Accepting Compliments

 

How To Receive Compliments With Confidence

Video taken from the channel: Get More Confidence


 

How to take a compliment | John K. Bates

Video taken from the channel: TED Archive


 

How To Gracefully Respond To A Compliment

Video taken from the channel: The Modern Lady


 

How To Accept a Compliment | Vocabulary & British Intonation

Video taken from the channel: ETJ English


 

How to Accept Compliments and Why It’s So Hard

Video taken from the channel: How Communication Works


 

The Art of Accepting Compliments: Emily McIntyre at [email protected]

Video taken from the channel: TEDxYouth


 

How to Accept a Compliment, Give One In Return & What Mistakes To Avoid

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How To Accept A Compliment: 8 Of The Best Ways To Respond 1. Thank you.. It’s straightforward, but it gets the job done! Simply saying “thank you” gets across everything you need 2. Thanks for noticing.. This is a great variation and is useful in situations where the compliment is.

Working on Accepting Compliments in Therapy Once the person feels safe that they can be heard and not judged, the work can begin to address their issues, including trauma, inability to receive positive affect or compliments and understand how their parts developed in an amazingly creative way to keep them safe in childhood. Accepting compliments can be hard. It’s worth it to accept compliments, both for your memory and your mental health in the long run. But it can feel boastful, to.

According to one study, “only 22 percent of compliments given from one woman to another were accepted.” Before we assume that women simply don’t know how to receive compliments, the study found. More often than not, our receptivity to compliments is a reflection of our self-esteem and deep feelings of self-worth. Specifically, compliments can make people with low self-esteem feel.

Most casual, off-hand, habitual responses to compliments or gratitude fit under what I like to call deflect, project, and reject responses. When accepting compliments, we deflect onto somebody else, or project it back onto the compliment-giver herself. O. “That really means a lot.” “I really appreciate you noticing that.

No one ever has before.” “I was feeling really down and this is just the encouragement I need to keep going.”. Whenever you receive a compliment or accolade, but don’t know what to say, use these tips to accept compliments with grace. Humbly say, “Thank you.” It is the simplest phrase you can say, but it sends a powerful message. It is unassuming, humble and shows your gratitude. Accepting Compliments While a polite Thank you or Thanks is sufficient for accepting many compliments, in many situations, a more thorough response may be more appropriate.

For example, look at the following exchange between two classmate. Working on Accepting Compliments in Therapy Once the person feels safe that they can be heard and not judged, the work can begin to address their issues, including trauma, inability to receive positive affect or compliments and understand how their parts developed in an.

List of related literature:

If they reciprocate your compliment, accept it and tell them you appreciate it.

“The Body Image Workbook: An Eight-step Program for Learning to Like Your Looks” by Thomas F. Cash
from The Body Image Workbook: An Eight-step Program for Learning to Like Your Looks
by Thomas F. Cash
New Harbinger Publications, 2008

Genuine compliments make people feel good about themselves and have warm feelings toward the compliment giver.

“Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child's True Potential” by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Mark S. Lowenthal
from Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential
by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Mark S. Lowenthal
Wiley, 2011

The standard response to a compliment is to 1) deny it, which diminishes the pleasure of having received it and makes the person who gave you the compliment feel ill at ease or 2) not say a word.

“How to Be Funny: The One and Only Practical Guide for Every Occasion, Situation, and Disaster (no kidding)” by Jon Macks
from How to Be Funny: The One and Only Practical Guide for Every Occasion, Situation, and Disaster (no kidding)
by Jon Macks
Simon & Schuster, 2010

to be fishing for compliments to try to get someone to saynice things about you to pay someone a compliment to praise someone, or to do something which shows you appreciate someone They paid her the compliment ofasking her to speak to the meeting.

“27000 English-French Words Dictionary With Definitions: 27000 Dictionnaire des Mots Anglais-Français Avec Définitions” by Nam H Nguyen
from 27000 English-French Words Dictionary With Definitions: 27000 Dictionnaire des Mots Anglais-Français Avec Définitions
by Nam H Nguyen
Nam H Nguyen, 2018

Of course, to have the skill of accepting compliments, you need to know what to say and do in response to a compliment.

“Feeling Good about the Way You Look: A Program for Overcoming Body Image Problems” by Sabine Wilhelm
from Feeling Good about the Way You Look: A Program for Overcoming Body Image Problems
by Sabine Wilhelm
Guilford Publications, 2006

Replying to compliments There are two basic ways of replying to compliments: accepting them and rejecting them.

“Speaking Naturally Student's Book: Communication Skills in American English” by Bruce Tillitt, Mary Newton Bruder
from Speaking Naturally Student’s Book: Communication Skills in American English
by Bruce Tillitt, Mary Newton Bruder
Cambridge University Press, 1985

We often either give a compliment right back or we somehow discount or disagree with it.

“Bring Your Whole Self To Work: How Vulnerability Unlocks Creativity, Connection, and Performance” by Mike Robbins
from Bring Your Whole Self To Work: How Vulnerability Unlocks Creativity, Connection, and Performance
by Mike Robbins
Hay House, 2018

But compliments generally don’t announce themselves explicitly.

