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5 Ways We Sabotage Our Health Goals. by Jim Cotta. March 26, 2015. 5 Comments. Share it: If the scale isn’t showing you the numbers you’d like to see or you’re not making the strides you expected fitness-wise, it’s time to take a step back to unearth some of the “hidden” habits that could be hampering your success.

1. Underestimate. Self-sabotage poses a huge threat to your goals and your health. Beyond that, it’s incredibly frustrating. The key to overcoming it is to understand the ways we talk ourselves into sabotage.

Most people are so frustrated that they continuously set goals then get in their own way. Don’t push your goals into the future. Stick with present tense. 4 – Scattered, Splattered and Covered. Example: “I intend to get clear about the next steps I’m taking in my life with health, lifestyle, my relationship, and career.

Oh, and I also want to lose weigh. No matter our goals, sometimes we end up making choices or acting in a way that undermines what we really want, Even with the best of conscious intentions, we often allow this self-sabotage to creep in and prevent us from reaching our goals. 5 ways you may be sabotaging your resolutions (and how to stop) 1. 12 Ways We Sabotage Our Mental Health.

That means setting more attainable goals, welcoming mistakes as avenues for learning, and, most of all, enjoying the journey, not just the destination. There are countless ways we sabotage ourselves, but procrastination, self-medicating with drugs or alcohol, overeating from stress, and interpersonal conflict. 7 Sneaky Ways We Sabotage our Intentions and Goals. January 24, 2012 by Guest Post 3 Comments.

Example: “I intend to get clear about the next steps I’m taking in my life with health, lifestyle, my relationship, and career. Oh, and I also want to lose weight, make more money, move somewhere else and write a novel.”. 7 Thoughts That Sabotage Your Weight Loss Goals. whether it was about cleaning up our eating or getting back to our workouts.

And we also. Even if your friends are fully supportive of your goals, your weight loss probably isn’t at the top of their minds when they host a dinner party or order a round of drinks at the bar. Here are some ways jerks, friends, and family members try to destroy your deepest desires to change your body, your health, and fitness goals.

Sabotage Your Weight Loss and Fitness Journey Tactic #1 – Making comments either directly or passive-aggressively.

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  • I honestly do not trust people who armchair diagnose people who don’t do anything with their life because of deep seated subconscious programming as ‘lazy’.

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  • I don’t know…… my former therapist told me she thought my goals of going to university again would be too lofty after my breakdown and treatment for BPD. She thought I should take on an apprenticeship in some really easy field. She thought my sense of perfectionism and my perpetual sadness and aloneness will always keep me from reaching my goals, which in turn will lead to a decrease in self-esteem, which again is why I should do something easy where I can increase my self-esteem.

    I don’t know how to deal with this. I see my therapist’s reasoning. I do tend to self-sabotage at everything. Not having goals would lead me to not taking risks. I recently fucked up signing the contract for an apartment I would have gotten, but I turned it in too late, costing the landlord money and now he’s looking for another tenant. I am so sorry for the people I hurt, including myself.

    But back to the topic of uni vs easy labor. I am scared to ask myself whether I am trying to lie to myself, to falsely convince myself that I could pull off university if I overcame what limits me; or whether I really don’t have the talent and just wanna weasel myself out of the responsibility of getting a real job by dreaming of going to Uni again.

    I know exactly what feelings lead me to self-sabotage, but I don’t know if I’m lying to myself about my priorities.

  • I never knew I was triggering myself all this time… I can’t help but feel the need to be mad and hate myself and call myself harsh things. It’s a really bad habit and I don’t know how to fix it. Can somebody pls help me?

  • I used to self-sabotage as a punishment for “bad” behavior, such as procrastinating and being lazy (honestly, just a coping mechanism).

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  • I just got a job, im getting my life in order. Feeling better about myself. But every ounce of me wants to screw it up some how. It’s such an uncomfortable feeling but I want to gamble or stay up later then normal or push myself in workaholic mode. But I keep telling myself no and I’m sticking to it even though it’s really difficult and makes like no sense. I appreciate this video as it gave me some insight on this

  • I don’t trust myself mentally to be able to do anything, so I have low self esteem and low confidence. I just recently got a job offer, I was so excited I didn’t sleep until 5 am and then I slept through my alarm and didn’t make it to the interview. �� �� �� I am dumb. Hooray! Why should anyone put up with me or hired me? I tell people I should just work at home or something but of course people don’t want to listen to me. Working at home is not a option to other people. I mentioned to a counselor awhile back that I should just work from home and she was like you should be a vet tech. I just met this lady and she knows nothing about me, I was really confused.

  • I’m too scared to communicate when I suspect it will lead to confrontation so I shut down and then get mad at myself for not having stuck up for myself especially when not speaking lead me to get taken advantage of.

  • your edit/graphic creativity looks amazing although 720 quality kills it. idky it’s never bothered you honestly. you should consider uploading in 1080. it’s 2018. get with the program bro.

  • This does seem to be a common theme I’ve found out with my issues as well as many others I’ve talked to, due to the easiness and comfort level of just being in the funk and being use to it. Thanks for the videos.

  • Oh maybe I don’t have self sabotage, I just really can’t stand myself. When people insult me or whatever I just feel like it’s completely justified because I’m a loser who doesn’t deserve nice things and I just feel ashamed when I’m around people.

  • I look at self-sabotage as self-protection and it took a huge mindset shift to think of it that way but there is also less guilt that comes with thinking about it this way but its still no excuse to make decisions that might affect my own biz negatively.

