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Watch the rest of this video series featuring Dr. Judy instantly HERE: https://bit.ly/322pXqc. “Failure to Launch” is real. Here are 11 mental health reasons someone might be living at home in adulthood.. The number of adults living at home with their parents is rising every year. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, nearly 25% of people ages 25 to 34 living at home with their parents neither go to school nor go to work.. In 2016, more young adults were living with parents vs. living with a spouse.. Often, an untreated mental health problem is an underlying cause.. According to triple Board Certified neuropsychologist, Dr. Judy Ho, Failure to Launch is not a “failure” at all.. When it comes to mental health, it usually boils down to missing the signs and symptoms of an underlying mental health problem.. Failure to Launch can lead to feelings of shame and isolation, and the parents of these young adults are often wrongfully criticized for being overindulgent. FTL is a serious problem that causes anguish and despair in thousands of parents and families every day.. This is why the FTL phenomenon, and its intersectional tie-in to mental health, needs to be addressed.. So here are the 11 mental health reasons someone might be living at home.
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4 Common Habits Sabotaging Your Sleep 1. TAKING MELATONIN AT THE WRONG TIME. Around sunset, your brain produces melatonin, a hormone designed to start a 2. GOING TO BED ONLY WHEN YOU’RE SLEEPY. Schedules become variable especially as seasons change — you stay out later on 3. COUNTING SHEEP (OR.
Home / Excessive Sleepiness / Causes / Sleep Habits: How You Might Be Unintentionally Sabotaging Your Sleep If you’re experiencing excessive sleepiness, poor sleep habits are often the cause. It’s important to review your routines, schedules, and the environment you’re sleeping in so you can spot potential problems and make adjustments. 4 Common Habits Sabotaging Sleep. 1: Melatonin supplementation: Melatonin is a hormone your body naturally produces around sunset each day, but many people think they can pop it 2: Going to bed only when you have hit exhaustion: Keeping consistent with your sleeping schedule is imperative when. Insider consulted with sleep experts to identify a few ways you might be sabotaging your sleep and how to get back on track.
You obsess about getting eight hours of sleep. According to the National Sleep Foundation, most adults over the age of 26 need about eight hours of sleep. However, some adults may feel fine after seven hours or might need.
Your diet. Poor nutrition habits can affect your sleep for a variety of reasons. If you’re not eating a proper balance of protein, fat and carbs your. 18 Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Sleep Without Realizing It 1. You check your phone before going to bed. Your phone, tablet, computer, and TV give off light from the blue part of 2. You’re not getting enough sunlight in the morning.
Light exposure in the morning—sunlight in particular—shuts off. Each day, I woke up extremely tired as a result of poor evening habits that were sabotaging my sleep. As you can imagine, focusing on. While exercising close to bedtime can undermine your best efforts to sleep, doctors say regular exercise during the day can do wonders. Exercise can.
Avoid making these sleep-sabotaging mistakes before bed. It takes more than logging seven to nine hours to ensure a good night’s sleep. What you do—and don’t do—at bedtime and even in the hours before you turn in can affect how you look and feel when your alarm buzzes in the a.m. 4 common habits sabotaging your sleep “In addition to proper nutrition, hydration and recovery days, sleep can be one of the top factors that can make or break your fitness performance.
In a recent study looking at sleep quality and athletes, researchers noted that people who are in training tend to experience more sleep issues than non.
Avoiding light exposure and use of electronic media before bedtime, having a relaxing presleep ritual, keeping the bedroom cool and comfortable, and avoiding strenuous exercise, caffeine, alcohol, and large meals before bedtime are conducive to good quality sleep.
Another thing: it’s not necessarily a bad thing to live with your parents as an adult that can be a smart thing to do to save money, as long as you are gainfully employed and paying your own bills.I think we Americans have this idea that you’re a loser if you live at home as an adult… kind of like how we think that to be middle class, or to have “made it”, you must buy a house in the suburbs, because renting means you’re “poor.”
Narcissistic parents don’t want anyone to be independent. You can move, start a company, be independent, and they’ll sabotage everything.
My parents don’t know how to do ANYTHING. Like…. turn on a stove or cook or clean or anything. I’ve been able to do all these things since I was a kid, but they can keep their jobs, and have inherited properties.
I’ve started a company, I’ve moved and lived with roommates or exes in the past, but my parents have no concept of helping me with a one time loan so I could leave again. They never will.
And my home is violent and horrible and in a neighborhood I hate where everything bad has happened to me.
there’s plenty of underlying reasons that are coming within the person, but the current climate in the US isn’t blameless. college more expensive than ever, housing inflation, stagnant minimum wage, it goes on and on. it’s harder than ever to be independent today. pretty much everyone i know is struggling with debt from student loans, being tied to dead end jobs, and it’s very hard to own a house today. there’s things the individual can do to improve their situation but it only goes as far as a faulty system allows it to.
