  • Nice Video, thanks for sharing. I have seen many videos regarding parenting support and online tutoring at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SL7G-IwHWx5JKu58rGiNQ/videos

  • they “need to learn MILLIONS of words” by the age of 3? They English language has about 170,000 works and almost 50,000 of those are obsolete!

  • Appreciate Video! Sorry for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (just google it)? It is a great one off guide for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my friend Sam after many years got cool success with it.

  • Interesting video; more videos on this topics need to be made. I discuss on my channel how we are raising my little guy to be as smart as possible. Check it out if intrigued https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8eE5epoOF2A&t=40s

  • go through this ling below know one solution to all your parenting issues
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  • We can’t purchase wild salmon in Australia (easily I’ve never seen it) it’s all farmed. Is it better to use that or another fatty wild fish?

  • Thank you Sir. I was in much need of this talk. But what if each parent is on a different note while parenting. My spouse does not put sweetness in his talk and is very stern and I end up soothing them and talking to them politely. Kids now know how to play a game between both the parents!!! What do i do??

  • Awesome video. Unconditional love is everything; it gives a child permission to try their hardest without worrying about being unloved if they fail. It’s really about allowing a child to grow. Thanks for preaching such positive messages for parents out there I do the same through my channel, having recently started a video series on empowering my little guy to achieve his greatness in life. Check it out if interested https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDXoTnVMhAQ&t=1s

  • I like your style but unfortunately I think this may only work with white children. I’m Hispanic. And although I’ve modeled confidence to my children, my confidence comes across as rude or aggressive to a racist world. So I stay passive and my children do too because that’s what will get us by..unfortunately.

    And that’s what “closet” racists accept.

  • My Mother, Jo Ann Mason, used to say that LOVE (which needs to be unconditional) + Expectations (which differ per person, because each person is different) + Limits (which don’t change, people need boundaries) = a healthy start to a good human being

  • Hi my son is 5month old. He is on totally breastfeed.After 6month should i start with avocado? And how much quantity? And should i have to added anything in that? He was born premature so i have worried about his brain development. Please advise me.
    Thank you

  • Hello dr my son 18 month old.he have infentilspams he was 4 month old. Now he stop medicine.he was very happy boy he start walking but he not stand on. Dr can you tell this age how can understand me my son brain working properly.

  • I tell my kiddos to always tell me the truth. I let them know that they are not in trouble and telling me the truth makes it easier to believe them in the future if anything happens!

  • they “need to learn MILLIONS of words” by the age of 3? They English language has about 170,000 works and almost 50,000 of those are obsolete!

  • Dr. Sears. People like you are the real heroes of humankind and a nation. Not hollywood stars/actors/ singer. Yet they get all the $$ and attention. People like you are the ones that matter. Love you and your videos. God could not be there for everyone and so he made people like you. Thank you very much.

  • I have trouble with this. I have a stepson who is 10 years old. he is always doing something that causes everyone around issue’s. he is a good kid but I feel that the lack of attention that is bio dad does not give him is a part of the issue. I don’t want that to be an excuse for me to just let things be. I want to help reach his potential but I am lost on how to 4ltalk with him. he will do good at task then just unable to do it the next day. there are many other things as well but a start is all I need.

  • This is very very helpful. And this is going help me in the future. Thank you very much to making this video helpful for me to check this video out. I feel really motivated by watching this video.

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  • My parents won’t let me get less than a Bbecause they want me to be their miniature brain man. That means: NO play station, NO YouTube, (I’m a mega rule breaker), and no border movies because my mom thinks I’m a little kid and the Hunger games is too “violenr” when she lets me watch iron man and the avengers. I’m glad I got that off my chest☺

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  • My mother never think anything else other than destructive criticism and sibling comparison, while my father is an immature boy, lazy, coward, anti social, irresponsible, no self esteem, discouraging, etc.

  • thanks sir I don’t do anything special right now but from today I will follow your advice to raise my 9yr and4yr kids.thanks again

  • CX. The Great Being saith: O ye children of men! The fundamental purpose animating the Faith of God and His Religion is to safeguard the interests and promote the unity of the human race, and to foster the spirit of love and fellowship amongst men. Suffer it not to become a source of dissension and discord, of hate and enmity. This is the straight Path, the fixed and immovable foundation. Whatsoever is raised on this foundation, the changes and chances of the world can never impair its strength, nor will the revolution of countless centuries undermine its structure. Our hope is that the world’s religious leaders and the rulers thereof will unitedly arise for the reformation of this age and the rehabilitation of its fortunes. Let them, after meditating on its needs, take counsel together and, through anxious and full deliberation, administer to a diseased and sorely-afflicted world the remedy it requireth…. It is incumbent upon them who are in authority to exercise moderation in all things. Whatsoever passeth beyond the limits of moderation will cease to exert a beneficial influence. Consider for instance such things as liberty, civilization and the like. However much men of understanding may favorably regard them, they will, if carried to excess, exercise a pernicious influence upon men…. Please God, the peoples of the world may be led, as the result of the high endeavors exerted by their rulers and the wise and learned amongst men, to recognize their best interests. How long will humanity persist in its waywardness? How long will injustice continue? How long is chaos and confusion to reign amongst men? How long will discord agitate the face of society?.. The winds of despair are, alas, blowing from every direction, and the strife that divideth and afflicteth the human race is daily increasing. The signs of impending convulsions and chaos can now be discerned, inasmuch as the prevailing order appeareth to be lamentably defective. I beseech God, exalted be His glory, that He may graciously awaken the peoples of the earth, may grant that the end of their conduct may be profitable unto them, and aid them to accomplish that which beseemeth their station.
    (Baha’u’llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah, p. 215)

  • Thank you Dr.Sears for sharing your knowledge with us. The word compassionate was the key in this video. We as parents are not teaching our kids the importance of being compassionate. This is why we have so many wrong decisions being made by people this days. Thank you again Dr.Sears God bless you and family.

  • My number was 6 when I was in nursery my parents said work harder and I worked hard and then I got 5 medals and my number will never be less than 3 means I roll number will 1 or 2 only.

  • If I did mistake with the way I talk with him 5years old…I want to change my way so how can I control my anger and fix my mistakes

  • Your video gives us so many new things so we can learn so many new tips and things I am willing to see your video you are as expert teacher…

  • we failed to believe in ourselves and went with the common “secured” way to success and thinking it is for everyone, we dragged these little lights that hold answers to the future into old paths. Not much you can get out of it, at least not for what it’s intended

  • https://youtu.be/HXzTno0CGBk
    It’s important to give kids opportunities and not over protect them. My son wanted to do comedy and I was scared for him but he was brilliant and he loved it.

  • My child is 4yr old bt too shy n as she has friends older dan her she gets dominated always…pls suggest for her confidence raising

  • You desensitized them to punishment by punishing’s them over and over again and by knocking them around and then when older you turn them into boxers to help to reduce the nice guy in them and this includes blaming them when innocent.

  • Just a tip. If You open video in videoediting program its very easy to just cut The sound out straight som video file and then copy paste it and sync it with this Youtube recording. The quality of would just be so mutch better and its very easy to do. Thanks anyways. God bless

  • Shes the one, any body that has a mom, recognizes her intuition, that sort of nudgeing of consideration, where her ideas shed light onto whats the meaning of being a mom, i love my mom

  • HERE IS HOW TO MESS UP YOUR CHILD FOR LIFE (or what not to do if you don’t want that to happen)… https://lonesoulofmine.blogspot.com/2020/05/how-to-mess-up-your-children-for-life.html

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  • It was amazing advices.
    I will try to work on myself and not criticize my child.
    But I don’t understand if your parents had criticized you all the time, then how you turn this much successful person?

  • As a child I was very unhappy because of my appearance. Most children don’t care how they look, but I was born with facial birth defects. My parents told me I was beautiful, but it never made me feel any better.

  • It was amazing advices.
    I will try to work on myself and not criticize my child.
    But I don’t understand if your parents had criticized you all the time, then how you turn this much successful person?

  • I doubt this guy’s intelligence after he started claiming that to supply enough fat to the brain you need to eat fat. That’s not how nutrition works. You gain fat with eating carbs only too, so this guy’s reasoning is wrong. Although i agree that milk from a mum on a proper diet is the best.