  • Hi kati. When is stagnation self sabotage or bad or wrong therapist? Ive had some id call unethical hacks as therapist who kept me as clients stating if you dont listen and trust the process “you just dont want to heal.” This led to sex with therapist. Tarot cards. Crystals. Other nonsensical advice that simply confused and insulted the intelligence. Id like to think im a willing participant but now confused more than ever.

  • I read from a French psychanalist and researcher that self-sabotage comes from guiltred. You sabotage yourself because you’ve been used to being harmed when you were little and dependent so you’re kind of punishing yourself for what happened because you think it was your fault and you deserved this. Therapy is needed to talk about this guiltred and find out where it comes from.

    I share this because I believe this is the most coherent explanation of why we sabotage ourselves

    Good luck ��

  • I used to self-sabotage all the time when I was trying to lose weight… it was a frustrating pattern and I couldn’t figure out why I would do it, until I realized that I was condemning myself for not resisting my abuser when I sexually abused as a child, so I didn’t believe I deserved to look good. That all changed when the Lord showed me that I was too young to be the caretaker of HIs temple (my body)… that was actually my father’s job, but instead of him doing the job, he desecrated the temple instead. When I saw that it was not my responsibility to defend my temple at the time, I was able to release the belief and the condemnation, as well. I am still a work in progress, but I am seeing progress for the first time in like forever. It was amazing.

  • Dear Person Rachel Aust, this is my 47TH day with your videos and little by little I’m “gettin’ it” /// gettin’ STRATEGIES for how to have a productive life and to share your ideas with those who struggle to make some sense out of today’s environment and lifestyles… and find one that fits best their “best dreams” (so to speak). As always, MANY THANKS!

  • A great but older book is “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robin Norwood. She talks about our childhood patterns, how we get into to abusive relationships, and why we stay. While it’s primarily written for women who stay in abusive and unhealthy relationships with partners, the foundation that she presents works with pretty much everything we’re dealing with. Personally, I think of “relationships” as with everyone and everything, including ourselves. Everything is relational.

  • Message was okay but left much to be desired. Yes, you have to stop self-sabotage, but merely changing your behavior can mean simply changing one self-destructive behavior for another. I think Goggins said it better you have to go into the dungeon of your mind and fix what’s broken or you’re only changing on the surface level. That is, the root causes remain unchanged.

  • I did something I regret today and there’s absolutely no way I can apologize to the person or ever be forgiven��Could doing these destructive behaviors be something I do when I’m in a bad mental state?

  • I don’t want to get too into it but apparently I’ve been self harming since I was thirteen, wow. Thanks for this, it’s very insightful.

  • You do have some of the best subject matter. I would never have thought that someone cared about who was sabotaging themselves. Your upbeat personality as well as your serious content is very much appreciated I’m sure. Not to be confused with self-deprecating humor. Important to know where to draw the line. I am a subscriber because we’re never too old to learn

  • I had a few really good councilors, but before I had a man in his late 50’s early 60’s telling me how I should live my life. Granted the ones before where women, but my best councilor, was the first one I had. She even gave me a hug, in our last session. She was amazing! She listened to what I had to say vs waiting for the turn to talk. I’ve always felt more comfortable talking to females, mainly because they listen, instead of waiting for their turn to talk. I’m the same way, I’ll listen to a point, but when the conversation derails and it becomes about his 2 years stint with alcohol, I tend to tune out… Yes, it was like that…

  • Hi I love you! Guess what, I’m your new therapist, if you just need to vent/rant or even need advice answer in the replies. I will reply to every reply and not with some “Aw I’m so sorry I hope it gets better”shit. I won’t judge or throw hate, I’m here for you hun.

  • This video helped so much. I always thought something was wrong with me and I thought I was like the only one like this. I’ve always heard people saying they know how I feel but then explain something totally different that really isn’t me but this was perfect. I can’t believe I went so long without this video. I’ve been struggling with this for a long time, years now and it was this simple. thank you so much.

  • It’s so weird. This is the third month of my low carb diet and I mean very low carb and when you were asking the questions I could barely relate even though I would have answered yes to every question 3 months ago. My sugar levels is so stable. I have energy even when I’m tired and my cravings are almost non-existent.

  • I knew I self harmed but I didn’t know it was this much

    Also anyone got advice on how to tell your parents to stop asking to see cuts whenever you mention them? because it’s getting really frustrating

  • Sure great talk, applicable at some points in life, but ultimately not realistic. She said it herself, the risk is great, but the reward could be greater. That’s the gamblers mentality, and fine if it’s just you that’s taking the risk. But when others depend on you, which can happen through no fault of your own, then you drag them through that failure too. So take risk when you can, but realize they are risk, and when the time comes be responsible.

  • #KatiFAQ Hi Kati. Before say to you my question I have to say thank you. I started seeing your videos, and they are help me a lot. (By the way, I’m brazilian, so sorry about the bad english). So, I’m 22 years old and I’m self-harm since I was 16, the first time I did was like a escape, a way to relax, and also because I thought I deserved it. It was not long until they find out, that’s was when the people in the house where I lived started to say: ‘’you are pretending’’ ‘’you just want attention’’. They also said I’m strange, and they were afraid that I could hurt them, but what they said must were that I’m was pretending. They said this so much that I’m started to believe, until today I’m afraid to be pretending, I do not believe in my feelings, I always have a thought that I’m pretending, something tells me that deep down I do not have a problem, that I use the self-harm just to get attention even when I never show these scars for anybody. Is it possible that I’m pretending? (please, please, please answer me)

  • I barely eat and my mom is worried and I usually barley sleep I end up sleeping at around 3-4 and I usually like hiding from people

  • I really didn’t like that the video kept jumping from one screen to another. Good advice but would prefer a sit down old school vid.