10:19 I completely agree with this. I had really bad chronic non-allergic rhinitis that sometimes made me unable to breathe when I sleep, and often made me spontaneously have dry cough due to post-nasal drip. It may not sound like a big deal, because it’s not something potentially deadly like asthma. But none of the treatments, like nasal spray, humidifiers, or antihistamines work on me, and the coughing worsens my anxiety because it would make my classmates, co-workers, and new people I meet feel uncomfortable or assume that I’m sick. I also often felt sleepy during the day because I can’t inhale enough oxygen, and I hate doing cardio because heavy breathing gives me a sinus headache. It only improved recently, because I’ve been staying indoors almost all winter, got laser surgery to reduce the nasal blockage, and I think reducing coffee also helped.
We all fall off the train tracks at some point in life no matter your circumstances. The real question is are u strong enough to hop back on the train and not lose yourself in the process ��
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Is it possible to fall into this AFTER having a period of independence? This all fits my brother to a T. He spent all of high school looking forward to joining the military, but wound up getting kicked out for general shitbaggery within a year. He’s since lived with our parents. He refused to work or contribute to the house in any way, avoids interacting with others, and is fairly spiteful towards our parents. It’s been about 5 years of this.
This made so much sense… thank you for putting up this video… i’ve struggled with eating disorder due to many childhood situations that i couldn’t deal with or didn’t know how to deal with. I’m trying my best to understand those and deal with them since they’ve done more damage to me in my adult years on so many more aspects other than just weight gain. I’ve often wondered why I don’t want to lose weight, where am i lacking in the motivation, why don’t i don’t want to look better, be more energetic.. but have never really associated it with blockages or fears.. but your video made me aware.. i’ve not been really answering my own questions. I do tend to sabotage any effort or progress i’ve made from time to time, when i’ve tried to work on getting fit. But the awareness is coming now, on all those occasions, ‘something’ happened, a word, a statement, a repressed emotion, and it all fell on the ground… i’m not even fully aware of my ‘triggers’ and i realised that’s what i really need to think upon and bring them up from wherever they are hiding because without that acceptance, nothing is going to work to improve. It’s just that it’s so so difficult to really identify what that ‘trigger’ is sometimes… the damage is done and i’m falling back again. Thank you… I’ll try and work on this understanding.. it’s true.. i’ve stored a bunch of fears that restrict me from living a more fuller life, and i’ve always kept the weight as a ‘safe excuse’ for myself… time to unlearn the old and learn the new…
I am in a very different situation. I moved out of my parents house at 17 because of abuse. I lived on my own the last 5 years but recently moved home—not for any of the reasons listed, but out of survivor guilt. It’s so painful to see my younger siblings endure the same abuse I did, and I feel overly responsible for the situation. I fear that if I leave they (and my emotionally dependent father) will suffer. Through watching these videos on MedCircle I am finally coming to understand my situation and think it might be time to move on.
I never got off the ground. I’m 64. Never had a career, wife, girlfriend, friends, vacations, or kids. Had breakdown in college. Went on disability at age 35 for depression. Still isolated. Wasted life.
One I would add is the parents don’t really want for their kids to move out. My cousin is a perfect example, his parents were well aware that he was job hunting but they wanted to “hang out” with him every single day. These days a job search is a never ending slog, you don’t exactly have a lot of free time available.
Problems like: moving out from abusive household, but to young to live on your own, also not able to go back there either. Callie has no idea what a nice surrounding she is blessed with ��
I have a 34-year-old son who lives in a home I bought after his behavior caused a divorce from my wife. I now live with my ex-wife and my son, with his girlfriend, live in the home I bought post divorce. He has a huge social and generalized anxiety problem. Not working and I have to pay for everything when he isn’t drawing unemployment. I am his only parent, his biological mother having had no involvement in his life.
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I have a friend with failure to launch. She has really bad mental health problemsspecifically schizophrenia. She doesn’t have a job. Her mom is willing to take her in and letting her just sleep an thats it. She doesn’t want to get better. And I’m at the point where I’m done being her friend. She doesn’t want to be independent, and it seems she’s never going to live on her own. And I asked why she doesn’t want to work toward it and she said “people with my issues usually don’t succeed in life.” Don’t accept that as fact even if it’s true. You want to be the minority and want to succeed It just bothers me. And I have bpd and I’m scared but idk. it bothers me
about to reach my 38th birthday, still living with dad, lonely as hell, absolutely no money or savings and, because of the pandemic, no longer have a job… this sucks…
At 46, I learnt that I grew up in a narcistic family and had narcissist parents. My dad. My mum was an enabler. It wasn’t until after my divorce that I realised I was in a narcissist abuse for 18.5 years of marriage. I married a narcissist and it was such a difficult marriage that I would go back and forth to my parents house to live with my 2 and later 3 kids. I was so indecisive until I had my third child. Two years after my divorce I realised that both my parents were similar to my former husband in their behaviour. Not much empathy when you’re going through crisis. Overall, you learn that living with them is so toxic. It’s okay to go there every day for an hour but don’t muck around. The last experienced of narcasism was having a narcistic female boss at work. So now I’m working on myself and updating my kids about narcistic people in different settings until they’re so bored listening to me.