  • Thanks for your comment..I try to use their time in something productive…I try to teach them myself mostly..provide them good books..
    But inspite of doing all good as per me…they kip fighting aged 11 n 8…younger one doesn’t listen to me..
    I m worried as time is flying..
    I want to confess that sometimes I hit them n then feel guilty all d time..due to work stress

  • Wise talk! My son is 7 years old, I’m a guilty parent who constantly yells at him for the smallest thing. Also I always tell him how great he is and that I love him no matter what, Reminding him that mistakes happened and that the yelling is about the mistake not the person. He has low self esteem, I praise him all the time but he constantly thinks I can do it, or I know I won’t be able to or I’m this or that. And it makes me feel so bad cuz I feel like I’m the cause due to too much yelling.

  • Right after Kindergarten my son could not read at all! His teacher informed me that he will find it hard keeping up in First grade and he must start from the basics. Then we followed this reading guide HowToRead.4YourHelp. Com (remove space and open the website) When he started 1st grade, he`s reading and the instructor is absolute amazed and raves about his improvement.?

  • My ex-mother-in-law always is negative to my son so every time he goes to his dad’s house she lives downstairs he lives upstairs one or the other always has something negative to him either he’s overweight or he can’t do this or he can do that so when he gets home I assure him that that is just simply not true and they have their own issues that they need to work out and he needs to listen to Mommy because Rule Number 1 mommy is always right and I believe in him and I know that he is simply wonderful in every way possible and I feed him compliments and compliments and I always say don’t don’t always believe what you hear and only half of what you see.also i know, because he was in my belly, idk i try hard, im in hospital now, so i will write again when i feel beter, but i NEVER critisize, always compliment, and do ask him to choose, if he chooses wrong ill say Are you sure?

    Thank you i think im on the close track

  • I need help. DOCTOR My baby holds her breath when throwing up she’s a cardiac babygirl her heart ❤️ STOPS when when throwing up…how can i teach my six months old. How NOT to hold her breath when throwing up. HELP PLEASE.

  • My daughter is 13 month older. But she not eating by herself and if I feed her; she is vomiting all. And still she don’t know how to swallow the food. So still I feed her all Vegas and fruit even the lunch as puree. I just grain all food and giving. I want to know that is this bad for her? How can I train her to eat chunks.and she is only 8kg seeing smaller than other babies.how much food I have to offer her. And how many times per day! Please let me to know. It’ll be more helpful

  • first of all children are not raise. You can raise cows, pigs, goats, chicken etc. Children need love, affection and so on children are to be cultivated.

  • Thank the Dr for making these videos and for stating how every day activities
    with food,etc..are looked over so easily and to hear someone explain the right amount and the right foods and proper vitamins they need. As well as how to overcome a picky eater and really get word out

  • Agree with this. But what do you do if your kid is running riot in school and home with no sense of rules….easier said than done! Its human nature to WANT to overprotective

  • send this guy back to the 1990s,because his infomation is outdated. Omega 3s and fish are bad for you just like meat, organic he never mentioned, never mentioned vaccines or floruide or chemicals.

  • Please talk about the seemingly obvious and growing problem of bolstering children’s self esteem without any need for the kid to achieve and excel.

    Doesn’t that pose a danger to our society?

    I hope you recognize this.

    Big fan of your audio cassette series in the 1990’s.

  • send this guy back to the 1990s,because his infomation is outdated. Omega 3s and fish are bad for you just like meat, organic he never mentioned, never mentioned vaccines or floruide or chemicals.

  • Thank you so very much Brian! I have a long story to tell and I don’t know if you are able to read and respond or if you have an email but here goes: I raised three wonderful children, had a firm set of rules and also never criticized them. I only built them up, always told them how much I loved them, how smart they were, how they could be anything they wanted to be, taught them about God’s love etc. I took them to parks, made sure they all learned how to swim, ran a swim team for 10 years so they could be involved in a physically and emotionally healthy activity with wholesome children. I never compared them and taught them to always love and be close to each other. It never mattered to me what others thought, I never cared about being popular. From the time they were 4, I began drilling it into their heads, that they’d attend college, and graduate school on academic scholarships. They all did. There was nothing that I wouldn’t do for them. I was blessed to be a stay at home mother. I truly gave them my all and I truly was maternal and patient. They weren’t hit (except when they ran into the street). I never raised my voice to correct them. Punishments were age appropriate (sitting on the landing of the stairs for 2, 3, 5 minutes depending on age) and writing me a letter or poem about what they had done wrong. They were the joy of my life. A huge problem was their dad, he was a domestic abuser, also insisting his mother live with us our entire married life. She could be kind and helpful but she wasn’t consistent. She was borderline personality disorder among other things. They both got nasty when they drank. My ex is an alcoholic. His mother demanded constant attention and would do anything to obtain it. She also too great pleasure in teasing infants to the point of making them cry hysterically, she wondered why my cat used to attack her (I found her twirling around and shaking a pillowcase with him as kitten in it, her taking such glee in doing so). And she professes to be a great animal lover. My ex and his mother had a downright sick and twisted relationship. She admitted to breaking up his first marriage and she always professed to be a faithful Catholic. I am regretful for marrying this man and subjecting my precious children to him and his mother but then they wouldn’t be here if I didn’t. I honestly didn’t know anything but abuse. Both of my parents abused me, my father sexually. My father was also a domestic abuser. This was normal to me and I had no self-esteem. My ex was also 10 years older than me, not much of a difference when you’re older but a huge difference at 18. I believe in his way, my ex loved them but he criticized them, yelled and screamed at them, put them down, constantly teased them, was incredibly unreasonable in his expectations, tried to force food and activities and decisions on them that they didn’t want. Their grandmother went between loving them and hating them. We never knew who she was going to be. My ex and his mother had knock down drag out fights all the time which the children witnessed with fear. My ex yelled and screamed at me for ridiculous things. I may not have stuck up for myself but with my children, I was the mother bear with her cubs (and he actually used to joke about never getting between the mother and her cubs). I was so involved in my children and was so happy to have someone to love and be loved that I tuned out the rest of the world. I wouldn’t have ever left because I was scared to death that about what would happen to them alone during visitation with my ex, his mother and his family. At least keeping the family intact, I knew everything and could comfort my children. My ex was also the classic abuser isolating me from my dear friends, leaving me with no support. I may have been a little too strict during their teen years due to the abuse I suffered which led to many devastating things that I faced alone as a teen. It was my fervent wish to not have anything bad happen to them so I continued with my rules but obviously had to add to them when my children became teens. I was very verbal, repetitious and to the point about talking about the repurcussions of sex, smoking, drinking and drugs and about following the crowd, encouraging them to have the courage to dare to be different.I do have a fault of overdoing things and my middle daughter told me much later that I scared her so much about becoming pregnant before being married since I always told her that I had already raised 3 children so I wouldn’t raise anymore so that if she or my other daughter found themselves in that position, they’d be shipped off to the Christian home for unwed mothers. She was angry about it but she was never promiscious and never gave birth until she married and I would of, course, never would have sent my children away. You know why Is said that. To save my life, I had to leave my home when my children were 17 1/2 (my son), 19 1/2 and 21 1/2 (my daughters). My ex not only always physically sexually abused me (delighting in inflicting pain and humiliation), the psychological and verbal abuse was unbearable, then he finally began physically abusing me and then he raped me. During our entire marriage, with no shame and in front of others, he also delighted on a regular basis, demonstrating putting me in a headlock and saying how easy it would be to snap it and kill me (a technique he learned in the Marines). I believed he was going to kill me so I left. I was very suicidal at the time but then became very angry. My children weren’t blind or stupid. They all agreed with me before I left that he was abusive. Stupidly, I believed him that he would never let me leave unless I had an affair. I understand how very naive that sounds but I’m being truthful. Unless people are truly aware of what goes on in the mind of a woman who has been abused her entire life, they couldn’t possibly understand. Always a moral and faithful woman, but being accused and checked up several times a day every single day during our entire marriage, I began a phone affair that did lead to becoming physical.. If anyone doesn’t understand about how horrendous it is to be the victim of domestic abuse, let me tell you it’s as if an otherwise intelligent woman is totally brainwashed and so terrified and ashamed to tell anyone. When my ex found out, he called both our daughters at college, my father (they’ve always been best buddies) and our Pastor. Our Pastor had already told me that he knew my ex was abusing me. Our Pastor chastised my ex, not me.the next day after a meeting that my ex demanded. Our Pastor touched on about 10 key points and when we had returned to the car, my ex denied everything our Pastor had just said. I’m not justifying that my affair was right, but I needed a desperate action to get out and I needed someone to show me some love and to show me what a healthy sexual act between a man and woman was. I had no idea. This man mostly held me and talked to me and that validation gave me the courage to leave. My two youngest children have never forgiven me and have always sided with their abusive father. Only my oldest daughter has been loyal to me. By the way, when I divorced their father, my oldest daughter, finally ended the second abusive relationship she had been involved with and nobody has to tell me that divorcing her father completely changed her life. She married a loving man who values her.I don’t understand why my other children won’t forgive me. I’ve apologized so many times. I know I’m a sinner and I know I’ll always be one, I’ve made a lot of mistakes and always will because I’m human. They profess to be Christians but isn’t forgiveness the entire reason Jesus Christ came down and took the form of a human man to die on the Cross to redeem us for our sins? They still afford their father respect and also his live-in girlfriend who is quite crass, has a filthy loud mouth and who bosses their father around. I am not putting her down.I am just saying we are very different people.. I’m remarried to a wonderful man who is a Christian and who truly loves me. Why do my children give my ex and his girlfriend (and my father who sexually abused me) so much respect and refuse to speak with me or give my husband any respect? I also gave up my alimony and a lot of other money so that they could all go to graduate school and like I said, they all did. My youngest, my son is an attorney. My middle daughter in an RN with an undergrad in biology and chemistry and my oldest daughter is an attorney. This is heartbreaking to me. If anyone reads this, please, I welcome feedback. I didn’t mean to marry such an awful man. That was my normal. That’s how my parents treated me. I didn’t know anything else. I do now. Thank you.Oh, and my ex made his mother leave when I left, he no longer had me as the buffer. I’m glad, at least my son was happy and could have his friends over in peace without her ruining his life.