  • I was mindin my own whn I saw ths on my recommended. I wasn’t gonna click it cos in my head I was like: “I don’t self harm. I don’t cut myself” but also thought wht if it’s not tht wht they meant.. Now I realized, I am self harming.. I know I’m hurting myself withn these past few days, weeks even but lately I’ve become isolated and does my thing where I abstain from everyone socially; physical and online.. With friends and family and people tht I care abt..

    So idk wht to do with ths information but I’m thankful tht now I know wht I am doing IS a form of self harm and try to lessen or better yet avoid it..

  • never met a goat herder from a third world country who had no money, education, convenient store, car, modern clothes, internet access, and on and on and on, who was as depressed, and self pitying, as myself, and the other people i’ve met online.

    (…perhaps it’s time to become a third world goat herder….)

  • Hi Kati, thanks for this video. My self destructiveness has almost ruined my life so many times, I hoped by now in my 40’s I’d be over it. I am a high functioning person most of the time. In my thirties, I managed to make the life I wanted (career success/independence, relationship/love) after struggling through my twenties to put my abusive/neglected/self harming childhood behind me. For many years I felt I had overcome my demons. Unfortunately, I recently had a major meltdown at work and I feel I can never work in my industry again. All the same feelings of being abused, bullied, being around negative toxic people & being the subject of gossip etc drove me over the edge. Worse part is, I feel I brought it all upon myself. I think I might be bi-polar in addition to having co-dependency issues & PTSD from sexual abuse. I’ve seen a few therapists in my day but never long enough with anyone to get a bi-polar diagnosis, they usually just think I am experiencing depression is it because I am high functioning? I also only get into therapy when I am in crisis mode. Being unemployed right now, I don’t feel optimistic about seeing a psych doctor to work on meds with. Your videos are helping me to white knuckle my way through this particularly awful time in my life. I know I will bounce back again, I’m just tired of the struggle. I wish I took care of my mental health while I was employed, insured and feeling good. Mental health is so important to monitor, especially when things are going ok. My latest breakdown really took me by surprise, I had no idea I was so vulnerable to backsliding and falling so far so fast back to feeling like I haven’t since high school. Thank you for what you do.

  • EXACTLY KATI…IT’S FAMILIAR, IT’S COMFORTABLE… since August 2016 I started a new period of my life and when I can write a short email to you I’ll tell you my story, but to the point… when I overcame my Depression… I first felt awsome, but then, when real-life-problems-or-circumstances knocked me again (because life is not perfect)… I felt overwhelmed because everythin I used to do before to cope with difficult situations didn’t work anymore… I used to drink 8+ cups of coffee a day with no (visible) side effects and now just having 1 cup triggers my anxiety to the roof… I said a couple times: “I want to be depressed again! I don’t know who I am anymore! I’m scared!”… in conclusion…. TO GET USED TO FEEL GOOD AND BE HEALTHIER TAKES TIME AND EFFORT TOO… be patient with yourself and be confident with your own process. Everything is a process.

  • Hi everybody. I used to be a emotional eater. I struggled with binge eating, carb addiction, extreme weight gain, weight loss. I know it is very hard to get rid of it. Now i can fix it 90%. There are some tip i want to share:
    1) i talk to myself: you are able to eat everything you want. When my mind feel free to eat, i craving food less. Then i reduce the bad food, bad carb slowly.
    2) i accept, admit that i am craving, im a carb addiction. I relize that we can not lie our body. Let say the truth and brave to get rid of.
    3) when i want to eat more, i wait 30 minute more. In that time, i do something else and i relize that i didnt crave food anymore
    4) i learn to cook. I cook new food, eat healthy as much as i can and feel very good.
    Sorry for my bad english:))
    I want to contact with people to help them get rid of this monster and also want to improve my english. You can share with me and me can find solution together. This is my SKYPE account: live:hanhvuong283

  • How is it so bad about Isolation!? I isolate myself from others even though I have to be around people even though I have a fear of people. The cause is because of my past childhood. My father was physically and mentally Abusive.

  • this cleared up so much,, thank you. i never really hear about this topic a lot which makes me feel not understood. but this helps a lot

  • Love your content guys. Please do a video on stretching exercises as everyone is sitting before the computer for long hours during covid era.

  • I self sabotaged through flirting with someone else when me and my ex were finally working things out. I told this other person I would be in a relationship with them, this was 3 weeks after me and ex broke up, and when ex asked me about it I lied. I feel so guilty now and so lost. I only started my road to recovery 2 weeks ago and already I screwed up =(

  • can you make a video on managing school while depressed? i find trouble doing homework because by the end of the day im so emotionally exhausted and focusing feels very hard

  • Bruh my sleep schedule is messed up
    I eat the equivalent of the amount of breakfast a day
    I stay in my room 24/7
    Bruh why do I relate to almost all of these

  • Psycho2Go I have a question to ask

    So my dad says that he will support me with my dreams but he tells me to Read books and try to write books about my life. Like I know that reading books are good for you but writing one is to much for me. Being a writer is not my dream, I wanna be a fashion designer. My dad yells at me if I say I don’t want to be a writer so I won’t write books. My heart really hurts, I don’t even know if he really does support my dream. If I show dad my designs for clothes he’s like it’s good and that it, and if I write about my life he says you need to write a two page everyday. I don’t know what to do. Please help to understand this matter

  • I LOVEEEEEEEEEE your channel Kati and everything it does for all people!!! Also id you could give this a read that would be so amazing!!    

