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5 No-Fail Approaches to Resolutions. by Elizabeth Millard. December 26, 2018. No Comments. The beginning of a new year is compelling when you’re looking to make some healthy changes. That January changeover feels like a fresh start, and that’s why it’s so common for promises to get declared — only to be abandoned by the majority of resolution-setters by the time February hits.

A Brilliant, No-Fail Approach to Resolutions. by Molly Hurford. November 30, 2017. No Comments.

Share it: These days, holiday season stretches from Halloween all the way to New Year’s. That means months of overeating, inactivity and inevitable weight gain. Then, come January. “Even though you set them every year, your New Year’s resolutions rarely stick.

In fact, 23 percent of us break them in a week and 45 percent by the end of the month.” Choosing the right goal and the right approach are the keys to resolution success. Deep down, we know that this conflict resolution approach usually fails to resolve the conflict and often only makes it worse. Here are 5 conflict resolution strategies that are more effective, drawn from research on negotiation and conflicts, to try out the next time you’re tempted to argue your point. Purchasing and Supply Chain Management (7) Sales (87) Strategic Planning (160) Thinking and Innovation (103) Time Management (59) Training and Development (63) The Five Steps to Conflict Resolution.

Jul 25, 2019. By AMA Staff. Approaches to Conflict Resolution InProject Management: A Systems Approach to Planning, Scheduling, and Controlling,five modes for conflict resolution are explained and the situations when they are best utilized are identified. These modes are Confronting, Compromising, Smoothing, Forcing, and Avoiding.

3. Compromise of resolution, resulting in at least some of the beneficial consequences being achieved. These outcomes are dependent on the approach or strategy used to deal with the conflict. The choice among alternative strategies can spell the difference between resentment and mutual respect. The 5 ‘Cs’ Approach to Conflict Resolution in the Workplace Related: 5 Ways To Enable Your Team For Better Conflict Resolution. Careful thought and consideration are.

Continuing Studies course: Five Approaches to Conflict Resolution: What Works When Due to the COVID-19 crisis, UW–Madison has suspended in-person instruction for all summer classes and programs. We have many online offerings, and full registration refunds will be provided for any canceled classes. Approaches to conflict resolution, as applied to international environmental disputes, include negotiation, mediation and arbitration. The four contributors to the Conflict Resolution Theme are all outstanding researchers in the field of environmental decision-making.

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This “just once” idea kills off more good resolutions than any other one cause.

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The resolutions should not be introduced individually or selectively.

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Arguably, certain intrinsic defects may invalidate the two resolutions mentioned herein.

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The best resolutions were the ones that happened quickly and weren’t necessitated by my mistakes.

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Passing resolutions is only one sorry, but it can’t be helped-under the constitution.

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Written resolutions no longer have to be agreed by all members, but merely a simple majority or a three-quarters majority as appropriate depending on whether a resolution is ordinary or special (CA 2006, ss 281(2) and 283(2)).

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Such “natural resolutions” are more common than intervention-assisted resolutions for problem drinking and smoking.

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previous resolutions that contain sucha determination.

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by Bruno Simma, Daniel-Erasmus Khan, et. al.
OUP Oxford, 2012

Good resolutions seldom fail of producing some good

“Nicholas Nickleby” by Charles Dickens
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by Charles Dickens
Collins, 1905

Almost all the resolutions offered or mentioned fall into one or another of three types.59

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by Norman Kretzmann, Anthony Kenny, et. al.
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  • I always make the same resolution as the year before… but not necessarily because I failed. my new years resolution is that when I look back on where I was the previous year, I’ll be a better person than I was when I last made that resolution.

  • I’m exactly 5 years smoke free today. That being said, my gym goals started 6 months ago and as I enter a packed gym Jan 2nd, other people’s resolution is already my everyday.

  • This whole method is ridiculous..  The acronym is not memorable and is too long.   It also is not focused on improving the relationship and is too mechanically solution oriented.  This lady would drive me crazy quick.

  • I think it would be really cool to see a video on the psychology of the dislike bar on youtube and how it affects our opinion of the video before and during watching. I know I have felt less likely to watch videos or to agree with arguments made in videos (like on these PBS channels for example).

