How Intuitive Eating Will Be Your Weight Reduction Weapon

 

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How Intuitive Eating Can Be Your Weight Loss Weapon There’s a new way of eating in town and it’s rooted in self-compassion, not self-control. Intuitive eating is a new approach that seeks to maintain a healthy and happy weight by honoring your body’s hunger signals rather than relying on restriction. To be clear, intuitive eating strongly discourages efforts to lose weight. It’s more about respecting the body you have and trying to feel good about it as it is. “Rejecting diet mentality is an. “Intuitive eating is not about losing weight, but by recognizing your current eating and behavioral patterns and working toward a more peaceful relationship with food and your body, you can.

Intuitive eating throws out the obsessive structure of many diets. It’s based on the idea that all the calorie-counting and obsessing over weight loss stresses people out, to the point where the diet backfires or becomes unsustainable. Instead, intuitive eating involves paying attention to your body, and giving it what feels right. Here’s how to do intuitive eating and improve your relationship with food. So my answer to the question is: No, intuitive eating and weight loss aren’t really compatible.

This is because intuitive eating and weight loss are. Intuitive eating is a style of non-dieting that teaches people to trust their body’s signals—the opposite of what most diets do. Rather than trying to “suppress your appetite” or “stoke your metabolism,” you focus on eating what your body tells you it needs and wants and stopping when you are full.Therein lies the best part of intuitive eating: you eat what you truly want, when you want it. It made me crazy, the ‘you can’t eat this, you can’t eat that.’ I’d lose 70 lbs. and gain 85 back, then I’d lose the 85 and gain 90.

It was nuts.”. Thus far, studies have linked intuitive eating to healthier psychological attitudes, lower body mass index (BMI), and weight maintenance — though not weight loss. Although intuitive eating is based in making personal choices about food, it’s a bit more complicated than eating whatever you want. Intuitive eating also pushes for acceptance of body diversity.

“Intuitive eating should never be used for weight loss,” says Cara Harbstreet, MS, RD, an IE practitioner. “A lot of people don’t understand what intuitive eating is and what it is not.” Proponents.

List of related literature:

Pilot study: Mindful Eating and Living (MEAL): Weight, eating behavior, and psychological outcomes associated with a mindfulness-based intervention for people with obesity.

“The Wiley Blackwell Handbook of Mindfulness” by Amanda Ie, Christelle T. Ngnoumen, Ellen J. Langer
from The Wiley Blackwell Handbook of Mindfulness
by Amanda Ie, Christelle T. Ngnoumen, Ellen J. Langer
Wiley, 2014

Many books have been written about eating with mindfulness, also called conscious eating or intuitive eating.

“Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating” by Meryl Hershey Beck, Jeanne Rust
from Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating
by Meryl Hershey Beck, Jeanne Rust
Mango Media, 2012

As mentioned previously, this type of tool can be used easily in weight loss treatments to help patients make appropriate decisions about what and how much to eat.

“Handbook of Obesity Treatment, Second Edition” by Thomas A. Wadden, George A. Bray
from Handbook of Obesity Treatment, Second Edition
by Thomas A. Wadden, George A. Bray
Guilford Publications, 2019

Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training.

“Resources for Teaching Mindfulness: An International Handbook” by Donald McCown, Diane Reibel, Marc S. Micozzi
from Resources for Teaching Mindfulness: An International Handbook
by Donald McCown, Diane Reibel, Marc S. Micozzi
Springer International Publishing, 2017

To reduce psychological cues to eat (such as boredom, habit, stress, or emotional distress), a client may restrict eating to the kitchen or dining room table.

“Sports Nutrition for Health Professionals” by Natalie Digate Muth, Michelle Murphy Zive
from Sports Nutrition for Health Professionals
by Natalie Digate Muth, Michelle Murphy Zive
F.A. Davis Company, 2019

Indeed, many of these “alternative” methods are really just other ways of making it easier for one to eat less.

“Handbook of Self-Regulation, Second Edition: Research, Theory, and Applications” by Kathleen D. Vohs, Roy F. Baumeister
from Handbook of Self-Regulation, Second Edition: Research, Theory, and Applications
by Kathleen D. Vohs, Roy F. Baumeister
Guilford Publications, 2011

Intuitive eating is associated with interoceptive sensitivity: effects on body mass index.

“Handbook of Psychophysiology” by John T. Cacioppo, Louis G. Tassinary, Gary G. Berntson
from Handbook of Psychophysiology
by John T. Cacioppo, Louis G. Tassinary, Gary G. Berntson
Cambridge University Press, 2016

Intuitive eating is about attending to body cues, allowing oneself to become gently hungry before eating, and eating until comfortably satisfied.

“Motivational Interviewing in Nutrition and Fitness” by Dawn Clifford, Laura Curtis
from Motivational Interviewing in Nutrition and Fitness
by Dawn Clifford, Laura Curtis
Guilford Publications, 2016

These contingencies maintain the dieting behaviour and eventually weight loss is such that physiological changes, notably those in the endocrine system, occur, and these may render food avoidance particularly reinforcing.

“The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach” by Alan Carr
from The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach
by Alan Carr
Routledge, 1999

Coping techniques range from avoidance (not having tempting food in the house) and distraction (thinking about something else or substituting another activity) to, more recently, techniques to promote learning how to accept food temptations or cravings and move through them [119, 120].

“Nutrition in Lifestyle Medicine” by James M. Rippe
from Nutrition in Lifestyle Medicine
by James M. Rippe
Springer International Publishing, 2016

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  • I have wanted to lose some fat and build muscle for a while now but I have developed a bad habit of eating when bored. I wouldn’t say I’m addicted to food but whenever I’ve been bored (especially during quarantine) I’ve been going for my comfort foods which are often unhealthy like ice cream, cake, pop tarts, salty chips and ramen. Sometimes I try to eat healthier meals but when I’m bored I still go back to eating even if I’m not hungry. I don’t really know what to do. I don’t know how to stop this habit. Do you know what I could do to help lose this habit and safely lose fat and gain muscle?

  • Starts the video by saying you can’t lose weight by intuitive eating then…

    1:08 I’m not sying it’s not possible to lose weight with intuitive eating many people lose weight when they transition to intuitive eating…

    Sounds confusing…��

  • I have an anecdotal story for around minute 11. I was prediabetic, my blood pressure was increasing, I switched to a plant based diet, lost no weight and my fasting blood sugar range is now 20-30 points lower and I am no longer suffering bouts of low blood sugar. My blood pressure also improved. I can definitely see the impact. Now I am focusing on trying to get in touch with my body’s hunger cues and exercising in my favorite way (hiking out in nature) and strength training. I am seeing weight loss and look forward to improved health.

  • Thanks Kati this video was very helpful I strugle because I was under weight all the way up until early 20s i found it easy to starve myself when i hit 23 i got on mental health meds and got over weight they made me constantly hungry but then switched meds and got really underweight again then changed meds and got a drinking problem and got big again. Im now about 5 pounds over weight and am trying this method for a while i went from starving myself to having binge nights cause i was just so hungry. I find now that im trying this im not gaining or loosing plus im not getting really dizzy after my workout sessions. I think iv platoed im a size 10 i was having troble excepting i dont think il be a size 1 ever again i think because thats were my metabolism is. But after watching this it made me think im healthy now im very active im more stable i always have energy and im not almost fainting when im really active. So thats something to be happy about and thankful for. I have to keep telling myself that:). I love your videos and am learning lots from watching them.:)

  • I have a lot of respect and love your videos but you should stop taking money from animal agriculture and trade groups and take down vids that include those sponsorships! It delegitimizes your otherwise really great expertise. Please don’t put veganism on the level of keto— veganism is a legitimate lifestyle with a lot of research validating that it is a healthy lifestyle for every stage of human life (along w b12 supplement), keto is a new fad, unequivocally unsustainable and unhealthy (excluding some cases re seizures etc)

  • You are the ONLY other professionals I have heard talk about this. I work with people with diabetes and have been grappling with exactly this issue and recently come to similar conclusions it’s taken me about 2 years! You are, for me, one of the best things on YouTube!

  • I have a follow-up question on the study mentioned at 11:33. Did the study address the possibility that women who had never dieted were at a “healthier” weight or had maintained a “healthier” weight through their current age? I am not being a little “poop” in this question, seriously want to know if this was addressed in this study.

  • You are one of the most embarassing phoneys out here. The amount of Crap in this video i think burned some Youtube servers or databases:))))

    You are reading a script, you don’t know literally anything about any form of exercises and their benefits. Yeah….jesus, hope nobody is dumb enough to listen to your actuall “advices”:))))

    Literally no clue, no knowledge about healthy eating (aka dieting which can be to lose weight, gain weight, it literally means “having a plan to achieve a goal” )….hope the Neuron in your head finds the strength to duplicate at least once:)))

  • Realtionship with food is the same as any healthy relationship ship, give what you get and get what you give. How does the food make you feel physically and emotionally and cognitively. If it’s a positive return put more effort into preparing the food that makes you feel the best. Also don’t be a xenophobia or racist and be scared to try different foods and diets or think one is superior to the other, you’d be surprised which foods your BODY AND MIND prefer. Listen to how your body feels and what your mind think about the food and do your back round research and how they’ve treated their exes.

    Lastly just like any relationship, it might not last a life time. When you stop seeing the benefits move on, don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. exploring until you find your soul plate…mate.

    And if you wanna be abstainant or celibate, go ahead. Just don’t complain about #sexculture or #relationshipculture #loveculture When you fuck up and start fucking everyone or wanking everywhere

  • this is such a beautiful video! many people should actually watch this, anyway thank you for the wonderful message❤️ love from singapore xx

  • I believe no matter a person’s weight they are valued and important. I believe every person’s concerns should be taken seriously and not pushed off to be just about their weight.
    I also have worked in the geriatric field for a while and can tell you I see younger people coming into geriatric care facilities regularly because of obesity. Maybe their diseases weren’t directly caused by their weight, but their lack of mobility was. Whether they couldnt lean down to dress themselves and put their shoes on, couldnt properly clean themselves or just couldnt fit into their shower/step over a tub (and couldnt afford a bathroom remodel), could no longer fit in their car to drive to doctor appointments, were no longer ambulatory, had become bed bound and were developing sores from so much skin on skin contact, they were using a cpap because the extra weight on their chest caused them to quit breathing at night, or they were needing to get out of bed with a hoyer and couldnt do that alone… they were losing quality of life. They had wished someone told them how hard it would be sooner.
    I would never shame anyone for their weight but when I have held patients crying because they are so hopeless from being bed bound, watching their muscles atrophy more everyday making it harder to move the extra weight, knowing they cannot physically exercise is they wanted to, feeling like it is there fault and like there is nothing they can do, hating that they hadnt taken their weight more seriously when they were physically able to, I feel like it’s doing people a disservice acting like disease is the only dangerous thing about obesity.

  • Hey Abbey, thank you for another awesome and informative video. Your compassion for all your viewer’s physical and mental health shines through in this one.

    You discuss how weight loss is challenging in regards to keeping weight off, and in regards to maintaining a healthy relationship with food (ex: rejecting diet culture / not having disorder eating). But I am very curious on your thoughts therefore on body RECOMPOSITION. Through heavy resistance training and intuitive eating?

    In which case, people are not loosing pounds on the scale… but are focusing instead on how they feel / how their clothes are fitting. Or do you believe this would also lead to disordered eating? And why?

    I am so curious if this a healthier option; mentally, emotionally, and physically?
    Moreover, in the longterm wouldn’t these people then have to gradually increase the calories they eat because muscle requires more energy? Also because the increase in metabolism…
    I would love to hear your thoughts.

    Thank you for your time.
    Best wishes.

  • This was a great video. It is often hard to watch those in thinner bodies talk about these issues but you did it in a very informative, factual and genuine way.

  • I come from a background of binge eating, so intuitive eating has caused me to lose weight. I obsess over food less and just eat when I’m hungry instead of when I’m sad.

  • Thank you for this kati, I’m entering eating disorder recovery for the third time (third time lucky) and it’s important to remember not to rush ahead i’ve got a lot to learn and i am so grateful that my body is still powering on after all i’ve done to it.

  • Intuitive eating hasn’t ever really resonated with me. All the people who promote it are thin and beautiful. I have a history of EDNOSperiods of restriction and rapid weight loss followed by compulsive binging. When I’ve had enough I try to follow my instincts but my instincts just seem to tell me that I’m hungry for muffins every couple hours. I have no idea where my real nutritional needs end and my binge eating begins. I don’t think there’s a way out for me. I think I’m just going to battle with food and weight my entire life.