  • Waaao,such a amazing person. Thank you so much for sharing vedio. Its very useful for new moms. Q&A boht ����������������������

  • Lol well my family ruined me then lol
    But eh whats done is done. If i ever have children of my own or end up raising other children who aren’t mine i will do what i can to instill the positive alternatives presented here in this epic video. Thank you Bright Side

  • this ted talk honestly made me cry. my issue is that i don’t think my parents have created that “checklisted” life for me, i think it was my own doing. i’ve been in honors and accelerated classes from the time i was a third grader. early on i learned to make my own checklist, to regulate what i was doing everyday, and my parents partially contributed to that. but i thought that their support of this lifestyle meant it was right, and i’m now a junior in high school that has collapsed under the pressure. the past three months have been the biggest educational downfall of my life, and i think it’s like what you said. i’m burned out, i’m tired, i’m anxious, i’m depressed. i have no sense of purpose anymore and i don’t do the work unless a teacher emails or calls and my parents yell at me to do it. they don’t understand that everything i’ve believed my entire life has come crashing down on me and i’m so burnt out. i always used to believe everything in school had to be perfect for college, and i couldn’t really accept it when i had to drop an ap class in sophomore year. i’ve had struggles with mental health for a few years now, and in freshman year one of my friends reported me and my only concern was that it would show up on my record and colleges wouldn’t want a “messed up” kid. this ted talk has helped me realized that i can’t be perfect, i just need to try my best. build myself back up. that’s what i’m trying to do, anyway. thank you for this. to other struggling kids out there: it will get better. please don’t let a checklist define your life, i promise it’s not worth it. to parents out there who are supporting a checklisted life or have instituted it: please have a conversation with your child. don’t let them disregard their own mental health for good grades. at some point they will be burned out too, and you shouldn’t let them get to that point before you realize how much they are hurting. i’ve been hurting for a long time, and getting good grades does not help the pain go away. it only makes it worse. it makes you believe that the pain is necessary in order to get good grades. it’s not. thank you for this ted talk ❤️

  • I need help. DOCTOR My baby holds her breath when throwing up she’s a cardiac babygirl her heart ❤️ STOPS when when throwing up…how can i teach my six months old. How NOT to hold her breath when throwing up. HELP PLEASE.

  • Dr. Sears. People like you are the real heroes of humankind and a nation. Not hollywood stars/actors/ singer. Yet they get all the $$ and attention. People like you are the ones that matter. Love you and your videos. God could not be there for everyone and so he made people like you. Thank you very much.

  • In my childhood i was like super confident talented and energetic kid but sadly some of teachers treated me badly in my junior high school (destructive criticism). Now everything is changed i have lost myself I hate myself but actually i know i am not a bad person i didn’t do anything wrong… I don’t know what to do now? how to settle everything? how to love myself again? how to know what i want??

  • Never criticize them? Always tell them how wonderful they are? Always tell them how good and smart they are? This sounds like millennial generation 101.

  • I had laughs and tears along the way when saw this great speech, as a parent to a teen, lots of the information matched what I’ve done or the other parents have done to the kids. I think it’s the critical time to have a reflection and change our way of parenting, thanks for the great tips been given, love and chores, I totally agree!

  • Wonderful video. My 21 month old is still breastfed, eats real food and has never been left to cry it out. She was an early talker and everyone is amazed at how clever and alert she is. I have actually been criticised by some for not allowing her junk food but I figure she has all her years ahead to eat that if she wants but I will give her the best start whilst I can at this age, and so far it’s paying off. It’s a short time of dedication in the grand scheme of things and it’s so worth it.

  • I breastfed my daughter & she’s really smart.. and I was so stressed with my second baby I didn’t breastfeed him and he’s now 18 months and still doesn’t talk. But he eats almost everything I give him, he loves fruits and salmon and all the good stuff unlike my daughter who doesn’t eat fruit or vegetables. I regret not breastfeeding my son ��

  • I noticed that Mrs. Lythcott-Haims ended without saying what college her kids ended up at. My guess they both went to prestigious colleges (as well as great schools throughout their lives). Parents can encourage kids and be involved without taking over their lives. Parenting does not have to be an all or nothing in ‘either’ direction. Mrs. Lythcott-Haims started out her talk by saying that one style is really hurting children. Parent shaming? from a ‘Parent Expert’? is that really a thing. Facteducation has been a major contributor to breaking the cycle of poverty. If you are strongly encouraging your kids to be ambitious and to do better than you, maybe continue to do that. If you want to take a more laid back approach to parenthood, please do that too. Every child is different and as long as you have the best interest and do the best you can as a parent for your child/ren, it is going to be ok. You are the parenting expert in your child’s life. You are enough.

  • This is so true, thanks for sharing. My son is three eats everything, and loves veggies and fruits. The first foods I gave him at six months was AVOCADOS, sweet potatoes bananas other steam veggies and everything else slowly. I never gave him cereal or processed food, from a can or gerbers. NO processed juice, I still don’t buy it, only special occasions like parties or when we travel and use it as a treat for good behavior.

    In my humble opinion I do suggest to make your own fresh juice and foods besides it is cheaper. For babies mashed or blend real foods and you’ll thank yourself later. Once they’re older chopping and preparing foods may require a little work and extra time but is totally worth it. I work full time, do ministry and learned to manage time so I can continue to prepare foods for my family everyday, I think we can all do it.

    Exposing my son to real food as a baby I always thought that was the reason why he loves to eat but now that I watch this video truly confirms my suspicion. One more thing I noticed is that he is only been sick with minor colds three times since birth (Thank God). So if you’re a new mommy, follow the advice from this video and built a healthy eater. Kiss them, hug them tight non stop and take them outside to explore. Blessings ����

  • Agree with this. But what do you do if your kid is running riot in school and home with no sense of rules….easier said than done! Its human nature to WANT to overprotective

  • my child is active when playing but not in studying…what is a better way to access so my child would pay attention to her studying? thanks for the future respond sir.

  • Just a tip. If You open video in videoediting program its very easy to just cut The sound out straight som video file and then copy paste it and sync it with this Youtube recording. The quality of would just be so mutch better and its very easy to do. Thanks anyways. God bless

  • I ain’t even gonna lie……I’m high on weed and had a thought that came to me, and I felt it may be of value…….me myself have had anger issues all my life…..as I sit her jacked on caffeine I feel agitated, and usually I’m easy to frustrate on coffee……just saying that all these years I think the issue is caffeine agitating a person’s HYPERACTIVITY……I drink a cup and feel like I just took a hit of crack…….something ppl may want to see if there’s a connection…..��✌☕

  • When I’m on the phone and I know they are secretly listening I talk about how great they are and how they blew me away how great they help around the house how proud I am of them.

  • thanks sir I don’t do anything special right now but from today I will follow your advice to raise my 9yr and4yr kids.thanks again

  • Right after Kindergarten my son could not read at all! His teacher informed me that he will find it hard keeping up in First grade and he must start from the basics. Then we followed this reading guide HowToRead.4YourHelp. Com (remove space and open the website) When he started 1st grade, he`s reading and the instructor is absolute amazed and raves about his improvement.?