  • We approach New Years Resolutions wrong. 30 days, is how long we usually last. Thats it! I talk about a more effective to keep your new years resolution in my new video. Basically we have to breakdown our goal into more manageable ones that we can accomplish in a week. #WeeklyResolutions. I talk about it more depth in the video. Good luck everyone

  • thank you!!!

    just a curiosity for you, in the venetian dialect “sta ben” means something like “be well” or wishing that a person has good health.

  • I didn’t take any resolutions… but i watch videos, movies, i read books, i learn things and i even play games, all make me wonder, about myself and my life… And i realize “philo” stuff is that make me really change! For me the best tips to be a better person is to live and think about it!

  • Some really helpful videos on mental health and conflict resolution here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLTuos8p1sqEegrbDxHSD5SNpjqW67c90e

  • New years resolution is ‘Forget big change, start with a tiny habit’. For eg. The Pushup habit.
    The first day, I did 10 pushups, which only took 15 seconds or so.
    The second day, I did 11 pushups. This was a very tiny improvement.
    I’ve continued this pattern of adding 1 pushup per day, every single day. I did 21 this morning, which was still easy to do and took less than 30 seconds.
    “Rewire Habit & Goal Tracker”
    https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.rstudioz.habits an android app. Work exactly the way I want!

  • I pretty much have the goal to 100% 3 games this year with actual challenge.
    In 2014 I probably did 9 but last year I only 100% Walking Dead (both) and Life is Strange that really just hand you achievements on a plate.
    I have already started Halo CEA and just got the Tsanta and That Just Happened achievements and right now I am going for No-Fly Zone.
    So I am probably going to do it.

  • I have a weird relationship with goals, there was a time when I was able to work hard toward a lot of goals at once, and I had fun doing it, I felt that going to sleep knowing that I had at least tryed motivated me to do more the next day.
    Also I can work a lot better if I’m having fun, for example it was a lot easier to study algebra when I realized I had to use matrices to work with opengl(a graphic engine) and I ended up making a small app while studying.
    In the end is difficoult for me to reach the right equilibrium but if I have a lot of things that I want to do (so I can switch from one to another when I can’t continue or I’m tired to do the same thing) and I’m having fun (this require a smart use of free time and doing things like in the previous example) I can do a lot.
    Also obviously if I can enstablish routines it helps

  • Anyone else looking at Jen there, with the sexy librarian/office staff look happening…fantasizing about taking her into the store room after all your colleagues have left…*blinks twice & shakes his head a little, sighs, adjusts his collar, & clears his throat*

    Excuse me! excellent video! superlative in fact!

  • I am handling someone who is the eye of HR then at the time that you want to change her schedule. Then she would say, no you cant change my schedule co’z I was task by the HR to be at that scheduled. Then you knew that, that person has a bad record in his previous Supervisors who handled her, then here comes the HR trusted her to be her eyes. Then that eye tells everything regarding about the operations of your area. Then me as his supervisor would probably feel uncomfortable. I felt that my rights are already taken out from me because what I knew is I need to solve any problem before it reach to the higher management. If it reach to higher management they could say that I’m not doing my job well and it makes me feel discourage because of it. What should I do?

  • LYRICS:

    [Intro: Trippie Redd]
Haha, Big 14, you know what the fuck going on

[Chorus: X2]
Ayy, you know I keep that candy, yeah
I need more like Mandy, yeah
Stay up, take addies, yeah
I’m tryna fix this damage, yeah

[Post-Chorus: Machine Gun Kelly]
I’m in my head again, I took more medicine
Ripped up the parts from my heart and my chest again

[Verse 1: Machine Gun Kelly]
Ayy, fuck it, I was raised like that
So I guess I never really changed like that
I be takin’ shots to the brain like that
Blacked out drunk and I came like that
Helpin’ me to get through all the pain like that
Yeah, driving through the rain like that
Running from the fame like that
On the front page like that
I’ma go insane like—

[Chorus: X2]
You know I keep that candy, yeah
I need more like Mandy, yeah
Stay up, take addies, yeah
I’m tryna fix this damage, yeah

