Insufficient Fitness Adding to Depression and Suicide

 

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The Science of Depression

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Lack of Fitness Contributing to Depression and Suicide? Mass school shootings, teen suicides, bullying. These unfortunate realities slap us in the face hard every time we turn on the news.

Given the high risk of depression and suicide in returning service members, the Department of Defense (DoD) is advised to collaborate with local Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) to help develop physical and mental transition plans to ensure continuity of care between the service and civilian life. Exercise reduces suicide attempts by 23 percent among bullied teens Date: September 21, 2015 Source: University of Vermont Summary: As high schools across the. Conclusion: in the last 20 years, few progresses were done in showing the efficacy of exercise on depression, due in part to the persistent lack of high quality research, in part to clinical issues of management of depression in late life, in part to the difficult to establish the real effectiveness of exercise on depressive symptoms in elderlies.

A major cause of suicide is mental illness, very commonly depression. People feeling suicidal are overwhelmed by painful emotions and see death as the only way out, losing sight of the fact that suicide is a permanent “solution” to a temporary state—most people who try to kill themselves but live later say they are glad they didn’t die. Depression, especially in middle-aged or older adults, can co-occur with other serious medical illnesses such as diabetes, cancer, heart disease, and Parkinson’s disease. Depression can make these conditions worse and vice versa. Sometimes medications taken for these physical illnesses may cause side effects that contribute to depression.

“In depression, social isolation typically serves to worsen the illness and how we feel,” Ilardi says. “Social withdrawal amplifies the brain’s stress response. Social contact helps put the brakes. Another way about thinking of suicide risk and depression is to examine the lives of people who have died by suicide and see what proportion of them were depressed. From that perspective, it is estimated that about 60 percent of people who commit suicide have had a mood disorder (e.g., major depression, bipolar disorder, dysthymia). Depression can make you less motivated to do things.

A lack of motivation may be caused by depression, or it may be caused by something else. Learn more about the connection between depression and. Suicide is just behind accidents as the leading cause of death for young adults.

Suicidal depression may lead to extreme actions. Learn what it looks like.

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Depression is not the only area in which fitness level plays a role.

“The Biophysical Foundations of Human Movement” by Bruce Abernethy, Stephanie J. Hanrahan, Vaughan Kippers, Laurel T. Mackinnon, Marcus G. Pandy
from The Biophysical Foundations of Human Movement
by Bruce Abernethy, Stephanie J. Hanrahan, et. al.
Human Kinetics, 2005

Are lower levels of cardiorespiratory fitness associated with incident depression?

“Exercise Is Medicine: How Physical Activity Boosts Health and Slows Aging” by Judy Foreman
from Exercise Is Medicine: How Physical Activity Boosts Health and Slows Aging
by Judy Foreman
Oxford University Press, Incorporated, 2020

Effects of aerobic and strength training exercise participation on depression.

“Principles and Practice of Stress Management, Third Edition” by Paul M. Lehrer, Robert L. Woolfolk, Wesley E. Sime, David H. Barlow
from Principles and Practice of Stress Management, Third Edition
by Paul M. Lehrer, Robert L. Woolfolk, et. al.
Guilford Publications, 2007

As if it’s not bad enough that it causes the athlete’s fitness to slip away, depression may also set in, especially since so much of an athlete’s life is tied to being physical.

“The Cyclist's Training Bible” by Joe Friel
from The Cyclist’s Training Bible
by Joe Friel
VeloPress, 2012

Frustration, depresSion, and loss of physical fitness are common.

“Shorter Oxford Textbook of Psychiatry” by Paul J. Harrison, Philip Cowen, Tom Burns, Mina Fazel
from Shorter Oxford Textbook of Psychiatry
by Paul J. Harrison, Philip Cowen, et. al.
Oxford University Press, 2017

Depression is associated with poorer adherence to the medical regimen and to cardiac risk factor modification and rehabilitation, and depressed patients are more likely to drop out of exercise programs.

“Braunwald's Heart Disease: A Textbook of Cardiovascular Medicine, 2-Volume Set” by Peter Libby, Robert O. Bonow, Douglas L. Mann, Douglas P. Zipes
from Braunwald’s Heart Disease: A Textbook of Cardiovascular Medicine, 2-Volume Set
by Peter Libby, Robert O. Bonow, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2007

Of course, when you’re depressed, exercising is difficult, because fatigue and lack of energy are so common in depression.