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  • Great insight and tips Kati �� it’s not just the information you share that makes your content so valuable, it’s you and how you deliver it. Hope you had a great week and get your tank filled up for how much you give.:)

  • I have a stash of chocolate in my wardrobe… not because I want but because I don’t really have a sweet tooth so everyone hides their chocolate in my room because they know I won’t eat it ������

  • Hi Kati, this video kind of made me think about myself, because I never payed attention to this topic but now I´m aware that I often tend to sabotage myself which leads to self harm. Often I thought ´´why do I want to hurt myself, or why do I need a reason to cut myself, even without feeling bad”

  • TW WARNING I never really cut lines I always did stuff like crossing over each other and I found a way to stop you can press dull scissors on your arms and feel the pain without scars and blood

  • Hunny your train of thought is very vague and non-communicative, sorry but if anybody has to listen to people like you then they’re already in big trouble.

  • I self sabotage by trying to have relationships with friends who are emotionally unavailable……and looking outside myself for validation. I need to trust myself more and be honest with myself.

  • I always try to talk to one of my friends whenever I trigger myself but it seems like I never get better because even though people I love help me, I end up remembering past events whenever I feel sad and make myself feel even more anxious. I dont know what to do anymore about this nor how to stop…

  • I have depression and I used to self sabotage all the time before I understood why and how I need to get better. I think I just needed some time to really sort everything out in my head. Now, even though every day is still a battle, I’m definitely on the winning side. ❤️

  • Hi Rachel! I can’t describe in words how much this video means to me, and how perfectly timed it has come to me. I was feeling incredibly exhausted with all of my negative thoughts that weigh me down when it comes to food. I was at the point where I was ready to throw in the towel and accept my disordered eating fate forever. This video has really touched my heart and given me a new perspective on eating. I look forward to watching more of your videos and am excited to see what else I can learn from you. Thank you!

  • Let’s see sleep deprivation…..ding
    Let’s see triggering yourself….ding
    Let’s see under eating….. ding bing ding dong dang like my main problem
    Oh and did I mention I have scars on my legs that will never go away:D

    Bingo for self harm

  • I am happy to say that I have subscribed to your channel and regularly listen to you’ll.
    What I can’t understand is, why don’t you’ll sound serious. Makes me feel you’ll are joking most of the
    time, I like it though. Please tell me what or how to relieve myself from feeling dizzy. Thank you and looking forward to hearing from you.

  • Yeah I get so busy and overwhelmed I literally forget to eat, I like the fact I need to listen better to my body needs.. #thanksgurlyourawesomerachel��

  • I want to be an entrepreneur but I self sabotage by spending all my time sending CVS. Been unemployed for almost 2 years and I’ve sent 100+ applications, so clearly the universe is giving me a sign

  • wish you guys filmed like this more instead of the zoom ins. literally gives me a headache we can see your faces just fine in full view.

  • I thought i only did it in 2 ways in the past but wow i did all that were in this video and just hated on myself and thought i deserve pain im glad i got out of it but i kinda failed today like big time and got a little back into old habbits but ill try and i know i will get back up i just need to give myself time and try

  • I didn’t even know I do self sabotage. I’ve been observing my own thought and feelings lately and then this video came up and things started to make more sense!

  • This is spot-on and in the space of a couple of minutes it clarified a problem I’ve had for many years. It made no kind of sense to me but now you’ve explained it, it’s obvious. Thank you so much!

  • I have found I self sabotage when it comes to commitment. I never feel like I can make up my mind about long term goals. Moving out, being in a long term relationship, going back to college it goes on and on! ugh.

  • I stayed in an abusive relationship way longer than I should have because I felt more comfortable in the depression and having an excuse to stay in bed instead of putting in the effort to go out into the world and work hard to get better

  • I’m a young person who has SA(I think) and I never told my family about this I never told them because I don’t want them to think that I’m being dramatic about this I am a kid.i do do some of the stuff on this list like under eating I didn’t know that it was self harm

  • hey i am all so a bored eater when i am at home watching something i feel the need to eat something?….. like a serise, movie etc etc beside that i am fine so any tips what can i do instead? >.< i still want to watch stuff haha? the only thing i found "fix it" for a short time anyway its instead of going and getting like a cookie or stuff like that i go and get a 1-2 carrots but its still not a good fix realy i want the need to eat something when watching my shows,movies >.<
    Tips?

  • Kati I love your videos! Thanks so much for taking the time to share such valuable information to those who would not otherwise have access to this information. It’s clear from your many videos and appearances that you’ve devoted a tremendous amount of time, energy and resources to help others through their journey to find healing. I just had to take a moment to thank you as I bow to honor your AWESOMENESS!!!! Lots of Luv from a fellow Clinician

  • i guess i just got used to the sadness, it’s the only thing that makes me feel human. before i became really depressed i was always so angry and numb, when depression hit me i could finally feel something. i became more empatheic and didn’t really hate people and the world that much, it made me wanna become a better person and i’m terrified of becoming the person i used to be.

