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The Fine Art of Choosing Your Battles. by Daina Lynn. April 7, 2019. No Comments. Share it: “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself, but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat.

If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb. Choose Your Battles: A Guide for Smart People. Updated on July 20, 2019. Paula. more. No need to get my blood pressure up over someone else’s ignorance.

I try to practise the fine art of choosing my battles, like the hub says. I’m sure my sons would tell you about my “temper,” when they were young wild cubs but even then they’d use very. Pick Your Battles Bohdi Sanders writes an article teaching about the importance for warriors and martial artists to pick their battles. You can win every battle.

You must use wise strategies, such as Sun Tzu’s Art of War, in every conflict. Sun Tzu quotes can. People use the term “pick your battles” to suggest that people would be well-advised to select a specific issue of importance to focus on, rather than trying to deal with too many things at once.

Individuals may also hear this saying rendered as “choose your battles,” and many people append “wisely” when offering this piece of advice. But most experts agree: choosing your battles wisely is a much better way of life than battling out every disagreement. Although they may seem important at the time, most battles are NOT worth fighting.

According to Dr. Richard Carlson, author of Don’t. With a little luck, you’ll steer the conversation back on track, and turn choosing your battles into a way to win them. Photo: baki/Shutterstock.com He has taught over 57,000 students the art.

CHOOSING YOUR BATTLES WISELY May 7, 2012 Parenting. share on: Sun Tzu is widely accepted as the author of The Art of War, a book of military strategy renowned for it timeless influence on warfare throughout history, even though it was written during the 4 th or 3 rd Centuries BC. Choose Your Battles Wisely by Don Have you ever found yourself in an argument that just wasn’t accomplishing anything, and think to yourself, I don’t know why I even opened my mouth?“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight.

It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most.

Choosing whether or not and how to take a stand as opposed to choosing a battle, creates a greater likelihood that what follows will be a respectful dialogue, rather.

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For what battle presented in stark form was one of the classic problems free men face: choosing between the rival claims of public responsibility and private wishes, or in eighteenth-century terms, choosing between virtue—devotion to the public trust—and personal liberty.

“The Glorious Cause: The American Revolution, 1763-1789” by Robert Middlekauff
from The Glorious Cause: The American Revolution, 1763-1789
by Robert Middlekauff
Oxford University Press, 2007

There’s an old aphorism that says “Choose your battles wisely.”

“Daily Guidance from Your Angels” by Doreen Virtue
from Daily Guidance from Your Angels
by Doreen Virtue
Hay House, Incorporated, 2008

Choosing this battle for my first wargame as a designer was not a matter of vanity or provocation, but simply because the opportunity presented itself.

“Zones of Control: Perspectives on Wargaming” by Pat Harrigan, Matthew G. Kirschenbaum, James F. Dunnigan
from Zones of Control: Perspectives on Wargaming
by Pat Harrigan, Matthew G. Kirschenbaum, James F. Dunnigan
MIT Press, 2016

(12) If I may be allowed to bring forward once more the two last principles, the combination of them yields a maxim which, in the modern Art of War, may be regarded as the first among all causes of victory, that is: to follow up a great and decisive object with energy and perseverance.

“On War” by Carl Von Clausewitz, J. J. Graham, Jan Willem Honig, F. N. Maude
from On War
by Carl Von Clausewitz, J. J. Graham, et. al.
Barnes & Noble, 2004

Selecting a battle won by your side would give you the thrill of joining in the experience as well as the secure feeling of knowing the outcome.

“Time Travel in Einstein's Universe: The Physical Possibilities of Travel Through Time” by J. Richard Gott
from Time Travel in Einstein’s Universe: The Physical Possibilities of Travel Through Time
by J. Richard Gott
Houghton Mifflin, 2002

The intellectual journey is necessary to ensure first that you select the right MWBs, and then that you choose the right supporting battles that need to be won to ensure victory in the main battles.