“Coping With Trauma: Hope Through Understanding” by Jon G. Allen
from Coping With Trauma: Hope Through Understanding
by Jon G. Allen
American Psychiatric Publishing, 2008

So consider asking someone else to exercise with you; having company can encourage you to get going and reduce the isolation that is common in depression.

“The Herbal Drugstore: The Best Natural Alternatives to Over-the-Counter and Prescription Medicines!” by Linda B. White, Steven Foster
from The Herbal Drugstore: The Best Natural Alternatives to Over-the-Counter and Prescription Medicines!
by Linda B. White, Steven Foster
Rodale Books, 2003

Over exercising (exercising several times a day at training levels that are at or near maximal can contribute to depressed moods, eating disorders such as anorexia and other compulsive problems).

“Roadmap to Resilience: A Guide for Military, Trauma Victims and Their Families” by Donald Meichenbaum
from Roadmap to Resilience: A Guide for Military, Trauma Victims and Their Families
by Donald Meichenbaum
Crown House Publishing, 2012

Achieving physical fitness is not a prerequisite for depression lift.

“Stop The World, I Want To Get Off” by Bernard Baron Delfont, Anthony Newley, Anna Quayle, Jennifer Baker, Susan Baker, Queen's Theatre (London, England: 1907-), H.M. Tennent Ltd, Marigold Music Ltd
from Stop The World, I Want To Get Off
by Bernard Baron Delfont, Anthony Newley, et. al.
Lulu.com, 1962

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  • I loved this talk so much, i listened to every word and will listen again. I also really like your posting the papers in the videos I always pause and read them. Keep up the good work.

  • I respect this woman so much! She is a role model to all of us especially those struggling with health issues and mental health issues. Bless you Sarah!

  • Shrooms and weed are the drugs I used (responsibly) The shrooms showed me I still hadn’t dealt with my childhood trauma and I was doing things in my life that were setting me up to be disappointed. Do not take them if you’re in a down spell. Be in a good mind set first

  • I wonder why Jordan is crying??? Did someone he knows commit suicide??? Or did he himself suffer depression?? Been there and back…. Failed attempts.. Plus my dad managed to shoot himself. So I guess I have experience on the 2 sides of the coin… Its suffering and grief one way or other…

  • I have no reason to complain of my blessed life, but this pain doesn’t stop. Someone please help. I would love to be normal. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  • I’m ugly not phisically good as my friend’s I’m single and got rejected many times……. I’m now drug addict to weed marijuana and ciggs. I don’t like my family and worst of all everybody think’s I’m the one to blame…..��

  • 47:16 this whole minute just blew my mind! You can BLOCK the adaptation from exercise? Even after you’ve just done the workout? WTF?

  • I’ve thought about suicide, many times in fact. All manner of methods and ways. I can’t bring myself to do it. I won’t stand for the shame and betrayal of offing myself. My depression is a shadow, possibly a result of my split personality as a result of childhood sorrow. My personalities are somewhat split into the Freudian model of things, the id, ego and super ego and they all argue. The ego always uses the first person and the others use third person. I’ve tried counciling and it didn’t work because well I didn’t put in my share of work. Thats all on me and it’s made my life hell. I’m just left feeling like a ghost, hollow and faded. I don’t intend to end my life though sometimes I have the notion that having to carry on is a sentence, my punishment is I get to live with the shadows in my head

  • I love you i just ended modern family im really srry you got trough that im like 15 and ur the purest girl i have ever seen much love ✊��

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  • I have severe depression. It’s really bad for my age, actually. What sucks most about it to me, is when people ask you if you’re ok. I always say I’m fine when really, I’m not fine at all. It really sucks because you let this stuff weigh you down.

  • I want to tell everyone 2 ways to overcome the depression that I am using and are transforming my life.

    I stopped crying in secret in the bath, I feel smart, full of hope for life, super motivated, willing to talk to everyone, call people, be with people, super energized, full of disposition, no laziness, only positive thoughts (the negatives can’t stay☝️��), well it is all the exact opposite of what everyone here is feeling and living!

    One is chemical and the other is psychological:

    1. Maca mixed with ginseng of Costco, but don’t take the indicated dose, take only 1 capsule a day because it is enough and it will last 6 months, for only about 30 dollars I guess!

