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6 Ways to Develop Greater Willpower and Discipline Self-control and willpower are key ingredients for success. So how can you develop greater self-control and willpower? Science has the answers. Willpower is like a muscle—in more ways than one.

Willpower is the strongest predictor of lifetime success, health, and wealth. Art. In order to quickly and continuously grow your business, you need to master your willpower. The way to get this accomplished is taking advantage of when your willpower tank is full and breaking through your resistance. Every morning, when you wake up, work on your long term important goal first and then move on to other tasks.

To master your willpower, keep these facts in mind. Willpower gets stronger with regular use. You can train your willpower with small things like making your bed every morning or choosing a fruit. It’s 6: 3 0 p.m. Y ou’re ready to call it a day..

But unfortunately, you can’t. N ot yet.. You ‘ve been at the office since 5:30 a.m., but still have things to get done before you can head home. The problem is, y ou’ve worked seven days straight.

No weekend break. You feel worn out, to the point that even carrying your car keys might prove a challenge when you finally turn out the. In some ways, procrastination is the opposite of perseverance and when I find myself wanting to avoid, I remember Robert Holden’s words on my Success Now calendar: “Procrastinate tomorrow.” Willpower is doing it anyway even when you want to give up, even when it gets hard, or uncomfortable or scary.

When willpower fails, a shiny object of your desire activates your hot system, leaving your cool system with the hard part of talking you back in the direction of your long-term goals. 5 Ways to Strengthen Willpower. Aristotle’s quote is at the core of each of the following ways people can improve their willpower. How Is Willpower Depleted? Your supply of willpower is depleted in two ways.

First, by exercising self-control. Every time you have a desire to do something that conflicts with accepted social norms or with your values and goals, and your willpower overrides that desire and keeps you on track, part of your willpower supply gets depleted. The book explores the real meaning behind willpower, why it seems so elusive and the practical ways you can use to tap into the willpower instinct.

On top of all this, you will also be shown a stepwise process on how to increase your willpower reservoir and ways of maintaining it into the future. 6 Ways to Lower Your Financial Stress The Hidden Costs of Homeownership. How to Master Willpower. By Alexa Mason · Add Comment · In Saving Money, Strategies. Share; Tweet; Pin; 0 shares.

If you want to master willpower and do the right thing all of the time I have some bad news for you.

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Where willpower comes in is when life presents challenges to that vision, like being asked by your office mates to go for a pizza just as you are leaving for your daily fitness walk.

“ChiWalking: Fitness Walking for Lifelong Health and Energy” by Danny Dreyer, Katherine Dreyer
from ChiWalking: Fitness Walking for Lifelong Health and Energy
by Danny Dreyer, Katherine Dreyer
Atria Books, 2009

All of these strategies show that there is more to self-control than simple determination and willpower.

“Learning & Behavior: Eighth Edition” by James E. Mazur
from Learning & Behavior: Eighth Edition
by James E. Mazur
Taylor & Francis, 2016

Willpower or self-control Willpower can be conceptualized as the most “mindless” approach, an effortful attempt to resist strong desires, often by using a structured diet very different from usual patterns of eating, and with little or no skill or use of self-management techniques.

“The Wiley Blackwell Handbook of Mindfulness” by Amanda Ie, Christelle T. Ngnoumen, Ellen J. Langer
from The Wiley Blackwell Handbook of Mindfulness
by Amanda Ie, Christelle T. Ngnoumen, Ellen J. Langer
Wiley, 2014

These mechanisms help to demystify willpower and identify some of its key ingredients.

“Introduction to Personality: Toward an Integrative Science of the Person” by Walter Mischel, Yuichi Shoda, Ozlem Ayduk
from Introduction to Personality: Toward an Integrative Science of the Person
by Walter Mischel, Yuichi Shoda, Ozlem Ayduk
Wiley, 2007

A huge part of getting your thinking right is to understand the fundamental difference between “control” and “willpower.”

“The 20/20 Diet: Turn Your Weight Loss Vision Into Reality” by Phil McGraw
from The 20/20 Diet: Turn Your Weight Loss Vision Into Reality
by Phil McGraw
Bird Street Books, 2015

Adjust Motivation How to select #3 Make new habit more Pick the new habit that is— motivating.

“Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything” by B. J. Fogg
from Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything
by B. J. Fogg
Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2019

In Step 5, you learn to resist and control the interactions between food and mood, the reasons we eat other than hunger.

“Way to Eat: A Six-step Path to Lifelong Weight Control” by Maura Harrigan Gonzalez
from Way to Eat: A Six-step Path to Lifelong Weight Control
by Maura Harrigan Gonzalez
Ebsco Publishing, 2002

It’s actually pretty simple to answer these questions—if you understand a little quirk about willpower.

“The Power of Consistency: Prosperity Mindset Training for Sales and Business Professionals” by Weldon Long
from The Power of Consistency: Prosperity Mindset Training for Sales and Business Professionals
by Weldon Long
Wiley, 2013

Willpower is a folk term, but in the last two

“Rationality and the Reflective Mind” by Keith Stanovich
from Rationality and the Reflective Mind
by Keith Stanovich
OUP USA, 2011

• Associated with Habit 3: Put First Things First is the endowment of willpower.