  • Any comment about people who have lost hunger cues? I’ve been nearly ten years free of my ED, but my hunger cues never returned. I always just remind myself to eat at random intervals throughout the day.

  • Hi Abbey, I’ve really enjoyed watching your videos. I am a herbalist and have studied nutrition as well. I have come across this “program” called Bright Line Eating, which I find very problematic in lots of ways. I’d be curious to hear your review of it. Thanks again for your videos, and thanks for getting the real info out there!!

  • This is a fantastic video. I completely relate to the scenario you noted about having issues with medical staff that simply infer that “everything” would be better if I just lost weight. I changed doctors over this issue. I mean I was there to get treatment for an injury I incurred while exercising in an attempt to get healthier. I am really enjoying your channel and only wish I would have discovered it sooner.

  • The explanation about the word obese is great Abby! It’s the reason I felt sick when cassey ho from blogilaties called a woman obese on camera during a “body positivity” video ������

  • Growing up I was skinny as heck because all I ate was chicken, cheese pasta, and hot dogs for like one meal and then drink caffeine free (but regular sugar) coca cola as a way to stave off hunger. I was crazy sick throughout my childhood, but because my parents knew nothing about nutrition, I suffered while nothing changed. Your videos help me learn about better nutrition while still enjoying the food I eat.

  • Embarking on the IE journey and I feel like I’m in the gray area. It’s comforting to see a professional there, too. Thanks for sharing!

  • Kati I LOVE all your videos I think you’re doing an amazing thing may GOD bless you. I have been listening to your clips for the last half a year and it has really been clarifying some of the most important things in life! I am just wondering is there a difference between eating disorder and disordered eating?

  • that is very interesting what you said about the term, “diabetic”. I have Celiac Disease, and would never say, “i am celiac”. First off, it sounds strange, but also, I agree that, it implies that having celiac disease is my identity. I also have ADHD, and never say, “I am ADD”. I also get frustrated when others say that flippantly, because it is arguably offensive to people who actually do have the disorder, to just say that you’re distracted. Getting distracted is normal, having ADHD isn’t “normal”

  • Obesity doesn’t mean what you said in this video: this word comes from Latin and means literally “the one that ate too much”. Please, don’t share incorrect informations

  • I am “obese” and after a lifetime of cycles of diets I now struggle with binge eating. I’ve been introduced to intuitive eating and have not worked through the book yet. I’ve been trying to only eat what I need and that nothing is off limits. It’s been really good. But I can’t let go of my weight goals. I’m sad that I’ll be this size forever.
    How can I achieve a healthier weight without my body fighting back and being bigger in the long run?!

  • I want to try eating food this way. My doctor said I need to loose weight ASAP. I think that this flexibility is going to work for me. Thanks for the video!:)

  • Okay wow, this is actually amazing! I’ve heard the term “intuitive eating” and that it’s “eating when you’re hungry”, but the rest was murky for me. I didn’t realize it was a system rather than a vague concept, and I’m excited to watch the rest of this series and more of your videos!

    One thing I want to say relating to the term “obese/obesity”: I had no idea I was fat. i felt fat, but I have always felt fat. I knew I was “overweight”, but my doctor always told me that was fine. It was only after I was asked on a healthy eating group what my BMI was, and when I plugged the numbers into a calculator… I was obese. It rocked my world! Yes, I felt horrible and disgusting… but it was the moment that made me realize “oh shit… This isn’t okay.” I’ve been working on trying to find something that works for me while being sustainable for the past 5 months (since finding out I’m obese). My weight has fluctuated a little since then, but not yo-yoed as I’ve always been told that dieting isn’t sustainable or healthy. So I feel like “obese” isn’t necessarily a word that encourages yoyo diets. i feel like people just jump to whatever their bestie got results from, whatever ad they see with a picture of someone who looks like them getting skinny, or what they see in movies. It’s more a lack of education. This said, I’m not a dietician, so my opinion might totally be wrong here. I’m just a fat girl with a keyboard lol.

    Hopefully, intuitive eating will help me get healthy, and I hope that does include losing weight as I hate the body I’m in… but I’m trying really hard not to get sucked into that mindset.

  • I’m sorry I have to disagree. Intuitive eating is eating when you’re hungry and stopping when your full. YES you can lose weight because the body was not meant to be fat. Your body has a setpoint and it will eventually get there if you eat intuititvely. It has happened to me!!

  • I started practicing intuitive eating last year after learning mindfulness and self compassion in therapy! Sugary “bad” foods have mostly lost their appeal, and I no longer associate a number on a calorie counter with my self worth. I’m focused so much more on how food makes me FEEL, and less on how I can use food to treat how I feel. I started exercising for fun, peace, and health! 2 years ago I would have said this would never work for me, today I say please give it a try.

  • I am a recovering addict. Most of my life I have been morbidly obese. I cannot stress enough how harmful this video is. Telling a food addict to eat whatever they want is absolutely no different than telling a heroin addict to do as much heroin as they want. I mean zero difference. The only reason this video is popular is that she is telling people what they want to hear. It’s the same with all victim mentality.

  • There is no enough evidence that on intuitive eating junky foods lose their allure and that people start to crave more healthy food. It’s just a theory. May be at some point yes, but we don’t know actually. What people say and think they do and what they actually do a big difference. A lot of people tend to choose high calorie foods on evolutionary basis.

  • This is so interesting. I was very overweight (close to 300 pds) and am now at 170 pds. I achieved this by working out everyday, but also by extreme dieting. I now have trouble with binge eating and intense calorie restriction. I am near a goal weight (I guess) of 160 pds, but mentally, it is always a roller coaster. I understand that I must eat what my body needs and I have to listen to it, but I also feel extreme shame about it. I know that I am nearing a state where I will have to maintain (I don’t think I can have losing weight as a goal forever) and I am anxious about it because I feel as if my worth comes from the fact that I am now ”good” at losing weight. This video and your channel has given me a lot of perspective that I needed. So, thank you a lot!:)

  • Telling a fat person to lose weight is not discrimination, it’s advice, for the wellbeing of the person. People with obesity have a way, way higher death rate than those of average weights. Maybe you’re right, maybe weight isn’t an indicator of health, but you’re not taking into account the fact that almost all people with obesity reach that level because of unhealthy habits. Once they drop those habits, they can be healthy again and lose weight. That’s the reality, you can’t ‘speculate’ on it because it is what the truth is. Intuitive eating is not possible for those on the verge of death. They need a faster, more guaranteed approach to get them to a safe level, and then they can begin to implement those longterm habits.

    But I’m not the dietician here so idk ����‍♀️

  • Here’s the problem: EVERYBODY who sides with your argument on “encouraging people to eat healthier” also believes that encouragement is THE SAME THING AS SHAMING.

  • I have been trying intuitive eating for two years. It has helped me to feel normal eating all food. I no longer restrict. After my pregnancy I feel uncomfortable in my body, I have aches and no energy. Also because of the no energy k would order a lot of food instead of cooking. I would even order in when I really didn’t want to. So I set a challenge for myself to cook for two weeks instead of ordering in. I can still have pizza or a burger, but I just don’t order it anymore. I also started playful exercise and I feel so much better. I am going to continue this.

  • Lovely content! ��I think where intuitive eating doesn’t serve people is with foods that “light up” the addictive parts of our brain. With foods that trigger that, it’s been unrealistic to be able to intuit what the limit is to meet a biological need vs seeking a dopamine rush and I prefer making intuitive choices based on my highest self.

  • You are right on target, Colleen. I spent DECADES in the prison of food rules, deprivation, and disordered eating.
    Keep posting vids. You have a valuable message and great delivery. Peace.

  • I come from a history of anorexia a looooooong time ago but it is always lurking in the background. This video is very encouraging so I thank you for the info. I hope this becomes a way of life not only for me but all those struggling. ��

  • This is so helpful! The points you make about weight descrimination have put in to words things I have felt and experienced my whole life but could never express. Thank you!

  • This is NOT intuitive eating. This is the hunger and fullness diet. Real intuitive eating is about accepting your body exactly where it’s at and accepting that you might gain weight. And it’s about eating like a normal person. If you are trying to lose weight while doing this then that’s fine but it’s NOT intuitive eating.

  • If you are morbidly obese you must want to lose weight. No one with a functional brain should think different. Also nobody actually thinks obese people are attractive not even themselves

  • When I was in the hospital immediately after having my twins they gave me an iPad with apps to order food, review my charts, call the nurse and other things like that. But you wouldn’t believe what I saw there on my chart. Based on weight only, my chart said that I was there for obesity. Obviously nobody reviewed it and consider the fact that I had just carried to full term and pushed out two babies and was probably actually considered underweight for someone who had twins.

    I’m so glad that I didn’t have postpartum depression and it even bothered me a little without that, but if their system is automatically adding that to every woman in the maternity ward then I can only imagine how that’s making women feel and how it’s making them distrust their doctors. I’m going to give birth again in November and will be at the same hospital so I think this time around if I see that on my chart I’m going to point it out to somebody and tell them that they need to find a way to change that in their system so it doesn’t damage somebody further while they’re already struggling with all their postpartum hormones

  • I really appreciate the talk about economical impact sometimes and about doctors. There have been doctors that don’t make everything about my weight and actually make me feel like a person while others I feel like they just judge me and makes me uncomfortable. It is real that people in any setting can treat you differently because of your weight. Once I got referred to get some hormonal tests done because I was exercising and eating healthy and wasn’t really losing weight and the doctor didn’t want to even test me and rolled his eyes at the fact that and he himself told me that doctors send patients to see if there are underlying problems affecting weight and he said that most cases aren’t. He went on saying I’m going to get diabetes even though I just tested my glucose and was great! It was probably the worst experience I had with a doctor. I have been fat since I was about 7 or 8 and I have always felt like I have been treated differently even by my parents who are fat themselves. Even boys that liked me privately would treat me badly in front of others because it was unacceptable to be attracted to a fat person. Also people think money is an excuse but there honestly have been times that I can’t afford all the veggies and fruits etc so I eat rice and eggs, beans, etc or pasta because it is the cheapest. I’ve been making an effort to budget and really try to buy as much produce as I can afford but it is hard sometimes. I can go on and on there is so much that comes with being fat and it is different for everyone. But I really loved this video. I have an appointment coming up with a dietician and will be talking and looking into about intuitive eating.

  • Kati, I’m new to your channel, but I just want to say thank you. I’ve… I’ve felt insanely out of control and afraid since my ED has gotten less manageable. I’ve gotten a lot of comfort from your videos. Sometimes I don’t know what thoughts are MY thoughts and what are ED thoughts. I don’t know if I’m hungry because I’m sad or if I’m actually hungry, or if I’m binging or just regular eating. If I eat anything that I want, I’ll just gain all the weight back

  • When I saw Virgie is one of your favorite HAES I was like oh hell no she is 50 shades of insane… literally an excuse making victim and diets do work if you customize it to your needs

  • Is it possible to do a review of Bright Line Eating? In terms of intuitive eatingI’d like to make a personal note that I tried Bright Line and nearly vomited the two dinners I made it through because the “required” portions of vegetables was so large. I literally felt it backed up all the way through my throat. It’s literally the least intuitive eating system of all, but people feel like failures when they can’t stick to it.

  • When i had found this weight loss program, I felt energized to try it out instantly. This has offered me enjoyment. My pal shed 10 lbs immediately after this kind of weight loss weight. My friend has reduced 10 lbs already due to this weight loss program. Google should help you to discover it. Program’s name is Bella Kaγozko
    good luck

  • Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am 5ft 1″ have been what I considered over weight all my life and very unhappy with myself. At 175 lbs and 54 years of age I was not in a good place mentally. I started to count my calorie and understanding the value that food has in calories so yes I calculated my calorie intake and dropped 65 lbs in 1 year 3 months. I felt I was educating myself and was empowered to be healthier and happier, it motivated me to workout (which I do 6 days a week) and I have more respect for my self because I am in control of me and my healthy life. I am now almost 57 years old and have maintained my weight, I do no longer need to count calories as I know instinctually what I am eating. I so appreciate your honesty and nonjudgmental way of speaking to us, to me what you said that we are all different and that we are not weak, that what works for me might not work for you is so honest and empowering in my journey to a healthy and mentally happy place that am today!