  • I breastfed my daughter & she’s really smart.. and I was so stressed with my second baby I didn’t breastfeed him and he’s now 18 months and still doesn’t talk. But he eats almost everything I give him, he loves fruits and salmon and all the good stuff unlike my daughter who doesn’t eat fruit or vegetables. I regret not breastfeeding my son ��

  • thank you for your guidance, but i am not a confident person and have 3 kids [ triplets ] and i am always afraid that they are going to be like me, i dont want them to be,

  • Most people have no idea how to be married. If they didn’t have parents who modeled effective styles of communication and relationship skills, they will likely lack the requisite skills to resolve marital conflict which inevitably arise in all marriages. The “open-mindedness” concept may be applicable if both spouses want to make a genuine effort to learn how to be married. Tragically, many people never get to this point.

  • I love Dr. Sears. I’ve had two babies with protein intolerance and his advice on the elimination diet helped me figure out how to change my diet to make my baby’s tummy happy. What a difference!

  • Wonderful video. My 21 month old is still breastfed, eats real food and has never been left to cry it out. She was an early talker and everyone is amazed at how clever and alert she is. I have actually been criticised by some for not allowing her junk food but I figure she has all her years ahead to eat that if she wants but I will give her the best start whilst I can at this age, and so far it’s paying off. It’s a short time of dedication in the grand scheme of things and it’s so worth it.

  • I’m a parent for 3 kids….and feel nervous about their future too. So sometimes i demand a lot, but like her speech…i sometime said to my first child, u dont have to be perfect, you just have to know what u like, and want to be in life, and be serious and focus in that. Because many people including me, entered great college, great company, but ended up of not being happy, i feel like robot, coz i live what my parents wanted me to do in life.

  • https://youtu.be/HXzTno0CGBk
    It’s important to give kids opportunities and not over protect them. My son wanted to do comedy and I was scared for him but he was brilliant and he loved it.

  • TIMESTAMPS
    Bad Lesson #1: Snitching is wrong. 1:02
    Bad Lesson #2: Children shouldn’t express their negative emotions. 2:27
    Bad Lesson #3: You should try to make people like you. 4:38
    Bad Lesson #4: Get good grades or you’ll never get a good job. 6:14
    Bad Lesson #5: “Always the best for my baby!” 8:03
    Bad Lesson #6: Making a mistake means losing something. 10:13
    Bad Lesson #7: Children should never be idle. 12:44
    Bad Lesson #8: Children must always share their toys. 14:09

  • I love how you make absolutely relevant videos. Thank you. You have inspired me to start my own channel too. I am a teacher and a mother to a three year old. I would love some support and love from people like you and other mothers here. Thank you for making videos and helping us out! We love you.

  • Kudos for the Video! Excuse me for the intrusion, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard about Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a great one off product for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my friend after many years got cool results with it.

  • I doubt this guy’s intelligence after he started claiming that to supply enough fat to the brain you need to eat fat. That’s not how nutrition works. You gain fat with eating carbs only too, so this guy’s reasoning is wrong. Although i agree that milk from a mum on a proper diet is the best.

  • My mother never think anything else other than destructive criticism and sibling comparison, while my father is an immature boy, lazy, coward, anti social, irresponsible, no self esteem, discouraging, etc.

  • Wow! This was such a great interview! I’m a new mom and believe in all things natural! My baby girl is 4 months old, and still breastfeeding exclusively, but this helped give me great ideas for when it’s time to introduce solids:) Thank you for this!

  • Mr.Tracy please help….I have a 16 year old teenage daughter, she is upset with me because I make her share her GPS location with me from her Iphone so that I always know where she is at.Am I wrong? Am I doing to much..your advice would be greatly appreciated.

  • This is so hard for me to watch. I raised my oldest like a “bonsai” and he survived me but not w/o cost. Parents of young children please don’t let this be just another ted talk. Take her advice run w it. This could very well be the best parenting advice you will ever get.

  • Hi.. thanx for the good video..
    I have the only daughter and i listen from her teacher mostly that she knows an answer of a question but she dont answer because she is shy.. furthermore she is not good in establishing friendship with other kids at school. Might be of the reason that she is my only child and her best friend is me and her mom.. how can i overcome the broblem?
    Thanx

  • I’m a teenager. I’m literally crying. I wish my my parents got this. I’m not meant for what they want me to become, have my own interests and talents. Who cares.

  • Dr. Bill, I see a god in you. So wonderful explanation. if life permits i would love to take you to my home and give you all he caring and everything that one would give to their Parents. My deepest regards and love to you.. Thanks to you for being such a holy soul on mother earth…Thanks Doc.

  • Dear Parents, if you have kids starting to learn reading then you gonna absolutely need to watch this video: https://youtu.be/w9Lj1KQtvPU

  • I wish my parents have pushed me more. They wanted to give me independence. As a result, I screwed up a lot. The hard truth is when you do not push you child,he/she won’t do anything useful.
    And yes, grades are very important.

  • This video was wonderful. My babies are both grown now but I guess it’s never to late to learn new things for many reasons. Hint hint…hopefully a grand baby one day.
    I’d like to ask a question. Being an adult (46 years) female, can you give me a few examples of a good supplement to take for heart, brain, eyesight, etc. And what is a probiotic for? I’m trying to lose the weight I’ve gained over the past year. So I don’t want to lack any vitamins trying to diet. Thanks.

  • Good day! New dad here. Awesome info about the avocatos. Unfortunately mom doesn’t have much milk as 1 minth now. I wish he had talked about the newborn suplements powder in the market. I bet he has in a other video link. Had anyone seen it? The best to all. Long live empathy”

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vDk56su5mo&list=PL7IRslvuqhLOQ2QP57B3pKHn-ytI4P0U5&index=7&t=0s
    Rightly said by ma’am in the video… good video. parenting plays very crucial role hence parents must take good care of every step they take.

  • Thank you, Brian! I encourage my children by commenting how I admire a concrete accomplishment they made, trying not to exaggerate. I also let them decide little things like which haircut they want, which piece of clothing, etc (they’re young)

  • I think my parents wouldn’t care at all if I showed them these steps, either bc some of them, they don’t thinks its right, or they think a kid is using a voice changer to manipulate others

  • I am a Kid and I can relate so much to this video! I have a lot of bottled up emotions that I sometimes go and cry in my room. I know I can tell my parents but then instead of just being there to help and comfort me they turn it into some teach moment you did this or this is also bad and at some points I feel like shouting out at them about how I feel but I know I am just going to get in trouble. Which this video is teaching me alot.

  • Dear
    Parents,

    You hear
    the word “quarantine” and automatically hear the long list of things
    we’re not allowed to do these days. But perhaps you should think of all the
    opportunities this slower lifestyle offers. As parents, instead of sitting
    around worrying about coronavirus or feeling lonely, use your downtime to learn
    new skills to teach your KIDS to speak and read in an early age, come on!!!

    For more
    information, visit the links below, Good Luck!!!

    https://youtu.be/w9Lj1KQtvPU

    https://youtu.be/RR3reaJHV_8

    https://youtu.be/YN8lUKyBLBQ

  • My parents won’t let me get less than a Bbecause they want me to be their miniature brain man. That means: NO play station, NO YouTube, (I’m a mega rule breaker), and no border movies because my mom thinks I’m a little kid and the Hunger games is too “violenr” when she lets me watch iron man and the avengers. I’m glad I got that off my chest☺

  • https://medium.com/the-innovation/things-i-wish-i-heard-when-i-was-a-kid-db106863a4f2

    A lot of us are frequently looking for advice on how to raise our kids or what we can tell them so they do better. Please check this out if you have time. Thank you very much.

  • I love Dr. Sears. I’ve had two babies with protein intolerance and his advice on the elimination diet helped me figure out how to change my diet to make my baby’s tummy happy. What a difference!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vDk56su5mo&list=PL7IRslvuqhLOQ2QP57B3pKHn-ytI4P0U5&index=7&t=0s
    Rightly said by ma’am in the video… good video. parenting plays very crucial role hence parents must take good care of every step they take.

  • Thank the Dr for making these videos and for stating how every day activities
    with food,etc..are looked over so easily and to hear someone explain the right amount and the right foods and proper vitamins they need. As well as how to overcome a picky eater and really get word out

  • The key is in balancing between the good intentions of parents and letting the children do what they want. I saw some great parenting advice on https://www.parentingsuccess.org that teaches parents just how to do that.