  • How do I tell my mom that I need help. My depression has recently hit rock bottom and I know that if I want to make it out alive I need help. I don’t know what to do or how to say it. Please help Kati I’m only 12 and I really don’t know

  • I stay awake all night,don’t exersize at all,either don’t eat all day or eat all day,stay in my room on my own all day bc I’m insecure of going outside and socialising,always think about what I’ve done rong idk why, I’m not sure why I’m commenting this but these are my ‘results’ I guess..?

  • There are so much way to self-harm. The physical violence like cuting but also slapping, punching, scratching face and body, pulling hair,… Also insulting yourself.
    The ones those impact on your lifestyle: eating disorder, isolating, drinking alcohol everydays in a self-harm way, drugs, sleeping disorder,…
    The ones those could impact your future: ruining studies, spending too much muney, act too dangerous,…
    And so on.

  • #katifaq Hi kati, Ao I’ve been dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts for a while but because I’m still functioning fairly well no health professional is taking me seriously? I don’t know how to get the help I need before it’s too late? Also everytime I get rejected from meds/counselling etc it triggers me even more? Is it normal that asking for help is more triggering than what initially triggered your depression?

  • “Triggering yourself”
    Does anyone else put the sad music everynight and remember life story? I cry alot, and even get panic attacks, but its really addicting, it makes me feel “good” in a certain way

  • I do consider myself to be “recovered” generally, but at times i still want to self sabotage, i sometimes want or make myself sad because its more “comfortable”

  • I bite my wrist all the time. I don’t know why, I don’t have depression, I’m not suicidal, and life right now is calm for me. I just don’t know how to stop doing it. Sorry if this is cringey or something. Someone please respond. Not with “❤️❤️ OMG I totally get you ����” I want actual responses and advice. I need help, but I don’t wana talk to my parents. they’re amazing, but I’m not comfortable talking to them About therapy.

  • Good talk. But if I never hear the term, “Rock Star” again, especially in reference to just doing what you’re supposed to do, I’ll live even better.

  • Something that can help when craving that dopamine hit from unhealthy food is just listening to some good music for a while. It’ll leave you feeling happier and might take your mind off that chocolate bar:D

  • Still brings pain to me know that if I ever start seeking self-fulfillment, I will start making a lot of people in my life feel really inadequate and insecure. To them it’s ridiculous that you don’t settle for just good enough. I feel really guilty and sad whenever I start feeling good about myself, so I do things that make me feel sometimes bad but mostly neutral about myself. But it used to be far worse, so there’s improvement already.

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  • Thank you Kati! I am an expert in self-sabotage, and just spent a really hard day completely paralyzed, unable to do anything and this really helps me, I already feel better. xx

  • You self sabotage as a result of your self image. Your self image is like the thermostat of your results. keeping your results the same on average, be that your body weight, hygiene, income, health etc.
    when you make a change at the identity level, it is much easier to take new, better actions consistently

  • #katiFAQ Just thought of something: how does a therapist relate to a client? You shouldn’t necessarily have gone through the same/something similar, but do you solely rely on facts (what you’ve learned during your training) to step in the cleint’s shoes? Or does a therapist even have to relate that much in order to help? #katiFAQ

    Thanks:)

  • Great content rachel great video!!!!! From the aesthetic moments with the ocean to the practical evidence based advice you give THANK YOU. As a mental health counselor in training doing an online graduate program this video helps me in so many ways!!! I am currently on a weight loss journey and have lost 30 lbs and have 35 lbs to go till I am my goal weight! I am very interested in mind body science and wellness so if you could do a series or video on self care and or mediation I would love that!!!!!!

  • So recognisable, coped with this couple of years ago, also interesting about the glasses blocking blue lights… btw you can also do eye exercises so you don’t have to wear them anymore…:)

  • OK, she looks good and talks well, but for the life of me I can’t tell you what the idea is that she thinks is worth spreading. An emotion is not an idea.

  • To help relieve muscle soreness, try:��

    Gentle stretching.

    Muscle massage.

    Rest.

    Ice to help reduce inflammation.

    Heat to help increase blood flow to your muscles….

    Over-the-counter (OTC) pain medicine, such as a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) like ibuprofen (brand name: Advil).

  • trigger warning

    Hi. I self harm by punching, slapping, hitting, and more to myself. I don’t know why. I feel like usually I take good care of my mental health most of the time. I am worried that it will get worse and lead to cutting. I am seeking help here because I don’t know what to do and I’m scared of asking people I know.

  • Hi Kati, I’m 17 years old and have been struggling with myself on and off for years. Lately I have come to the realisation that I may indeed need help but I’m terrified to ask. Also I don’t really live near anywhere to get to counselling without my family knowing. I feel like I’m destroying myself and letting old habits back into my life. What should I do?? Thank you and your videos are incredible xx

  • I have set limits with my boss about how much I will work. I refuse to work nights, and then turn around and work days. It’s too much.
    I’m a social worker. I’ve seen many people burn out.