  • To be very honest, it’s hard to intuitively eat processed foods. I suffer from PCOS and insulin resistance as well as overeating whenever stressed, and the insane hunger I experience after eating things like white rice, bread or pasta is something I cannot control. Not to mention the crashes. I’m perhaps a special case, but for people who already struggle with obesity and hormonal issues, we may have to resort to a whole foods diet with few, rare exceptions, in order to undo the damage. I found that a mostly vegan, whole foods diet has really helped me keep fuller for longer. It’s incredible to me, but I now eat 2 meals a day, not feeling hungry in between. The only dairy I consume daily is kefir salad dressing and my latte. And well. yeah, I do cook with butter instead of olive oil (not sure which is better, if you can help me there I’d really appreciate it!) 50% of the meals being green salads with nuts. The other 50%, mixed veggies with some type of protein. I reserve animal products for the weekend and I make my own weekend dark chocolate bars with nuts, dried fruit, oats and bananas. I find that eating a little bit of each, and playing with textures, colours and spices has deeply enriched my eating experience.

  • My intuition led me to eat carnivore… I also intuitively fast for 18-23 hours a day… I feel better than I ever have: sleep better, hair grows faster, calmer, no period pain AT ALL etc. I just had to give myself premission to not be pressured into eating things my body can’t handle. I can’t eat grains, vegetable oils, fruit, any kind of sugar, and even fiber. The worst is any kind of seeds, including beans, legumes, nuts, and again, grains. These give me stomach upset, diarrhea, they make my mood unstable and my periods excruciating. Also after eating even a little bit of carbs I can’t breathe well. That can be milk, fruit, pasta, cookies, doesn’t matter. Luckily raw honey is more tolerable for me for some reason. Once I actually let my body decide what to eat and followed gentle nutrition, I basically stopped consuming plants. I can’t tell you how good I finally feel. I eat plants when I crave them, which is like a tbsp of sauerkraut or a squeeze of lemon every 2 weeks or so. I also ended up naturally fasting and not even thinking about food for the rest of the day. Basically everyhing against Abby’s advice oops. But I appreciate that she acknowledged that everyone needs a different individualized way of eating.

  • I noticed a big difference in how doctors interacted with me when I gained weight. Especially younger doctors (UK), say those under 35.

    For example I went to the doctor about unusual for me breathlessness, including breathlessness when sitting on my sofa! And also with a huge difference from day to day (some days getting breathless, other days not/less), and the doctor literally said to go away and loose weight and if I was still breathless to come back (and also if something drastic happened in the meantime to be fair). I was in the “overweight” section of her chart, not the “obese” section. Probably around 13-14 stone, a UK size 14/16 (US 10/12). Not shaming anyone else, just saying that although “overweight” and admittedly not as healthy as I’d like, me telling her something was unusual for me was dismissed as being weight related.

    This is the most obvious example but the overall mood of being essentially “told off “ about my weight has been a pattern and TBH I choose the doctors that don’t do this. Ironically these are the doctors who have come through the newer training system that is supposed to be more patient centred. I’ve also seen poor trainee doctors who clearly don’t want to bring up weight etc with a patient twice their age but must have been told they have to, and so awkwardly bring it up. And bless them I really feel for them, they feel so uncomfortable doing it. Good instincts guys, you can feel that something is “off” in what is being asked of you. Don’t loose those instincts and become too hardened.

  • Abby! I adore you and I just wanted to say that as someone who really does feel as though I need more structure in my mindset around all things food and nutrition, I FEEL SEEN in this video! I am someone who is intentionally and gently pursing weight loss but I’m doing it from the aspect of altering and improving my habits. I am looking forward to more of your videos!

  • I needed this. Thank you. Been becoming obsessed with losing weight and keep gaining the same weight I lost because I hate dieting. It makes me truly unhappy and obsessive. I eat super healthy but I know I snack when I’m not really hungry. Gonna try this.

  • I’m doing well with not bingeing but I have one of my biggest trigger foods in the house!!!! Ruffles potato chips. I’ve been eating them daily and not bingeing, but I always have to give the leftovers to my dog so I don’t eat the rest:/ I don’t know how to leave them on my plate without completely getting rid of them

  • I love that you didn’t mention any certain “food” and there’s not a lot of hateful meat eater vs vegan comments. I’m gonna whisper this in the wind “anybody who is awake and does real thorough research into the animal product industry and still eats animal products cannot be considered to be human to me I’m sorry it’s too sickening and horrific I know the best way to spread veganism isn’t meat eater shaming but it’s the only way when you see animals as the equals they are and the exploitation of them as sadistic torture and murder” Please the world will look back and frown upon when we ate meat do your part make the change to veganism quicker and help save part of tge world over night or nights this is a lot more serious once you see the bigger picture you’ll understand we can do this and quickly.

  • I’m just starting IE and this is very reassuring. I’ve been uncomfortable for a long time, not as fast and strong as I used to be. I’m about 80 lbs overweight with a history of both anorexia as a teen and then binge eating disorder. I’m also an emotional eater. I’ve been through the “eat everything I want” phase and gained even more weight, as expected. I’m trying to eat things that don’t make me feel slow, get headaches, or make my stomach hurt. Foods that make me feel strong instead of lethargic. I’m finally starting to actually crave fresh fruits and leafy greens and that’s just crazy to me! I was feeling a bit guilty for wanting to lose weight, but I’m very tired all the time, bloated, self conscious, and I just feel slow. I miss being strong.

  • I really love how you’ve been approaching this middle ground between HAES and “dieting” (eating with the intention of losing weight). While I’ve always loved your sass when it comes to commentary on What I Eat in a Day videos (I’m looking at you, Bananas!), I also struggle with how judgemental many people are of people who do want to lose weight.

    I’m currently on WW (Weight Watchers). I do measure and track my foodsand I have chosen to be on the plan that has me tracking points for the MOST foods. However, for me, that structure is helping me learn about what my body really needs. Allowing myself full permission to eat ice cream and cookies whenever I want and keeping a kitchen stocked with sweets meant I ate a TON of sweets. I needed to choose a plan that makes me think twice about when I indulge. This restriction has helped me. It didn’t make me crave them more or binge like many people assume will happen. Instead, having times where I consume little to no added sugar and times where I DO indulge in sweets has helped me see how sugar affects my body. It wasn’t until I experienced how I felt WITHOUT sugar that I realized that too much sugar can affect my anxiety. It’s the same way that some people need to follow an elimination diet to pinpoint which foods, if any, are causing health issues.

    I have not eliminated any foods (except artificial sweeteners because I learned long ago that they make me feel like crap). I still eat dessert with real sugar. I go to all you can eat buffets. I have days where all I want is to eat veggies. I have days where I end up stressed and eat cake for dinner. Still, I use those experiences to teach me. In all, I’m down about 22 pounds since the end of September.

    My ultimate goal is to not need to track my foodat least with not as much precision as I am currently. Maybe this means switching to a plan with more 0 point foods down the line. Perhaps this means tracking sporadically. I don’t know. Regardless, I am trying to shape my eating habits so that I’m eating in a way that is sustainable for me.

  • that is exactly me when I decided to get off from keto and fuck the calorie calculator and eat what ever I want and never let eat occupy all the space in my mind and attention!!!! And now I found myself hating the feeling of being 100% full cause that’s soo not fresh, and I tend to be grumpier, and I totally can’t take it when something is too sweet, I basically feel disgusting when I eat for example a too sweet ice cream. I lost some weight but not a lot, and now I feel like it’s my set point….but really weight doesn’t matter, the structure of the body is. Now by adding more sports that make me happy like riding bikes or klettern or yoga, I’m hoping to shake offf some fat!!!

  • You should do a video on what you think of the meal subscription services like Daily Harvest, Hello Fresh, etc! I would love to know what you think of them!

  • Wait, so I can’t lose weight because I cant intuitively eat nor diet? So, what do I do? And I need to lose weight because of health reasons.

  • Hey Abbey— encourage you to check out the program NaturallySlim. To me it is the closest thing to “intuitive eating” and helping teach techniques that foster that instead of trying to lose weight dieting. It’s a program often offered to employees through their company. I’ve lost weight on it and kept it off for over 2 years! Also know a lot of others who have had success as well. I’m not affiliated with them or anything, I just think you may be interested based on your philosophy. NaturallySlim.com

  • I count calories while trying to be mindful with how I eat. Just because I log it, it doesn’t mean I have to eat it. I make sure to check in with myself while eating, so that I don’t overeat in that moment. I’m a work in progress but I think this meshing of the two can work for me.

  • Wow ���� holy shit #3 is so powerful & meaningful to me “make peace with food” your explanation & going in details wow I write that all down I needed that I need to work on this!!!!

  • Intuitive eating is dangerous! You can be at your intuitive eating natural set point weight and still be insulin resistant pre diabetic and have no freaking clue UNLESS YOU TEST YOURSELF with a blood glucose meter after eating foods you have 1 hour after eating them! If your blood sugar goes up too much your body does not handle that food well and should be avoided or reduced. We are all so individual in our nutritional needs. Testing = knowledge not a diet mentality. Know your numbers to prevent and reverse diabetes and future heart disease,strokes,and cancers!

  • I feel like I’m at a loss. I want to have a good relationship with food, but I’m not happy with my body. I want to loose weight to be happy in my body, and get to a healthy weight. I’m exercising, and trying to feel ok when I eat food, but nothing seems to stick. I want to talk to a RDM, but my parents aren’t helping at all. What do I do?

  • Thanks for making these videos! They are really helpful. As a person with binge eating disorder who is trying to recover I’m aiming for a lifestyle with intuitive eating. It’s a process, but I’m trying.

  • I never restricted my foods in the past and it led to me being obese. Not the other way around. As a?child or teen i never stressed or restricted my Eating or foods… my disorder is wont stop eating. I love food and will just keep shoveling it til im sick and now “morbidly obese” bottom line i have to cut my self off at some point. And if you’re like me know you’re not alone or wrong with giving your self boundaries.

  • Hi Abbey, I have a question/request for a future video. I know you’ve busted several metabolic myths in the past, but I was wondering if there are ways to fix a (long-term) damaged metabolism. I presume restriction is not the best way to handle it, but I haven’t found any other way, and it really is impossible to eat intuitively this way. Thank you for your awesome content!

  • Thank you so much for this video! Really helped. By the end of the video, I was totally into intuitive eating and not trying to lose weight so win win I guess…

  • just wanna say thank you sooo much..I don’t know that there’s a video like this..the first video I’ve had watch, it really made me cry so much..felt so relieved that i’m not the only one struggling with parents with mental illness..now I understand better and know what’s my next steps..i’m already so tired filling in other people’s responsibility…my parents and siblings. God bless you and more knowledge and videos to come and to look forward.

  • I take the pill because of PCOS and as a result I feel like I’m pretty much always hungry, so there’s no chance I can use intuitive eating as an option (I’m also always thirsty due some medication).
    Nobody ever seems to take this into account, if I ate “intuitively” I would end up binging and eating way more than I need (it happened to me already), and that for sure is not healthy or advisable.
    Is there some kind of solution ot at least a compromise to this?
    Thank you very much in advance!

  • In Brazil is different, if you go to a registered dietitian, you certainly will leave with a crazy expensive meal plan that will basically make you suffer because some healthy foods taste like garbage and will make you hungry all the time. I’m a size 12, and I don’t want to loose weight but the first thing that they used to tell me was “you need to loose weight”, it was so painful, I ended up giving up diet and looked for other resources like a mental health professional and good sources on the internet, your channel is a breath of sanity, very needed in our sick society

  • I am slightly underweight. I avoid thinking about dieting, counting calories, or weighing myself. I recently was weighing myself every day and I had to stop because it’s very triggering for me. Right now I can feel that i gained a few pounds but have NOT weighed myself. I know if i actually weighed myself i would be triggered. I know this doesn’t make sense because I already know i’ve gained a few pounds and am OK with it, but something about seeing it on the scale is not good for me. This is just me personally i know it is not the same for everyone.

  • I’ve had this video in my watch later list for too long! Glad I finally watched it, and I am yet again grateful for your content!

    Thank you for sharing this with us, Abbey!

  • Is there no gray area? I am moving away from diet culture, restricting, and binging. I also need to lose about pounds to be in a healthy range for my health insurance. Intuitive eating is already helping me eat more during the week and less on the weekend. My goal is to lose over the next year….it may end up being a little or a little more…not sure my exact happy weight.

  • I’ve been on the intuitive eating journey half haphazardly for about six months. I thought for sure I gained weight after Christmas and whatnot and terrified to go on the scale. Much to my surprise I lost a few pounds. All I’ve done is put food away after dinner rather than keeping it out and nibbling on it. Simple. Wow! I’m really enjoying your channel. What a breath of fresh air.