“Principle-Centered Leadership” by Stephen R. Covey
from Principle-Centered Leadership
by Stephen R. Covey
RosettaBooks, 2009

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  • I’m really impressed with the breadth of topics you cover on this channel. I find you very inspiring, so much so that you’ve given me an impetus to try harder to find an idea to start a business with, and make something of my own. Thanks so much, man!

  • thanks, I’ve really really struggled for a while with getting anything done. I hope I will be able to fix this and get where I want

  • If you have strong willpower, you don’t need three Adidas stripes on your forehead and wear a uniform. You don’t need to think up a dandy name. You don’t need to put the word “scientific” in your title when you’re chatting about personal preferences. You don’t need to repeat umpteen times that you need to make your bed every morning. You freely decide on a beautiful scenario to bring into being and you keep going no matter what anyone else says. You are not afraid to fail and you are eager to learn, improve and grow as you go along into new realms. And you get it done working day and night if need be, even if it breaks your precious “schedule”, your precious “rituals”. You have the self-confidence and self-awareness, determination and love for the end result to keep going through challenges even without the timekeeping crutches. Your passion and love and desire blows away time, ritual and external self-image. You are a hungry tiger in the night on the hunt.

    Tyger Tyger, burning bright,

    In the forests of the night;

    What immortal hand or eye,

    Could frame thy fearful symmetry?

    In what distant deeps or skies.

    Burnt the fire of thine eyes?

    On what wings dare he aspire?

    What the hand, dare seize the fire?

    And what shoulder, & what art,

    Could twist the sinews of thy heart?

    And when thy heart began to beat,

    What dread hand? & what dread feet?

    What the hammer? what the chain,

    In what furnace was thy brain?

    What the anvil? what dread grasp,

    Dare its deadly terrors clasp!

    When the stars threw down their spears

    And water’d heaven with their tears:

    Did he smile his work to see?

    Did he who made the Lamb make thee?

    Tyger Tyger burning bright,

    In the forests of the night:

    What immortal hand or eye,

    Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?

  • Do this:
    1. Think about what you want to do
    2. Put your intent into words in your head. If it’s something you don’t exactly want to do and are just doing it to get it out of the way to do other things, then say why you’re doing it.
    3. Feel the emotion from your verbal intent
    4. Act on the emotion

    This has helped me a lot with procrastination, the only time this really fails is when you don’t think about what you’re supposed to be doing/want to do

  • But how do you get better at self discipline when you have things to do but you don’t see the point in it? For example, a student in school may understand the importance but may also understand school is not entirely important in becoming “successful.”

  • Discipline is giving up what you want right now for what you want MOST. Base all your decisions on this. It is a reason to maintain fidelity, to be single waiting for the right person, to become a vegan for the health of the planet as well as your body. Watch the free movie Endgame2050 here on Youtube or Amazon if you don’t know about how meat harms starving children and the planet. (I just watched it last week and have lost 5 lbs already as a vegan. Milk makes you fat.

  • Self discipline is when we thought to do something and stick on it
    It’s my definition of self discipline

    What do you think sir, am I right?

  • I form a habit of brushing my teeth when i was young was because i kept dreaming my teeth falling out. My parents used to scare me when i refused to brush my teeth saying that if you dont brush later your teeth will fall out. So i guess its true, you do make a habit out of core beliefs or shall i say scare yourself into making a habit.

  • I work at an American Fortune 500 company. Your insight has helped motivate me in my professional and personal life. Not all your viewers are young or at entry level in their careers. With that, consider opening a Patreon or other way people can support your efforts beyond not skipping adds or signing up for personal lessons.

  • Know your weaknesses. We all have weaknesses. 
    Remove temptations. 
    Set clear goals and have an execution plan. 
    Build your self-discipline.

  • Please stop saying rule of thumb man. It comes from the law that allowed a man to beat his wife so long as the rod used was no thicker than his thumb. It sends a vibe that immediately makes me withdraw from your content.

  • I have been looking for this for so much time and luckily i found your videos…Really helping me a lot in building myself and staying focussed…

  • can you get college credit from brilliant? I been thinking about switching majors but if i can do the math and science courses not at a high priced university that’d be nice

  • Hey Andrew is there’s a kinds community?
    I live in Germany and I’d love to find some people like thiss!
    Everyone is just always complaining snd sick of his life and I’m sick of this!
    Good work ��

  • This method has been used for more than 20 years in ACT and Motivational Interviewing, so maybe not so “brand new”:) Good content though!

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  • But it is using a reward over and over again can led them. Doing that thing just for the reward? Isn’t that a bad thing if that is how you keep thinking. What if there is no reward that you can reward Yourself. What is the best reward that satisfy you without doing anything that might be bad. For example if your reward is a soda or 1 hour video game. Even thought it only 1 hour. Isn’t putting more stress to person to resist more. Since a person is already having a hard time resisting.

  • thanks for the guidance.

    I’ve been making incremental changes to my life and seeing my self discipline improve. after making daily improvements to my debilitating anxiety over the past year I’ve made strides over the last 3 months.

    I also went into YouTube and blocked all channels of negativity and news channels.