In conclusion, these people have created my big anxiety in childhood and adulthood. Apart from genetic, my ocd stems from this experience and being indecisive in life especially where to live and stay put.
Initially, I got married to escape from my narcistic parents just to get a narcissist husband. Recently, I learnt that I have to be self worthy when applying for a new job.
Basically, I can relate to your topic very much. because it does affect you financially to move forward. Therefore, we have to check our mental health and emotional health that it doesn’t effect our physical health to move forward too.
I struggle to leave my flat and I Live alone I have bpd generalised anxiety disorder and major depressive disorder I find it hard to even go outside it’s horrible I’m sure I’m not alone tho
I really appreciate how you list it as ANOTHER failire…. As if I had not heard my entire life I was a failure and never accomplished anything. This is validates what I’ve been hurt with. Thanks DR
Hello, My brother in law is about thirty and still lives with his parents, He only gave one shot at living separately from them. The family dynamic is that the parents are both Narcissistic and very abusive neglectful parents.
This has affected every one of their 4 children drastically who are all adults now. My husband was the child who was most abused and neglected.
The reason people fail to lanch lower wages higher rents and people living by them selves what mean by that is you no longer expected to be in a relationship I’m not saying anyone’s a victim but I’m sure this is effecting young people where I’m from in the uk
Happened to me. My family wanted me to be healthy BUT needed me to be sick. They STILL treat me like a sick perosn. I was brainwashed by them. Munchhousen Syndrom by Proxy. I was poisoned. Physically, Mentally and Emotionally. I had to go non contact from ALL of my Family of Oriign. THEY are the SICK ONES! Not ME!
For a hundred thousand years or more People lived as tribes This bull shit you talk about “independence” is a philosophy not a reality It’s only a few hundred years old lol Divide and conquer Eugenics social Darwin Capitalist hegemony ��️♀️why do simps listen to bitches without question! Empire, Colony, Genocide: Conquest, Occupation, and Subaltern Resistance in World History (War and Genocide) 1st Edition by A. Dirk Moses (Editor) 5.0 out of 5 stars 1 rating https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G87aUGV5Mok&t=3s
I’m 26 and still living at home. Never moved out or had any independence. I really want it but it scares me so much and feel I won’t be able to cope with it mentally.
I know my life will be amazing if I lose weight and get rid of binge eating and there is nothing that frightens me but I have gained half of the weight I lost through consistent therapy for a year
I dated this beautiful girl during the summer for 3 months. I was enamored w her. Red flags started to show up. She was 29 and never left home. She lied to my face about really small stupid things. She also told me every boyfriend she ever had cheated on her. Small little things started to make me back away. I found out she was adopted at birth from a prostitute. She had no social life and worked constantly. She had serious issues that weren’t apparent at first…very insecure and no empathy. She avoided anything stressful. She eventually ended it by about a death in the family and ghosting me. I was hurt because I was attracted to her but I knew I dodged a bullet.
and there are people who have abusive parents that cannot get a good job, but are called losers and failures by that parent and shamed and belittled into even more anxiety
The economy also sucks too, despite Trump’s bragging about how “GREAT” it is, along with nepotism, fascism, rigging of the stock market… Also, thoughts of the Anthropeceme 6th Mass Extinction, with nothing being done to combat Global Warming is rather pretty abusive and self-destructive… I don’t feel safe. I’ll die anyway, so yeah.
I liked the fact you guys mentioned autoimmune disorders too. Endometriosis is crippling, but I like the Buddhist concept of letting go. Nothing else really matters anymore when our planet’s on fire, and people are too in denial when we truly all need real change.. together.
I’m phys & mentally disabled but my parents refuse to help me manage my medical problems, especially regarding my phys disabilities & I really don’t get why they shun them so much
I know someone who failed to launch, and it appears to be a multi-layered situation. There are some health and mental health issues with this person, but also that family has two other adult children at home, as well. It feels like the family culture encouraged the kids to stay at home, which honestly feels very unhealthy from my outside perspective. I think they are close-knit to an unhealthy level and didn’t want to let the kids go.
when i used to listen to this song i was so innocent and i just thought it was suchh a good song. but now when i listen to it makes me cry makes me feel nostalgic and it brings back so much memories.
I’m a peer support specialist at Deschutes county behavioral health, working with youth and young adults in the YAT (young adults in transition team) and we support youth and young adults with severe mental health diagnosis get the tools they need to launch successfully into adult hood and become independent from parents and also from being homeless. ☺️♥️
I did. Was scared to death. Plus, I really got along well with my mother, grandmother, etc. This video is so eye opening. I have a lot of anxiety. Thanks for putting into words what I still feel.