[Post-Chorus: Machine Gun Kelly]
I’m in my head again, I took more medicine
Ripped up the parts from my heart and my chest again

[Verse 2: Trippie Redd]
Huh, my bitch taste like candy, yeah
Play with death like I’m Billy & Mandy, yeah
I keep the chopper in the fanny, yeah
Make a fuck nigga sleep like a Xanny, yeah
On the beach, chilling where it’s sandy, yeah
I just bought a whip for my granny, yeah
I fucked her raw, hit her with the Plan B, yeah
Bitch, I’m on, put that on my mammy, yeah

[Chorus: X2]
You know I keep that candy, yeah
I need more like Mandy, yeah
Stay up, take addies, yeah
I’m tryna fix this damage, yeah

[Post-Chorus: Machine Gun Kelly]
I’m in my head again, I took more medicine
Ripped up the parts from my heart and my chest again

    ����❌❌

  • Funny enough, I just made a video on the history and psychological motivations behind New Year’s resolutions AND one of my major projects in grad school this last semester was focused around learned helplessness. Baader-Meinhof, anyone?

    Another thing, if I could just quickly add to your already awesome video, is that people also make goals that are overwhelmingly contingent upon other people. A really popular one is to find love or advance in a career. But, obviously, those interactions require more than just you and we can’t control the world. So many of these goals will fall flat through no fault of our own but we will still feel the effect of the loss. Instead, we should focus on goals that are compatible with the advancement in our careers and love life but that can be accomplished by ourselves. We can resolve to work harder/smarter/participate more in meetings and resolve to do the sorts of things that make us more interesting/confident (I.e., desirable) to the preferred sex (although, in my experience, you should do these latter things because YOU want to. Gotta love yourself first, as they say).

    For what it’s worth, my resolutions this year are to smile a bit more than in 2015 and express more gratitude for the things and opportunities that I have.

    Happy New Year, everyone!

  • Trippie straight killed this track and I don’t even like a single song from him, My bitch taste like candy, play with death like I’m billy and Mandy” “chopper in the fanny make a fuck nigga sleep like a xanny”

  • Why don’t you hire a Nanny to cook, clean and take care of the dishes you make enough money. If not you come off as a spoiled brat. We all work our asses off to pay our bills and do the stuff at the home. My parents worked their asses of each week to take care of us and they never complained about doing the dishes!

  • Much Love and Respect for Kells. I really feel this song because i used to eat addys like candy back as a teenager. As for Going against eminem That was fucking Epic. Dont get me wrong i grew up to eminem, but Mgk Smoked that washed up mofo. Eminem has fallen so far an unfortunately even eminem knows MGK is a younger, better version of himself. i mean lets be honest how far would eminem of Got without Dre? MGK got all his shit without using the Dr. from Compton. that deserves mad respect.

  • I don’t really have this problem. I always set things like say or do something nice at least once a month and the reward is making someone else’s day better and you feel good about yourself. And if I want to be healthier I would say do a 5min workout everyday then increase time every time I get used to it. It’s really not that hard to make a realistic resolution

  • The past and future are real illusions, they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is. If you can’t live fully in the present, you can never live fully.

  • I found out that if there is no gender based approach to the job sharing, such conflicts arise, if woman habitually does house work and husband helps her when he is free, couple may not dispute because the wife already knows her role of work. But when wife does regard herself as equal to the husband on terms of job doing, then this causes constant dispute and jealousy.

  • Thanks for this. I tried this out a few times. But it works only if the other person is rational…. it doesn’t work with irrational people!!!

  • This is very bare bones lecture. I was expecting a lot more considering that you are a psychologist and therapist, Dr. Berne. Nevertheless, the example was good.

  • Thanks for the information. I am using this video for my College Diversity and found it most useful. Again thanks for the information.

  • Thank you I really like this. I think this will help me. I do like this process, I think it is a good tool to have in your bag. I’m going to start putting it to a test to see how this plays out in my life and how I can conclude certain conflicts. I find it tasteless that many on here try to comment with humor which I find funny at times but this should be taken seriously people have a hard time dealing with conflict. This is a greet asset to have maybe start creating good environments and help change home/work atmospheres.