    You just got yourself a new subscriber.

    thank you sir.

  • Am I the only one here because of online school during quarantine. I am a very good at school but I don’t have the discipline to work at home and I don’t want it to affect my grades.

  • It remimds me of a Quranic verse
    Az-Zumar 39:9

    أَمَّنْ هُوَ قَٰنِتٌ ءَانَآءَ ٱلَّيْلِ سَاجِدًا وَقَآئِمًا يَحْذَرُ ٱلْءَاخِرَةَ وَيَرْجُوا۟ رَحْمَةَ رَبِّهِۦۗ قُلْ هَلْ يَسْتَوِى ٱلَّذِينَ يَعْلَمُونَ وَٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَعْلَمُونَۗ إِنَّمَا يَتَذَكَّرُ أُو۟لُوا۟ ٱلْأَلْبَٰبِ

    Is he who payeth adoration in the watches of the night, prostrate and standing, bewaring of the Hereafter and hoping for the mercy of his Lord, (to be accounted equal with a disbeliever)? Say (unto them, O Muhammad): Are those who know equal with those who know not? But only men of understanding will pay heed.

  • the truth of wearing a mask, not going to work! I have adhd /asd and it makes me impossible to wear a mask all the time, yes it’s the law here and i carry my disability card with me and show it when some makes a comment and I try to explain it very calmly. I tried wearing it for a long time and it hurt my head more than someone smoking a cigarette or let a lone the construction debris. thanks to the mask it makes it difficult to run. only wear masks when i greet someone to be polite and when there is a cop or at work with the debris.

  • I watched your GOT review about IDENTITY, i said wow this make so sense, this guy is cleaver i might learn something. Watched and immediately drawn into your speechless explanation. Subed and liked and look forward to look your videos.

  • I feel like I was never raised with discipline. I was always allowed to quit and that’s why now I struggled with being successful. The thing is that I know I have all the tools to be able to achieve my goals (except for the discipline needed) so… That’s something ��

  • Since we identify as our past decisions, wouldn’t a better thing for the past smoker to say be “No thanks, I don’t smoke (anymore)”. I think trying to believe “I’m not a smoker” while being painfully aware that you were at one point a smoker (made worse by physical withdrawal) would lend itself to a kind of imposter syndrome. And imposter syndrome isn’t adequate for truly believing that you are changed, it’s literally the oppositeinstead of believing what you say, you believe you aren’t what you say and that you have to put up a front. Doesn’t seem to lend itself well to genuine change and self improvement.

  • Informative video.Sone insights from the video
    More you use the will power, stronger it gets.
    Because of low will power, people leave the tasks in middle.
    Look for small things where we can exercise will power.
    Starting and completing the task in daily schedule. Viewing it as a way to develop will power.
    Self talk daily with complete focus on urself to know what is really important in life.
    So Inghtful to know rather than asking what we had in lunch/dinner, if we ask what is going on in life we know the person better.
    Doing one thing is better than doing many things at once.

  • 1. Focus on Identity
    1.a Forget about the goal /result but the change in identity
    1.b Embrace your change in identity
    1.c Think about your goals(identity)and believe it to cause a shift in mindset

    2. Create reminders
    2.a Ask “why”
    2.b Try writing down ur goals and remind yourself everyday and everytime

    3. Embrace your suck
    3.a Embrace discomfort and lean into resistance
    3.b eg. Taking stairs, waking up early, taking cold showers

    4. Target rhe fundamentals
    4.a Brain needs rest, exercise and nutrition

    5. Practice Zazen
    5.a Try meditation to regulate emotions and making decisions
    5.b zazen meditation

    6. Build some habits
    6.a Start small, track ur progress and celebrate ur wins
    6.b not focus on purity and perfect streaks
    6.c make sure ur trend is going in positive direction

  • I procrastinate because I regret not studying before when I had time and I degrade myself for not starting soon so there is no point in doing it now as there is so little time left. How do I overcome this?

  • There’s definitely good ideas here, particularly the first, third, and fourth. In combination with another video I recently watched which equated procrastination with resistance, I especially appreciate number 3.

    I would like to share a word of caution concerning meditation. There are ways to improve focus and self-discipline that do not require going into full-blown meditation, which has harmful effects as well as beneficial.

    For example, I read a book written by a man who was formerly in the New Age, but left it. He meditated everyday. During the time that he was doing so, he was convinced his car radio was broken because he could never hear any base. He’d had it “fixed” multiple times, to no avail. When he decided to stop meditating and tossed out all his related paraphernalia, he suddenly was able to hear the base in his car radio. I think it was the very next day. Don’t ask me to explain the biological processes that caused this phenomenon; the author himself didn’t know. But that was his experience.

    There were other issues as well, but I’m not going to get into all that. The point is, just because something has benefits, doesn’t mean it’s all good. It’s like certain foods. There may be good nutrients in it and you might decide it’s good to eat, but there might also be something harmful in the food, and you might reap some unpleasant consequences in the future for eating it. So, be sure to research things like that very carefully before you just dive headlong into it just because your favourite YouTuber does it….

  • 11:45 and I’m procrastinating writing an essay and debating quitting my nursing course. Trying to change my life but failing miserably.