“Must-Win Battles” by Peter Killing, Thomas Malnight, Tracey Keys
from Must-Win Battles
by Peter Killing, Thomas Malnight, Tracey Keys
Pearson Education Limited, 2005

Battles have always been depicted in art.”

“Feminist Approaches to Media Theory and Research” by Dustin Harp, Jaime Loke, Ingrid Bachmann
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by Dustin Harp, Jaime Loke, Ingrid Bachmann
Springer International Publishing, 2018

Moreover, the object of all war is victory, and a purely defensive attitude can never bring about a successful decision, either in a battle or in a campaign.

“World War I: The Definitive Encyclopedia and Document Collection [5 volumes]: The Definitive Encyclopedia and Document Collection” by Spencer C. Tucker
from World War I: The Definitive Encyclopedia and Document Collection [5 volumes]: The Definitive Encyclopedia and Document Collection
by Spencer C. Tucker
ABC-CLIO, 2014

The choices you make in the midst of the battle determine whether victory is won.

“Ferocious Warrior: Dismantle Your Enemy and Rise” by Cora Jakes-Coleman
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by Cora Jakes-Coleman
CHARISMA HOUSE, 2019

It is not about picking the wrong battles.

“The New Leader's 100-Day Action Plan: How to Take Charge, Build Your Team, and Get Immediate Results” by George B. Bradt, Jayme A. Check, Jorge E. Pedraza
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by George B. Bradt, Jayme A. Check, Jorge E. Pedraza
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  • Exactly. What I thought was going to be a 6 month issue has turned into what’s probably going to be a year. Also, even though in my state if they break the parenting plan/decree and it says you are entitled to attorneys fees, that absolutely does not mean Ill get it. I have had to go into this knowing I’m going to be out about 10k+. What you think is going to be straightforward isn’t, It just isn’t. There is no such thing as “slam dunk” in family law matters. And even if your state makes you do mediation to resolve first as in the divorce, you most likely wont settle. It’s not in their best interest to settle because all this legal drama is MAJOR fuel for them. They LOVE being able to be the victim all over again. So, keep that in mind if you do decide to litigate anything. When I listed the Pros and Cons, it was a MAJOR con, and almost a deal breaker CON for me. That’s how seriously I took it. In the end I decided that it was better to let him have his drama and fuel than let my son live the way he was having to live.

  • 11:19 I wasted soo much energy trying to fight the system and in the end does not make any difference… if you get paid well do what your boss is telling you! if the pay is bad, get the fuck out of there and look for a better job!
    Dont wasted your energy on a company!

  • I agree with your overall statement but I think you missed something there. When you’re young, you don’t always pick a fight in order to win something. Much more often you do it to boost your self-esteem. It doesn’t matter for you that the prize was shit if you won the fight, if you’ve shown yourself to be better than someone else. But when you’re older, you’re more confident, you see how little it matters sometimes. And so you chase effectiveness, and don’t see a loss as a personal insult.

  • Brilliant advice. Very very true. Avoid lawyers at all costs. No pun intended. You’ll enter a financial spiral. My son hated his mother so much for good reasons and kept making her accountable she kicked him out. Problem solved.

  • When you’re strong it’s prudent to pick battles that are important to you, when you’re weak it’s important to pick battles you can win.

  • All the consequences you mention about the boss is objectively true but I have to disagree with the fact that those consequences are inherintly bad.
    I think it’s always beneficial to go against your boss if you are right even if your boss doesn’t have a boss.