I’m 53..My life was a series of “failures to launch” I chose to let fear keep me stuck. My mom whom my kids and I lived with off and on over the years was basically my fall back each time I couldn’t quite provide for us…because after all I never graduated college so I don’t have but a few marketable skills so I’m not worth more than the shit wages I make now, blah blah blah.. all the lies I told myself to keep from having to work too hard �� yes I identify with most reasons mentioned. But then when my mom passed in 2017 I was in full panic mode. “How am I ever going to do this thing called life without her??” Needless to say I put my big girl panties on real quick. ��I have gotten unstuck, and held tightly to faith… because faith and fear can not coexist. I’ve also let go of the should’ve and could’ves because I ended up being the only one of my moms children willing and able to care for her for the last five years of her life… and that will always be treasured ����
This is a great video! You do a wonderful job of being sensitive while asking the person to hold themselves accountable for their possible self-soothing. I struggled with weight for years, and have lost a lot. I find that I occasionally still revert back to old habits of needing to soothe, especially when I start to experience the possibility of rejection for putting myself out there. This is very helpful to me and my life, because I used to use weight as an excuse to not attend functions, go to school, date, etc. After some painful experiences, I find that I try to go back to that safe place even though in my heart I know it is not truly a comfortable place to be.
Esta canción me recuerda mucho a mi ex,y cuando andaba con ella la ponía mucho y como que no me gustaba y ahora que terminamos me gusta mucho las vueltas que da la vida
I think this happens to everybody regardless of where they are in their career and their backgrounds. I have gone through the things you talked about multiple times and I am not really in a bad situation. If you are an idealistic or an overachieving person and you expect too much from yourself, it can happen to you too. I love this series and share them with friends! I don’t like moving camera shots though:)
I have failed to launch (yet). I’m 36 and still living with my parents. The apparent perception of this in the general population here in the UK is not great for my self esteem. I have always struggled with severe social anxiety and nothing I have tried has worked. I’ll have flashes of confidence that last maybe a day or two, then I’ll come crashing back down. It’s like some monster has a rope tied around me and if I get too far away it drags me back over to it. I quite like where I work and my boss seems to appreciate me, so that’s a positive in my life ��
Psychologists: let’s not stigmatize mental illness
Psychologists: let’s call this disorder something that starts with “failure”, words two or three not doing anything to help the case, and tack on “syndrome” at the end
i’m 23 and i graduated 3 years ago. i haven’t left the house and it took me 2 years to get mentally stable to a point where i could leave the house without wanting to die. i’m still unable to get a job, to be around people without being fucking pissed, as sober me can’t deal with others very well, and i’m incredible self-isolating. with bdp, schizotypal, anxiety, depression & ptsd, it’s not easy to leave my childhood home. my family have been supportive, after the reality of my situation set in, suicide attempt and such. i cook, i clean the house, i look after the dogs, so i feel i’m at least not just being there. i don’t know how to move on as i’m stable enough to not try to kill myself every day, but having a conversation makes me black out for 3 days straight. it’s fucking hard.
My brother is 41. Lives with my dad. Hasn’t worked for 10 years & doesn’t seem interested in trying. I’m really concerned about him. He spends all his spare time on the computer chatting to people in Japan. He’s obsessed with everything Japanese. I did wonder if he has Asperger’s. He’s not good at communicating, extremely shy. ��
I know this is a complicated issue and mental illness is certainly something to be seriously addressed that being said I see an awful lot of people in my extended family and otherwise who are still living at home and show no signs at all of leaving the nest and I believe there are in those cases no mental health issues. I think we need to look at the failures in parenting to prepare our young people to move on and be successful independent adults I seem to be seeing an awful lot of that happening and of course the difficult work force for young adults to find adequate employment doesn’t help It’s complicated of course but I feel like there’s something to be said for parenting our kids in a manner that makes them want to move forward as adults being confident productive people
In my experience as a Hispanic and from my friends from Italian and Asian cultures we don’t automatically kick you out at 18 years old. You stay at home until you get married or have a good job. I honestly don’t know why it’s a character flaw to stay and help you family with money and free labor.
IBS. I can’t believe you addressed IBS. No one talks about it in relation to anxiety. It’s no joke lol. I always judge a place by its “facilities”. When people ask me for directions to the “facilities” and before we part I add “it’s great”, I get weird looks. Heheheee.
Why did you get rid of your mole? You’re an expert in psychology yet, you VALUED your PHYSICAL shallowness. Not, the look of your soul or heart of others. When I see you, it reminds me of how FAKE you and so called “guru’s” are.
I’m currently living with my parents, and I’m diagnosed with social anxiety, and depression. I’m on medication which I take everyday and I’ve had loads of therapy over the years.
My parents always critise me and they’re always negative when I’m trying to be positive, for example I did secret eating four years ago and gained stretch marks. They say things like “It doesn’t look good”.
I’m thinking about moving out and living in a supportive living to have a better life.
this video is completely subjective…failure to launch could be due to other economic factors not just mental challenges. This video is completely bias and creates a stigma to those who are trying to be on their own but are unable to.