  • Wow she nailed it. Brilliance is realizing in the present moment what you’re doing wrong and making the adjustments. What an awesome talk. Wish I would’ve seen this while I was raising my son. But I think I did a good enough job & I’m happy with the man he’s become. I hope this helps many other parents raise strong, happy and successful kids. Thank you!

  • I am a Kid and I can relate so much to this video! I have a lot of bottled up emotions that I sometimes go and cry in my room. I know I can tell my parents but then instead of just being there to help and comfort me they turn it into some teach moment you did this or this is also bad and at some points I feel like shouting out at them about how I feel but I know I am just going to get in trouble. Which this video is teaching me alot.

  • My god she’s just talking about her kids she really doesn’t need to be so loud and seems angry �� she needs to learn how to stay calm and gives a calmful talk instead. I found her talking style really uncomfortable like she’s gonna kick me the next second

  • My children have schedules on the wall that they follow. 7am Breakfast and Praise, 7:45 bathe and brush teeth, 8:00 get dresses for school etc. It has pictures which they helped pick out or draw and color and its always on the wall at their eye level. This has been huge for them! I started my daughter on hers at age4 and now my son has had his since after he turned 4. They like following their schedule, learning how to manage time, read words (its in both English and French) etc. There are morning, afternoon and evening schedules. They get to the point where they know the schedule by heart but we still keep them up and refer to them. For weekends and other non school days, I make it my business to explain to them what plans we have in advance so they are aware BUT sometimes things change and I’m clear about the importance of being willing and able to adapt to changes.

  • Thanks for the video.
    Summary for How to raise happy, confident children:
    1. Ensure your children have rules.
    2. Empower them to make their own decisions.
    3. Talk to them in a certain manner.

  • CX. The Great Being saith: O ye children of men! The fundamental purpose animating the Faith of God and His Religion is to safeguard the interests and promote the unity of the human race, and to foster the spirit of love and fellowship amongst men. Suffer it not to become a source of dissension and discord, of hate and enmity. This is the straight Path, the fixed and immovable foundation. Whatsoever is raised on this foundation, the changes and chances of the world can never impair its strength, nor will the revolution of countless centuries undermine its structure. Our hope is that the world’s religious leaders and the rulers thereof will unitedly arise for the reformation of this age and the rehabilitation of its fortunes. Let them, after meditating on its needs, take counsel together and, through anxious and full deliberation, administer to a diseased and sorely-afflicted world the remedy it requireth…. It is incumbent upon them who are in authority to exercise moderation in all things. Whatsoever passeth beyond the limits of moderation will cease to exert a beneficial influence. Consider for instance such things as liberty, civilization and the like. However much men of understanding may favorably regard them, they will, if carried to excess, exercise a pernicious influence upon men…. Please God, the peoples of the world may be led, as the result of the high endeavors exerted by their rulers and the wise and learned amongst men, to recognize their best interests. How long will humanity persist in its waywardness? How long will injustice continue? How long is chaos and confusion to reign amongst men? How long will discord agitate the face of society?.. The winds of despair are, alas, blowing from every direction, and the strife that divideth and afflicteth the human race is daily increasing. The signs of impending convulsions and chaos can now be discerned, inasmuch as the prevailing order appeareth to be lamentably defective. I beseech God, exalted be His glory, that He may graciously awaken the peoples of the earth, may grant that the end of their conduct may be profitable unto them, and aid them to accomplish that which beseemeth their station.
    (Baha’u’llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah, p. 215)

  • My daughter just turned 6 months, she’s my first baby so I really don’t have experience. I would like to start feeding her avocados but how? Do i buy organic and mash them?

  • HERE IS HOW TO MESS UP YOUR CHILD FOR LIFE (or what not to do if you don’t want that to happen)… https://lonesoulofmine.blogspot.com/2020/05/how-to-mess-up-your-children-for-life.html

  • Lol well my family ruined me then lol
    But eh whats done is done. If i ever have children of my own or end up raising other children who aren’t mine i will do what i can to instill the positive alternatives presented here in this epic video. Thank you Bright Side

  • I have been raised by a restricted atmosphere where everyone judged me and i have been facing lack of confidence all my academic and youth time. Now im a mother and im afriad that if i get tired because of daily home chores or due to any reason i dont repeat the same mistakes my parents did to me. Please guide me more about how i can raise a confident well mannered child. Thanks

  • Yes that Helpers’ high just reached me as I felt your sincerity in this video. thank you as I will be showing this to my husband as soon as he gets home. We want our baby to be as healthy as possible. Gerson Healthy haha

  • Wow she nailed it. Brilliance is realizing in the present moment what you’re doing wrong and making the adjustments. What an awesome talk. Wish I would’ve seen this while I was raising my son. But I think I did a good enough job & I’m happy with the man he’s become. I hope this helps many other parents raise strong, happy and successful kids. Thank you!

  • Thank you, Brian! I encourage my children by commenting how I admire a concrete accomplishment they made, trying not to exaggerate. I also let them decide little things like which haircut they want, which piece of clothing, etc (they’re young)

  • I really liked the lessons. The fact that you say what shouldnt be done, then you give the bright side.
    I have felt so guilty because to be honest, i have fallen short in like 6 of them. Thanks a lot.
    Only that seeing real people may have been more effective

  • My number was 6 when I was in nursery my parents said work harder and I worked hard and then I got 5 medals and my number will never be less than 3 means I roll number will 1 or 2 only.

  • Great vedio thanx �� I made lots of mistakes I didn’t know how fix them! So I just said only good things and keep telling them I love the alll the time.that only 2things did magic for our life ������ the bee see only flowers and honey ��

  • I’m still breast feeding at 19 months and mines a picky eater so it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. She’s brilliant so it must be true lol. If I have another I’ll do the avocado and salmon and vegetable trick.

  • Very inspirational! One of the things my wife and I are experimenting with, is doing family activities at home. We found that if we make music with our son he really enjoys it and we can bond in a unique way to make the best out of his childhood and also help to develop the brain in a fun way. Do any of you also experiment with this? If so, what are your experiences? Do you have background music on during playtime? I recently started a channel named Songs For Cool Kids, where I would like to help others experiment with music. I am very keen to hear from other parents. Thanks in advance. Hope you have a great day.

  • Hi everyone! Help your children to learn how to read with this new kindle ebook: Emmi the giraffe.

    follow the link
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  • My 5 year old granddaughter was acting spoiled and selfish as most kids will do at times. My daughter took action and told the young one that she would not receive any personal gifts for her upcoming birthday. Instead, she could pick a worthwhile cause that friends and family members could contribute to instead, if they wished. She picked the recent plight of the koalas in Australia and with some help, set up a fund goal of $200. She is beyond excited to see her little fund grow to help her cause and I think it will creat a lasting impression on her, more than any toy could.

  • Mr.Tracy please help….I have a 16 year old teenage daughter, she is upset with me because I make her share her GPS location with me from her Iphone so that I always know where she is at.Am I wrong? Am I doing to much..your advice would be greatly appreciated.

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  • I am 13 and my parents have never taught me any of these bad lessons since I was born. They only taught me the “What should you teach instead” parts. I am happy to have those kind of parents.

  • My parents always force me to do things, literally. For example my mom forced me to wear a dress and so much makeup I looked like a brat. When I said to her I wasn’t comfortable wearing it, she starting yelling at me saying I always raise up her pressure, and will say that she’ll disown me or that I don’t make her happy. It’s like she doesn’t care how I even feel.
    Another thing is that she doesn’t even have time for what I have to say, if I even say something she’ll just get mad or just tell me to leave cause she’s busy.
    And last everytime I get judged for everything I do, my interest, music, hobbies, and etc. And they wonder why I don’t like going around them. There’s more too the list

  • IQ is highly heritable and environment and diet have VERY little effect on it. You can lower IQ of a child with malnutrition and high stress environment… but as for raising it? Nope. 2-3 points *maybe*, but that’s about it.

  • Interesting video; more videos on this topics need to be made. I discuss on my channel how we are raising my little guy to be as smart as possible. Check it out if intrigued https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8eE5epoOF2A&t=40s

  • what of they are not well behaved at all? then dont criticise? i like your view but i see some parents who never discpline or even tell their kids to stop the bad behaviour. I do not let my kids mingle with those kids.

  • Just wonderful, I’ve been looking for “coaching 4 kids” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Elilan Coachify Domination (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my cousin got great success with it.