“Language and Gender” by Penelope Eckert, Eckert Penelope, Sally McConnell-Ginet, Professor Emerita of Linguistics Sally McConnell-Ginet, Sally Mac Connell-Ginet
from Language and Gender
by Penelope Eckert, Eckert Penelope, et. al.
Cambridge University Press, 2003

Or compliments: ‘You look gorgeous,’ or, ‘That’s really thoughtful, darling.’

“The Parenting Book” by Nicky Lee
from The Parenting Book
by Nicky Lee
Trust Media Distribution, 2009

But in all other cases, your compliments should be sincere.

“Maximum Achievement: Strategies and Skills that Will Unlock Your Hidden” by Brian Tracy
from Maximum Achievement: Strategies and Skills that Will Unlock Your Hidden
by Brian Tracy
Simon & Schuster, 2011

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  • Thank you for helping me learning the how to appreciate something matters to me! Hope I can travel the world especially UK. Love from Indonesia!

  • I usually like the “Oh, this old thing? Just threw it on!” With the right flick of the wrist, it’s playing into an enjoyable cliche that lightens tension.

  • HAHAHAHA i wish i found out about your channel years ago… all the mistakes and awkward situations ive been making…. God i cringe now

  • I love him and his videos but i love him more because he actually look like Eddie Redmayne,and they are both British oh gosh haha ����

  • Even though I have a lot reasons but I want really to follow your steps, changing I am s ���� exactly what do I need everything will be perfect after that

  • I appreciate this vid. It made me feel better.:-) it took a burden off. Hearing that people love me even though I’m not perfect is big as well! U da man!

  • I just watched a 6min video where a random guy in a suit told me i should say thanks when i get a compliment. Thats the point where i can only say thanks to the youtube algorithm

  • About the overexplanation,what if the circumstances require you to explain? I usually get compliments on my hair and answer by thanking the compliment. Usually it’s strangers but they ask further questions so I try to answer truthfully; however, sometimes i feel like I am overexplaining, especially with people i meet regularly. They still make compliments and/or make references to the previous conversations so i guess that I acted politely.

  • You’re Still In The 90’s. Now People Have Fun Of Others With Compliment Like Sarcasm, And People Aren’t That Self-disappointed, Indecisive or Insecure About Their Compliments

    What Do You Think About It?

  • recently i got complimented abt my sweater, i did deflected it but not on smth physical saying “oh, i like ur taste”, pls tell me what do you think?

  • So many times i made a potential friend or partner run away frome because i say wrong things in the wrong way. I apreciate this, thanks.

  • Thanks for sharing the daily life knowledge n manner’s.. more over I did subscribe to ua channel��. Love to learn such..keep in touch

  • Your podcasts… they are amazing thanks for coming up with such a wacky concept for improving our pronunciation & overall english.

  • Dear Elliott, thank you so much for your videos and your podcast I enjoy it a lot, you have a plenty of beautiful stories and things to tell! I would like to know, if you could share your playlist, because I do love your musical taste!

    Thank you in advance from Paris,
    Merci!

  • For me it was being raised in a religious household. Pride is a deadly sin, so you’re stuck in limbo:
    1. You accept the praise and you’re indulging in pride, arrogant
    2. Ignore the praise and you’re a negative Nancy.

    The problem I’m in is that this unwillingness to accept praise, gets upgraded to pessimism or self-doubt.
    “Great job”
    “…(They’re lieing, it looks awful, it could be better. Tell me what you really think.) Thanks.”

  • You just earned yourself a subscriber! This is exactly the kind of channel i’ve been looking for. Also as an aside, i think there’s another reason people don’t respond well to compliments. Their self esteem doesn’t allow them to accept the compliment because it doesn’t align with the story they have about themselves in their own head. So they actually could perceive it as manipulative. They must want something from me in exchange for this compliment, because theirs no way it’s actually genuine.

  • I always thought the Japanese norm, of simply disagreeing and refusing a compliment is just flat out passive aggressive, and gaslighting the 1st person’s judgement.

  • When people compliment me I say “I know” or “That’s what I was trying for” because saying thank you feels weird:/
    Usually the response is an awkward laugh.

  • In addition to the competing goals that come into play with compliments, I feel they’re made awkward, because they make for deadend conversations. When I accept a compliment with a simple thank you and a smile, that thread of conversation is done and now someone needs to come up with a new topic. I could elaborate on whatever the person complimented me on, but that would be self praise or even worse, boring. If a guy compliments me on my hairstyle, he doesn’t want to hear about my new hair care routine. But if I quickly change the subject after I thank him, it feels dismissive and like I’m running away from the flattery. In girl world, this is solved by dutifully finding a way to compliment the woman back. This social demand can sometimes feel fake. The solution that I’ve come up with for paying conversation killing compliments is to follow the compliment with a question.
    “You’re such a wonderful speaker! What kind of preparation goes into such a talk?”