  • I throw away things and run at the hint of an obstacle and so at 43, I never had a relationship, no married, completely isolated. opportunities came my way but I was not ready, I used to prepare and wait and then used to get tired of waiting and give up and then the same routine, although i did get an opportunity and i realised i had no capacity ever to build any relationship, i think good foundation is important. would still like to get married and have a kid but do not have a job at the moment so stuck forever i guess and i am also going bald so that will not happen now for sure

  • My biggest issue is eating when I’m not hungry and just feeling the craving of being full I don’t crave sugar or salt or fat I just have these compulsions to eat. Then I hate myself cuz there’s no point in going to a personal trainer 5x a week when my portions are always too big:((( and then I just hate myself. sigh

  • look forward as you plow the field..believe in Jesus…God is the ultimate drug….God is not here..beware… ask God..nthat is the idea worth spreading

  • Awesome video Kati! Glad you talked about this. I had no idea that this is why I keep falling into it all the time but it really all makes sense now.

  • I’m praying to God for the lost to get saved believe In God God is the only way Praise God praying for everyone everyday God bless you all ��

  • Awsome.

    I do sabotage my weight loss and healthier living in fear of the last tome I lost weight and stayed slim for a couple of years. Self dicipline, meaning a tad of self hate and lots of guiltripping and having spats of eating unhealthy then really strict to ”bounce” back.
    I guess I fear the only way to be slim is to feel guilty and deprived all the time.

  • Seriously…. “stop sabotaging yourself” starts with the sad story of a CEO, top in her field? Um…. that person isn’t sabotaging themselves. Any problem she is having after being at that level is nothing compared to the person who can’t put together enough gainful employment to pay the rent. Oh, did she wake up feeling empty? Not as empty as my gas tank…. do I pay for groceries or fill up the tank or go further into debt? These are real problems. Maybe it’s just that the only people who watch Ted talks are privileged superstars who just want to learn and have a little bit more? I digress….

  • Nice video content! Apologies for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you considered Lanaleb Peyaria Rule (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a great exclusive product for clearing self-doubt and achieving success without the headache. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my m8 at last got excellent results with it.

  • Thank you for this! I have been feeling pretty numb lately and I am ready to snap out of it, make stronger decisions and move on. I actually believe I may have outgrown my friends, because most of the stuff they like now really doesn’t appeal to me. I need a stronger, exhilarating challenge for me to come out of my own self-doubt and max out my self-esteem and I am looking for it.

  • My story:

    I was a happy and cheerful child… until grade 5. I lost my best friend, she left me for another. So, I made friends with 2 other people, lets call them… Y and D. Y has been my friend for a while but I didn’t have much time for her, and D was goofy, funny and big hearted. I played with them for a while, until, I became friends with my old best friend, lets call her G… i was friends with her again but I had to be friends with her other best friends, we’ll call her M, we were awkward at first but then we became more comfortable around each other and now she is my best friend! I also became friends with someone else, we’ll call her A, but then, since I became friends with my old best friend, now I couldn’t play with D and Y because M and G didn’t want me to. Then after a while, quarantine started. We did online classes. But after a while, I had found out about mu mental illnesses, anxiety, OCD and ticks. G and M are always fighting so they put me in the middle. I didn’t want to hurt anyones feelings though so I stayed quiet most of the time. (By this time we were able to go to school again) At school, on the last day, we were playing a game where you had to try not to pop the balloon while everyone took turns putting sticks on it. On my turn, the balloon popped, and that’s when I had my first small panic attack and learned that I am afraid of balloons popping. On summer vacation, i started having suicidal thoughts, but never did anything. After a while, I learned about the Blue Whale Challenge, which scared me. And now after watching this video, I realize that I have been seeking things that make me sad, make me feel like i’m in hell, on purpose…

    Yeah, that’s basically my story:)

  • I starved myself for 2days just to see if my mom care. End up she never ask anything. I know she care about me but asking if I had problems don’t hurt right?

  • This lady is speaking to me!! Literally everything I have been going through and growing through over the past few months. I am even more certain now that I’m heading in the right direction. Thank you so much mam <3 Love your work

  • I would like something about recovering from living in live long chronic stress as child in dysfunctional family. I feel permanently exhausted and tired. Sometimes I feel pain in my muscles from stress. I know that everyone will tell me that I should go on psychotherapy but I participated and I completely don’t see anything useful in those conversations. It looks like huge waste of my time. Nothing better happens in me by that. I feel like I’m getting behind in converting my life into something more healthy and better by participating in this. Every psychologist will tell me that I should take drugs but my emotional state is less stable when I take drugs instead of taking for example magnesium with vitamins B complex. When I go to internist they make me blood test and they say that everything is ok with me. I had to find informations about naturally age reversing and restoring the work of my mitochondria to have more energy in my body. Everything what really helped I had to find on my own during years and in my personal pain. Is this really possible that I will not have to search everything on my own and wasting months or years for recovery of my body? I have to sleep longer than ordinary people and I’m weaker physically that others. When I have to earn my own money it makes my daily life harder.

  • Why oh why do you use this far away angle? I can’t even see Dr. Judy’s face. Closer up please. We really don’t want to see two of the camera men in the shot.

  • 1, 3, 4, 5
    I thought my habit to triggered myself was just me being a pathetic attention seeker but apparently it’s in a category who isn’t that?
    Unfortunately all peoples remark are cuts, not changements like this

  • Tips:
    1. Addressing/aligning with your values
    2. Social connectedness
    3. Engage in hobbies
    4. Sleep crucial!!
    5. Healthy or healthier diet
    6. Exercise

  • My female comanager is severely self sabotaging herself. She’s turning on people that has had her back for months. It makes me sad because I care and there is more to why she’s doing it. I wish she would say something because her actions lately are a cry for help.

  • I got fibromyalgia and Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS)/ME.
    Just listen to your body!! And its signals! Please try to be aware of that.
    I went in constant stress over yeaaaars, now im chronic ill for the rest of my life.