  • This is the video I’ve been looking for. I’ve really always rejected diet culture and do my best to not participate in my personal life with friends. However, I’m 5’4 and at my heaviest was 301 pounds. I really doubt 301 pounds is my “happy weight”. Telling someone who weights 300 pounds to not to try to even lose weight cause diets don’t work is dangerous. I started using noom which is at its heart is a cico diet. However, Noom does introduce the idea of intuitive eating and teaches nutrition. Also does introduce the idea that you may want to rethink your ideal weight and look for more of your happy weight. I have lost 50 pounds and I never feel deprived. I am eating the healthiest I ever have. I still eat Doritos and Reese’s peanut butter cups when the craving strikes. I guess my point is I’m glad to hear someone say intuition eating may not be the best option but to try and incorporate the concepts into your life. I am finding I need structure in my diet or I feel lost. When I am lost I end up eating poorly with large portion sizes. I hope to someday get to a point where I can trust myself to intuitively eat, but it’s going to take some time and more structure.

  • This is seriously THE best video I have watched in a very long time! I have been searching high and low for someone (anyone) to share information from this perspective. I spent a couple of years learning from a IE trained registered dietician whom I loved greatly but I found her approach (as is the case with so many IE / HAES practitioners) very aggressive. I felt so shamed for wanting to lose weight. Do you coach people individually or have groups of any sort? You are the first person I’ve ever found to share this perspective and it has been so validating and reassuring to hear you share your thoughts. I want to embrace the principles of EI while I work towards finding my happy weight and I need the support of a professional who isn’t going to be aggressive and harsh because they believe weight loss is the devil’s work.

  • I am starting a new weightloss journey by using intuitive eating. Because I realized my relationship with food had become my problem through the years of dieting. I stopped cutting foods out and it has eased my cravings for them. And I’m learning what foods are my favorite to keep me satisfied the best. I’ve learned the difference between full and satisfied (i always ate quickly with 2 toddlers running around) Ifind I make better choices now but I don’t feel as bad when I make an occasional unhealthy choice. I’m feeling hopeful for a more sustainable diet that won’t leave me wanting to binge. I haven’t weighed in a while but my clothes fit better and I don’t feel bloated like I always seemed to. I’m happier with my diet now than I’ve ever been!

  • Me? No. I had no idea I was eating so little protein until I started tracking it. For me a typical lunch would have been, wholewheat pasta or beans or rice, with brussels sprouts, almonds or cashews (or both)… which contains 10 maybe 15g of protein. By the end of the day I would have eaten maybe 30-60g of protein, which is nooowhere near what my body needs, to maintain lean body mass. I was just eating what I liked. So for now, no. And yes, tracking is stressful. Just like any habit can be stressful. Going to bed and waking up at the same time, everyday, I find that verrrry stressful. Would I naturally eat so much protein. Nope, no way. So it’s really about the person.

  • I’ve struggled with emotional binge eating, bulimia, yo-yo dieting, etc. for most of my life, I am now significantly overweight and seeking sustainable change, and am working on my masters in Speech Language Pathology… Although our fields are a bit different, it is so helpful for me to hear from a fellow clinician committed to finding evidence-based methods of helping people. I am so comforted to have you reviewing the research and clinical opinions in your field and presenting them for me, just like I do with info in my own field! You are so thorough about presenting your own clinical opinions, current research, and keeping in mind that results will vary among individuals, even with controversial topics. Thank you for the work you are doing!

  • I’m super late in finding this video, but I’m so glad I did! From one PCOS queen to another, thank you for spreading info on intuitive eating and HAES! It’s amazing how much your body can do and tell you when you are finally able to listen.

  • I’m confused on how to lose weight and fat. I’ve heard that you need to be calorie-restrictive, and you need to be in a caloric deficit in order to lose that weight and fat. But then again I’ve heard that a caloric deficit doesn’t help at all. And I know exercise isn’t the main source of losing weight/fat. So what really is it?

  • All this sounds very nice and beautiful, what do u do when u have food intolerances and almost everything hurts your stomach? Lactose, gluten, etc. Like u have IBS or some other chronic condition like Chrones? It’s nice when u say: “I can eat ice-cream cuz that’s what I feel like” but I know for a fact that if I eat it I ll b in the toilet all day long and my stomach will hurt so bad! How can I eat intuitively when I know for a fact if I’m craving something it’s gonna hurt me so bad if I eat it?

  • I’ve never been happier since I started taking this approach. I used to be an orthodox eater, trying to sustain a super healthy vegan diet, no processed food, that would last 2-3 months top. And then binge… and binge… for 2-3 months. It was a sad cycle. I’m focusing on discipline now. Keeping my kitchen organized, getting my veggies delivered, cooking every day, there are no cheat days. Food’s good now. Thank you!

  • I really loved this video, this is the kind of grey I am living in right now and it felt great to hear a health care professional discuss it

  • thank you so much, kati!

    i’m working on my recovery from my restrict-binge eating disorder, and it’s definitely not an eating process. when my eating disorder started, i had the mentality that i “wasn’t good enough” and i “needed control”. i became really angry and mean to my friends because i felt so frustrated that my body was making little to no changes. everyday i would eat little to no food, and then binge a lot during the night out of hunger and frustration. it got to a point in the summer where i ate two lollipops everyday whilst idolising malnourished bodies that i considered were beautiful. in that time i lost 7 pounds in within 4 days.

    however, one day i was able to put my thoughts aside to go to a stage show with my internet friends as well as my irl friends. i had so much fun, and i recognised that people loved me for who i am, and not what i look like. i decided to go vegetarian so that i can still have that “control” feeling, without it being too abusive.

    today i still feel really insecure about my body and i even have mental breakdowns about it every week. sometimes my breakdowns are out of disbelief that i actually tried to destroy myself by not eating, or about how i’ve lost the fight of me gaining control and losing weight.

    one day i aspire to look at myself and smile, and not overthink my meals. xx

  • I’ve been restricting and binging for so long now, I just want to develop a healthy relationship with food again. I think many of us have been beating ourselves up at night for over eating, saying how we will “make it up in the morning”. I’m reading “Just eat it” by Laura Thomas, and I would highly recommend it. There is a lot of brainwashing done in the media and our society. I was always a chubby kid; I got a lot of hurtful comments. I never thought I was a disordered eater until I read the book. I think many of us can learn from it. I just want to say: IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. You have been told it’s “healthy” to count calories, do “vegan-keto diets” when you have no tolerances or ethical restrictions. We as a society have all gone mad and we call it #fitspo. Stress and disordered eating is way worse for you than a couple extra pounds! And you’re still beautiful!

  • “Operating in the gray” is a fantastic perspective for approaching nutrition, weight loss, and long term emotional and physical wellbeing. In life, there is an infinite amount of gray space. I find that practitioners and leaders in any sphere of influence are not effective when they see things as black or white… almost every topic has nuance to be considered. Well done, Abbey!

  • Kati, I was wondering if you could do a video on hypochondriasis, and how to cope with being a hypochondriac. Thanks! Love your vids! I just recently discovered your channel while struggling with this issue.

  • I’ve recently started intuitively eating. I’m overweight because I eat when I’m bored and honestly force myself to overeat even when I’m full because I’ll be eating chips and “I’m not allowed to eat those so I have to eat them all right now so I can restrict tomorrow” and stuff like that. I’ve found your first points to be true (when you said cake doesn’t seem as appealing when it’s not off limits and you know it’s not what will make your body feel good) and I’ve noticed I actually don’t want junk food anymore. I always thought “good” foods were things I couldn’t ACTUALLY want because they’re healthy but when I evaluate what foods I want to eat I realized I actually want more nutritious foods most of the time. They give me more energy, make me feel happier honestly, and keep me full longer. Sure I’ll still want chips or chocolate sometimes but I know eating too much won’t make me feel any better than having some and once I’m satisfied putting it down and knowing I can have more tomorrow if I want to, and usually I don’t because I satisfied that craving.

  • This is probably the best video by any dietitian I have ever seen. I have seen several different dietitians, both weight lost and HAES and I have been so sad because I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere and I feel all alone. This really helped me feel better. Food is such a sensitive topic for everyone and I wish more people understood that we are all different and have different needs.

  • I love that you’re so woke about how to address folks w/ diabetes, obesity, etc., while also understanding we all need positive relationships with actual NUTRITION not just being thin. V refreshing on YouTube!

  • Thanks so much for making this. I struggle a lot with eating sugar and shaming myself for it, so this is a great stepping stone for me.

  • Hi, I have a question!
    I’m not vegan but I wanted to know can you be vegan and still be intuitive eating? Because being vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian, dairy-free, etc(weather we want it or not) is a way of restricting, even if it’s not for health or weight motives it still is restriction right? Like if you do follow a type of restriction you can still call it intuitive eating?

  • I’m sorry but I find these postulations ridiculous. Eating unlimited amounts of food whenever you want is not going to lead to some physical “equilibrium” or even necessarily a healthy relationship with food. Telling people that it’s okay to be fat is a uniquely Western perspective and does not lead to happiness for many people. Also, many times we don’t realize that our “intuitive eating” is actually just masking deeply repressed emotions that will never surface, even with professional help. Thus, we don’t even need food, and “therapists/dietitians” try to soothe us by telling us it’s okay to be fat. Reject diet culture all you want, but it’s not going anywhere.

    And I’d be willing to bet that the majority of women who claim they are happy with a big body are only fooling themselves. Larger bodies are collectively seen as less attractive, and the negative feedback they receive is no joke and has a huge effect on self-esteem. Furthermore, eating excess amounts of food actually enlarges the stomach and leads to increased cravings and intake. Set point theory is a controversial THEORY. You CAN make peace with food AND lose weight by eating when and ONLY when you’re hungry. This is what intuitive eating should be.

  • I just want to put it out here so someone sees this and relates to what I feel… I know that staying fit and wanting a flat ab is all that there is in this world but after dieting and losing my weight and trying to maintain it with diet has driven me crazy… it actually doesn’t make me happy… I love this intuitive eating… who says this is bad and that is good? It should be your body and you should hear it out and follow… stay happy with ur body and just focus on keeping it happy and nourished

  • Thanks for this vid Abbey!
    I’m 20lbs down in 7 weeks and have 14lbs to go. My diet before was unhealthy foods and fast food. Binging constantly until I felt sick. The word “moderation” was not in my vocabulary. My diet now, following Slimming World, is healthy. I’m active, I’m educated and I’m enjoying learning about nutrition. I cook my own meals, I prep, I experiment. This is completely new to me and seeing my body change and my skin clear up and the way I feel change for the better I can’t go back. Once I’m at target, I can see it being really hard to stay there. I plan to do the “diet” Mon-Fri and then use my weekends to eat what I want. BUT, to be conscious about my behaviours. Be conscious about restricting too much and binging. If I want something off plan in the week I’ll have it in moderation or save it for the weekend. I know this isn’t intuitive but I’m still getting there.
    I often experience mouth hunger and sitting down to check in on my reasons for wanting to eat something has helped me reassess what I need. If my mouth says “I want a family sized bar of chocolate”, I take the time to think about why. I step back for a few minutes, and I reassess. Usually I opt for a fun size bar and a yoghurt instead. But I’ll allow myself planned “cheats” (sorry, I know that’s a bad word!) and not feel bad about them. It keeps me on track and if I gain a little weight one week oh well, I can lose it again.
    I’ve definitely developed disorderly viewing behaviours because I’m binging your videos this month! Haha, but really, you’ve taught me a lot. And I know I still have a lot to learn.
    Thanks again Abbey! ��

  • You have discovered what I have felt deep down for a long time. Intuitive eating has given me a sense of freedom, and made me release my self-condemnation. At the same time, some gentle structure helps people feel safe within the boundaries.

    And yes, some personalities can absolutely lose weight following diets. There’s no way to refute that evidence.
    I’m watching you for more on weight loss while eating intuitively.
    Thanks!

  • This bringing me to tears. Thanks for your honesty and willingness to engage with these tough questions. I’ve been looking for clarity on this for a long time and your thoughts really help!

  • I really appreciate the living in gray. I am just starting to embrace the intuitive eating lifestyle but also am a little higher than my happy weight. Dropping WW which was only causing restriction and binging. Focusing on listening to my body everyday with the intention to drop about 10 pounds slowly. It might end up being a little less or a little more. The number isn’t so important but my health is the focus.

  • It disturbs me that there are dietitians who would turn people away because they want to lose weight. I can understand if someone with an eating disorder comes to you and you turn them away but if someone wants to lose weight with no disorders you should always help them. I’m a great example. I’m not considered obese…I’m slightly overweight but due to my mild CP my doctor has recommended I stay at the lower end of my weight bracket for my joints and agility. So I don’t “look unhealthy” but I am. And when I get to my goal many people are going to think I can afford to gain some weight back but for my quality of life I shouldn’t. HAES dietitians have a right to do what they want but I personally think people shouldn’t be turned away JUST because they want to lose weight.