  • I personally gone through this video by Dr. Hari Shankar Shyam sir to manage conflict at work place.I would suggest you people who are worried about conflicts at Workplace to go through it. It is really helpful. https://youtu.be/rDSSv3v03QE

  • Wonderful video. The process is very similar to the one described by the Non Violent Comunication (from Marshall Rosemberg) but in here is adding two nice tips: the Time-place and te Amicable approach. Thanks very much. By the way, very good communication skills.

  • After reading the comments I think that people don’t really understand the dynamics of conflict resolution. What jennie has covered should be taken as principles rather than a methodology. The principles can take many forms depending upon your beliefs, values, needs or objectives. There are different types of conflicts and different reasons of conflict. This is a good summary of the most common emotions in play and a good approach to solve them.

  • Work on yo self mgk thas all u can do ������ hope for the best an keep ur head up u a big motivation to everyone and ur fans need you

  • its easier planning less ambitious ones; not that that we shouldnt be ambitious, however smaller less ambitious goals are easier to track. You dont have to do extra-ordinary things to achieve your goals… small yet consistant ones can get you there just fine.

  • Like Old Hoxton from the Payday Crew said “If it has to be New Year’s for you to make a change for the better
    You’re a spineless f**** t***”

  • I want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my ex husband after divorce, i and my husband have been married for 8 years with 2 kids, we have been a happy family. Last year his behavior towards me and the kids changed, i suspected he was meeting another woman outside out marriage, any time i confronted him, he threatened to divorce me, i did all i could to make things right but all to no avail until i saw a post on a “love and relationship forum” about a spell caster who helps people to cast spell on marriage and relationship issues, when i contacted Dr Akhigbe spell caster via email, he helped me cast a re-union spell and my husband changed and came apologizing to me and the kids. Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage issues via this email: [email protected] gmail.com or Whats App him on +2349056974486

  • #1 Think deeply about why you wan’t to make a resolution
    #2 do it for yourself
    #3 plan for obstacles
    #4 manage the enviroment
    #5 if you fail, keep trying

  • My only New Year’s resolution is to work at being happier and spend more times with my own friends. I’m prone to spending all my free time with my boyfriend, HIS friends resent me for it, and any spare moment I think about him. My New Year’s was ruined by the fact he didn’t pick up my call, it left me in tears. I don’t want to be that way.

  • As soon as she started bitching to me about the dishes i would run out and buy a dishwasher to shut her mouth. If she continued i would ask for a divorce right away.

  • It funny how as a man you get no help doing house chores but a woman always want you to do something.She can wash the dishes all the time because she is not helping him with the yard work.

  • Omg, when you said that thing about having finished another season of Game of Thrones in a years time… I had LITERALLY just thought the same thing! Haha, I guess I’m a little obsessed:p Happy (belated) 2016, Vanessa! x

  • Mrs. Byrne, hello! My name is Lawrence. I wanted to know if I can use your concept as a teaching material. I really like the way you built the steps into an acronym and explained everything in a way people can relate. Your a rockstar! Learning constructive conflict resolution is as important as learning how to walk. Thank you for taking the time to help me.

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  • It’s pretty funny that most of the negative coents have nothing to do with the technique and more to do with the example. Guys you’re missing the point hahaha
    It’s a simple example to try and not get in the way of explaining the method. If the example is to complicated it would distract from the lesson.

    I enjoyed having the steps explained clearly, thank you for the video

  • Do you really want to label a person as the Source? Doesn’t that essentially lay the blame and isn’t that the opposite of the oft given advice to address the behavior not the person?

  • I tell you what, the “Time and Place” is always going to be the hardest part. Anticipation is the leading cause of stress and anxiety, it is genuinely worse than any event. If you over think this you’re going to end up more emotional than just dealing with it on the spot. Just ensure that you get yourself into a good mood before you attempt this.

  • Glad to see I’m not the only one with these kinds of thoughts. So many years before I set really unachievable goals and you’re totally right it’s all about how to actually achieve them. It’s about the process. You can’t say you want to get fit as a goal. You have to set a goal that is active e.g. Cardio training once a week, taking on classes, etc. Even then it can still be difficult. Just made a video on my own channel about basically the same thing.