    2. The other is an advertisement that passed and I clicked and I felt everything I just had above-mentioned but without relying on chemistry (even though maca and ginseng are natural). I found someone who believes more in me than myself, making me believe it too, and have the courage to put the finger in my face and shout: “LET’S GOOOO, TAKE ACTION RIGHT NOW, GO FORWARD”
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  • I was born shocked I couldn’t believe what I was seeing at 7 I’d had enough I attempted suicide I failed and it scared me I have since experienced a suicide and seen the consequences for 63 years I have had to fight depression unaided Jordan Peters on is the best person I have ever listened to he is a complete genius sadhguru Ben shapiro eckhart tohl to name but a few should govern the world I’ve such for Jordan inspiring man god bless you xxx

  • Take a cold shower, stop eating inflammatory foods(pizza, dairy etc.), do a dry fast and you’ll definitely feel better. Helps me everytime.

  • Thank you for such an important video! My boyfriend mother had the same issues and had a really hard time. She was able to cope this situation by doing autogenic Training and I’m happy bit worked.

  • Love both of these people. Brilliant. Rhonda, I’m just curious, but for someone with depression or anxiety. What labs/urine tests do you think should be manditory for an MD to request you have done? Before jumping to the anti depressants? Thanks! Keep up the great videos.

  • how do i stop depression i try to get over it but i cant sometimes when i think about hat happend to me that made me deppresed i start crying…….dont judge me pls…. it has been gowing on before chirimas but winter to this day. for a such a young age of mines i think that for kids its more harder then teenegers or adults but idk

  • I know God is real and I feel Gods love and do my best to spread it. But depression still comes and goes in my life intensely, and it hurts.

  • Rhonda Patrick, i would really want to hear your opinion on Ray Peat and his the type of diet he recommends to increase body temperature and heart if you’ve read his work?

  • My best friend on earth committed suicide on September 6, 2013. I am devastated to this day. As o e who suffered physically and with depression, im a strange way i u derstand? He was suffering so badly. But not even I ever got a clue. He had it, but….i waste very last person who spoke to him. In hindsight, he told me but didn’t tell me. And, I hate myself for not getting a clue. I could have kept him.on the phone or called someone else. But not even I got a clue. Suicidal people speak in metaphors. And I, as a writer, should have gotten it……and didn’t. He hung himself hours after i spoke to him in the wee hours of the morning. I was later informed and….i fell apart. Screamed. Pounded a stucco wall with my fists;….and collapsed. Life has never been the same. As previously stated, I do not fault him. No, not one bit. He was so sick. And, so proud. Too proud. God bless Jeff Houston Killer Soudec forever and always. Some beautiful day……
    We shall meet again…….
    Loving and missing the best friend I ever had( have), my Houston.
    Love always,
    Raquel Tokyo C.

  • Depression: kill me
    Anxiety: let me stop you right there
    My brother to anxiety: let me stop you right there
    Memes to my brother: let me stop you right there

  • If you have depression I would highly recommend trying to exercise regularly. I know it’s hard to force yourself to exercise, but I joined my school’s cross country team to force myself and it changed my life.

  • If you hate your job change your job. If you hate your life change your life. Talk to people who have a good track record and get some insight about how it can be done.

  • bipolar disorder isnt “cute” or “quirky”. its staying awake for days on end and being full of paranoia and making decisions that you regret for years. its going from a terrifying high to a downward spiral of depression that makes getting out of bed feel like climbing everest. its taking medication that makes you feel constantly sick just to think clearly. its not just mild mood swings. its feeling like theres something wrong with you constantly because you don’t know how anything is going to make you feel, or when the scale will tip next. its not fun, its hell.

  • So if we could break that piece down about heat/cold shock for sensitivity. Could you do the Sauna and follow it with an ice bath or a cold shower for a compounded effect or stick to one over the other

  • Your skin is not paper don’t cut it
    Your life isn’t a movie don’t end it
    Your neck isn’t a coat dont hang it
    Your body isn’t a book don’t judge it

    I am still fighting with depression.
    Take my energy.
    You have a life no reasons to end it
    Please know there are allways people who love you

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  • Content side..I feel this realness..I feel being at home..being real.talking normally..when we go out we have to be fake and happy all the time and not how we really are as people..we judge ourselves and people judge us..there are a few people who understand but the rest is very cruel. And we get sad because of it. Im half western but I feel connected to my asian side..this feels good

  • Can the effect of sauna on the inflammation and depression be also be produced by atmospheric temperature? I am asking because where I live, the summer day time temperature very commonly reaches 44 degrees Celsius, and a half hour walk outside even under shade is not pleasant!