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  • I lost weight with intuitive eating. I am 5’9 and went from 140 to 133 pounds. I truly eat whatever I want, whenever I want with no restrictions. Sometimes I eat candy or even ice cream for breakfast but then I always crave something more nutritious for the other meals. I don’t think about food at all. Listen to your bodies, folks!

  • I really like your channel and think you generally have a balanced approach by thinking of intuitive eating as a skill that is learned over time. That said, I find your angst over how to deal with clients who want to lose weight somewhat triggering. You always seem to assume a smaller body as the default, even in this video about weight loss!! Not everyone who wants to lose weight is just buying into toxic diet culture. We are also in the midst of an obesity epidemic, in addition to a diet culture epidemic. The two are not contradictory. Yes the pursuit of weight loss has some risks like falling into disordered eating. But not addressing obesity also has MAJOR health risks, and thus fat loss is a very reasonable goal to have for many people. I say this as someone who is obese and has struggled with obesity since childhood. I appreciate the growth that you have had on this subject, and I do think you have come to a much more balanced approach here. But your repeatedly denying fat loss as a good goal to have is frustrating

  • I think personally it’s weird to consider being ‘in the grey’. Surely it’s not grey to want to help a client in the best way you can. It would be unethical to help someone with disordered eating lose weight yes. But it would also be unethical to deny help to someone who needs to lose weight for whatever reason. A family member has been told that she can’t get surgery which would improve her quality of life vastly unless she loses weight. In that case, it would be negligent to refuse help to that client!

  • In my experience, losing my weight is about feeling better, more active. Like you say, the body is smart and know where it feels more comfortable. Not so heavy and tired. I’m not too overweight, but my body is just not comfortable where it’s at. ����‍♀️

  • I love this flexibility! (As far as nutrition goes…..uh, not on board with that approach to a spiritual life, but that’s a whole different issue ��) My husband and I are definitely a good example of people who have to approach things differently. My husband can weigh himself every day just to “keep an eye on it” and he’s fine. Weighing myself is very psychologically stressful for me and so I hardly ever do it, and that’s just what works for us. You’re a human too, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Way to keep learning, questioning and growing!

  • This was really great thank you. I have ME and fibromyalgia and i feel such a huge desire and pressure to lose weight so i can have more energy, as since ive got fatter i have less energy. But like you said there are probably other ways i can improve my energy without trying to lose weighti will have to think about this.
    Also can i askwhat if you are an emotional eater? Should you try not to comfort eat like the IE book says? I never understood that part because surely that means never eating cheesecake or pizza again, considering they are probably not our body’s favourite things. Thank you. ☺X

  • Thank you! I am currently working through the IE workbook, learning more about my own relationship with food and even more about my troubled body image but I am also convinced that some weight loss could be very helpful to my health (chronic undefined back and hip pain). So I’m trying to honor my nutritional needs and nourish myself while making little tweaking measures to change my eating habits. I started with evaluating some of my current eating patterns that are working for me-helping me feel satisfied and energized and changing things that aren’t working like mindless snacking (instead planning nourishing snacks) and adding movement that I enjoy and feels good. Like you said, always with kindness and just a little bit at a time.

  • I really appreciate this video because I have become consumed with counting macros while I’m carb cycling. I’ve not been enjoying the process and I think this will free me up to enjoy it more. Thank you!

  • I have some concerns about my Gluten/Dairy/Soy-Free diet and how it relates to IE. I definitely don’t crave soy or gluten. Lately things like Brie and blue cheese seem so enticing. It’s hard! Perhaps I should give them a try just to see if my body is still unable to handle those food physiologically. Actually I do crave bread now that I think about it. I think I have been craving the texture of french and sourdough bread but it’s the texture for me… anyone else able to relate? Anyone dealing with food allergies as well as disordered eating?

  • Hi Kati
    Whenever I take holiday from work to spend at home and ‘relax ‘ I never can quite relax. I get so stressed to make the most of my time even though I am wasting it being stressed. I get scared of being lonely and not enjoying my week off. And I can’t control it. Even if I tell myself there’s no point in stressing my body is unconsciously getting stressed. I’ll wake up with my heart beating and having not slept enough. And this will ruin my day as I will spend it tired as well as lonely and stressed. Do you have any advice? Thanks
    Jasmine

  • I like a lot of the things you say and how you try to beopen to other perspectives.
    Nevertheless if someone is heavily overweight (like me in the past) and feels constantly bad and unhealthy due to their weight it´s really difficult to hear all those ppl portraying weight loss as sth that´s probably not a good idea. Of course everyone has to decide if they want to lose weight or not like you stated and of course all bodies and shapes deserve the same respect but still I think critizing intentional weight loss this much is as toxic as “diet culture talk”
    I also think that stuff like counting calories are nothing you should do in the long term but for me it was really helpful in the beginning of my weight loss journey since this was a way where I didn´t need to restrict any food groups, could eat everything I wanted to have as long as it was in moderation, enjoyed the food even more since I didn´t need to feel guilty for eating “unhealthy” foods like I felt before. It was really important to me bc I was to out of touch with my body´s signals to lose weight just by listening to them and since my weight was a constant burden for me, not losing weight was no option.
    Since I had this calorie goal with just a slight deficit it was really easy to maintain, I never felt hungry, I learned how to get satiated without eating too much and not undereating like I sometimes did before when wanting to lose weight.

    I know everybody is different and I really understand where you´re coming from and that you´ve got another perspective than me but I just wanted to state my own opinion. For me it was the right thing since I lost a lot of weight, finally feel happy and healthy again and don´t struggle with food for the first time in my life plus don´t find it difficult to keep the weight off.

  • First of all, the quality of this video is amazing! I love the minimalistic set-up and minimal pop-ups. I hope you make more of these types of videos. They help to not overload my brain with pistures and colors but still provide life-savingly useful information!

    Second, I am definitely going to check out this book. I think it will really help me because I’ve been struggling with food lately. I hope I can get my hands on it here in Russia.

  • I don’t agree. You can eat intuitively because of your vast knowledge of food groups ans and micronutrients, you’re able to make a balanced as a dietician. We regular humans can’t do that. I was overweight for many years and developed insuline resistance, counting calories made me realise how much I really needed, I learned portion sizing and also tracked micro for foods not just macros. I’ve been eating intuitively ever since I reached a normal weight and I’m able to maintain it but only and exclusively because calorie counting helped me learn portion sizing and I can measure food with my eyes now instead of a scale.

  • Abbey, you are helping me so much by making this intuitive eating series. I’ve been struggling with the full range of disordered eating for five years, and stumbling upon your content is the first time I’ve really understood what it can mean to accept love and respect for your body. Hearing someone be able to objectively describe a very confusing diet-world with such an open and understanding attitude genuinely put me to tears. The good you are doing on this platform is more than you know! Thank you!

  • Weight loss is the outcome, not the purpose. I lost a lot of weight in the past several years. I found the reason why one gains weight is mainly that he or she doesn’t have a good relationship with food or have a healthy lifestyle. Stop eating while feeling full, and have food that is healthy and satisfying. Last but not least, listen to the body and then choose the right food and ways to eat. It’s all about balance. If the food and lifestyle break the balance inside the body, it feels uncomfortable. I am still working on a sustainable diet and learning to make better choices. Btw buying vegetables from local farmers makes me happy.

  • 8:00…okay but what if said ED is binge only or food addiction? Is it unethical to help a client lose weight then if its medically necessary? What if losing weight goes along with their recovery to prevent/assist with potential weight related health issues?

  • Hi, I’m well over 350 pounds and I feel completely hopeless. My desperation to be healthy enough to move without pain and play with my kids overwhelms me. I have done a lot of work on the eating disorder aspect with a mentor and therapist but since the Corona virus I haven’t been able to or afford to meet with them. I feel lost. My eating disorder mentor helped me a ton to overcome food rules and restriction. I really dont feel I have any specific food rules or fears anymore. I used to have tons! But, she would always tell me there is no healthy way to lose weight and even thinking about weight loss was unhealthy. I feel like I have to do something! I really need help! I haven’t weighed myself in over a year but I do know I am busting out of my size 24 plus jean’s. I cant just keep eating whatever I want and sitting on my butt and pretending I’m just going to magically drop into the perfect size. I need real help!

  • It’s easy and unfair to say that weight loss is dangerous or unhealthy when are so slim and good looking. Just not fair. And I never hear you suggest any healthy “the right way” methods of losing weight. Being obese is not healthy or attractive why should we want to stay like that? I really don’t get it. And, also, if all dietitians are leaning away from weight loss, then what is your job? Lol what do they do now then? Wasn’t this the primary job of dietitians is to teach people how to eat healthy, not be obese and be healthy? My example, I was 60-70 kgs before kids, now I’m 100-105. It’s hard to exercise, to bend down, to have sex… why should I love this body? It’s like saying “love your flu, it’s part of you”… tf? Obesity is a disease, we need to heal ourselves, not embrace it. man… maybe make a video where you teach us a healthy way to lose weight? Or decrease BMI…

  • Would love your opinion on prolonged fasting, intermittent fasting, water fast and dry fasts too? Are they all fad diets and what about their other advantages besides weight loss?

  • There is something I wish more HAES/ Intutive Eating/Anti-Diet/Body Positvity influencers would address.

    There is a lot out there about how our bodies are biologically predisposed to seek foods that are high in fat, salt, and sugar because those are the things that helped our paleolithic ancestors survive. A LOT of money in the food industry is going into research to find the right balance of those elements to encourage consumers to eat more. (It’s not a cruel attempt to make everyone fat. It’s purely a money issue. Lay’s just wants you to eat more chips because it fills their pockets).

    I can see how people can learn to listen to their body’s signals and trust their body when it comes to eating foods that are more or less directly from nature. However, what about highly processed foods that are designed to make consumers want to eat more of them? Why has nobody addressed the psychological and biological impact of highly processed foods in regards to intuitive eating?

    Now, I’m not saying highly processed foods are bad in any way, but I do feel like this is something that needs to be addressed because while eliminating foods for an arbitrary reason (ie: it’s “bad”) can lead to disordered eating patterns, I believe that intuitive eating may be more difficult for people who live in “food deserts” and eat too many highly processed foods simply because of all of the salt, fat, and sugar in the foods and how it affects the body.

    I would love to hear your thoughts about this.

  • I don’t have a eating disorder but i have a hard time eating correctly. For example I will fast for 2 days then eat like 1 small meal the third day and sometimes I than will over eat but not binge. A year ago I had lost A LOT of weight and it really worried my family. I’m not sure how to work up to having a better relationship with food.

  • I can’t throw away my scales ( for my weight) i worry too much, and they really help me, reasure me, stop my mind from going crazy thinking i’ve gained weight when i hav’nt…. ( I’m french by the way)

    Edit 1year After: I have thrown the scales away. And I’m trying to eat with intuitive.

  • Yes yes yes! I’m so proud of you for speaking out about your true opinion even if people strongly disagree with you. I completely agree with you that fad, restrictive diets dont work in the long term. But people can and do lose weight slowly through making healthier diet choices that are sustainable and balanced in the long run. I have, and I have seen many of my clients achive this. ��

  • I’m happy to have found your videos. I am not even 30 and have diet cycled so many times. I did keto after my second baby and lost weight but put it all back on and an extra 30-40 lbs in a very short amount of time. I have been having a hard time with this new body and just want to get back to pre-baby where I was much more comfortable with myself. I think intuitive eating would be more healthy for me mentally but it’s very hard for me to let go of the desire/need to be a smaller size. I was never “skinny” but I was comfortable-ish.

  • As a person who is JUST entering the “food freedom” journey and turning away from diet culture, I found this video SO endearing. I often find myself stuck between the “screw diet culture” but “make sure your health isn’t in jeopardy” mentality, and it’s super conflicting. With the abandonment of diet culture, its inevitable (for me at least) to not gain weight. I’ve recently gone from a busy work schedule and eating 1-2 meals a day, to being in quarantine and eating 3 mostly healthy meals a day, and with this has come weight gain. Although I know this is exactly what my body needs in order to repair itself, I find myself uncomfortable and not recognizing my body anymore. I’m now entering a journey of wanting to lose weight in an ethical, long-lasting way and in a way that feels right for my body. Like you said its a VERY slippery slope as I catch myself thinking about past bad habits. I’m hoping through intuitive eating and incorporating your behavioral techniques that I’ll be able to achieve my goal without the constant negative dieting techniques I’ve learned in the past. Thank you for this!