I live in Italy and some parents in this culture don’t want their kids to grow up, become independent and move out. I saw a Mother throw a tantrum because her 25 year old son wanted to move out. She also wanted him to sleep in her bed all the time when the father was away on business. This woman believed that the role of a Mother was to control her adult son’s life, cook, clean, do his laundry, choose his clothes, and make sure he was in the house. It’s changing now here, but there are many adults, especially men here, who don’t develop life skills and who believe that if they have a job, they should never have to clean or do housework or childcare. Hopefully gender equality will improve, and the changes in parenting style will encourage more young adults, especially men, to grow up and launch! This would also allow young women to have more healthy relationships, and make a career for themselves as well as having a family. Yes, there are many economic problems to overcome, but in my culture in Ireland that was not seen as a reason not to launch. We found work and moved out by about 21, as well as paying for our education, clothes, travel and health expenses; not easy, but I believe a healthy part of learning how to be a grown up in the world.
I feel like I have a lot of this symptoms, but I am 26 and I have lived with a friend (working and providing for myself) since I was 21. What I feel is that I ‘left the nest’ too early and I still have some shit to figure out. Does that make sense at all?
Although I didn’t “fail to launch”, I noticed several symptoms being mentioned that fall under the ADHD umbrella…sometimes anxiety and depression can stem from self esteem issues caused by the overwhelm of ADHD. Just wanted to mention this in case anyone resonates themselves or recognizes it in their kids as a possibility! I also like the idea of shifting the name to “Delayed Launch” ��������
I honestly believe that the very tough job market is at least partially responsible. There are jobs out there, but the competition for well paying, professional jobs is really high. Doctors, dentists, lawyers, and other professionals require a lot of expensive schooling and aren’t financially independent until their late 20’s or 30’s. Throw in student debt, and Ability to Launch ends up tracking the socioeconomic status of the nuclear family of origin. Young people today have my sympathy, especially those who are stuck in a dysfunctional family.
Another thing: it’s not necessarily a bad thing to live with your parents as an adult that can be a smart thing to do to save money, as long as you are gainfully employed and paying your own bills.I think we Americans have this idea that you’re a loser if you live at home as an adult… kind of like how we think that to be middle class, or to have “made it”, you must buy a house in the suburbs, because renting means you’re “poor.”
Narcissistic parents don’t want anyone to be independent. You can move, start a company, be independent, and they’ll sabotage everything.
My parents don’t know how to do ANYTHING. Like…. turn on a stove or cook or clean or anything. I’ve been able to do all these things since I was a kid, but they can keep their jobs, and have inherited properties.
I’ve started a company, I’ve moved and lived with roommates or exes in the past, but my parents have no concept of helping me with a one time loan so I could leave again. They never will.
And my home is violent and horrible and in a neighborhood I hate where everything bad has happened to me.
And I can’t leave.
there’s plenty of underlying reasons that are coming within the person, but the current climate in the US isn’t blameless. college more expensive than ever, housing inflation, stagnant minimum wage, it goes on and on. it’s harder than ever to be independent today. pretty much everyone i know is struggling with debt from student loans, being tied to dead end jobs, and it’s very hard to own a house today. there’s things the individual can do to improve their situation but it only goes as far as a faulty system allows it to.
What about the economy, some people need help financially, different social influences, some people feel comfortable at home, some can’t wait to leave
10:19 I completely agree with this. I had really bad chronic non-allergic rhinitis that sometimes made me unable to breathe when I sleep, and often made me spontaneously have dry cough due to post-nasal drip. It may not sound like a big deal, because it’s not something potentially deadly like asthma. But none of the treatments, like nasal spray, humidifiers, or antihistamines work on me, and the coughing worsens my anxiety because it would make my classmates, co-workers, and new people I meet feel uncomfortable or assume that I’m sick. I also often felt sleepy during the day because I can’t inhale enough oxygen, and I hate doing cardio because heavy breathing gives me a sinus headache. It only improved recently, because I’ve been staying indoors almost all winter, got laser surgery to reduce the nasal blockage, and I think reducing coffee also helped.
We all fall off the train tracks at some point in life no matter your circumstances. The real question is are u strong enough to hop back on the train and not lose yourself in the process ��
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Is it possible to fall into this AFTER having a period of independence? This all fits my brother to a T. He spent all of high school looking forward to joining the military, but wound up getting kicked out for general shitbaggery within a year. He’s since lived with our parents. He refused to work or contribute to the house in any way, avoids interacting with others, and is fairly spiteful towards our parents. It’s been about 5 years of this.