    Why you ask?
    Because it’s a very good test to see if you can trust him, or if you should leave him.
    You see, it’s not only about the employers that chooses you it’s also about the employers you choose.
    Lets say your boss say we should do A and I claim we should do B.
    if B is right, and your boss listens to you and do B, you will gain confidence. You will trust yourself because you made a company do as you said and make the company succeed.
    if B is right, but your boss dismisses your idea and does A, you will realize how such a piece of shit he is, or at least, how incompetent he is in leading a company, and of course your boss is still gonna get pissed off at you and it will hurt your relationship with your boss. So what? if that battle made you lose your job even though it was proven that you were right, that is because you shouldn’t have worked for him in the first place.
    if A is right, and your boss does A, then it’s proven that you were wrong, and although the boss will have less trust for you, you will have more trust for him in his work of leading your company. You have gotten proof that your boss knows what he is doing and in a sense, that’s a good releaf, as it means you don’t need to engage in his responsibilities but can do your work and let him take the responsibility.
    The absolutely worst thing that can happen, is if A is right, but your boss listens to you and does B instead, and the company loses money. Your boss and collegues will loose credibility for you, and even worse is if you are the person who executes B. Then they can even charge you in debt. That’s why it’s so important you know from beforehand, that you are RIGHT. as long as you are not 100% sure you are right, never take the battle. but when you know you are right, TAKE THE BATTLE.

    I know this because I worked for an agency for several years. we got a boom in number of salesmen working on the streets in Oslo, but they used betrayal tactics to get customers, and I had to receive all the phones. I told my boss (the owner) that he should confront the salesboss and the salesmen on this, but he refused. in other words, I claimed B, but my boss did A, and was wrong.
    That meaned our salesboss got paid for thousands of customers that never payed but refused the bill, the company almost got bankrupt and All his successfull attempts to ask me to wait for my salary because we had to invest on “recruitment”, tooks its toll on my economy, as he didn’t have the money to pay the money he owned me, but instead the salesboss got all the money instead, for sales he never should have been paid for.

    If I never “took the battle” and confronted him, I would still have worked for him for my own ignorance, and the pattern would have started all over again.
    Now, I have all opportunities to find a new job, live cheap and happy, and save up some money, something I have never been able to do in the past.

    All and all, I still agree with your generall message pick your battles.

  • Lesson 1: Don’t waste your time and energy on trivial and unimportant issues.
    Lesson 2: Ultimately, nearly all of life’s issues are trivial and unimportant.

  • I just lost my cool five minutes ago… Had a friend try to put me down on my knowledge & call me retarded because he apperently knows more… This guy does this often. Today tho… Blew up on the guy and he sat their fucking blown away… Told me he’s gonna smoke his bowl and go. I’m like fuck that smack his bowl out and tell him to get the fuck out. Probably didn’t handle that right. I usually handle his dumb ass antics pretty well but recently man. Beta mode is out the fucking window..

  • An example of losing to win is in wrestling when bad guys with championship belts disqualify themselves in a match so they lose the match but not the belt

  • Just curius: in minute 17 you said “11 in the morning here in London” but in one of your other videos you mentioned you are in Ukraine. So did you move or what happened?

  • You’re mostly right, but some battles are obvious lose-lose, yet are nonetheless unavoidable for all but the dedicated opportunist. The public wife-beater, the public child abuser, shoplifters, armed robbers, etc. This said, a lot of people are dedicated opportunists.

  • By arguing with others you give them validity and power to control you. I’ve learned to ignore most arguments even if they do want me to fight back. There’s nothing people hate more than being ignored.

  • Good point here coach. I have to ask though, you said that with women most if not all the time, your decision should be followed. Does picking your battles only be followed with other and not with women where you should definitely win most of the time?

  • Control freak here. Was confused till 28 29.. Now 32, on track, serendipity that I found you here! Reassuring that I am on the right track coach, you are like a real father figure, wanna be a man like you to my children (if happens), much regards from India

  • Never out the shine the master (at least not in person) we all know some bosses are idiots and eventually they will bring themselves down all by themselves.

  • Is this good advice for dealing with internet trolls. Some are better to ignore whereas others need to have their stupidity put on blast.