  • I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for showing me that I’m not crazy, that what I’m feeling is real and can be contributed to something. And most of all thank you for showing me that I’m not alone, there are people in this world that can and want to help.

  • I had a complete nervous breakdown and had to be hospitalized for 10 days due to extreme job stress for 5 straight years. 8 years of Lexapro did not help

  • The worst part about burnout for me is when you get home from work all you can do is lie on your bed the whole time (even on weekends) and not feel like doing anything else like your hobbies and passions. It’s always necessary to pace yourself and create pit stops in what you are doing as burnouts can be detrimental for your health.

  • DOMS is annoying but harmless. It’s not like tearing a muscle or a tendon. It’s a sign you put adequate overload on the muscle and that’s how they grow back stronger. Don’t use it as an excuse to be lazy. If you’re lifting weights, rotate your muscle groups. If your legs are sore then work on your chest the next day. If your chest is sore, then work on your back. Etc. My legs were sore today so I worked on my shoulders without issue.
    There’s really no scientifically proven thing to get rid of it other than the passage of time. I’ve noticed moderate cardio speeds up my recovery time but mileage may vary. I suspect hydration helps but can’t prove it.

  • A lot of the things you said are so spot on: I 100% know what I should be eating, I have a solid meal and workout plan. But I lack the CONSISTENCY; I get sucked into a trap every single time and so nothing changes. So frustrating.

  • I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia & I think this gun would work well for me. I pay $60.00 for a massage at my chiropractors office so this gun would help me so much. Thank you for this video. I watch them all the time and appreciate you both very much. P.S. I just ordered your massage gun. Thanks again.

  • Back in April I returned to riding a bicycle on a weekly basis. I remember from my old track days to take it slow at first. Rode three times a week. First month. Now I am at five or six days a week. I don’t need a massage gun but it would be nice to win one. ���� Thanks for sharing. Keep it up. Rob

  • I get my mental health to a poiny where I feel the happiest I ever have felt, and then I go out with friends and binge drink and make a fool of myself and feel terrible, and I know it annoys my friends tk have to keep looking after me

  • My mom found out that I cut myself on my hand, I had the most meaningful conversation with my mom and let put all my problems and my mom hugged me for 5 minutes and told me that everything will be okay and that she will find me a psychologist I’ve never thought I could feel lighter when letting out my feeling and how I think of my self

  • Wow this really hit home �� I didn’t know I was an emotional eater until this video. I answered yes to all the questions and that’s why I’m not getting results. Thanks �� Rachel now I know what to do.

  • Thank You! Thank You! Thank you for putting out this video!!! I’m in my early 50s and for the last several months I’ve been wondering what was wrong with me. It didn’t make any sense because I’ve been exercising my whole life. I never heard of DOMS before today. Now I understand exactly what’s going on and the changes I need to make. Love your channel!

  • 3:26 That s what happened to me. I sabotaged my own career, lifestyle, financial security, by listening to frenemies and even undercover haters

  • I want to thank you for being here and doing your shows because I have been so much more calm and excepting of my disorders are you have a question how do I talk to my daughters about being depressed and ADD because I worry they have genetic from me and I don’t want them to get scared I send them your videos already and they’re 18 and 20 and I just don’t want them to be ashamed as I was I’m trying to be as positive as possible and direct them and guide them into the right place

  • its very difficult to let go of people you’ve outgrown but the best thing for yourself. It takes a lot to do this and not easy, I have no one in my life from the past and I’m very grateful.

  • You guys helped me with my 71 YO arthritic right shoulder thank you. thank you. The arms behind stretch holding a towel,I really like.

  • Thank you both! Just started watching a week ago. Great segments and information delivered with a smile. Looking forward to you broken heart installment! Not sure I have a heart left. Might have to move move to Mt.Crumpit and rename my dog Max!

  • Waw, that is amazing,this video has touched me a lot.

    Am in that phase in life were things are finally getting to happen,especially this week.

    I saw myself starting to sabotage and this time round I recognised it,and am fighting to stay focus and just jump.

    Its actually isn’t that easy,but I decided I am jumping regardless. Thank you.

  • This topic is not an easy one to tackle but I love how you broke down how to first ID the type of hunger, taking a moment to listen to how you feel and process your state instead of allowing knee-jerk responses like caving on the spot or saying NO too quickly and missing/avoiding the root of your habit.
    I’d never thought about it like this before and the context you gave to this issue makes it feel less like a vague but daunting mountain and def. more scalable. Thanks for all your hard work!

  • You said, if a part of me doesn’t want to succeed I won’t. Totally makes sense, totally is true.
    But how to I ‘kill’ that part in me that does not want to?
    I want to better myself and I don’t want to feel like crap no more, BUT there is that little part of me that wants to ruin my life and I don’t know why��
    It actually does kinda feel like another person who’s like nah you deserve a little shit in your life and I don’t know how to stop it

  • Ambition is a drug like she said. And as with every drug, the high wears off, you experience withdrawal. The high from self improvement is no different. What’s beyond self improvement? What’s more lasting? That should be the focus since an individual in the scheme of things is such a small thing in the world. In other words, playing your own God will only get you so far.

  • That’s right, argue back! That negative, nagging voice needs to be checked. Talk back to it. Defend yourself. If you’re alone, talk back to it out loud!