  • thank you for your guidance, but i am not a confident person and have 3 kids [ triplets ] and i am always afraid that they are going to be like me, i dont want them to be,

  • Yes that Helpers’ high just reached me as I felt your sincerity in this video. thank you as I will be showing this to my husband as soon as he gets home. We want our baby to be as healthy as possible. Gerson Healthy haha

  • https://medium.com/the-innovation/things-i-wish-i-heard-when-i-was-a-kid-db106863a4f2

    A lot of us are frequently looking for advice on how to raise our kids or what we can tell them so they do better. Please check this out if you have time. Thank you very much.

  • I want to if anyone could have ever helped John Merrick the elephant man from his depression and sadness know exactly my point everyone is different no one knows what someone else is feeling and sometimes that feeling can be too much to bear these talks can be comforting but they never Cure people from their problem Because we are all different and all had different problems and issues

  • First food is cooked egg yolks and organic liver. Best book on nutrition is sally Fallon nourishing traditions. Fruits and veggies are devoid of natural fats and deep nutrition. Animal products are priority until 2-3 years old. Kids normally don’t like veggies since they are difficult to digest.

  • Thank you Mr. Tracy for such great advise. What i have seen in my child is that he really enjoys painting and sketching. We have gifted him art supplies and he gets to make his own decisions on what he wants to creat or express. I’ve found art to be an incredible way to express himself especially when he is young and life experiences are still so raw and new to him. I also get to join him often and it is a beautiful and peaceful moment to have with the most incredible people in our lives.

  • I’m a teenager. I’m literally crying. I wish my my parents got this. I’m not meant for what they want me to become, have my own interests and talents. Who cares.

  • Thank you so much Dr Sears for sharing this information with us I have followed your advice and my baby has only gotten a small cold and he is 15 months now.

  • I want to if anyone could have ever helped John Merrick the elephant man from his depression and sadness know exactly my point everyone is different no one knows what someone else is feeling and sometimes that feeling can be too much to bear these talks can be comforting but they never Cure people from their problem Because we are all different and all had different problems and issues

  • Kudos for the Video! Excuse me for the intrusion, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard about Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a great one off product for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my friend after many years got cool results with it.

  • Appreciate Video! Sorry for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (just google it)? It is a great one off guide for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my friend Sam after many years got cool success with it.

  • Thank you Dr.Sears for sharing your knowledge with us. The word compassionate was the key in this video. We as parents are not teaching our kids the importance of being compassionate. This is why we have so many wrong decisions being made by people this days. Thank you again Dr.Sears God bless you and family.

  • What to do if a child doesnt follow instructions? Like she is very very slow at bathing. Eating… Etc. How can i scold her but not criticize her? Sometimes she doesnt follow if I am not mad. I must be very mad first for her to follow alot of times.

  • Giving a shout out to our friend and colleague, Dr. Sears and his latest book, “The Dr. Sears T5 Wellness Plan book (5 changes in 5 weeks)” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPQ54yiKsFA&feature=youtu.be

  • I’m still breast feeding at 19 months and mines a picky eater so it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. She’s brilliant so it must be true lol. If I have another I’ll do the avocado and salmon and vegetable trick.

  • Just wonderful, I’ve been looking for “coaching 4 kids” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Elilan Coachify Domination (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my cousin got great success with it.

  • This video was wonderful. My babies are both grown now but I guess it’s never to late to learn new things for many reasons. Hint hint…hopefully a grand baby one day.
    I’d like to ask a question. Being an adult (46 years) female, can you give me a few examples of a good supplement to take for heart, brain, eyesight, etc. And what is a probiotic for? I’m trying to lose the weight I’ve gained over the past year. So I don’t want to lack any vitamins trying to diet. Thanks.

  • I noticed that Mrs. Lythcott-Haims ended without saying what college her kids ended up at. My guess they both went to prestigious colleges (as well as great schools throughout their lives). Parents can encourage kids and be involved without taking over their lives. Parenting does not have to be an all or nothing in ‘either’ direction. Mrs. Lythcott-Haims started out her talk by saying that one style is really hurting children. Parent shaming? from a ‘Parent Expert’? is that really a thing. Facteducation has been a major contributor to breaking the cycle of poverty. If you are strongly encouraging your kids to be ambitious and to do better than you, maybe continue to do that. If you want to take a more laid back approach to parenthood, please do that too. Every child is different and as long as you have the best interest and do the best you can as a parent for your child/ren, it is going to be ok. You are the parenting expert in your child’s life. You are enough.

  • I’m a parent for 3 kids….and feel nervous about their future too. So sometimes i demand a lot, but like her speech…i sometime said to my first child, u dont have to be perfect, you just have to know what u like, and want to be in life, and be serious and focus in that. Because many people including me, entered great college, great company, but ended up of not being happy, i feel like robot, coz i live what my parents wanted me to do in life.

  • I really liked the lessons. The fact that you say what shouldnt be done, then you give the bright side.
    I have felt so guilty because to be honest, i have fallen short in like 6 of them. Thanks a lot.
    Only that seeing real people may have been more effective

  • I tell my kiddos to always tell me the truth. I let them know that they are not in trouble and telling me the truth makes it easier to believe them in the future if anything happens!

  • Hi Brian..Will follow your wonderful inputs..in fact mostly do e Sept there the rules are bendy in my place,which irks me a bit��otherwise!y daughter is fairly sorted.That said,this is a constant process.

  • In my opinion, I would prefer to tell my kid the best of his desire, which he might don’t know much about that yet. And I hope he can try his best to go for it.

  • They tell us: you can tell me anything!

    But it’s a different story when were ‘snitching’ seriously? My parents did every one of these

  • go through this ling below know one solution to all your parenting issues
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  • Never criticize them? Always tell them how wonderful they are? Always tell them how good and smart they are? This sounds like millennial generation 101.

  • I ain’t even gonna lie……I’m high on weed and had a thought that came to me, and I felt it may be of value…….me myself have had anger issues all my life…..as I sit her jacked on caffeine I feel agitated, and usually I’m easy to frustrate on coffee……just saying that all these years I think the issue is caffeine agitating a person’s HYPERACTIVITY……I drink a cup and feel like I just took a hit of crack…….something ppl may want to see if there’s a connection…..��✌☕

  • Thanks for the video.
    Summary for How to raise happy, confident children:
    1. Ensure your children have rules.
    2. Empower them to make their own decisions.
    3. Talk to them in a certain manner.

  • Try to get them involved with sports, debate classes, learn an instrument which can help them achieve awards and make them stand out from their friends

  • Awesome video. Unconditional love is everything; it gives a child permission to try their hardest without worrying about being unloved if they fail. It’s really about allowing a child to grow. Thanks for preaching such positive messages for parents out there I do the same through my channel, having recently started a video series on empowering my little guy to achieve his greatness in life. Check it out if interested https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDXoTnVMhAQ&t=1s

  • They tell us: you can tell me anything!

    But it’s a different story when were ‘snitching’ seriously? My parents did every one of these

  • I wish my parents have pushed me more. They wanted to give me independence. As a result, I screwed up a lot. The hard truth is when you do not push you child,he/she won’t do anything useful.
    And yes, grades are very important.

  • Great vedio thanx �� I made lots of mistakes I didn’t know how fix them! So I just said only good things and keep telling them I love the alll the time.that only 2things did magic for our life ������ the bee see only flowers and honey ��

  • I have trouble with this. I have a stepson who is 10 years old. he is always doing something that causes everyone around issue’s. he is a good kid but I feel that the lack of attention that is bio dad does not give him is a part of the issue. I don’t want that to be an excuse for me to just let things be. I want to help reach his potential but I am lost on how to 4ltalk with him. he will do good at task then just unable to do it the next day. there are many other things as well but a start is all I need.

  • This is so hard for me to watch. I raised my oldest like a “bonsai” and he survived me but not w/o cost. Parents of young children please don’t let this be just another ted talk. Take her advice run w it. This could very well be the best parenting advice you will ever get.

  • As a child I was very unhappy because of my appearance. Most children don’t care how they look, but I was born with facial birth defects. My parents told me I was beautiful, but it never made me feel any better.

  • Starting at 10:05 for the next 20 seconds or so you are shaking yourself up from your own deep existential fears. And you are a “successful’ person in “life”. Jesus Christ is the king of our souls. And he is more real than you or me. That’s the reality. That’s why we exist. I just wanted to share this with everybody, that it is true that following God is why we were made, and being voluntary it brings the deepest overflowing fulfillment a human being could ever feel. Ever. Not even your husband or wife could fulfill you that deeply. Because Jesus is a GOOD KING. He is. I urge you all to watch Ron Wyatt’s video covering his finding of Jesus’ dry blood analyzed. Also finding the holy ark. This is true. I used to be atheist as well. I love this video too! Thanks it’ll help me so much ������ But i’m serious about what i’m saying. It’s a different reality once you accept this truth. It will set you free. It’s like a veil being lifted from your eyes. The veil is a superficial reality created by the devil. The devil is the king of this world.