  • I think this is one of your best videos Andrew, I agree that at the end of the day, if you don’t want to do something, no matter how much you force yourself to, you won’t stick to it.

  • everyone watching this video, remember this all your life…. motivation will get you started… discipline will keep you going and repetition will give you the results…

  • I hate rules! So at least when i’m the only one involved i do prefer to not have any. Good advice but i’d rather learn to know and live with myself better, to be happy and satisfied with just the way i am and do whatever i want when i can.
    And yes, i did notice that when i want to get rid of some kind of unwanted habit, the best approach is to entirely disconnect from anything that fuels that said habit. Environment is everything.

  • Your videos are really good but holy shit you need someone to do your titles and thumbnails. They make your channel look like some unprofessional click bait crap.

  • Great advice. Thanks for sharing this!
    If you’re interested in goal setting and habit building, please check out a product called GoalsOnTrack at https://www.goalsontrack.com. It’s designed for helping high achievers to set and track goals by organizing everything you need to do inside a comprehensive goal planning system.

  • Don’t know if it’s your accent or the way to speak but your voice reminds me a lot of the guy who voices “top-think” or “improvement pill” ��

  • So MUCH helpful! Please keep uploading more videos like this which has a lot of positive vibes and motivate us to get better! Much Love from India. ❤️����

  • Impressive job capitalizing on a great smile.

    It’s a perfect “in” but you’ve crafted a unique career around it.

    I still think it boils down to a killer smile.

  • Sense of fear is more consistent then sense of love… this is more true for human… reward system works only for shorts period to get the consistent output… for example society always rewards good behaviour but people still do crime and cheat… that’s why need Law to punish… but that also don not work some time because human have brain to bypass that law… anyways reward and punishment work best on dog but on birds

  • This is going to be hard if you live with roommate or parents. If you want to set a alarm. People is going to dislike that and you might feel bad about this. But don’t worry about them. Remember this is for you and you need to do this to improve.

  • 1. Find your weaknesses
    2. Create easy habit

    3. Use rewards

    4. Personal standard

    5. Look ahead
    Resist the temptation

    6. Set alarms

    7. Make adjustments

  • 1.Find your weaknesses
    2.Create easy habits
    3.Use rewards
    4.Personal standards
    5.Look ahead
    6.Set alarms
    7.Make adjustments

  • I’m 20 year old preparing for life threatening exam for past 2 years n every once in a while YT recommends me these type of Vids. By now I’ve atleast watched 50+ of these and don’t know what to do with all this extra info stuck in my tiny brain which really seems to hate study material/ Thankew for your time. Don’t reply I’m not gonna respond.

  • I like the content and the educational message you are sending to your audience,but I would advise you to provide a summary of all points previously mentioned as a form of revision of everything you have already said. It makes the video more organised and easy to learn from. Other than that awesome video

  • “How strange and foolish is man. He loses his health in gaining wealth. Then, to regain his health he wastes his wealth. He ruins his present while worrying about his future, but weeps in the future by recalling his past. He lives as though death shall never come to him, but dies in a way as if he was never born”
    Imam Ali (ra)

  • Amazing video! Yes A book of Lynn Toler “making mariage work”, or simply a video about her, she is a very charismatic person.Thanks alot!:))))

  • For setting limits on games, would it be better for me to limit by “per mission” or “per match”?

    Like, say league of legends. Would it be okay to limit to say, two matches a day?

  • The One Thing is also a key book!!
    I’ve also just bought ‘How to Master the Mind’ by Buddhist Master G.K. Gyatsowhich may coincide with your mind mastery book.

    More sleep DEFINITELY helps with Willpower, you’re right.
    Thanks for another great video ��

  • Self love comes with self discipline. Love yourself enough to control yourself. You want the pizza but love yourself enough to know that it is bad for you and have long term damages on your body. Just love yourself

  • I set rewards for doing a specific work but at the end it turns out that i accept my reward without completing the work. Help me!!!

  • Very positive and motivating video. My husband is an example of moderation and consistency. The strategies you explained is what his very successful life is about. He suggests me these exactly and here I’m still struggling to self discipline myself.

  • Чувак, четыре года назад у тебя была потная подмыха. Капец, как так можно? Скажи, пожалуйста? Как ты учишь людей, если ты не можешь научиться…

  • His introduction about taking care of his teeth resonates so much with me, his mom words also mirrors what my mother told me years ago. When I was a kid my Mom will practically brush my teeth even when I’m already half asleep then the time comes where I should be accountable enough for taking care of myself…. in which I failed miserably. By this age my first molar got extracted due to severe cavity and now my teeth are already misaligned and produced a wrong bite. My teeth doesn’t feel the same after the extraction honestly. I was also diagnosed with mild scoliosis due to my bad posture growing up.
    I get to realize how many bad habits that I have that piles up into big consequences. I’m 21 years old who lacks routine and suffer so much from anxiety. Everything is getting worse knowing that I brought my problems to myself.

  • i dont understand…u want to solve the problem with the problem??? i am unable to exercise due to my willpower issues and u tell me that exercise is the best of 3 ways to increase willpower??

