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How to create a loving relationship with yourself.

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If we want a freakin’ good life, then we better have a freakin’ good relationship with ourselves. Here are 11 ways you can begin: 1. Create self-love habits. These habits will help you stay grounded in loving energy, which will support your well-being.

Set intention and cultivate awareness. Set the overarching goal, over a span of years, to keep moving toward a good relationship with yourself, with. A healthy relationship with ourselves is an ongoing process—again, just like any relationship. Below, you’ll find a list of ways to cultivate a kind, meaningful, fulfilling relationship with. To build a good relationship with ourselves, we must honor the relationship we have with the universe.

As you wake up (and before going to bed), pay gratitude to your existence. Being grateful opens up closed doors and allows us to accept the present moment for whatever it brings us. 8.

Observing with unshaded eyes how we respond to ourselves, we lay the groundwork for building a relationship with ourselves—and others—steeped in trust and acceptance, as opposed to constant dodging or denial. 1. Sit in front of a mirror, in a well-lit place. Make your face the focal point, and relax it as much as possible.

According to Hanks, “A great place to start cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself is by caring for your basic physical needs.” That includes getting enough sleep and rest, eating. Say positive things to yourself every day If you want to have a better relationship with yourself, try saying positive affirmations in the mirror every morning and evening, such as “I love who I am” and “You deserve happiness.” You may feel a. Maintain a degree of space and independence. It’s unhealthy to allow the relationship to absorb your identity and to lose yourself as a person.

Keep your own rituals, your own activities, and your own friends. Spend a healthy time apart doing your own thing to nurture your soul. Allow growth for yourself, your partner, and for the relationship itself. Recognize that changes in your relationship are opportunities for new growth.

Change is inevitable, so welcome changes and accept that the relationship will adapt. When changes happen, take a deep breath and deal with them one by one. Ask for what you need and be willing to compromise, and your relationship with your manager will be better for it.

Keep in mind, your goal shouldn’t be to become best friends with your boss. Instead, focus on establishing good communication skills and building trust—and the rewards will follow.

List of related literature:

Develop and deepen your appreciation of yourself by exploring what you value about yourself, and the gratitude that flows from that valuing.

“The Power of Appreciation: The Key to a Vibrant Life” by Noelle C. Nelson, Jeannine Lemare Calaba
from The Power of Appreciation: The Key to a Vibrant Life
by Noelle C. Nelson, Jeannine Lemare Calaba
Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2011

For instance, you can use positive self-talk to build the skills required to solve complex personal problems, increase feelings of personal worth and well-being, facilitate achievement of personal goals, enrich social relationships, promote career success, and improve performance on any task.

“The Complete Book of Psychic Empowerment: Tools & Techniques for Growth & Empowerment” by Carl Llewellyn Weschcke, Joe H. Slate
from The Complete Book of Psychic Empowerment: Tools & Techniques for Growth & Empowerment
by Carl Llewellyn Weschcke, Joe H. Slate
Llewellyn Worldwide, Limited, 2011

• Session 4 broadens loving-kindness meditation into a compassionate conversation with ourselves and focuses how to motivate ourselves with kindness rather than self-criticism.

“Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals” by Christopher Germer, Kristin Neff
from Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals
by Christopher Germer, Kristin Neff
Guilford Publications, 2019

Pick one of the affirmations or positive statements from this chapter, write it down on a small piece of paper or sticky note, and repeat it one hundred times each day for a week.

“The Complete Game of Life and How to Play It: The Classic Text with Commentary, Study Questions, Action Items, and Much More” by Florence Scovel Shinn, Chris Gentry, Laura Berman Fortgang
from The Complete Game of Life and How to Play It: The Classic Text with Commentary, Study Questions, Action Items, and Much More
by Florence Scovel Shinn, Chris Gentry, Laura Berman Fortgang
Hampton Roads Publishing, 2015

The third step is to start working on specific behaviors, such as improving your listening, introducing yourself to others, finding areas of common interest, reading nonverbal cues, and ending conversations in a way that encourages more contact in the future.