This made so much sense… thank you for putting up this video… i’ve struggled with eating disorder due to many childhood situations that i couldn’t deal with or didn’t know how to deal with. I’m trying my best to understand those and deal with them since they’ve done more damage to me in my adult years on so many more aspects other than just weight gain. I’ve often wondered why I don’t want to lose weight, where am i lacking in the motivation, why don’t i don’t want to look better, be more energetic.. but have never really associated it with blockages or fears.. but your video made me aware.. i’ve not been really answering my own questions. I do tend to sabotage any effort or progress i’ve made from time to time, when i’ve tried to work on getting fit. But the awareness is coming now, on all those occasions, ‘something’ happened, a word, a statement, a repressed emotion, and it all fell on the ground… i’m not even fully aware of my ‘triggers’ and i realised that’s what i really need to think upon and bring them up from wherever they are hiding because without that acceptance, nothing is going to work to improve. It’s just that it’s so so difficult to really identify what that ‘trigger’ is sometimes… the damage is done and i’m falling back again. Thank you… I’ll try and work on this understanding.. it’s true.. i’ve stored a bunch of fears that restrict me from living a more fuller life, and i’ve always kept the weight as a ‘safe excuse’ for myself… time to unlearn the old and learn the new…
I am in a very different situation. I moved out of my parents house at 17 because of abuse. I lived on my own the last 5 years but recently moved home—not for any of the reasons listed, but out of survivor guilt. It’s so painful to see my younger siblings endure the same abuse I did, and I feel overly responsible for the situation. I fear that if I leave they (and my emotionally dependent father) will suffer. Through watching these videos on MedCircle I am finally coming to understand my situation and think it might be time to move on.
I never got off the ground. I’m 64. Never had a career, wife, girlfriend, friends, vacations, or kids. Had breakdown in college. Went on disability at age 35 for depression. Still isolated. Wasted life.
One I would add is the parents don’t really want for their kids to move out. My cousin is a perfect example, his parents were well aware that he was job hunting but they wanted to “hang out” with him every single day. These days a job search is a never ending slog, you don’t exactly have a lot of free time available.
Problems like: moving out from abusive household, but to young to live on your own, also not able to go back there either.
Callie has no idea what a nice surrounding she is blessed with ��
I have a 34-year-old son who lives in a home I bought after his behavior caused a divorce from my wife. I now live with my ex-wife and my son, with his girlfriend, live in the home I bought post divorce. He has a huge social and generalized anxiety problem. Not working and I have to pay for everything when he isn’t drawing unemployment. I am his only parent, his biological mother having had no involvement in his life.
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Can you comment on the price of living….how can we afford life. I’m a senior and cannot find anything affordable for myself and I’m so independent.
I have a friend with failure to launch. She has really bad mental health problemsspecifically schizophrenia. She doesn’t have a job. Her mom is willing to take her in and letting her just sleep an thats it. She doesn’t want to get better. And I’m at the point where I’m done being her friend. She doesn’t want to be independent, and it seems she’s never going to live on her own. And I asked why she doesn’t want to work toward it and she said “people with my issues usually don’t succeed in life.” Don’t accept that as fact even if it’s true. You want to be the minority and want to succeed
It just bothers me. And I have bpd and I’m scared but idk. it bothers me
about to reach my 38th birthday, still living with dad, lonely as hell, absolutely no money or savings and, because of the pandemic, no longer have a job… this sucks…
At 46, I learnt that I grew up in a narcistic family and had narcissist parents. My dad. My mum was an enabler. It wasn’t until after my divorce that I realised I was in a narcissist abuse for 18.5 years of marriage. I married a narcissist and it was such a difficult marriage that I would go back and forth to my parents house to live with my 2 and later 3 kids. I was so indecisive until I had my third child. Two years after my divorce I realised that both my parents were similar to my former husband in their behaviour. Not much empathy when you’re going through crisis. Overall, you learn that living with them is so toxic. It’s okay to go there every day for an hour but don’t muck around. The last experienced of narcasism was having a narcistic female boss at work. So now I’m working on myself and updating my kids about narcistic people in different settings until they’re so bored listening to me.
In conclusion, these people have created my big anxiety in childhood and adulthood. Apart from genetic, my ocd stems from this experience and being indecisive in life especially where to live and stay put.
Initially, I got married to escape from my narcistic parents just to get a narcissist husband. Recently, I learnt that I have to be self worthy when applying for a new job.
Basically, I can relate to your topic very much. because it does affect you financially to move forward. Therefore, we have to check our mental health and emotional health that it doesn’t effect our physical health to move forward too.
I struggle to leave my flat and I Live alone I have bpd generalised anxiety disorder and major depressive disorder I find it hard to even go outside it’s horrible I’m sure I’m not alone tho
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I really appreciate how you list it as ANOTHER failire…. As if I had not heard my entire life I was a failure and never accomplished anything. This is validates what I’ve been hurt with. Thanks DR
Hello, My brother in law is about thirty and still lives with his parents, He only gave one shot at living separately from them. The family dynamic is that the parents are both Narcissistic and very abusive neglectful parents.
This has affected every one of their 4 children drastically who are all adults now. My husband was the child who was most abused and neglected.
The reason people fail to lanch lower wages higher rents and people living by them selves what mean by that is you no longer expected to be in a relationship
I’m not saying anyone’s a victim but I’m sure this is effecting young people where I’m from in the uk
Happened to me. My family wanted me to be healthy BUT needed me to be sick. They STILL treat me like a sick perosn. I was brainwashed by them. Munchhousen Syndrom by Proxy. I was poisoned. Physically, Mentally and Emotionally. I had to go non contact from ALL of my Family of Oriign. THEY are the SICK ONES! Not ME!