  • A note on the “hard and fast rules.” Be prepared to forgive yourself for breaking them. Because you /will/ break them, and being guilty about it is more harmful than not having the rules at all.

  • With regard to the reward part, I found it too contradictory to, say, reward myself with a burger for a week of eating well, and I couldn’t enjoy the reward knowing it deducts from the week’s success. I still eat that reward burger, but it’s my reward for finishing a book, and my reward for eating well throughout the week is spending $50 on shopping.

  • There’s debate in the scientific community about whether or not will power if finite or not. There’s been some studies showing the placebo of telling others, telling yourself that its infinite, and how that correlates to an increase in “energy” toward will power. It seems like a mental thing.

  • Thanks for this video, Charlie. I would really like to know: I have a limiting belief that has to do with decision making. I have a limiting belief that in order to succeed, one should always make the tough decision without analysing the pros and cons of each choice and that THAT one decision will determine my life if I make the wrong decision, and that contributes to paralyse me even more, leading to constant indecision. I basically struggle with proper decision-making. How can I develop proper decision-making? Thanks in advance.

  • I apologise. Your idea may not be completed. Im stupid others may not see things like i do. We need people to explain things in different ways.

  • This video is really helpful! And the last thing you said about changing your identity is a total game changer. I’d love to watch you elaborate on that!! Anyway, great job on this one!

  • Conclusion: get into a routine until it becomes as natural as getting out of bed in the morning. There I just saved you 7 minutes of your life, you’re welcome.

  • I also had some of these in mind but what I thought was being drained on me is my competitiveness. Because I thought that my competitiveness is being drained, I uninstalled my games on mobile and stopped using my computer so that I can use all my competitiveness on studying. It worked for a while and now I’m here because my willpower failed me and I have exams tomorrow. But now I know what I’m missing thanks this video. Thanks Charlie! ��

  • “Willpower” is bullshit term invented by people who don’t dare to look deeper into what limits their capability to perform. What you have is physical health or physiology, periods of rest, neural fatigue, emotional states, habits, biases and a bunch of beliefs. “Willpower” is just a term invented by people who don’t want to deal with complexity and therefore reduce it to one single concept that explains what happens when we don’t perform as we want. Sadly willpower let’s people believe that they are not responsible, it is their willpower and not themselves their are just the victim to this unknown force that you can’t control. It’s a very dangerous thing to believe.

  • Hey! Love your channel so much and particularly this video! Thank you for doing this job, it’s really helpful and brings so useful information.

  • I need this. I am trying to save money, for what you ask? Nothing really. I’m just saving money to have a cushion. Anyway, I am really doing a good job, in my opinion but I keep going back and forth when I want to buy myself a present. I feel like I work so hard and I have saved a lot.. So i deserve a present. But it’s the willpower i’m trying to work on.. I put stuff in my online shopping cart but to make sure I don’t purchase i have to go on youtube and look at ways to suppress the feeling of buying something. I need to save. I need to work on my willpower until i reach my goal

  • Hey majorprep, check out this book as well……


  • If you’re reading this I want you to know that God loves you and He cares about you so much that He became a man (Jesus Christ) and died for you. Please accept His Free gift, He is the ONLY way to heaven. You can’t get into heaven by doing good works and you don’t have to go to a priest to confess anything. Cry out to Him through prayer He will not turn you away. Dive into His word (The Bible) for guidance and do not continue in your sins. Make His word the final say in your life.

    Visit living waters and the beat by Allen Parr (YouTube) for more clarity.

    God bless ❤️

    Also to any Muslims who see this (actually click the links)

  • Amazing video and amazing channel; I was surprised by one fact dough: there is not a point 4… I back and forward 3 times because I was sure to mistake. good tips anyway! Have a great day!

  • Maaaan slow down abit, have mercy on your listeners, you’re great i like how and what you say but man be normal don’t accelerate the pace.

  • This makes so much sense to me. This is why people who are going through stressful situations in life tend to do worse in school or to gain weight/lose weight/ lose friends. They don’t have the energy and willpower to put into those things and therefore, decline in them.

  • my weakness is that I overeat
    moderation may look like eating food the size of my fist and to fast some days in the week, at least four days out of seven for this week.

    My reward is to watch 5 episodes of Legend of Korra on Saturday!
    StandardTo at least do half an hour of a rigorous workout 5 days a week
    GoalTo do an hour workout four days in a week

    look aheadI like to convince my mom to buy junk food and cook me junk food to look ahead I can nap when I’m hungry or watch a movie

  • Dammit your videos… I’m watching one, than I look at the right and I already see another that I need to look at, than same happend after I click:-D

  • Another great video. I had a fun idea while watching it what if you made a series of these types of videos, geared towards the 3-5th grade level? How cool would it be to learn these types of skills as a child, before we’ve gained a lifetime of bad habits to undo? Or a series geared towards teaching parents how to teach this to their children. Help a mother out, man.:):)

  • That’s very interesting. Years ago when I was decide to stop smoking I realized that my self talk was what was most important in the process. So I told myself I am now a non-smoker. I’m not trying to quit, I’m not a quitter and quitting implies that I’m having to lose something. I wasn’t losing anything, I was gaining my health back. I was also very stubborn about this decision, which helped. So within an hour, I went from being a smoker to being a non-smoker. And anytime I wanted to smoke I would tell myself “too fucken bad, get over it.. “, and I’d go do something else. If anyone asked ‘so you’ve quit smoking?’, I would say ‘no, I’ve become a non-smoker.’ It worked! No other approach had ever worked.