  • I believe strongly in this saying. My old man, however, did not. In a world where you gotta pick your battles, he picked them all. Politics, religion, pizza toppings, you name it, and he’d not only argue with you, he’d not let you get a word in edgewise. A lifetime of that contributed to his fatal heart attack last year. He was a fussbudget, yes, but someone I’d have taken a bullet for.

  • Thanks for putting up this vid,I realized you were basically talking about me. I’m 20,and I argued about WWII,political correctness and mass immigration with a lot of my high school teachers and some uni professors. Not a wise decision lmao. I’m the type of guy who thirsts for the truth and knowledge; I despise cowardice, intellectual dishonesty and it takes me a lot of effort to hide my disdain and disgust, to shut my mug. I’ll try to be more resourceful and cunning in the future,keep up the excellent work with your channel,I love your content!

  • Reminiscing my college days. I was a bit of a contrarian with my teachers and professors.. Didn’t get me much apart from their flabbergasted look after I debunked them. Personal satisfaction isn’t always worth much.

  • Priscilla osbourne our relationship song is Choose your battles it’s remind me thinking about my best girlfriend all my whole life with you Priscilla!

  • Good that you posted this one. Last week I saw our (parent coordinator) attorney b/c I’m being denied visitations. Attroney said I could file contempt but in the end it is still a piece of paper and that it would take a lot of court time to get the courts to remove any ounce of parental privelages or hold the party responsible for withholding visitations to do anything differerent. He said, basically “you cant make an asshole act nice”. In otherwords, it’s not worth it. My fear is not only losing time with my children but that he will take me to court to fight for child support reimbursment b/c I am having less time (which the narc has threatened to do). When I finally escaped him, he told my family “I will bury her in debt”.  Well, that’s seems to be working out well for him.

  • Thank you. You have been helping me a lot and your words are truths of a man who lived a full life and sharing his wisdom and his experience of life. Thanks again.

  • I already watched many of your videos… Don’t want to say thank you again, but think about that all the people that liked this video… they are people like you that you helped.

  • Great subject! This is very important information for everyone. The energy wasted on “little” things we turn into “big” things is a terrible waste indeed! It can even ruin physical health and lead to a much shorter life. Yes, we must learn to choose battles wisely. Good job Coach. It’s appreciated.

  • There are situations where winning or losing a particular argument will depend on the timeframe. A loss in the short term won’t matter over time. Of course too many over that same timespan can hurt.

  • I have a friend that he kept complaining (he was correct), the boss said “the sky is RED” my friend kept saying “The sky is BLUE”…. the rest of the team new better and from time to time we would point out that “the sky look Blue” but for most of the time we would say “the sky is red”…
    The Boss of HHRR came one time and told us that “if you know someone that is saying the sky is blue, please tell them to LEAVE, we don’t need you”!!!
    That is a life lesson there!! (no one teaches you that in college)
    That friend is being treated horribly until this day (6 years), the rest of us just quit!
    learn to pick your battles!

  • People who weren’t in this:
    Shazam
    Metal man
    Bucky
    Robin
    Starfire
    Raven
    Red skull
    Lord business
    Yondu
    Laserface
    Groot
    Baby Groot
    Old
    Groot
    (I know they are the same but idc)
    R2D2

  • If you had put this out before the kraut video I woudn’t have criticised you for it, but what you’ve done instead is to be two steps ahead of the game and I like that.
    You knew it wais going to be fruitless but you still took the chip off your shoulder hah:).

  • This reminds me of that time I went against 2 of my liberals friends, calling the notion “build a wall” racist. At the end of the discussion I didn’t change their opinion of it, rather I just got called a Brainwashed Fascist. Pick your battles carefully my friends.

  • Hello
    Katy   and fans I want to invite you to the new Youtube channel
    :Oscar Barnley Barnola,where every five weeks shouldl be plenty of new
    videos about cultural topics, tales and stories with cartoons,magical recipes
    (Californian, Texan & Floridan kitchen )

  • Your not wrong Coach. Kraut isn’t going to win against the Alt Right, and if he somehow does he’ll catch 4chans ire. No one beats them, not even the websites creator could beat them.