  • My (ir)rational behind my self-sabotaging is very weird if I start getting better right now, and in fact do get better, I will have be answerable for not getting better sooner and stopping self-sabotaging earlier.

  • My accupunturist helps loads by doing myofacial release and support. Jones strain counter strain. Hydrate. Sleep. Acupressure with seeds on the eat and needle sets. Also she has had me do lotion with chelated magnesium and MSM. This is new and awesome and one of them has melatonin in it to help me sleep
    My PT does release/massage befor I do arm bike and bands and then stretch with a long peice of pipe vertically for my shoulder. I also swim and that helps

  • New subscriber, hi! Girl, you have the most bad ass back tattoos, they look SO sick!!! Totally sparking some inspirational ideas �� great vids!! Xoxo

  • Bob & Brad,
    Hi..I m from JAIPUR, INDIA…I have seen that BACKWARD WALKING is very very BENEFICIAL in JOINT/MUSCLE PAIN…What’s your Take??

  • I do most of these and I’m not even surprised since I HATE MYSELF. Doing those is a way to show how much disgusted I am by myself so it’s kind of satisfying?:’

  • I have really, really important exams in a week and I haven’t studied yet. I’m watching youtube, I’m singing, anything but studying. I’m in the process of ruining my future, not even trying to save myself.. do I like being miserable?

  • Licensed Massage Therapists would prefer not to be called “masseuse/masseur” and no automated tool or foam roller could ever susbtitute for trained hands.

  • I needed this soooo much.. I really want to change but I keep boicoting myself and muy progress and makes me not trust myself, loose confidence and just decrease self love

  • This one reeeeally made me think. I’ve realized that there have been two moments in the past few months where I had a moment that I went ‘wow, I am so incredibly happy right now, life is damn good.’ And the first of the two, I remember thinking ‘this is going to end.’ And within six hours it did both times. And so much of the reason is me overthinking (have you discussed that directly in a video?) It’s a weird phenomenon, I have no idea why I just started noticing it but I have.

  • OMG, i hate myself every time i emotionally eat but I keep doing it. Its so dishearting and I’m here just looking for ways to stop.

  • Why did I get a food advertisement before this video? Okay ouch Youtube, thanks for that. Really solid video though, love your editing style

  • Oh, the timing.
    I was catcalled on my way to uni this morning and went into a binge as soon as I got the chance to. I am so fed up..

  • I’ve been dealing with eating disorders maybe since I was 12… most of the times is emotional eating, but has been like 3 times that I go to the point of anorexia and no eating at all. Now that I am a mom, I need to take control of those eating disorders, I’m trying really hard everyday to not fall down on my unhealthy habits.

  • I ate when I was feeling anxiety and I didn’t eat when I was feeling stressed, so now I notice the pattern and I changed it, working on my self and loving each step I go further

  • true. my life. it’s like i’m drawn towards the bad things so i make the wrong choices without thinking. I also self sabotage on purpose too.

  • I was so tired of the same videos “eat this, eat that, exercise and you’re healthy” that I’ve encountered in YouTube. There’s so much profundity in what you have prepared for us! Simply the best video about health (mental and physical). Thank you, Rachel.

  • Loved this! I’ve been self sabotaging and emotional eating big time recently! And have no idea why! Love the checklist idea so practical and already in my phone. Thanks Rachel ❤️

  • I sabotage in Romantic relationships. Ive been going to therapy. Now I’m stopping things when they first become a thought. Reframing the thought. Most of the time no validity to thease thoughts. I’ve been correcting things communicating with my boyfriend and he’s a great man so we’re working together on things.��

  • Just signed up for your email and got the download for a clean kitchen, thank you so much!! I’m so excited for my fitness journey to take off

  • I needed this. The last two weeks have been so stressful. I didn’t have time for sleep, not even talking about exercise. I started stress-eating again and i feel so much fatter and disgusted with myself. Time to get back on track. Thank you for this video <3

  • No matter what we think or do, we are all STUCK in our culture like glue. We are defined by our socio eco status, race, age…..!

  • i’m an emotional eater at least 2 a month but all i crave is vegetables lol i jus want to bite into a tomato or a raw head of broccoli…. I have no craving for sweets or junk food… i just want soup and salad with a lot of crunchy veggies. i have those things regularly anyway.. but when im emotional i need a vegetable to the point of tears. that confuses me cu most people want sweets or burgers. i have no explanation for this but i’d love to know if there is a reason for these differences

  • I wish I can visit and stay with you for me to able to adapt to your habit and be successful like you as well. I want to be healed mentally and emotionally from ED

  • i have experienced two really heavy burnouts. last happened 7 years ago. still did not recover completely! the only thing what helped was removing stress (which in my case is difficult as i strugle financially and this is a huge source of stress) and resting. resting for a really really long time. nothing else helped. and a common cause of a burnout is a heavy depression that follows it! not fun at all

  • i would appreciate it if you make a video about how to gain weight easily,or if anyone else reading this comment can give me any helpful tips because im underweight and i really want to gain a few pounds but its just hard for me to finish my meal,i always eat three times a day but everytime i eat i feel full so easily and it makes me sooo mad that i cant even finish one bowl of cereal

  • this information is so helpful, im a total boredom eater. Id like to say that although i appreciate how much effort you put into editing this, for some reason, the cuts in all different backdrops felt a little off to me? like i was watching one of those motivational speaker videos or an infomercial. My favourite thing about your videos is that they feel personal, warm, genuine… perhaps im just attached to the sitdown chats.:)