  • I enjoy hard physical work as well as serving, in other words making people happy or making they’re day. Those are inherantly broad. Only thing is I wouldn’t want to develop that talking to myself aspect into a basic social interaction out of nowhere lol. But I agree, I don’t truly know myself as far as what my passion is. It seems very logical and reslistic just the downside hah. I knew a fairly normal guy who talked to himself in mid conversation like that sometime. But he knew himself. He knew he wanted to go to college and what to major in, he knew the exact kind of woman he wanted to get married to, everything down to height shoe size hair color waist length certain habits even hah, he knew how many kids he wanted house rooms. Not sure how he’s doing today but Im sure he’s working on all of it! �� I’d like to know myself that well but without the external self talk mid social interaction lol

  • Summery
    To develop self discipline
    We have to identify our weaknesses
    We have to devolop easy habits
    We have to treat ourselves with rewards for doing productive activities
    We have to identify things and places which give strength to our addictions
    We have to make adjustments in our lifestyle which are personalized for use
    We should have to set time limits for addictive behaviours

  • Great information but I have the impression that he’s speaking more about energy than will-power. I’ve always thought of willpower as the ability to do something when I don’t want to.
    Getting up 1/2 hour earlier. Going to the gym 5 days a week even when I’m tired from work. That kind of thing. It makes sense to cut out unnecessary effort over a decision, or to get enough to eat and sleep, but one saves “mental energy” and the other supports physical energy and maintains health. How is making a more concise decision about “saving willpower?”

  • I’ve struggled with lack of discipline my whole life. Right now I’m at an age where I believe I’m still young enough to make a fast and lasting impact if I can develop the goals, habits and commitment to succeed. Though I’ve never been a person to look for self-help resources, I think this video is a great, fast and easy way to understand the basics of how to start this journey. So thank you!

  • Bit drawn out. I sometimes find youtube videos take too long to get to the point so I watch it at 1.25x speed. Most of the stuff I watch is very dense so anything faster and I get lost. However, I watched this at 2x speed no problem.

  • DON’T DO ANYTHING wait 5 seconds RIGHT NOW and consider how pointless it would be to start scrolling through these comments as soon as you’ve finished/paused the video.

    Finish the video first dammit.

  • The Limited Willpower theory seems very likely to be false though. There have been many studies prior and since this video debunking the Ego depletion hypothesis; and failures to replicate the original studies. Probably best to take this with a grain of salt, since the advice in the video is only applicable if willpower can be depleted.

  • He is right about everything guys. Specially the environment part. You can’t imagine how much easier it is to start practicing playing guitar if you NEVER stow it in its bag. If i just leave it there at the couch ready to grab, I grab it. If not, i won’t have to willpower to take it out from the bag and play it.

  • Just came here from the theon identity video. It’s really interesting to take a step into metacognition through your videos, especially since I’ve built an identity for myself that’s very much based around the idea of having infinite or near infinite willpower like a superpower, and to say it’s worked miracles doesn’t even begin to do it justice.

  • FYI the Marshmallow Study is not as clear-cut as people once thought. SciShow has a great video on that: https://youtu.be/GLcFCs7_ZKA

  • The best app so far after trying sooo many for mediation is Insight Timer (it is free)! I absolutely love the app and I swear by it!
    Also another one that I love is Down Dog (it is free), which is for yoga and there is an option for Yogic Sleep, which is basically concentration exercises and meditation and its amazing ��

  • I would love to see more of these videos! Or maybe just a list of books you recommend. I will be going through my reading list this summer:]

  • Self discipline isn’t always a good thing, you know it usually how anorexia happens, they feel if they eat they’re week which is a horrible mindset, because eating is important

  • You develop will by using will. No. Really? My guru taught me to develop will by finishing what I start. No kidding? The question is how do you develop something you don’t possess?

  • Another way of saying it, we need to discover the value of the output of what we’re doing. Doing something has a cost. And when we know the value will offset the cost, then we’re more motivated to act on it.

  • Awesome video!!!! Thanks that helped me a lot and you presented the information in a convincing and motivating way!! Thank you I really needed this video today! Much appreciated your vid!:))

  • I hooe this helps me with my eating disorder and i dont wish to tell anyone so thats why im trying to do it myself and ik i can do it, i will do it!

  • Yeah, I have that kind of behavior which when I’m in the process already, I’m thinking that my reality or actuality is still different from what I’ve planned to do that loose myself momentarily in the momentum I have created. And realizing that maybe I’m just carried away to something that came up in my mind, positive or negative that made me an idea to do something.

    And that leads me to just live in my head, optimizing my unbalance condition that became my personality as a person. No certain output, just in my head. Seemingly silent person in the outside. And don’t really sure to have an effortlessly sure decisions to make when in a normal condition.

    It’s all just an illusion, deluding myself!