“Emotional Intelligence in Action: Training and Coaching Activities for Leaders, Managers, and Teams” by Marcia Hughes, James Bradford Terrell
from Emotional Intelligence in Action: Training and Coaching Activities for Leaders, Managers, and Teams
by Marcia Hughes, James Bradford Terrell
Wiley, 2011

This is an excellent book of advice.”17 Like other self-help books of the time, How to Be Your Own Best Friend has as its central premise that human potential is unfulfilled.

“In Therapy We Trust: America's Obsession with Self-fulfillment” by Eva S. Moskowitz
from In Therapy We Trust: America’s Obsession with Self-fulfillment
by Eva S. Moskowitz
Johns Hopkins University Press, 2001

Cultivate self-compassion by observing that inner voice and speaking to yourself as you would to your best friend (Reading, 2017).

“Skills for Midwifery Practice Australia & New Zealand edition” by Sara Bayes, Sally-Ann de-Vitry Smith, Robyn Maude
from Skills for Midwifery Practice Australia & New Zealand edition
by Sara Bayes, Sally-Ann de-Vitry Smith, Robyn Maude
Elsevier Health Sciences APAC, 2018

Keep a journal of affirmations and honestly list each day every thing, great and small, that you appreciate about yourself.

“The Spiritual Awakening Process” by Mateo Sol, Aletheia Luna
from The Spiritual Awakening Process
by Mateo Sol, Aletheia Luna
Independently Published, 2019

By choosing to spend time with us, listening to what we say, asking for our opinions, and soliciting our help in emotional and physical ways, friends give a sense of utility and worth.

“21st Century Communication: A Reference Handbook” by William F. Eadie
from 21st Century Communication: A Reference Handbook
by William F. Eadie
SAGE Publications, 2009

I have made positive changes in myself and the techniques I have been reading about have really worked.

“The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage” by Michele Weiner Davis
from The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage
by Michele Weiner Davis
Simon & Schuster, 2002

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  • What’s the most important relationship of all?

    It’s the one that you have with YOURSELF.  In order to love others, you must first be able to love yourself.  To be able to give and serve others in your life, or attract someone you desire, then you must start with cultivating a relationship with YOU first.

    That’s why I believe morning rituals are so powerful, as it’s your opportunity every day to deepen your relationship with yourself and to meet all of your needs without depending on others.  You fill yourself up completely, so you’re living in abundance and have more to give to others.

    Need help with your morning ritual?  Get the Morning Ritual Cheatsheet:

  • Compliments, Christine, for being so generous to share these powerful educational experiences with all of us! And special compliments to Melissa for being so brsve to show up with her full heart…I do not know how many people could do that. I believe it is one of the most courageous things to do. Looking forward for new episodes!

  • great insightful conversation. great rapport. i even learned that right now i would like to stay committed to myself and be by myself growing and strengthening my relationship with me. as much as i’d like a relationship with a man, i feel like right now is not an appropriate time to date someone outside of myself, and surprisingly i’m perfectly ok with that, it makes me feel grounded and rooted in myself. and when it’s the season for being with my heaven sent husband, my intuition will guide me right to him, i won’t even have to search and i’m trusting that. so i’m 100% faithful to this journey path that i have been set on. and i’m so happy and grateful for it because each day it feels better and better. it’s a sweet life we have.
    edit: she has 222 likes. i’m about to make it 223 lol

  • Thank you Alain De Botton, you have helped me through countless moments of self-doubt, breakups, and loneliness. I was never taught how to process my emotions (I did not even know that was an option) and I’m glad I can take initiative to do so with the School of Life.