    He will rein over the world for a period of time and then Jesus will intervene, ruling for a period of time. The he lets sin enter the world again. It’s going to be a cycle. All to let people voluntarily choose their position on obeying God. I’m on my own journey right now. I still smoke weed, and I know it’s the reason bad things happen to me. We cause our own problems. The “karma” people call it. I hope you take this sincerely. I went to college. The Big Bang theory is a joke. It is not even possible. Not without God. And the Earth is really only less than 10k years old. It’s crazy how close we are to the end times. The truth is seen as a lie. Or a joke. Jesus can come any day now. We need to get ready. It’s not even a joke. Look up “End Times News”. That’s its

    Thanks again for the video. ��

  • My child is 4yr old bt too shy n as she has friends older dan her she gets dominated always…pls suggest for her confidence raising

  • I am 13 years old and I am watching this because I want to be 1 sept ahead them.
    I also want to study in harvard and my parents are really laid back but I get stressed because of mcat and the right score…

  • Hi my son is 5month old. He is on totally breastfeed.After 6month should i start with avocado? And how much quantity? And should i have to added anything in that? He was born premature so i have worried about his brain development. Please advise me.
    Thank you

  • I have been raised by a restricted atmosphere where everyone judged me and i have been facing lack of confidence all my academic and youth time. Now im a mother and im afriad that if i get tired because of daily home chores or due to any reason i dont repeat the same mistakes my parents did to me. Please guide me more about how i can raise a confident well mannered child. Thanks

  • Many years before, a survey conducted among adults. The survey asked the grown-ups, what were their best childhood happy memories.

    The people who surveyed actually EXPECTED the adults would say that the happiest moment was when they got expensive gifts, first bike, first expensive toy, first car, expensive cloths and other expensive things.

    They were REALLY shocked to get answers from adults that their MOST-CHERISHED and MOST-MEMORABLE memories were the INEXPENSIVE picnics with all the family members, fishing trips, tour/ pleasure trips, games they played during trips, food they took together, jokes exchanged, songs they sang together, and dialogues they had with family/ relatives in childhood.

    The children enjoy a lovable family where the parents love each other and care for each other.

    A child feels SAFEST in a PEACEFUL family. NOT in a family where father and mother are in a bitter quarrel/ battle (in court or at home). A child WANTS love from BOTH parents TOGETHER, and not love coming individually.

    Plus the children want to hold the hands of BOTH parents from both sides and walk (in a park and in life).

    A effects of a loveless or disappointed or troubled early life nomally continues for future generations.

    Children don’t like at-all the SEPARATION of their parents. One thing that parents can do, if they want to gift a SUPER-LIFE to children is NOT to live separately and to have any extra-marital affairs or divorce. Parents not to dislike each other, if they REALLY care for their children. A nice, beautiful/ handsome, strong, rich, caring, smooth talking woman/ man may CROSS life of husband/ wife frequently/ occassionally. But changing tracks is to be strictly avoided at all costs. All should think of the children FIRST, not thinking about one’s own pleasures.

    This money, properties are all secondary. Education IS important. But not at the cost of peaceful LIFE or HAPPINESS of any individual.
    *

  • So im a teen. When she said ask us questions and be interested…Honestly sometimes i just dont want to talk, but if your kid just doesnt want to talk it doesnt mean they had a bad day. Just because im in my phone all day doesnt mean im addicted to it, i just either miss my friends and theres already so much to deal with online anyway. And when it comes to encouraging your kid dont over exaggerate, it just gets annoying. When your teaching us something new, dont treat us like we’re two, we usually know a lot more than you think. Just somes thoughts from a teen i guess.

  • “VOTE TRUMP NOVEMBER 2020”

    What I find so crazy is the Democrats wanna open the border to let all these illegals come in for free welfare get drivers license get healthcare but their districts are full of American homeless how is it that they’re going to be able to take care of immigrants coming into this country when they can’t even take care of the American vets,school teachers and young youth that are homeless in their cities!

    Like all veterans, I thank the one’s that fought and died to preserve our freedom. Without these brave warriors, we would not have the great nation that we have now. I am honored to have served with better men than me, who have died defending my rights and freedoms. Godspeed fallen brothers. God Bless America!

    We the People…don’t forget this…the Democrats are destroying our very way of life
    “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.-That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed,-That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to…………………………..

  • If I did mistake with the way I talk with him 5years old…I want to change my way so how can I control my anger and fix my mistakes

  • Thanks papa if you would let me call you that, please help me I don’t know how to help my kids sometimes I found myself crying not knowing how or in what to engage my children in that will benefit them. The only thing that I know is book and pen.

  • My ex-mother-in-law always is negative to my son so every time he goes to his dad’s house she lives downstairs he lives upstairs one or the other always has something negative to him either he’s overweight or he can’t do this or he can do that so when he gets home I assure him that that is just simply not true and they have their own issues that they need to work out and he needs to listen to Mommy because Rule Number 1 mommy is always right and I believe in him and I know that he is simply wonderful in every way possible and I feed him compliments and compliments and I always say don’t don’t always believe what you hear and only half of what you see.also i know, because he was in my belly, idk i try hard, im in hospital now, so i will write again when i feel beter, but i NEVER critisize, always compliment, and do ask him to choose, if he chooses wrong ill say Are you sure?

    Thank you i think im on the close track

  • I had laughs and tears along the way when saw this great speech, as a parent to a teen, lots of the information matched what I’ve done or the other parents have done to the kids. I think it’s the critical time to have a reflection and change our way of parenting, thanks for the great tips been given, love and chores, I totally agree!

  • This lady preached about my ENTIRE Childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. My parents generation created a mess of children. However, us as millenials have to willingly make an effort to change the future!

  • Raising kids has some challenges. I created a book about the most interesting stories with our kids.
    Here is a free sample of one of my ebook.
    This story is mostly inspired by my actual experiences in raising my two kids, Cedrick and Cathrin.
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  • go through this blog to know one major solution to your parenting issues.

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  • Thank you for having him. I am now following his channel. He just verified all the things I have been doing for my son and it just made my heart so happy. Thank you Dr.Sears for sharing this very critical message.

  • with coronavirus; maybe we are home schooling more, and maybe a positive thing; familie’s getting away from the dog-and pony show of the pressure show of Colleges athletic departments. I really enjoy the lack of meaningless athletic sports in this 2020. We have been too long woried about the stupidity of raising our children to be 1 out of 20,000 athlete. Might we develope other more precious abilities towards cancer; cardiovascular disease;-and many other pandemic’s across all society?????????

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  • First food is cooked egg yolks and organic liver. Best book on nutrition is sally Fallon nourishing traditions. Fruits and veggies are devoid of natural fats and deep nutrition. Animal products are priority until 2-3 years old. Kids normally don’t like veggies since they are difficult to digest.

  • Dear Parents, if you have kids starting to learn reading then you gonna absolutely need to watch this video: https://youtu.be/w9Lj1KQtvPU

  • My 5 year old granddaughter was acting spoiled and selfish as most kids will do at times. My daughter took action and told the young one that she would not receive any personal gifts for her upcoming birthday. Instead, she could pick a worthwhile cause that friends and family members could contribute to instead, if they wished. She picked the recent plight of the koalas in Australia and with some help, set up a fund goal of $200. She is beyond excited to see her little fund grow to help her cause and I think it will creat a lasting impression on her, more than any toy could.

  • Thank you for having him. I am now following his channel. He just verified all the things I have been doing for my son and it just made my heart so happy. Thank you Dr.Sears for sharing this very critical message.

  • Giving a shout out to our friend and colleague, Dr. Sears and his latest book, “The Dr. Sears T5 Wellness Plan book (5 changes in 5 weeks)” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPQ54yiKsFA&feature=youtu.be

  • with coronavirus; maybe we are home schooling more, and maybe a positive thing; familie’s getting away from the dog-and pony show of the pressure show of Colleges athletic departments. I really enjoy the lack of meaningless athletic sports in this 2020. We have been too long woried about the stupidity of raising our children to be 1 out of 20,000 athlete. Might we develope other more precious abilities towards cancer; cardiovascular disease;-and many other pandemic’s across all society?????????