  • Applied behavior analysis (ABA) is a field that might interest you, as well as a book called ‘Behavioral Karma.’ Humans are more complex, but we too operate under the same behavioral principles as other animals do. “To want to do something” is called an establishing operation in ABA, and it is something that comes before the process of “cue —> behavior —> reward.” Great video!

  • Great advice. Thanks for sharing this!
    If you’re interested in goal setting and habit building, please check out a product called GoalsOnTrack at https://www.goalsontrack.com. It’s designed for helping high achievers to set and track goals by organizing everything you need to do inside a comprehensive goal planning system.

  • its 4am but……. brb gonna brush my teeth

    idk how to get that night brush routine in there if I go to bed so late people might wake up if I do
    but honestly its just an excuse not to. lmk if you found the magic trick to consistent night teeth brushing

  • Your beliefs become your thoughts,
    Your thoughts become your words,
    Your words become your actions,
    Your actions become your habits,
    Your habits become your values,
    Your values become your destiny

    Mahatma Gandhi

  • I don’t think people smoke from a conscious and rational thought process and decision, addiction is rooted in subconscious beliefs, maybe even stored cell trauma from disturbed generation DNA

  • After a 6 or 7 year break I pulled out my old bike and decided to go for a ride. And what do you think after the first 500 meters I fell, but I stood up and continued my journey of trying my hand. I turned the circle around my part of the city and realized how well it was worth remembering the old forgotten things. after such a ride, I feel that the cones and crotch will hurt as needed tomorrow ��

  • OMG, this is so true about identity. Many years ago I smoked. One day a woman who worked on another floor, heard me saying I was on my way out for a smoke and she looked at me with such surprise and said “you don’t look like a smoker”…I took that a a complement and from that day forth, began to smoke less and less till I was not smoking anymore.

  • What if the standards of the person is too low. Won’t the best person feel like damm i didn’t feel like i try my best today. What if that happens.?

  • the secret is your daily habits… start of by motivating yourself.. then start your habit.. then maintain that habit.. before you know it… that habit will become a part of your daily life and it’s gonna benefit you so much inshallah.
    For example if you wanna start drinking 5 litres of water a day then work hard for 20,30 days and then after it’ll become your daily everyday habit. you would instinctively want to drink water by yourself. The hardest part is the early stages

  • So instead of parents who tell me teeth brushing is important now I have some studies from dentist who tell me what to do? Dont see much of a difference. Dont experience strong emotions when I read studies or hearing sad stories etc tbh.
    I think a plain and simple reward system (like eating a whole bucket of ice cream if I get my work done today etc) could actually work realy well with many people its just that if you have the opportunity to cheat yourself and get the reward instantly most people just go for it, its in our nature and everything else requieres willpower…willpower is limited and exhaust you…which reduces your productivity…I dont see the right way to go tbh.

  • Yeah my mother did stop reminding me about brushing 2x a day
    Now I am going to a dentist to check up on my molar which is completely infected and had a big ol’ cavity in it

    Thanks mom

  • Awesome script! I’m really impressed how you incorporated repetition without it being annoying. Also a video that is worth writing along with to catch the meaning of the video. Keep them coming, I am learning!

  • I was wondering… Why are we the only species who needs a toothbrush and toothpaste to maintain our teeth?

    Anyway really good video ill be saving it to my playlist.

  • I connected this to something and realized a truth. This was taught to us at a class in org dev. That for changes to happen in an organization, you need to align the culture to your goal.

    I understand a part of it but when I watched your video that made me totally understand it.

    The core beliefs is the culture and the habits is the steps to our goal. Thank you!!

  • Man, Andrew makes me very tired. He sounds like the male version of a model self sacrificing her life to be beautiful. This is a pushy story of a young testosterone driven kid repeating the capitalist managers handbook on success. To get in one year what others takes 5 years needs: Focus, Purpose, Action, A good plan, luck and or big social skills, daring to take risks, hard work, good friends, the right intention, and sometimes crossing borders, that hurt yourself and or others (most millionaires are ashamed about all they did to get their first million). Btw: success is what? Wealth at the cost of the planet has to be questioned, nowadays. Perhaps go see Alan Watts, on “life as music” or “what if money was not an object”. Where do we really want to go, while staying human? Play more, work less! would be my advice.

  • He’s right. I relate to this video very personally. Having the motivation to complete the things I want to do has always stood in my way. I used to hear everyone say “just force yourself to do it” and things like that. But I would always think to myself “wouldn’t it be much better if I really wanted to do these things?”. Now, my mental state has heavily improved and I found a little bit of meaning and purpose in my life. It’s easy to do the small things now because I can see a bigger picture. Thanks for the video Andrew!