  • I have bipolar disorder, and it’s killing me, because, it’s not only depression, it’s a lot more, and it’s worse, and, I can’t explain it to my parents, because, I’m scared that they don’t understand, or they think that I’m putting an act just to make them not getting interested in me, so, I started to keep it a secret. Although I don’t know if I could have schyzophrenia, because, I can hear and see demons in front of me, and, i don’t read horror books and never watched horror movies. So, it’s great that I’m watching crash course, so that I can know what kind of disorder I have and I can diagnose myself.

  • I’ve been researching endogenous opiates too. What’s sooo interesting, if you take exogenous opiates long term… it will slaughter your testosterone leading to hypogonadism, which leads to depression, fatigue, etc. But if you take nalaxone (opiate blocker) it raises your testosterone & overtime alleviates depression, fatigue, etc. The body seems to treat opiate agonists almost as a hormone suppressor, and opiate antagonists as a hormone booster. Which is just so interesting. All these opiates doctors are giving to patients… its really no different than giving hormone injections in a way we’re screwing up their hormones for life. Yet where doctors know how dangerous it is to stop actual HRT… noone ever talks about this with opiates. And doctors really talk so damn much about the role of dopamine & seretonin for depression… but rarely do we dive deep into endorphins. I’ve been on and have taken everything… opiates absolutely destroy dopamine/serotonin agonists for depression. But the biggest bottleneck here seems to be hormones. If you’re not making enough hormones naturally, you’ll never get the endorphins you need. I just wish we wasted half as much time researching endorphins as we do serotonin or dopamine & the link to hormones & also how inflammation drives hormones down which also drives endorphin production down.

  • People who suffer from depression/anxiety etc, my advice to you would be to do a combat sport, i.e. boxing, kickboxing etc,

    You wont regret it trust me.

  • I had some really fun times being manic in my early 20s…Looking back I realized that was not me at all. Then I had an episode last year and omg I was about to be hospitalized because the paranoia was bad.

  • Kim, you are so awesome for sharing your story and helping others.I had severe pregnancy depression due to some medical problems (hyperemesis gravidum, etc) and voluntarily hospitalized myself. God bless you

  • You lost me on collagen peptides. You should know that digestion breaks them down. I am tired of being led down rabbit holes by so called experts

  • To whoever is reading this, you are loved. You are blessed. Your dreams are manifesting as we speak. Time is on your side. Everything will work out in your favor. May you find more love, peace and prosperity. Keep shining your light in this world. We need you and we love you.

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  • i have been trying to find a video to explain to my parents how deppression works cause they still think I can just “tell it to stop”

  • i’m scared to talk about my feelings to people because of the ones who take depression and sadness and made it sound trendy and ‘quirky’.

    so here i am, undiagnosed and scared to tell anyone.

  • Great interview. I met Dr. Raison on several occasions years ago in Fresno when he spoke at pharma-sponsored dinners. As I recall he addressed the treatment of major depressive disorder with Effexor XR. As a result of your videos I have ordered a portable sauna from Amazon, started sprouting again, and resumed whole body vibration exercise.

  • paz hasta n las tormentas d los momentos difíciles….como el vidro d sia… i have mental issues but my faith strenghtens me… I wish in those moments the hardeat to be healed and be kept safe…to find stabilty balance harmony homeostatis LOVE to give and receive….

  • I have this friend.. I’m pretty sure she doesnt have depression but, she broke up with her online bf and now she seems so sad she recently sent me a mesg of her book saying stuff shes feeling and one of the words says she wants to die. How should I confront her she seems so sad?

  • I have pretty much watched all your interviews Dr. Rhonda and I have to say, this man is by far my favourite, bloody fascinating!! After the first hour when he started going down the ‘spiritual’ wormhole I was completely engrossed!! Please Please PLEASE if you read this, can you do a podcast on inflammatory bowel disease and I.B.S? I have seen the interview with the Sonnenburgs and also bought their book but the diet they prescribed caused me gut issues. Thank you and keep up the good work, you truly are doing an amazing job!! If I ever had a daughter, I would want her to grow up to be just like you!!