  • I think you are onto something when you say you have a limited number of fights within you. It is a broader point that picking some ego-fights. I see it as conservation of one’s time and energy in face of multiple goals. Most of us try to do many things and fail miserably in all. Do you agree with this point of view?

    For example, I have 8 years experience in IT and MBA and was thinking to do finance certifications(CFA) to move towards IT business analyst in finance. However CFA is a multiple-year investment and I realize that I would be better off strengthening my core skill set i.e technology than diversifying in a new area. Basically, I was thinking to do both CFA and strengthening the IT skill set. It is possible that I have only a certain number of fights left within me: given I am in my mid 30s.

  • Right now, the company i’m currently working in, is heading to a horrible Business “car crash”.
    it’s passing in front of everybody in Slow motion.
    I stated the reasons why it’s a mistake.
    I provided solutions.
    My boss’s boss acknowledged my opinion, and ignored it.
    MY BOSS IS STILL FIGHTING THE DECISION
    LOL

  • You should go over the concept of Phyrric Victory in that “Sometimes winning is losing” line of thought. The King Pyrrhus of Epirus had won major but costly victories over the Romans is told to have said something along the lines of “If we are victorious in one more battle with these Romans, we shall be utterly ruined.” It is an interesting concept and understanding it is of vital importance.

  • 15:00 I remember Stefan Molyneux told that he actually argued(?) with his marxist philosophy professor. He recommended doing that because you will learn better that way, apparently.

  • I’ve got a very strong minded girlfriend who has a comment for everything. I too am very strong minded. This video will hopefully help me to realize that it’s not worth getting upset everytime she opens her mouth. However, I’m to dam stubborn to let it go. So I have to call her out on her shit and we always end up arguing.

  • As an addition to this, a point that is equally essential to picking your battles. KNOW WHEN TO STOP IN VICTORY.

    All too often, you will find yourself winning, winning a lot. More than you bargained for and suddenly, bam! You start losing because you can’t handle it all. You have to know when to stop, take a moment, re-assess the situation and your personal countenance. You must never over step in victory, otherwise you will suffer the sting of defeat. The mark of a long and successful life is one that has been thoroughly planned.

  • I’m really liking by your video lay outs, especially when most of the screen was black and only some of the screen was a shot of you talking. Talking about shots I like how you have several cameras set up it’s very interesting, it’s kinda like you’re talking too one person however several people are watching and you’re all of them. On another note you’ve been a good influence on my life usually I don’t like being told too do something because I don’t trust their words, I mostly only trust my parents and the elderly (not that they’re mutually exclusive), but I trust your word because it seems as though you’re wise, you seem humble and educated you’re not some shmuck whose only outlet is YouTube like most people on the internet. I think you’re beginning too become my most trusted internet outlet you’re not influenced by money or politics and you rely on no one I think that’s why you’re so trustworthy, because you’re fearless. I know most of this has been stated by you but I can’t disagree with you because most of what you say I have too agree with because I can’t think of anything too rebut you.

  • so true, dealing with an ex is hard enough when it comes to your children, but a narc adds a whole new crazy to the situation…most courts are just looking for $$$ and they deal with these cases every day, like you said, try to find ways around the situation…and remember too, the bright side is they will also have a difficult time taking you to court also…

  • Always wanted this song along “Spiritual”, “By The Grace of God” and “It Takes Two” to be singles out off the #PRISM album. Love these songs, very meaningful and uplifting. #ART.