  • this is really just buzz words that result in the same end goal. let’s face it, if an overweight person comes to you to eat more healthy, they are going to lose weight anyways. that’s how it works

  • Thank you SO MUCH for making this video. When I first started looking into intuitive eating, it made so much sense to me. I was like, this is great, this sounds like a much more sustainable way to reach a healthier weight without having to stress about calories or carbs or setting meal times. I even started listening to podcasts about it, and they are SO DISCOURAGING. The podcast Food Psych especially, she’ll bring on guests and they’ll mention they started out wanting to lose weight through intuitive eating and they both have a great laugh about the ridiculousness of someone “in a larger body” trying to become “someone in a smaller body” and how diets don’t work, and HAES and you need to make peace with the body you’re in…

    I’m 100 lbs overweight. I’m physically uncomfortable. And this movement is telling me that I basically have to suck it up because I’ll never be able to get to a size I’m comfortable with. It made me want to give up and keep binge eating if it was going to be pointless anyway.

  • Nice video content! Sorry for the intrusion, I am interested in your opinion. Have you ever tried Dinanlinson Natural Beauty Approach (should be on google have a look)? It is a good one of a kind product for learning what to eat to look younger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some decent things about it and my cooworker at last got amazing results with it.

  • Awesome content ❤️ Thank you Kati ��
    My biggest take-away: food isn’t good or bad.
    Every food serves a purpose in our lives.
    This made me think of simply having preference based on what I like and my personal intentions for myself. A subtle yet profound breakthrough. Thank you ������

    And… what if all of my emotions have a place and serve a purpose in my life too??? �� what if instead of being overly active in trying to control my experiences aka the people / places & things that cause me to feel a certain way, I can simply observe what I’m feeling, why I feel it, and explore the question do I want to create the experience of feeling a certain feeling again or not? (Be accountable, take action to care for myself, change me if need be)

    Thank you for your kindness and generosity. This type of caring has been / is extremely elusive. You are appreciated ��❤️��

  • I think HAES is almost a form of gaslighting: “you don’t really want to lose weight, that’s just the modern culture telling you that.” I find that disgusting. Weight loss comes with benefits and sometimes it is indicated. HAES is fatalism.

  • This video really opened my eyes and helped me understand what I’m going through. You’re so awesome and I love what you do keep doing it!!! This helped me so much ❤️

  • I find myself a bit perplexed by this. In mainstream media we see a lot of fat shaming and resistance against the body acceptance or HAES movements. Interestingly, fitness “experts” like Jillian Michaels claims one thing and have the support of so many (unqualified) people, but many of the actual diet and nutrition experts have a complete opposite stance.

  • The thing about people in the haes movement saying that it’s ‘impossible to lose weight and sustain it’ is that there are so many people who are living proof that this isn’t the case, and who also do not have eating disorders/disordered eating (or have overcome them in a healthy way with therapists, as they would/should regardless of losing or gaining weight). There are plenty of people who have shared their weight loss journey and continue to be positive and even body positive ( ObeseToBeast is a great example!). Just how individuals who have restrictive disordered eating should not focus on portion control, shouldn’t those who suffer from binge eating disorder have portion control at the forefront alongside intuitive eating principles? (And, as I said before, working through the root of their disordered eating behaviours and mindset with professionals)

  • I’m happy you made this video. Although dieting is bad for your mental health, so is being overweight or obese. It’s visually uncomfortable and telling people they should just accept their bodies no matter is not enough or empathetic either especially if they are themselves are not overweight or obese. Its also physicaly uncomfortable and messes up your hormones. I get this advice from alot of my thin friends who have never had to deal with having to lose 20 plus pounds, some of them have been anorexic or bulimic and they are against wanting to lose weight, not understanding it’s not the same type of problem or same reason for wanting to lose weight. Some people DO need to lose weight for hormonal/health mental issues. I’m a hundred percent against diet culture as I feel it’s been harmful too me but I’m more into mindful eating and have lost weight that way.

  • I finally got to my best ever weight happily, slowly, fairly easily by adopting these principles. I was finally able to stop bingeing, and I enjoy regular exercise for the first time. I think there’s something in it for everyone. And I still eat chips. Just not by the bags full.
    But I take issue with “thin privilege.” Hoo ha and baloney. There are natural consequences to our choices. All choices. And no one gets through life without adversity and sorrow, regardless of your circumstances.

  • Thanks for making this video! I lost about 20 pounds last year by pretty much simply counting calories but not restricting any sorts of food, and only losing 1 lb a week while taking 1-2 week breaks from being in a deficit every 3-4 weeks (+ increased activity, mostly walking and some resistance training). It worked really well for me, and I have gone back to trying to eating intuitively and not counting, but I’ve always been one to struggle with weight because I do fall in the category of “I overeat because it tastes good.” I respect the HAES movement and even after reaching my “goal” weight which I feel is the weight my body is comfortable at, I’m still on the lower end of “overweight” in traditional terms. But I do think it is really great you are acknowledging that everyone approaches food differently, and even if someone’s goal is weight loss they should be able to do it in their own healthy way, that works for them, but might not work for someone else (in my case, calorie counting worked great for me.)

  • Hi Abbey, I know this is a shot in the dark but would you consider collaborating with me? I’m a therapist-in-training and do videos related to mental health, some of which include eating disorders (I also do videos of my music which is my other life).:) My videos get very few views so I don’t know what exactly could be in it for you but I’ve done a couple videos that got over 1,000 and only plan to grow more! This is a video I did on unnatural vegan: https://youtu.be/HkFxY2zLghY I have so many more ideas for videos on topics such as the one you’ve done here and would love to collaborate with you on one of them if at all possible. I hope it was okay to post this here and if not, I will not be offended if you delete or say no. Thanks so much and have a good day.:)

  • I respect your gray area mentality so much. It’s a rare voice on YouTube and even in general. You’re very discerning and thoughtful. I appreciate you.

  • I like that you’re addressing that it’s not a new diet and not a quick fix. It is getting back to what is right for our bodies, so we decide what that is.

  • HAES = EIM (eat in moderation). EIM is a total failure because it means 100 different things to 100 people. Same with HAES.

    Most people need basic education. Like eat an orange instead of drinking orange juice. Eggs don’t raise serum cholesterol. Two eggs have lots of fat but only 150 calories. A plain bagel from a bagel store has no fat but 300 calories. Stuff like that.

    Does this mean you can never have a bagel? Of course not. How about eating half a bagel sometimes?

    And most importantly, FAT DOES NOT MAKE YOU FAT. I would bet less than 20% of Americans know that.

    It’s all about BASIC EDUCATION.

  • This is one of the best videos about food and dieting I have seen. I have always intuitively known that my body asks for what it needs and my craving is its “calling” to get me to to eat those foods. There are times that my body asks for more carbs and sweets and there are other times that I have no craving for those but craving for veges and fruits and other times, grains and meats. The craving is a direct translation of your body for what it needs and it intuitively knows what it needs. Why did we lose this important function of the body, I will never know. It is just the mass-media-fed guilt and resistance that cause all negative outcomes from what we eat. There is no such thing as a bad food.

  • HAES = more T2 diabetes, more cancer, more heart diseases, more knee and joint replacements, more arthritis, and more of a lot of other things. Who came up with this nonsense? And this has nothing to do with fat shaming. It has to do with saving hundreds of billions every year on healthcare costs.

  • Really happy about this video, I was really concerned when I heard you talking about intuitive eating in a way that made it seemed like it was the only way.

  • I can totally relate to what you are saying as a dietitian. At first, when I heard about Haes approach I was sold. I wanted to change my practice right away, but then I took a step back and said “will I be truly listening to my clients if I do?” I can relate to clients wanting to lose weight and I don’t want to turn them away if they want to lose weight. (I am also scared they will go to detox’s etc if I do). The funny thing is a lot of people come for weight loss but once we get to the “why” we don’t end up focusing on weight for too long. So I guess I practice in the grey… but I think clients come in “ in the grey” and I like helping them on the right path whatever it is for them. I don’t like having to pick sides:p

  • Hey, this is unrelated to the topic of this video but I had a question. How do I know if a therapist is right for me? Are there any general cues that can help me figure it out? Because I’ve had 3 therapists so far and the two I felt most at ease with at first, who seemed happier and more friendly, ended up not really helping me; whereas the other one I always felt a bit awkward around and they were quieter, but I felt like we got more done and it helped me more to see them.
    Also, if I decide I want to stop seeing a therapist or just not make a second appointment because I feel the fit isn’t right, how do I tell them (I get super anxious about it)?
    Love your videos!

  • Another take away: The people who think that I should lose weight and tell me that I should, most of the time have no credentials. They are basing their statements off of an idea that they have, and have little knowledge of nutrition and lifestyle being indicative of health.

  • Just watched a video with bone broth in it. Not something I want to consume I’m a vegetarian. But..I would like to know more. Have you talked about it [bone broth] before? If not, as a dietician, do you think you could do a video on it? Benefits or reasons for consuming it [bone broth]?

  • so i need severe therapy. I have previously suffered from suicidal thoughts and I can’t afford a therapist but watching your videos help so thank you.

  • Ive counted calories and macros for about 8 months now, no breaks. And it has helped me get an understanding of health, comming from a food addict because i used food for comfort. I still have weight to lose for health, not looks, but I AM SO TIRED OD WEIGHING AND COUNTING AND DOING MATHS TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE CALORIES PER PORTIONS OF HOMECOOKED MEALS ARE.Sometimes i choose unhealthy foods simply because they are easier to calorie count??? THAT STOPS TODAY!

  • Hi! Will you please review every sentence this lady spoke on this interview? https://youtu.be/hNtIE2Ln7j8 Thank you for your work.

  • i use table measurements like cups, tbsps and tsps because they don’t bother me, and i start with a recommended serving size and eat more if i’m not satisfied which is rare bc i’m small ig?��

  • This is how I’m learning to maintain my weight and feel great. I now eat everything. I tossed the scale and I’m finally getting in touch with both hunger and cravings. I have chocolate almost every day with no guilt or weight gain.

  • im at the point where i cant even tell if im really hungry or just craving. the same goes to the amount of food i eat, i cant tell anymore when im full, dang

  • Hi Abbey! Thanks for doing what you do, I appreciate your perspectives and opinions. Not sure if you are interested, but I would love to see your review on you-tuber Dr. Dray’s what I eat in a day.

  • on the 20 minutes watching this video, I tried unconsciously about 5 times to press the “Like” button, only to realize I had already done it. This is how much I liked this video

  • Hi Abbey. Cake doesn’t lose appeal if someone is still not eating frequently, consistently, and sufficiently enough. If someone is routinely going overly hungry, allowing oneself to eat all the cake or ice cream one wants ensures that the person will eat such foods almost all the time, because every time they give themselves permission to eat, by that time, they’re starving, and the body craves foods that are higher in simple sugar, fats, calories, and foods higher on the food chain (sat. fats and cholesterol risks if constantly overeaten) when in an overly hungry state. AND they’ll need to eat past the point of fullness to make up for calories uneaten. There is what I call physical or “mechanical” fullness, and then there’s nutritional fullness. If someone has been restricting, they might eat to the point of physical fullness, but still not be nutritionally full, and therefore are still craving more calories, fat, carbohydrate and/or pro. The huge problem with IE is that it encourages people to eliminate the controls they’ve been putting on themselves without ensuring that the person is eating at least 3 genuinely filling, nutritionally well balanced, sufficiently caloric meals per day, spread out throughout the day, before attempting IE. And not having recovered from restrictive eating thoughts and behaviors before attempting IE. IE demonizes eating before one is supposedly “hungry enough,” and demonizes eating beyond being supposedly “full enough,” which is really dangerous when coupled with zillions of restrictive eating thoughts learned from dieting advice, because “hungry enough” and “full enough” become a further form of restrictive eating for someone who has already been trained to fear eating and is routinely becoming overly hungry. For someone who has ever been on any type of restriction regime, of their own or someone else’s “weight loss diet,” all of the restricting advice s/he’s learned from every diet embarked upon, is still carried around in one’s head, consciously or subconsciously influencing the person’s awareness of hunger, and fear of eating and of potentially gaining, or just not losing, weight. I first read Tribole and Resch’s book 30 years ago, and I went from a so-called “normal” BMI, to my weight tripling! I was 3x as much as back then, and it has been very clear to me that this is from the harmful messages of IE, from those authors. Prior to reading their book, I had tried every imaginable diet for 4 years, and had continued to restrict for another decade or so, but could no longer stick to any diet for even 5 minutes, without the mere thought of a diet triggering a binge. But no diet I’d encountered had said, “Don’t eat until you feel ‘set,'” which was Tribole’s one word to describe what they listed as an acceptable “3” on the hunger scale, at which they granted permission to eat. To me, the word “set” has always connoted a physical sensation which is just short of “Oh geez, I’m waaay too hungry, I need to eat NOW.” And there in my kitchen and food bag would be lots of ice cream and chocolate chip cookies, among foods, and that’s what I’d reach for in a state of famine. It was IE that taught me the harmful guilt trip that I SHOULDN’T eat until “sufficiently” hungry. To this day, even after 15 years of ED outpatient treatment and further recovery work on my own, and I have a meal plan, and I have had instructions for 15 years to eat 6x/day, every 3 hours, mechanically, I still struggle all day with the subconscious thought, “You’re not hungry enough to eat,” that rings in my head thanks to the horrible dietitians Tribole and Resch. Result: I go for hours and hours not eating, because “You’re not hungry enough” rings in my head. “Hungry enough” quickly became another food fear: an ED thought that drove me to starve all day, for almost 3 decades, that I haven’t been able to banish, though I’m improving, thanks to the writings of Ellyn Satter (on her web site), Jean Antonello (terribly titled book, “How to Become Naturally Thin by Eating More,” that is obsessed with weight loss promotion but has brilliant insights i haven’t been able to find anywhere else; and ED treatment) Honestly, thought I’m not in favor of banning books, Tribole and Resch’s is the one book I would like to light every copy of on fire. It’s that harmful.