    “You know so much about a wide variety of subjects! Is that the result of a natural curiosity?”

    In this way, the road is paved for gracious acceptance of the compliment, they’re invited to talk about themselves and conversation flows easily.

  • Can you just ask a person on a street where did you get your tshirt? ( after I like your t shirt) I am not sure what british small talk includes ( how far you can go without being too personal).

  • Personally, when I am working towards reducing my weight and others comment (i.e compliment me on losing weight) on my body changes really makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t like when people mention anything about my weight because I feel like it’s none of their business whether I lose or gain weight. I did find this video helpful and will practice applying your methods toward my particular situation. I appreciate you sharing your knowledge. Thanks.

  • ETJ english inappropriate to indians, Russians, pakistani, because they have a problem in speaking and combining words caused of tongue moves

  • I love your channel!!! You help me a lot with my pronunciation and my vocabulary. I like your beautiful accent. Good job!! Greetings from Argentina

  • Girl: (sarcastically) Nice nose
    Me: Nice… huh.
    Girl: What?
    Me: Oh nothing I just couldn’t find anything nice about you.
    Am I doing it right?

  • I am so glad and grateful listen your naturally and really good English… but. I am here in England for one year and is so, so difficult listen the persons speak seems you… sorry for my incorrect English…. sono una autodidatta di madre lingua spagnola e italiana e la ricchezza del nostro vocabolario non è facile trovarla in altre lingue….complimento davvero sei fantastico…. ti seguo sempre…. good job…..

  • Thanks Eliot u hv done a great job. Am learning so much from u. The schwa sound can be found in most words that ends with digraph “er” and many other words too.

  • There is no single ‘British’ pronunciation of English. England, Scotland, Wales and N. Ireland all have many accents and dialects.A common mistake by those that do not understand what the United Kingdom of Great Britain’ is.

  • there are some posts that say “Do not say HOW ARE YOU, we dont use that in England” Is that correct or just how´d you do or what is the eventual best way to ask that?

  • Great video on a topic that is hard for some women(me). Like you said it is gift. Receive it in a gracious manner. Thank you.
    Cheers �� ��

  • Thanks, how do I get your whatsapp number? I really want to have nice chat with you. Learning your British accent help me alot to comprehend many words in meaning and sound. Well done Elliot

  • I started to watch your channel because I liked your accent..Now I wanna date you������ I’m being greedy now! I know but can’t help it.

  • Hello, your accent is so beautiful i love your speaking and teaching method. I want to join your classes but i want to say sadly i haven’t enough money for join your classes.I hope maybe one day i will join your classes. Thank you for reading!

  • What if I say “Thank you, that’s very nice of you to say.” Is that a form of deflection? Like could they interpret that as I’m implying they’re only saying that to be nice and they don’t actually appreciate whatever they’re complimenting me on?

  • Thank you for your brilliant videos, I subscribed yesterday and can’t stop watching and listening and learning!!!! That’s great work, and great help!!! I’ll try to perform monologues in English using your recommendations����

  • Elliot, please answer this.
    What’s the difference between.. “that’s what, US, British people do” and “that’s what, WE, British people do”?

  • Sir, you are totally different from others. Your each and every lesson help me a lot improve my listening and pronunciation skills. I don’t have any words to admire you…..

  • Great lesson Elliot but um.. im about to say something about compliments☝��..your lips are gorgeous and the shades are pretty nice��

    and thank you for the lesson!

  • Hi, Elliott! Is it recommended to practice the British accent and listening to audiobooks with an American accent? I like both. What can I do? Thank you.

  • Why do physical compliments backfire? I can understand if physical aesthetics would be only unfair, but for example, a muscular man is principally caused by fair fatigue in the gym.

  • Sometimes I get a compliment of the street from woman as we are passing buy….so with todays social norms you cant really stop and have a conversation….with everyone where I am going to the office…so I when they say hey I like your suit…I juts smile and say…yea…I know right…….its sounds cocky but the continued walking makes it easy to pull off.

  • how are you Elliott?
    i wanna become a freelancer by doing web developing and i have to contact with foreigner to get my project.
    so how can i improve my English language and conversation skills

  • I understand getting high on flattery. It is like taking in more than what the flatterer is offering. Blinding confusion from the praise that doesn’t even consider the falsehood or truthfulness of the person. Coz you know when you hear a true praise, only if you are paying enough attention.

  • Thank you for sharing more videos Elliott. I love you them, you have a very beautiful accent. You speak very clearly that I don’t need to turn on the caption button to understand what you’re saying. I’m still learning and I have difficulty on how to speak with proper and right intonation.

  • I always say thank you. I then try and find something I can complement about them in return. If I genuinely can’t, then I just leave it at thank you. I don’t want to risk coming off as fake.

  • Believe me, i have never disregarded a compliment im my life. And i fail to understand why women or just people in general can’t accept a compliment gracefully. A nice compliment always makes my day. Heck i love receiving compliments.