  • This was a wonderful session, it’s an educational experience for me.I love your approach & rapport.Thanks for sharing..keep shining ����

  • Really interesting session.
    I am watching your videos to learn from a more experiences coach. I saw a few closed ended questions and guiding which I like, it is just that according to ICF guidelines you are not suppose to guide the client.
    I heard you say before that we shouldn’t be so structured and limited in the way we coach and that we should help the client transform their past events and beliefs that are limiting them, which again contradicts the ICF.
    Would like your comment about it.
    Thanks and keep serving people the best possible way!!!

  • Thank you for such an insightful session. I have worked on self-forgiveness and I encourage it with my own clients but after listening to this session I realise that I still have a lot of self-judgement related to past relationships. More work to do on my own self-love. Nameste

  • I have all my volumes; truck, phone, mic, YouTube….and you still sound muffled. Totally turned off by your soft spoken voice…

  • Thank u so much! K needed this! I’m doing my best is what I needed to change not I’m tying not it’s to hard I’m doing my best thank u!

  • My history IS myself. Judging my history IS judging myself. THANK YOU I SAW IT AND UNDERSTOOD IT AND FELT IT. Also I made a deep insight on how counter-intuitive it is for me to set expectations for my goals AND constantly beating myself up for not doing it. Because in the end I associate pain and anxiety with my goals. Its almost ironic, as if the need and desire to get this work done, actually causes me NOT to get it done haha. I dropped into the sense of “i’m only 19, im chilling, i have all the time in the world” and i just felt a huge relief inside. I wish i could hold onto this feeling of awareness and different perspective, it ends up going away after a while.

  • My favourite type of content that you create! There is something about being alone with yourself that is insanely scary. I know for me personally, it has helped me realize that without intentionally doing so, I tend to avoid being face to face (metaphorically) with myself and all my fears.

  • I want happiness but im i little flower being stepd on every day and the only thing making me feel better is crying and seeing. People in pain

  • Tbh I really can have incedible times with my own company. I think of all sorts of funny things that just crack me up real bad. I guess I have quite a vivid imagination. That being said, I have to work on the loving side of friendships. I find myself cussing and calling myself names all the time. I never had issues with this, but during breakup and constant feelings of regret, it is driving me crazy. I’ll try to be a better friend to myself thanks

  • Why would I want to be friends with a complete, self defeating, pathetic, loser? I dislike myself so much that I do not have friends, a girlfriend, nor even aquaintences.

  • Even tho I’m three years late, but here’s what I ve been doing, whenever I feel like it I try to imagine myself as someone else a real person with name and I try to help that person from an outsider perspective, for example if I did bad in a test, I imagine my friend who’s done bad in the test and I will try to comfort them and give them hope that they can do better, It kinda of working for me, because I can see the proplem from kinder view and same with word we would never call a friend ugly yet we say it all the time to ourselves, it doesn’t work for every situation tho, I’m still working on myself and trying to accept
    Idk but I thought I will throw my ideas out here maybe they could help someone

  • When panic, anxiety, depression or just restlessness energy becomes your awareness.
    Dont say go away or are you still here wich feels hostile, it has an attack vibe GO AWAY but instead welcome it and ask something like hey panic can i be still with you and become very good friends with it,have a better relationship with yourself

    Hope this helps. Peace

  • This video really struck a cord inside of me. I won’t be fooled by the soothing voice and the odd expletive into thinking this is meant to be funny, it’s actually bang on with a serious point. All of my life I’ve never really been a good friend to myself, I would treat myself like garbage like calling myself a twat and a failure whenever I fell short of anything. I would never say that to any friend of mine but I do it to myself relentlessly because I try to be a perfectionist. I can be a supportive friend to someone else but never to myself, and the latter is more important than anything in this life. Friends will come and go as we navigate our way through life but you are with yourself forever. It really is as sad as it sounds that I would lambast myself for failing on things that don’t really matter in the slightest or just for giving it my best shot. Damn, I really need to have a serious adult conversation with myself.

  • I was listening to this without watching the video and was wondering why it sounded like there was a child playing with the microphone and making noises