  • Everything is cool except the identity u mention in this video. Identity is draining your will power and it is only and illusion u put on yourself with your mind and the society that you live in. You shouldn’t identify with anything but learn to just act. Peace 😉

  • I’ve wanted to be able to play the guitar since I was about ten since I got bored of the piano, which had a lot to do with other adults around me telling me that I must practice the piano. I would never have kept at it as a teen though so as a young adult, with nobody telling me to do anything I finally gave myself no excuses, bought a guitar… But it didn’t really work for me until I began to view myself as not a guitarist in the beginning, but someone who will be a guitarist. This gave me permission to screw it up, to play badly and to make a lot of irritating sounds when I began to hear myself make actual intelligible music that I began to think of myself as a guitarist who may start going to gigs or join a band one day in the not too distant future. This was when I also developed the practise into a habit. That is after a while I found that if I hadn’t picked up the guitar at the very least to have a bit of fun, or practice a song I liked that day, I felt off… like something was missing. Now, I must pick it up and either play something or practice something or begin to learn something new at least once a day. Even if for about 20 minutes. A similar thing happened with my writing over a much much longer time and much more subtly. I have a log into which my thoughts and creative ideas go. If I haven’t entered anything new in a while I begin to get irritable. A bunch of my better shorts went into that log first where they underwent revisions and edits before being published. The two different creative outlets have perpetuated each other. I’ve created characters who play instruments and am now able to better write their musicality because I play music too.

  • “He who has a why can bear any how” Nietszche

    To add onto Andrew’s thoughts with experiences from my own journey:
    1. Rooting out negative self talk/toxic beliefs: i worked with a meditation coach and we did deep work and rooted out beliefs that seemed innocuous to me at the time were actually quite self limiting and self tyrannical. They had roots in my childhood, reinforced by well meaning parents and maybe not so well meaning society but were ultimately harmful

    2. Have a vision/ideal: I take this one from Jordan Peterson. But I was literally able to drop previously addictive behaviors I couldn’t drop before (such as smoking weed and drinking excessively) because I had unknowingly created a vision in my mind of who I wanted to be and smoking and drinking just didn’t have a place in that vision. Once this became more apparent to me, I’ve begun thinking more about and Journaling about the vision of my ideal life.

    3. Changing mindset through the spoken word: I’ve always spoken to myself as a way to unpack and process my thoughts but I never realized my spoken word had power. With my meditation coach’s suggestions, I crafted a morning routine of positive self affirmations that I would speak out loud during my morning showers (attaching a new habit to an old one), and I would speak out loud (I think speaking them out loud and hearing them is key) and anchor these affirmations by always ending with the same three phrases. I believe this is so important because you need to change he conversation you have with yourself in your head otherwise you’re going to be trying to improve but always subconsciously sabotaging yourself.

    Hope this long rant helped somebody!

  • One thing i didn’t understand is when you say “So a general rule of thumb is to stop saying I don’t care. And certainly, do not get involved in those back and forths “I don’t care what you want to do”, that go for ever and ever. That just drains your willpower”.
    Really, I read it repeatedly and I can’t figure out what you mean to it.

    And if I may, I’d just like to say one thing: although you tried to inpsire WILLPOWER and EXCITEMENT I believe you turned the video into a little bit rushed off. I know I may see this way because I’m not a native english speaker, but these are concepts that deserves a little bit of calm to express and settle into the mind. But that’s just my point of view.

    Nevertheless, congrats for the video! It was quite enjoyable to see it!
    Thanks for sharing the content!

  • The real question is, how long did your mother remind you about your tooth brushing? At that age already setting reminders and using apps, makes me assume, you never brushed your teeth on your own accord until you were 12 or so.

  • Great video, if you are interested in how you can use discipline to improve your health watch my videos, cheers https://youtu.be/G5OT6mqJd64

  • Behaviors are belief-driven… but they’re also physiologically driven. If you feel it in your gut, your gut usually wins. This video is basically telling you to teach your gut to feel what you want it to feel.

  • But I think will power can be developed instantly for doing the right things rather than on moving on elevator from building it in smaller tasks than in bigger tasks. How?
    Below is my observation:
    Step 1: Repeating right thoughts again and again.
    Step 2: Develop Gratification in your thoughts for what you like to achieve and hatred for what you want to leave.

  • Gah!!! One of my non-negotiables is watching a Charisma on Command video daily and taking notes. I can’t begin to tell you the drastic change in how the outside world perceives me. As a black man there is a stigma in society that I am a person to be feared. Your videos have opened up my body language and communication skills to where people are approaching me to strike up a conversation. Your videos are life changing. Thank you.

  • What is wrong with trying yoga, then salsa, then something else? Why do I have to become the best at it, instead of having the freedom to try new ways?

  • I got the point that I have to do it despite of what I feel at that time BUT I tried to do it for example when I feel like to study I can go 6 to 8 hours without any problem but when I don’t feel like and try to push myself I studied 1 to 2 hours max and after that I lose concentration and what I learned on those hours its like I only reading the text without understanding and remembering anything. What should I do? please help me.

  • I had… phone addiction.
    I found a way to get rid of it but I’m still clinged to pornography addiction.

    For teenagers, it may be normal but for me, it was unhealthy and made my mind filthy in a term!

    I had many relapses and I still pray to God for giving me strength to face this.

    Thank you for your video to improve self-control and willpower!����

  • Thank you so much Sir l learn a lot, will start making my bed every morning and having time for myself, will update for the out come..
    Again thank you Sir….

  • Im suffering substance addiction, i have everything, i have all potential i need to succeed… its so frustrating, i wish it never happened….

  • Visualization would have to be one of, if not the best techniques to help you achieve your desired goals. Different strokes for different folks though. So what works for one person may not work for another.