  • The staben method well explained. But why do you think it would be fair if your husband would do the dishes half of the time. Don´t you think he could better focus on those tasks that you are unable to do?

  • I actually find new years resolutions stupid.

    Sure I am overweight and I decided end of November (also after a burn-out which the therapist said I should walk more * I hate walking in towns!*) that I would get back to a better eating habit, do exercises and get back into the shape I was 10 years ago. So I told my mate and his girlfriend. He was like: “Why not wait a month for new years?”
    Well his girlfriend and I were like: “What is so fucking special on January the 1st? If you want change do it immediately”.
    -“Yeah but the good food period is upon you and the holidays
    “Well if I can mange to regulate caloric intake during those days and manage to at least do some exercise than I can do it all fucking year long!

    So I gradually over the course of a month changed things, first the most important and hardest, reduce the amount of food you eat. I ordered out too often and those portions are just too big and often very fatty. I realized that when I am in the supermarket buying the drinks and snacks I may as well buy the good micro-wave dinners instead of ordering out. A mircowave dinner has less calories and is also done quickly I simply don’t have the time to cook 30 minutes everyday and also add 1 hours of relaxation (TV hanging or reading). So ordering in was a solution to keep doing some work that I get paid for.

    Then I added swimming pool visits just 30 minutes at least 3 times a week. Pool is easy because I can do it when I come home and whether I spend 1 hour complaining there’s nothing on the tube or reading a book I may as well do something that gives me more longevity.

    And now I even bought a bike and I drive up and down 20 minutes to the pool/gym so I have an easy 40 minute work out and I often do 4 or even 5 days a week now.

    But simply because I started changing things little by little focussing on how to achieve a goal and not focussing on the goal.
    I usually failed after 3 weeks like the video said the last 3 attempts. But then I read a study that small increments and focussing on the individual steps on how to achieve a goal instead of focussing and visualizing having achieved the goal is more productive.
    And it is!

    Us humans are not comfortable with change and these things are a big change in everyday live so you need to nudge them in one at time starting with the biggest gain. For weightloss it’s simply eat less and make better choices.

  • Conflict Resolution in North Carolina?
    I thought y’all just used the Bible Belt’s Fundamentalist Traditional technique of POWER and cowardly pulling down perceived difference?
    hmmm…. Conflict Resolution in the Land of Hypocrisy…

  • OFNR Observations Feelings Needs Requests. When I consider how many dishes I wash versus how many dishes I use, I feel frustrated because this doesn’t give me fairness. Just to make sure we’re on the same page, can you tell me what you heard me say? (After they confirm understanding.) That’s right, so would you be willing to wash the dishes that you use?

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  • First video I watched in 2016. Feel free to believe that it is something special. Certainly nor for me, I just kicked out the last of the visitors, it is 2:49, we had a nice talk about the university where I was studying (one of the guests actually finished it successfully), I went through a few of my notes from 15 years ago…. And ended up checking my mail, finding info about this video, so I watched it. Nice. I already lost 6 kg of weight, I do not need a special “magical” date to start. It happened a couple of weeks ago and I am very grateful for the person who caused this and that wer are still friends. Pretty pointless new years “YouTube comments section rant”, but then again, like I had a choice… PF 2016 to everybody.

  • Thank you for sharing this info. I work in a stressful environment that often requires conflict resolution. The way you put things in that paticular order makes things easier to handle. Sometimes it involves doing dishes:)

  • I don’t know about you, but I haven’t stopped laughing since the start of the video… Pleasee… Tell me I’m not alone!!!!!!!! It isn’t to bring her down or insult..

    it is a sincere laughter that got me laughing the whole video to the point of crying in the middle of class when it was put there!! I took notes on the whole video though.. It is a very nice concept…. but hahahahah… I can’t keep a straight face as a write… wow i wish i had some form of emotive character to display what is what is in my feelings

  • I hope this isn’t creepy, but I find Nessy very beautiful. I love your videos; you are you so smart, and that accent is to die for. Love you and your content! Keep it coming. ^_^

  • People disregard MGK all because of that dumb beef with em…..It sucks they literally ignored an amazing artist but at least we know the real!