  • Wow! This was such a great interview! I’m a new mom and believe in all things natural! My baby girl is 4 months old, and still breastfeeding exclusively, but this helped give me great ideas for when it’s time to introduce solids:) Thank you for this!

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  • IQ is highly heritable and environment and diet have VERY little effect on it. You can lower IQ of a child with malnutrition and high stress environment… but as for raising it? Nope. 2-3 points *maybe*, but that’s about it.

  • Good day! New dad here. Awesome info about the avocatos. Unfortunately mom doesn’t have much milk as 1 minth now. I wish he had talked about the newborn suplements powder in the market. I bet he has in a other video link. Had anyone seen it? The best to all. Long live empathy”

  • Waaao,such a amazing person. Thank you so much for sharing vedio. Its very useful for new moms. Q&A boht ����������������������

  • My god she’s just talking about her kids she really doesn’t need to be so loud and seems angry �� she needs to learn how to stay calm and gives a calmful talk instead. I found her talking style really uncomfortable like she’s gonna kick me the next second

  • go through this blog to know one major solution to your parenting issues.

    https://lifeisbeautifultogether2020.blogspot.com/2020/08/biggest-parenting-rule.html

  • Hi Brian..Will follow your wonderful inputs..in fact mostly do e Sept there the rules are bendy in my place,which irks me a bit��otherwise!y daughter is fairly sorted.That said,this is a constant process.

  • This is so true, thanks for sharing. My son is three eats everything, and loves veggies and fruits. The first foods I gave him at six months was AVOCADOS, sweet potatoes bananas other steam veggies and everything else slowly. I never gave him cereal or processed food, from a can or gerbers. NO processed juice, I still don’t buy it, only special occasions like parties or when we travel and use it as a treat for good behavior.

    In my humble opinion I do suggest to make your own fresh juice and foods besides it is cheaper. For babies mashed or blend real foods and you’ll thank yourself later. Once they’re older chopping and preparing foods may require a little work and extra time but is totally worth it. I work full time, do ministry and learned to manage time so I can continue to prepare foods for my family everyday, I think we can all do it.

    Exposing my son to real food as a baby I always thought that was the reason why he loves to eat but now that I watch this video truly confirms my suspicion. One more thing I noticed is that he is only been sick with minor colds three times since birth (Thank God). So if you’re a new mommy, follow the advice from this video and built a healthy eater. Kiss them, hug them tight non stop and take them outside to explore. Blessings ����

  • Dr. Bill, I see a god in you. So wonderful explanation. if life permits i would love to take you to my home and give you all he caring and everything that one would give to their Parents. My deepest regards and love to you.. Thanks to you for being such a holy soul on mother earth…Thanks Doc.

  • Nice Video, thanks for sharing. I have seen many videos regarding parenting support and online tutoring at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SL7G-IwHWx5JKu58rGiNQ/videos

  • When I’m on the phone and I know they are secretly listening I talk about how great they are and how they blew me away how great they help around the house how proud I am of them.

  • Salmon at seven months… for your “fat head” this guy did not look at science.
    Fish:
    Is fish a health food? The question is, compared to what? Compared to some of the healthiest foods—for example, fruits, vegetables, beans, and whole grains—fish are low in antioxidants and phytonutrients, lacking fiber, and do contain some cholesterol and saturated animal fat. While the consumption of whole plant foods has been associated with longer protective telomeres, the tips on each of our chromosomes that keep our DNA from unraveling and fraying, in contrast, consuming refined grains, soda, dairy, and meat, including fish, has been linked to shortened telomeres, a sign of cellular aging.

    Unless one can access a time machine and teleport back to the days before the Industrial Revolution, fish will remain the leading source of many toxic pollutants. In 2012, researchers published an analysis of the diets of kids aged two to seven. (Children are thought to be especially vulnerable to chemicals in the diet because they are still growing and thus have a comparatively greater intake of food and fluids relative to their weight.) Chemicals and heavy metals in kids’ bodies from the foods they ate were indeed found to exceed safety levels by a larger margin than in adults. Cancer risk ratios, for instance, were exceeded by a factor of up to 100 or more. For every child studied, benchmark levels were surpassed for arsenic, the banned pesticide dieldrin, and potentially highly toxic industrial by-products called dioxins. They were also too high for DDE, a by-product of DDT.

    Which foods contributed the most heavy metals? The number-one food source of arsenic was poultry among preschoolers and, for their parents, tuna. The top source for lead? Dairy. For mercury? Seafood. Eating just a single serving of fish each week during pregnancy, for example, can lead to more mercury in their infant’s body than injecting them directly with about a dozen mercury-containing vaccines.

    Where in the food supply are these pollutants found? Today, most DDT comes from meat, particularly fish. The oceans seem to have become, essentially, humanity’s sewer: Everything eventually flows into the sea. The same is true when it comes to dietary exposure to PCBs—another set of banned chemicals. A study of more than 12,000 food and feed samples across 18 countries found that the highest PCB contamination was found in fish and fish oil, followed by eggs, dairy, and then other meats. The lowest contamination was found at the bottom of the food chain, in plants.

    Hexachlorobenzene, another pesticide banned nearly a half century ago, today may be found mainly in dairy and meat, including fish. Perfluorochemicals, or PFCs? Overwhelmingly found in fish and other meats. The contaminants in fish may help explain studies showing an association between fish consumption and diabetes. To lower our pollutant exposure, we should try to eat as low on the food chain as possible.

    Check out this Video for the biggest study ever done on child’s IQ:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kLfmjU_Lt7g

  • He is talking about the stuff we traditionally fed babies. Additionally we give coconut milk in food and pumpkin and stuff too. Lot of crushed greens.
    Again its back to basics after going a big posh round.

  • Many years before, a survey conducted among adults. The survey asked the grown-ups, what were their best childhood happy memories.

    The people who surveyed actually EXPECTED the adults would say that the happiest moment was when they got expensive gifts, first bike, first expensive toy, first car, expensive cloths and other expensive things.

    They were REALLY shocked to get answers from adults that their MOST-CHERISHED and MOST-MEMORABLE memories were the INEXPENSIVE picnics with all the family members, fishing trips, tour/ pleasure trips, games they played during trips, food they took together, jokes exchanged, songs they sang together, and dialogues they had with family/ relatives in childhood.

    The children enjoy a lovable family where the parents love each other and care for each other.

    A child feels SAFEST in a PEACEFUL family. NOT in a family where father and mother are in a bitter quarrel/ battle (in court or at home). A child WANTS love from BOTH parents TOGETHER, and not love coming individually.

    Plus the children want to hold the hands of BOTH parents from both sides and walk (in a park and in life).

    A effects of a loveless or disappointed or troubled early life nomally continues for future generations.

    Children don’t like at-all the SEPARATION of their parents. One thing that parents can do, if they want to gift a SUPER-LIFE to children is NOT to live separately and to have any extra-marital affairs or divorce. Parents not to dislike each other, if they REALLY care for their children. A nice, beautiful/ handsome, strong, rich, caring, smooth talking woman/ man may CROSS life of husband/ wife frequently/ occassionally. But changing tracks is to be strictly avoided at all costs. All should think of the children FIRST, not thinking about one’s own pleasures.

    This money, properties are all secondary. Education IS important. But not at the cost of peaceful LIFE or HAPPINESS of any individual.
    *

  • Thanks for these video and all things u go was I am going but I had doubt that I was doing wrong now I am clear that I am growing my kid in right way

  • My children have schedules on the wall that they follow. 7am Breakfast and Praise, 7:45 bathe and brush teeth, 8:00 get dresses for school etc. It has pictures which they helped pick out or draw and color and its always on the wall at their eye level. This has been huge for them! I started my daughter on hers at age4 and now my son has had his since after he turned 4. They like following their schedule, learning how to manage time, read words (its in both English and French) etc. There are morning, afternoon and evening schedules. They get to the point where they know the schedule by heart but we still keep them up and refer to them. For weekends and other non school days, I make it my business to explain to them what plans we have in advance so they are aware BUT sometimes things change and I’m clear about the importance of being willing and able to adapt to changes.

  • Thank you Mr. Tracy for such great advise. What i have seen in my child is that he really enjoys painting and sketching. We have gifted him art supplies and he gets to make his own decisions on what he wants to creat or express. I’ve found art to be an incredible way to express himself especially when he is young and life experiences are still so raw and new to him. I also get to join him often and it is a beautiful and peaceful moment to have with the most incredible people in our lives.

  • Thanks for these video and all things u go was I am going but I had doubt that I was doing wrong now I am clear that I am growing my kid in right way