For a hundred thousand years or more
People lived as tribes
This bull shit you talk about “independence” is a philosophy not a reality
It’s only a few hundred years old lol
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I’m 26 and still living at home. Never moved out or had any independence. I really want it but it scares me so much and feel I won’t be able to cope with it mentally.
I know my life will be amazing if I lose weight and get rid of binge eating and there is nothing that frightens me but I have gained half of the weight I lost through consistent therapy for a year
Divorce Rape can force you to move back to your parents home, especially if your new circumstance affects your finances severely. MGTOW
I dated this beautiful girl during the summer for 3 months. I was enamored w her. Red flags started to show up. She was 29 and never left home. She lied to my face about really small stupid things. She also told me every boyfriend she ever had cheated on her. Small little things started to make me back away. I found out she was adopted at birth from a prostitute. She had no social life and worked constantly. She had serious issues that weren’t apparent at first…very insecure and no empathy. She avoided anything stressful. She eventually ended it by about a death in the family and ghosting me. I was hurt because I was attracted to her but I knew I dodged a bullet.
and there are people who have abusive parents that cannot get a good job, but are called losers and failures by that parent and shamed and belittled into even more anxiety
The economy also sucks too, despite Trump’s bragging about how “GREAT” it is, along with nepotism, fascism, rigging of the stock market… Also, thoughts of the Anthropeceme 6th Mass Extinction, with nothing being done to combat Global Warming is rather pretty abusive and self-destructive… I don’t feel safe. I’ll die anyway, so yeah.
I liked the fact you guys mentioned autoimmune disorders too. Endometriosis is crippling, but I like the Buddhist concept of letting go. Nothing else really matters anymore when our planet’s on fire, and people are too in denial when we truly all need real change.. together.
I’m phys & mentally disabled but my parents refuse to help me manage my medical problems, especially regarding my phys disabilities & I really don’t get why they shun them so much
Let’s put everyone into boxes…and just to mention-there is no autism spectrum. There is autism and no autism. Nothing in between
I know someone who failed to launch, and it appears to be a multi-layered situation. There are some health and mental health issues with this person, but also that family has two other adult children at home, as well. It feels like the family culture encouraged the kids to stay at home, which honestly feels very unhealthy from my outside perspective. I think they are close-knit to an unhealthy level and didn’t want to let the kids go.
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I’m a peer support specialist at Deschutes county behavioral health, working with youth and young adults in the YAT (young adults in transition team) and we support youth and young adults with severe mental health diagnosis get the tools they need to launch successfully into adult hood and become independent from parents and also from being homeless. ☺️♥️
I did. Was scared to death. Plus, I really got along well with my mother, grandmother, etc. This video is so eye opening. I have a lot of anxiety. Thanks for putting into words what I still feel.
I’m 53..My life was a series of “failures to launch” I chose to let fear keep me stuck. My mom whom my kids and I lived with off and on over the years was basically my fall back each time I couldn’t quite provide for us…because after all I never graduated college so I don’t have but a few marketable skills so I’m not worth more than the shit wages I make now, blah blah blah.. all the lies I told myself to keep from having to work too hard �� yes I identify with most reasons mentioned. But then when my mom passed in 2017 I was in full panic mode. “How am I ever going to do this thing called life without her??” Needless to say I put my big girl panties on real quick. ��I have gotten unstuck, and held tightly to faith… because faith and fear can not coexist. I’ve also let go of the should’ve and could’ves because I ended up being the only one of my moms children willing and able to care for her for the last five years of her life… and that will always be treasured ����
This is a great video! You do a wonderful job of being sensitive while asking the person to hold themselves accountable for their possible self-soothing. I struggled with weight for years, and have lost a lot. I find that I occasionally still revert back to old habits of needing to soothe, especially when I start to experience the possibility of rejection for putting myself out there. This is very helpful to me and my life, because I used to use weight as an excuse to not attend functions, go to school, date, etc. After some painful experiences, I find that I try to go back to that safe place even though in my heart I know it is not truly a comfortable place to be.
Esta canción me recuerda mucho a mi ex,y cuando andaba con ella la ponía mucho y como que no me gustaba y ahora que terminamos me gusta mucho las vueltas que da la vida
I think this happens to everybody regardless of where they are in their career and their backgrounds. I have gone through the things you talked about multiple times and I am not really in a bad situation. If you are an idealistic or an overachieving person and you expect too much from yourself, it can happen to you too.
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I have failed to launch (yet). I’m 36 and still living with my parents. The apparent perception of this in the general population here in the UK is not great for my self esteem.
I have always struggled with severe social anxiety and nothing I have tried has worked. I’ll have flashes of confidence that last maybe a day or two, then I’ll come crashing back down. It’s like some monster has a rope tied around me and if I get too far away it drags me back over to it.