    All this said, I really appreciate that you said in this video that maybe people who are still above “healthy weight” (problematic term) or eating restrictively should not embark on IE. That is light years ahead of what most IE coaches say, that I’ve heard.

    But there are inherent contradictions in what you’re saying in the video: unless you know of strategies that result in everyone plus-size to be able to lose weight (which do not exist: most plus-size people will stay that way regardless of eating strategy), most plus-size clients will never be at “expected weight” (i.e. “normal” BMI), to then be able to embark on IE, as you state. That would leave them with using some other method of trying to lose weight (restricting), in order to then be able get down to “normal” BMI in order to start using IE! And of course, dieting a) doesn’t work for most people to cause sustained weight loss, and b) it teaches ED behaviors.

    That leaves only slim people, with no restrictive eating behaviors, as candidates for learning IE. That means the majority of Americans are not candidates for studying IE, or acquiring the “peace with food” that IE practitioners dangle. The most people who aren’t at peace with food are plus-size, and/or restrictive eaters.

    Here’s what I’m getting at. IE is not useful to most people, especially those who IE purports to help. And in fact, it can be harmful: it can cause, or exacerbate disordered eating, by telling people who already restrict, to only eat when “sufficiently” hungry, and not “too full.” That might even be a dangerous message for people who don’t already have other restrictive eating thoughts.

    Jean Antonello, RN, RD, partially solved one problem with IE: she recognizes that dieters learn to fear food and their hunger, and thus delay eating. To counteract this extreme tendency, she advises eating at the first sign or thought of hunger (no more than 10 minutes within the first sign of hunger), and to eat until one notices one has put the fork or food down and doesn’t feel like picking it up again. In other words, to eat at the first sign of hunger, until truly full and uninterested in eating more.

    Ellyn Satter recognized these problems and went further: she recognizes that pretty much everyone does better on 3+ scheduled meals, and scheduled, planned in-between snacks (and I would add an after-dinner snack before bedtime, to tide one’s hunger over until morning, for a total of 6 feedings/day.) On the advice of an ED RD 15 years ago, I have a mechanical eating schedule, eating 6x/day, every 3 hours, which I’ve set at 6 am, 9 am, noon, 3 pm, 6 pm, and 9 pm. Bed at 9-10 pm. But it’s a nightmare for me to try to follow it. In 15 years, I’ve only been able to start eating breakfast by 6:30 am (my only goal in my life, to focus my full attention on it, because multiple goals are harder to achieve) every day for one week. That was a few weeks ago. My breakfast times range from 3 am 6 pm. My weekly average works out to breakfast at 9 am.

    Ellyn says that by eating on a consistent schedule, the body sorts out what and how much to eat in order to arrive at the next planned meal or snack comfortably hungry. This is brilliant. Instead of adjusting the feeding times to the body, as with IE, which can be totally unpredictable and stressful to figure out and then eat what one wants at that time and have it available and prepared, Ellyn is advising to eat on a consistent schedule, and let the body adjust the food choices and quantities according to the schedule (and choosing foods that bring one joy). Like people used to do up until dieting took over our lives in the 1960s present.

    I urge you and all IE advisors to 1. Put a warning note at the beginning of all videos and in the descriptions that IE is not recommended for plus-size people or people with a history of dieting or disordered eating, and 2. switch over to teaching Ellyn Satter’s method, instead, a) for safety/first do no harm/harm prevention, and b) because it so much easier to learn and apply (except for someone like me with an extreme ED, and even for me, it is massively simpler and better than IE ever was. It gradually improves my eating, eating competence, nutrition, psychological well-being, and schedule stability, whereas IE worsened all of those.

    Thank you for reading all of this. I can tell you really care about your clients and potential clients/the public, and appreciate that. I’m grateful you are an anti-diet dietitian, and are trying to improve dietetics. I’ve noticed that for many people who catch on to IE, it comes relatively easy to them, as compared to, say, my story for sure! What I’ve noticed isn’t apparent for IE fans is that for others, it can be a pure nightmare, and profoundly harmful: as harmful as dieting, or worse. I hope you will check out Ellyn’s web site (Ellyn Satter Institute) and if you do, skip to the “How To Eat” tab to get into the relevant parts.) Thanks again.

  • I’m a pretty healthy eater. Today I just had 2 slices of pizza, some chips and some dessert today. I don’t feel bad at all. I deserved it. Mainly because I actually wanted it.��

  • Thank you so much. It’s feels good listening to you. I’m still trying to find balance and my set point. How do we know what our set point is?
    The part about the gentle changing eating habits is a bit triggering for me. I’ve suffered with so much dieting. But I’m sure someone in a healthy mindset could go that way to loose a bit of fat. For me it brings me back to restriction, and macro counting and all the horrible diet culture. I know I’m on the good path, because it brings joy to me to tune in with my body and give it excatly what it wants/needs. I’m not attracted to junk food, and I try to be compassionate with myself if I overeat.
    I’m getting there. ❤️

  • Did I cry watching this? Yes, yes I did. After struggling to love my body after my babies, despite “doing everything right” and going to work “feeling fat” I so desperately needed this today.

  • Hey now, strong legs are a GOOD thing! I actually like the idea of mental love letters. I’m not fighting an eating disorder, but have had my share of negative thoughts about myself, and even as a runner (“You’re so slow!” “You needed a walk break AGAIN?” “You don’t train hard enough…”). Those “love letters” can be a mental game changer, even if it’s just the thought of “I love that this run is done and I made it through. Thank you body for allowing this. Now, let’s shower and recover! Love you!”

  • This was very helpful to hear. My husband and I have started a health journey this year. We both have our own set of issues(high BP, arthritis, insulin resistance, pcos) that loosing weight and fueling our bodies with better foods can help reduce. While I can appreciate the gentleness of intuitive eating, there does seem to be some level of understanding food that is needed to be successful. Starting this journey has been very eye opening to both of us in our understanding of the food that we eat, our ingrained beliefs about food, and how we feel when we eat certain things. As we are learning these things, using tools to track calories and macros have been very helpful. Setting guidelines gives me a framework for planning meals. These guidelines are partly caloric and macro driven but also include the kinds of food we are choosing. (More fish, less read meat, whole grains, lots of veggies, healthy fats) As we get more accustomed to how to best fuel or bodies I don’t feel like we will depend on these as much but for now they are vital in us meeting our goals and adjusting our relationship with food.I would be really interested in hearing more about how you educate yourself on food,food choices, and meal planning without the heavy “diet” labels.

  • Is this real? I mean, seriously, i also do track my macros and calories. But look where humanity has come… We need help to eat normally. And this has a name for it ‘intuitive eating’. This is just eating, we’re fucked up. This video is amazing, but i feel sad for being in this situation…:(

  • Such great tip! My biggest thing I think I have to work on is accepting my God given shape. It’s a process and I know I’m on the right track. Thanks Kelsey!

  • As a kid I was overweight and when I became a teenager I lost weight and transferred school’s and one weird thing I’m noticing that bothers me a lot is that I used to be heavily ashamed of my past and didn’t want anyone to know that I was overweight, but like, now that nobody does, and everybody I know see’s me as medium/small, I still feel and think of myself as overweight since thats how I grew up and that is how I was when I developed most of my identity. So like, when we talk about prejudice against fat people, I automatically think of myself as a victim of it even still, and it takes me a minute to remember and accept that I do actually have thin privilege. I hate to admit it but it honestly makes me mad. It feels like I no longer have the right to be angry about the way I was treated since I no longer am treated that way, but I still treat myself with fat-phobia and the shit I’ve dealt with feels like it can never be acknowledged. ALso I hate it when I tell people I was fat growing up and they’re like, “don’t say that about yourself”. Like, that just fucking stings cause it reinforces the idea that fatness is something that undermines your worth as a human being. And it bothers me when people tell me I can’t speak for fat people because I’m not particularly fat, but like, bruh, I was though. For most of my life. And now I have a chronic eating disorder and body dysmorphia. Like, it just feels like all of my pain is so un-acknowledgeable, and no group, overweight or not, can accurately represent my experience.
    Sorry for that tangent that isn’t related to anything this video just really brought some feelings up lol

  • I’m essentially recovered from my ED, but I do need to lose weight since I have arthritis and the extra weight makes it worse! Not really sure how to go about it honestly.

  • I have to keep my weight scale. I can think I’ve gained 5 pounds and jump on the scale to find out I’ve actually lost a pound. I also practice mindful eating and it’s helping me to lose weight but like most women I have “ugly days” or ” fat days” where unless I see the numbers on the scale I’m convinced I’m gaining. The scale has to stay.

  • I’m about to start my journey at this outpatient eating disorder clinic for the 3rd time because the other 2 times I didn’t take it seriously I wasn’t ready but now I am because now my binging is out of control I randomly search intuitive eating & find this ��

  • In your past videos, I have not been really agreeing with you on the whole counting calories thing. I am currently trying to be healthier and lose some of that extra weight, and at the beginning, I really needed it to realise just how much I was eating. Now I mainly use it to track how much minerals and vitamins I am getting (I recently went vegan and need to figure out how much to supplement apart from B12).

    That being said, I really like your personality and your opinions on various diets and will continue watching your videos:)

  • I found your video very interesting, thank you for making it!
    I agree with all of what you said, I just have a lil questo’
    When you’re used to eating certain types of food all the time, how is your body supposed to figure out that there are other ways to get the nutrients it wants and needs? Would you suggest to force oneself to go out there and try other types of food?

    I am a vegetarian, I don’t eat meat and fish but I decided to allow myself a lapse every month, so once in a while I might eat sushi’s or a fat burger
    Would you suggest that I should listen more often to the little voice telling me to eat meat and fish when I actually have reasons to not want to?

  • I did this with my dietitian. I used to practice this when I was younger and I didnt even know I was practicing it. It was my normal. Until a death in my family happened and from then on, I spiraled. I’m working on it again.

  • Great video! I have read about intuitive eating today and I discovered that my way of eating has a name! People often say that I’m lucky because I eat what I want and I’m slim. And I’m surprised because why should I be fat? I can’t eat more than I need, that’s something natural, right? Food is my friend, calories is something I need to function and I like my body although don’t spend too much time thinking about it.

  • Thank you. I needed this video. These last couple of days I have somehow come up with the idea that I need to lose weight for some reason, even though I am at a healthy weight and I have started to feel guilty about food and snacks. But instead of slipping down into diet culture and just crash and burn and continuously punish myself, I realise that I need to take care of my mental wellbeing, and the rest will come.

  • For myself I’ve experienced that I can more reliably go into a intuitively eating style because of the long period of mostly strictly healthy choices.
    Before my lifestyle change I had been mentally unwell for a long period and though I was much better i had connected a lot of comfort with food and it didn’t help me that any diets I started got completely destroyed when summer came around because everybody else around me ate and drank a lot of sugary things and in the end I would give into cravings and overindulge.
    But at the beginning of last year I decided to cut out all added sugar for several months and I experienced that after some time I didn’t really crave stuff like soda anymore and the few times I do have a glass I stick to one glass because any more just feels overly sweet.
    I do still have times at things like family parties where I eat too much cake, but I allow myself that since it’s such a rare occasion. Also in the past I would feel so guilty about eating any dessert and I’m so glad I’m in a place where I no longer feel that shame about the food I eat.