  • “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by A$$holes.” William Gibson

  • This is one great video… There’s so much truth in everything that Kim had spoken and so much its shunned out… Ppl are hesitant to understand the psychological reason for certain extreme actions.. This video is an eye opener for many women to understand the various changes that’s happening within them.. Hats off to the strong lady…

  • watchamadoodle! new word added to my vocabulary special thanks to Dr. Raison. it sure beats Ms. Poppins’s Supercalafajalistickexpialadojus

  • It works the other way too though, why should i stick around despite my suffering just to please others? Surely they want the best if they do care for me? what if not being here anymore is the best thing for me?

  • you guys could’ve spoken about the effects of vitamin d on melatonin and the sun exposure and its effects on reducing depression. you guys also missed some key points on dark chocolate and turmeric being strong antidepressants and good for alzheimer’s and other brain disorders. there was a lot missing in this video.

  • Thank you for doing this video so powerful! What an amazing and brave woman to tell her story. Suffering from this myself I understand her struggle and pain.

  • the paranoia when im manic is one of the worst things it got so bad once to where i was out at 2am once i thought i was being followed because there was a street light behind me and i tried to jump a fence at a closed golf course

  • who put this vid together’ a lot of good looking people acting a bit sad….the screen should be blank or white ‘ no musick and ye I’m listening to it for help? good luck mr Peterson for all our sakes

  • hi dr rhonda patrick, i saw your video lectures in the philippines, i think with dr Achacoso and i read about jennifer doudna’s work on gene editing but i love your work more on nutrition and biochemistry.

    ive been on depression for many years and just found out on webmd that depression and cardiovascular is linked.

    i like to know your facebook page cus i like to listen more on health and wellness through nutrition and biochemistry because biochemistry is the foundation of nutrition on how food nutrients affects genes and combat cardiovascular disease.

    hopefully if you could have another conference in the philippines not just in manila but also in cebu. im from cebu, philippines. i love to listen your lectures. thanks for everything!

  • My thing is, I’ve always wondered and contemplated that maybe I have depression, and maybe I really do just have it as bad as people with depression, but I also don’t wanna be one of those people that self-diagnoses themselves with depression just to be different

  • Wuau I didn’t know about her health problems, watching her on Modern family and being so funny and gorgeous you never would expect that somebody Like her was suffering so much. She really inspires me

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  • Im scared of death and my mom is the only reason i havent killed myself. She gives me everything and I don’t deserve it. I know if I’m drunk enough I can do it. I realized that alcohol is the key

  • Please do a video on nootropics. I would like to hear your take Huperzine-A which is in the alpha brain supplement. I have discontinued usage of 200mcg after 4 days after hearing it could have a bad long term effect on the acetylcholine receptors. Both Huperzine-A and Caffeine are reversible acetylcholinesterase inhibitors but I’m guessing Huperzine-A is that bit more potent..

  • I’m at a point where i wont mind sleeping knowing I wont wake up ever, its like I’m alive cuz I didn’t die. its not like im depressed I don’t think so its just there is nothing i look forward to, life feels so empty.

  • I thought they found (mostly) a cure. Lack of sleep, depression, hair loss are all linked to the drop in progesterone levels after birth. It can be treated with over-the-counter progesterone cream. This, alone, is enough to cure most symptoms in most women. Of course, sometimes it is caused by additional issues, but Joanne, you should report on the current ways to treat it. The science is readily available and there is absolutely no reason for severity with progesterone therapy.

  • I was in a dark place past couple years but thankfully I can say it wasn’t to the point of being suicidal or involved with any drug use. It was all psychologically getting to my head where I had to let out that anger inside of me out. School stressed while parents/family fighting over the dumbest things kept piling in my head. While all that is going I’m sitting locked in my room contemplating a million things at once. I began to learn that I can’t control my own destiny like I thought I could and had to accept that life has things that I simply can’t control. That mentality helped me ease off that stress until today. I just wanna make it in life and see others around me succeed with positivity ❤️

  • God, isn’t it bad enough your in mental torment without being made to feel guilty about wanting to end it. That is evil. In my experience, the ones that are left are the ones who’s nastiness caused it.

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  • I started watching the show few weeks ago and it’s mind blowing just to think that sweet funny full of energy actress was constantly struggling with serious physical and mental pain. There are no words to describe her courage and generosity for sharing this. Wish her the best

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  • Talking is all I’ve been doing but nobody helps. I would love to get treatment n get a start (not restart because I never had a chance) in life

  • I really enjoyed this segment! Great job Joanna, I loved your questions! And i applaud this lady for speaking about something that was hard for her! It is definitely not easy to tell people that you are going through some stuff!