  • problem is having many goals is a definite killer especially if they are not sequential but in parallel.
    Example: learning 3 new languages + lifting 200 pounds, having the 6 packs + having a six figure income from work, business and passive income streams + travelling around the world + reading 20 books a year + being martial art expert black bet etc…

    Side aspects: But you can only go so far!!

    changing diet (eating once to twice a day, eating less = more time)
    optimizing sleep (polyphasic schedule)

    combining subjects (specific training for martial arts and body fitness)
    reading finance books or business books or body building books, language books => validates several goals simultaneously
    skipping all distractions for fun and relax and avoiding temptations of any kind (family friends colleagues…)

    And trying to do all of them at the same time is hard as hell. It may be better to get to the point of earn having more time for the rest but it also feels like failing because all those goals are still stacking up and pending before getting there…

  • You are my hurt locker lover
    Keep me walking on a wire
    Don’t know when you’ll blow
    So I tip toe through your triggered mine
    You fight me but I’m on your side
    Defeated, now retreating
    Why you trying to make me your enemy
    All I really need is a little peace
    I just wanna be your lover
    Oh, this is not a competition
    So baby why the ammunition
    I don’t wanna be the last one standing
    Choose your battles, babe
    Then you win the war
    Stop digging your own grave
    There’s so much to live for
    Choose your battles, babe
    ‘Cause I’m not fighting anymore
    I am not fighting anymore
    I try to pick off your red flags
    But dancing up on broken glass
    Your mind games hit like glue names
    Your course just like the Kennedys
    But you somehow get me on my knees, defeated
    Not retreated
    Why you trying to make me your enemy
    All I really need is a little peace
    I just wanna be your lover
    Oh, this is not a competition
    So baby why the ammunition
    I don’t wanna be the last one standing
    Choose your battles, babe
    Then you win the war
    Stop digging your own grave
    Within, so much to live for
    Choose your battles, babe
    ‘Cause I’m not fighting anymore, no
    I am not fighting anymore
    If you wanna go, then go
    If you wanna stay then stay
    ‘Cause I don’t wanna fight no more, baby
    I am not fighting anymore
    If you wanna go, then go
    If you wanna stay then stay
    I don’t wanna fight no more
    Anyway, I am not fighting anymore
    If you wanna go, then go
    If you wanna stay then stay
    ‘Cause I don’t wanna fight no more, baby
    If you wanna go, then go (choose your battle babe)
    If you wanna stay then stay (then you win the war)
    ‘Cause I don’t wanna fight no more, baby (stop digging your own grave)
    If you wanna go, then go (choose your battle babe)
    If you wanna stay then stay (then you win the war)
    ‘Cause I don’t wanna fight no more, baby

  • When you are too lost and don’t know how to escape from all your issues, take my advice and listen this songs and same like Katy help her to get over her failled relationship you can get over anything that make you weak and if you want you can sing lungs at top ’cause only God can help you to choose your way….and remember before to make a step you always have to CHOOSE YOUR BATTLE to then don’t regret of nothing

  • Sometimes you have to stand up for what is right, it may not be to enhance your career prospects or offer yourself any financial gain etc but to just see right prevail over wrong. Any battle that is standing up for injustice or unfairness is a battle worth fighting in my eyes.

  • It was so heart breaking when he said he thought he was a hero when he did all of those it was so sad “I thought i was a hero” T-T T-T

  • I, am 100% sure The Oscar is the strongest hero/villain on every movie, anime, video games, and etc. Because he possesses every single one of their powers. But why isn’t Darkseid, Anti monitor, and Galactus, etc. Isn’t in the video?

  • Thanos (Avengers: Infinity War & Endgame) Has Infinity Glove �� ♾ Colors 8:56
    Oscar: The Golden Man �� Crush 9:38 & Chews 9:41 Or Sallowed
    He Brought Infinite ♾ Glove 27:01 And He Snap His Fingers Turn
    27:04 Heroes ��‍♂️ & Villains ��‍♂️ Into a Dust.

  • 8:56 I’m gonna kill you with all the colours of the rainbow except indigo 9:12 Oh no ohh this thing is heavy! 9:35 That infinity backfired! 14:37 Captain! Yes!? 20:20 Don’t engage!