  • I only eat when i’m hungry, exept before my period. I wonder why that is. I never diet and people say i eat little, but i guess i dont need as much, since my weight is the same as in my teenage years. Also: i eat all the bad stuff, and find that only alcohol will make me gain a bit weight if i drink more than usually for a period of time

  • Hi Kati!
    I came over from Shane’s video and amazingly this, being my first viewing of a video from you, is most definitely the video I need right now in my current situation. Thank you so much!

  • what does it mean if i fit all the criteria for bulimia but i very rarely binge and ive never purged?
    im in the time when i feel disgusting even after snacking and if i eat over 1200 calories i feel terrible and I keep denying thr fact that I’m hungry because I don’t want to eat. I also really think that I could lose weight and that I shouldnt even eat. I only eat just enough so that my family doesn’t suspect anything wrong with me. (I’m overweight)

  • Thank you for this, it had been something I’ve struggled with. I’m shifting my perspective to my body feeling better, stronger, more able, more energy, as opposed to thinner. Thanks for tackling this, which I find is so often ignored when people discuss intuitive eating

  • I really needed this video. Thank you! So thankful that I found you on YouTube! You have been a great help for me and have helped me to not be so afraid of therapy and find a therapist.

  • I wish I could subscribe to you a million times… THANK YOU for providing this knowledge to the public for free. I can’t even begin to explain how life changing your videos have been for me. Bless you ❤︎

  • Higher body weight can be directly tied to breast cancer as fat produces estrogen and higher levels of estrogen can cause breast and ovarian cancer

  • I gained 100 lb in a year after quoting smoking. healthy me would be nice. but I simple want to lose weight. I have always have a great relationship with food.glad to know it’s now a thing. but. I need to find something else…

  • Thank you for this I’m going to try to do this because maybe applying this it’s way easier to accept eating and being okay with it.

  • You know what’s a shame? I just googled the German version of the book you recommended and it has been translated to “Loosing weight intuitively”… that sucks.

  • In quarantine right now…I was able to get still and realize I had a insane desire for oranges and apples. I could not get enough of them. Their juices and the fruit itself..its all the things right now. Everybody says it too much sugar, too many carbs. Newsflash I get sick and very mean without carbs. I can not go that low carb, keto way. My body didn’t like it. I quit eating fruit for years. Now I can’t be without it. I want to be healthy for myself and look the best I can. Be my best. Thank you for this. I just heard someone I follow say they are doing this way if eating because its not a diet. I’ve been on a diet since I was 8. Mom gave me pills to cut my appetite, seriously she did. In this season of pandemic I’ll use it to help myself with more mindful eating, and listening to what my body wants. ��������

  • You are truly amazing. And thanks to you I’m feeling more comfortable about myself at the moment. I went all in and I have gained all the weight back but I feel healthy and stronger than ever

  • I like your videos and I agree with the Intuitive eating approach, but I can tell you from personal experience that binge eating and emotional eating is not only linked to a restrictive diet. Food can evade you from your daily problems, can reduce stress and anxiety, can transport you to your childhood or to a happier time, etc. You can overuse food as a mechanism to deal with your emotions in many different ways, that are not related to the diet culture.

  • Here is intuitive eating. Eat two eggs and some sauteed veggies for breakfast with coffee. For dinner eat an animal protein with tons of veggies. For lunch eat the leftovers from dinner. As best as you can, minimize grains, starches and sugars, including orange juice. And take a 20-minute daily walk. YOU WILL LOSE A TON OF WEIGHT AND REDUCE THE RISK OF HORRIBLE DISEASES. You will also love looking in the mirror and will gain self-confidence..

  • This video was absolute cringe. It was painful to get through; when she goes into pseudoscience and strange social justice lingo it does not lend anything to her credibility, just the opposite. She does not need to do that. She has legitimate credentials, and it makes me sad how she only seems to pepper honest science into her presentation, because, when she does stick to real science and psychology, she is actually more informative and helpful. I used to watch her, and even tried some of her advice, but I hadn’t watched any in a while, and this is why. Anyone looking for more legitimate advice without all the useless fluff and silly social justice, please check out some other Youtubers. Jordan Shrinks, Every Damn Day Fitness, Obese to Beast, Doctor Mike, My Thoughts Will Probably Offend You, High Carb Hanna are some good places to start.

  • Its cool to see a therapist talking about this. I thought it sounded kinda weird when random people on the internet would kinda talk about it.

  • It’s funny Abbey…intuitive eating is helping me lose weight slowly…I do not calorie count and feel satiated, but I’ve stopped my mindless snacking and over eating at mealtime.

  • I’m 200 pounds but have a history of atypical anorexia. Now I’m stuck in this state of being obese and wanting to lose weight the healthy way but my brain just can’t do it without obsessing and being disordered.

  • I’ve actually been trying this for the past 2 weeks or so. Just working on listening to my body and what it wants. When I’m hungry. When I’m full. And it’s actually so much more easier to control what you eat.

  • I thought there’s an obesity epidemic? That’s a health epidemic where dietitians are one of the best evidence based tools to recovery. I don’t see how weight loss is “doing harm” in that context.

  • I really appreciate this video, and I really appreciate your thoughtful approach to all of this. <3 And kudos to you and the other dietitians that are trying to hash through the complexities of this difficult topic.

  • Ugh…. Anyone can be an expert on IE (regardless of size). And anyone can make a YouTube channel, so how are you more “privileged” for having made one yourself?

    If you wanna give a shout out to others who are “experts”, that’s good. But I get the feeling you feel the “need” to because you are discounting your own expertise/experience based on your smaller size.

    How is that right? That is the ONLY problem I have with the IE community. And with the world in general. People are so concerned about comparring eachothers “pain” and “privilage”. Comparring is devicive and not helpful in ANY way.

  • Before I started watching: Intuitive eating is listening to your body what it needs and providing it.
    After watching: Well…I’m doing a lot of it already. And if I want a chocolate (my body doesn’t want it very often though), I eat it. It’s nice. But…the dieting thing worries me…I don’t care about my weight (as long as I feel healthy, I’m fine with having a few pounds more than my “ideal weight”), what I’m worried about is that I’m a vegan. That’s not dieting, right? Just being a vegan I mean? Because that would seriously suck.

  • Hey guys! I’m new to this community and just wanted to touch base on one thing Katie said in this video: self talk. If you’re having problems with positive self talk (like I have) check out the book “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself”. It’s really helped me out a lot and it might help you:)

  • What do you do when a parent makes it hard to start being comfortable with your body. My mom weighs less than me but is shorter so she carries it different. She is constantly making negative remarks about her weight and it make me feel worse than I do. I have asked her to stop and told her why but she told me I’m taller so I look better (not that much taller). I told her that doesn’t matter and it’s not enough of a difference. I know she has issues with her weight and she used to see a therapist about a year ago but she won’t stop saying things that make me feel worse than I already do.

  • This is me right now…..I want to lose weight, I don’t have a specific number, just want to be healthy and feel good. I am new to the intuitive eating and it’s a strange balance…..

  • check the real intuitive eating book!!! https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Revolutionary-Program-Works/dp/1250004047/ref=sr_1_3?crid=A732YWBAJX2B&dchild=1&keywords=intuitive+eating&qid=1591906943&sprefix=intui%2Caps%2C200&sr=8-3

  • Hey Kati, love your videos ^^ Could you make a video about Dissociative Fugue please? Or maybe recommend some helpful literature?:3

  • What about the gut biome, the bacteria that sends signals to our brain to eat certain things? The bacteria is hijacking the brain to get us to eat the things for the bacteria’s survival, not ours.

  • #katiFAQ
    Hey Kati, I would love to hear your thoughts on if it’s okay to break up with someone, because you need to work on yourself?

  • I tried intuitive eating before I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, but because I had been using food as a source of dopamine (addiction, including food addiction, is common in ADHD) for so long, I was totally unable to decipher what was a body hunger cue, and what was dopamine hunger (i.e. self-medicating my ADHD symptoms). I’m currently taking medication for my ADHD, which greatly diminishes my dopamine-seeking behaviors and has allowed me to actually see my real hunger cues. I’m eating intuitively now and feel so much less shame and stress. So if you have issues with chronic overeating or binge eating as well as other symptoms like frequently overspending, always being forgetful or disorganized, and difficulty getting started or seeing tasks and routines through, it might be worth getting screened for ADHD. Disclaimer: I’m not a mental health professional; just sharing my own experience.

  • I’ve always struggled with my weight. Right now I’m 170 lbs but want to get down to 130… What do you reccomend?
    I eat normal food. I don’t cut back on anything except alot of sugar or carbs. In other words I don’t eat alot of burgers, pizza or high fat foods.

  • How weird that I’m watching Shane’s series and then search intuitive eating on YouTube as I’m reading the book, and your video pops up!

  • I like the idea of intuitive eating and would be curious to read the book. My doubts are in the ability to resist binges. The one thing that I have found helpful about food trackers is that it teaches me what a normal portion or serving is. I don’t believe in cutting out food groups, but normal portions seem maintainable to me. Tracking isn’t something I would do forever, but sometimes it helps me get a handle on the concept of eating several healthy portions of different foods, and feeling satisfied and full. It’s actually surprising how much better I feel when cutting out junk too. Last weekend I ate a greasy burger and meal at a restaurant and felt awful the rest of the day. Thanks for the info.

  • i think my therapist thinks i’m recovered bc i never talk about my ED, but i do have the thoughts still & feel guilty, i’m just far along in recovery so they aren’t as intrusive. i’ve probably been attempting to intuitively eat for about a year and a half. my nutritionist told me about it a few years back and i finally stopped the recover/relapse cycle so i could do it. but it definitely is hard & i feel like i’m in a rut. i am the most i’ve ever weighed and it goes back and forth between guilt & acceptance. but it’s hard bc i’m really picky & hate the texture of most fruits & so i feel like i’m not eating that balanced. i just don’t know how to move forward towards full recovery

  • Why would muscular legs be unattractive? I would think them to be very functional, what if someday you need to move a heavy piano? If somebody has a problem with you being a muscular woman because it make them feel insecure, then I can’t help them. Come on, it’s 2018, people!

  • Do any of you know how to join/register on her website? I finished the registration form and they emailed me a link for activation but when I click the link it asks me for an activation code? I didn’t get one so I am very confused how to activate my account. Thanks in advance for your help!

  • Right now, intuitive eating sounds impossible and awful to me. My mom’s trying to force me to eat 3 times a day but I barely eat once a day. Maybe one day I’ll be able to eat correctly with intuitive eating! We’ll see. But at the moment I’m pretty desperate

  • Colleen, I love the “happy weight” concept. You’re right. The focus on numbers never leads to happiness. I have a friend whose said, “I just have like 10 pounds to lose.” Why? Is it bc of the culture or bc she’s uncomfy with her body. Check out Embrace doc. I’m working towards my happy weight for the reasons you mentioned and bc I want to have energy to hike with my family, dance with no limits…

  • i ate a lot today and i am thinking of having another snack even though its almost 11pm

    i just want to make sure its not that i am sleepy so i am going to try to sleep first

    i also ate a lot today i had an egg wheat wrap for lunch

    dinner was a pork appetizer that was pretty big then a chicken meal and a carrot cake desert (no nuts in it so thats why i ordered that one and it had cream cheese for the icing)

    i was up at about 6-7am today as well so that could be why and i walked pretty much nonstop

    i am an intuitive eater but sometimes i can eat instead of sleep so that is what i dont want to do

    thx for another amazing ha bisky video i really hope on sept 4th my life changes and i can live in cali

  • When I was in middle school/high school I wanted to lose weight because I felt like I needed to look a certain way. There were times where I was afraid to eat in front of other people and I let food have so much control of my happiness. I’m in college now, and I still want to lose weight, but now for completely different reasons. I don’t care so much about my size anymore, but more about my overall health. In the past three years of my life, my mom, dad, and other close relatives of mine have had major health complications because of their unhealthy eating habits. So while going down a few sizes may be a plus, it’s not a huge concern for me. I want to be the one in my family who won’t have to let these health complications get in the way of their lives, I want to be able to be active with my future kids, and I just want to feel good. I am very grateful for channels like Abbey’s because they remind me that I am perfectly normal and will have ups and downs but in the end, I am valued and loved and should never punish myself for who I am or what I eat.

  • Beautifully broken down. I’ve started to thank the old body for a few things. Seeing and hearing and such. I don’t have a terrifically well oiled machine of a body but it’s there and it’s okay. Trying ‘scary’ foods is turning out to be quite a delight. My digestion is coping and I’m taking it slowly as my fear is getting stomach migraines. I know that I crave all sorts of things and they are all diverse and wonderful. Thank you Kati! Thank you Sean. xoxoxoxox