I quite like where I work and my boss seems to appreciate me, so that’s a positive in my life ��
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Psychologists: let’s not stigmatize mental illness
Psychologists: let’s call this disorder something that starts with “failure”, words two or three not doing anything to help the case, and tack on “syndrome” at the end
i’m 23 and i graduated 3 years ago. i haven’t left the house and it took me 2 years to get mentally stable to a point where i could leave the house without wanting to die. i’m still unable to get a job, to be around people without being fucking pissed, as sober me can’t deal with others very well, and i’m incredible self-isolating. with bdp, schizotypal, anxiety, depression & ptsd, it’s not easy to leave my childhood home. my family have been supportive, after the reality of my situation set in, suicide attempt and such. i cook, i clean the house, i look after the dogs, so i feel i’m at least not just being there. i don’t know how to move on as i’m stable enough to not try to kill myself every day, but having a conversation makes me black out for 3 days straight. it’s fucking hard.
My brother is 41. Lives with my dad. Hasn’t worked for 10 years & doesn’t seem interested in trying. I’m really concerned about him. He spends all his spare time on the computer chatting to people in Japan. He’s obsessed with everything Japanese. I did wonder if he has Asperger’s. He’s not good at communicating, extremely shy. ��
I know this is a complicated issue and mental illness is certainly something to be seriously addressed that being said I see an awful lot of people in my extended family and otherwise who are still living at home and show no signs at all of leaving the nest and I believe there are in those cases no mental health issues. I think we need to look at the failures in parenting to prepare our young people to move on and be successful independent adults I seem to be seeing an awful lot of that happening and of course the difficult work force for young adults to find adequate employment doesn’t help It’s complicated of course but I feel like there’s something to be said for parenting our kids in a manner that makes them want to move forward as adults being confident productive people
In my experience as a Hispanic and from my friends from Italian and Asian cultures we don’t automatically kick you out at 18 years old. You stay at home until you get married or have a good job. I honestly don’t know why it’s a character flaw to stay and help you family with money and free labor.
IBS. I can’t believe you addressed IBS. No one talks about it in relation to anxiety. It’s no joke lol. I always judge a place by its “facilities”. When people ask me for directions to the “facilities” and before we part I add “it’s great”, I get weird looks. Heheheee.
Why did you get rid of your mole? You’re an expert in psychology yet, you VALUED your PHYSICAL shallowness. Not, the look of your soul or heart of others. When I see you, it reminds me of how FAKE you and so called “guru’s” are.
I’m currently living with my parents, and I’m diagnosed with social anxiety, and depression. I’m on medication which I take everyday and I’ve had loads of therapy over the years.
My parents always critise me and they’re always negative when I’m trying to be positive, for example I did secret eating four years ago and gained stretch marks. They say things like “It doesn’t look good”.
I’m thinking about moving out and living in a supportive living to have a better life.
Any thoughts?
this video is completely subjective…failure to launch could be due to other economic factors not just mental challenges. This video is completely bias and creates a stigma to those who are trying to be on their own but are unable to.
I live in Italy and some parents in this culture don’t want their kids to grow up, become independent and move out. I saw a Mother throw a tantrum because her 25 year old son wanted to move out. She also wanted him to sleep in her bed all the time when the father was away on business. This woman believed that the role of a Mother was to control her adult son’s life, cook, clean, do his laundry, choose his clothes, and make sure he was in the house. It’s changing now here, but there are many adults, especially men here, who don’t develop life skills and who believe that if they have a job, they should never have to clean or do housework or childcare. Hopefully gender equality will improve, and the changes in parenting style will encourage more young adults, especially men, to grow up and launch! This would also allow young women to have more healthy relationships, and make a career for themselves as well as having a family. Yes, there are many economic problems to overcome, but in my culture in Ireland that was not seen as a reason not to launch. We found work and moved out by about 21, as well as paying for our education, clothes, travel and health expenses; not easy, but I believe a healthy part of learning how to be a grown up in the world.
I feel like I have a lot of this symptoms, but I am 26 and I have lived with a friend (working and providing for myself) since I was 21. What I feel is that I ‘left the nest’ too early and I still have some shit to figure out. Does that make sense at all?
Although I didn’t “fail to launch”, I noticed several symptoms being mentioned that fall under the ADHD umbrella…sometimes anxiety and depression can stem from self esteem issues caused by the overwhelm of ADHD. Just wanted to mention this in case anyone resonates themselves or recognizes it in their kids as a possibility! I also like the idea of shifting the name to “Delayed Launch” ��������
I honestly believe that the very tough job market is at least partially responsible. There are jobs out there, but the competition for well paying, professional jobs is really high. Doctors, dentists, lawyers, and other professionals require a lot of expensive schooling and aren’t financially independent until their late 20’s or 30’s. Throw in student debt, and Ability to Launch ends up tracking the socioeconomic status of the nuclear family of origin. Young people today have my sympathy, especially those who are stuck in a dysfunctional family.